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writes:In know the reason why I can't get over my ex is that he preoccupies my mind. I have tried to to do other stuff, meet people, went on a vacation and spent cash on shopping. But when I am about to sleep and when I wake up, I feel so depressed to think about what he did to me. I am pretending I am ok but the truth is I can't accept the fact that he left me for someone else. I can't accept that fact that he loved her enough to leave me. How can I ever move on? I have been broken up from him for 10 months now and I am as depressed as I ever was when I learned that he was cheating on me with a girl from another city.Sometimes I am ok, but I still have episodes of what happened. It keeps on playing on my mind. Him and this girl going to the hotel every few wkends when he said he was spending time with his cousins. I keep hearing his words that he can't leave her because he loves her. He is crazy about her and can't live without her. I just cry and cry and cry. Help me pls. How do i stop myself from playing this over and over in my mind? I feel terrible.
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reader, Weramazing  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Isn't it time that you let go of this loser who treated you like this? I know it is tough and you are trying to. Maybe you need to make a list of all the things he did that hurt you on a piece of paper then look at them and destroy it. Just think how lucky you are to be free of him and to not have had kids with him. Anyway don't think for one second that he is not capable of doing this to his new girl.
I know it is tough but just think how much he lost not you. One day you will find someone who will not dream of doing this to you because you are his everything and he wouldn't want anyone else.
Be happy that you are young single and free of him. Enjoy your life and focus on the things that make you happy. In time you will
meet someone else and be grateful that you no longer have anything to do with him.
Just think I have done my grieving for 10 months it's now time to move on and be grateful for all the good things in your life. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Hi there.
I can totally understand how much you you must be feeling. You must have loved this man deeply and he betrayed you in the most hurtful way, by cheating on you and choosing his lover over you. In my opinion what he did showed complete selfishness and disrespect for you. I believ that if you are in a relationship with someone, you are with them alone until it is over. If he wasnt happy with you he should have spoken to you about it, but instead he chose to start another relationship without even considering your feelings. That is going to hurt honey.
I know it has been 10 months but it's possible that you will need a lot of time to get over this, don't feel bad about this. Take your time, devote time for yourself. You are single now so make the most of it. Do things that you want to do and enjoy. If there's something you've always wanted to do, now's the time to do it. Try taking a class in something. Try to remember that in time things will change and you will get over him and be happy again. Keeping busy will help to take your mind of him. It might not be working completely yet, but in time the pain will subside untill you won't care anymore.
You didn't deserve to be treated like this, no one does. At least you know now what a selfish, unkind man he was and you have got away from him. Let him be with his new lover. I believe what goes around comes around and I'm sure they'll get theirs someday.
I hope you feel better about this soon hun and I hope you find someone who deserves you someday :)
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