I acted on emotions and now regret leaving. How should I get him back?

A female age 41-50, *RG writes:

I've been dating this guy over a year. Yes we're not completely perfect couple but never had arguments but recently both of us were under so much stress. I would say that I'm logical person but emotional. Recently I've been realizing that our relationship comes into stagnant period. So I was asking myself what I should do to improve our relationship because I believe that running away from your troubles will not make good. You have to face them one day. However, instead of working together, I got upset and handled one particular day very badly. I got upset because he wasn't taking care of his life properly. He had so much work but he was just avoiding to do things he was supposed to do. I handled this situation really bad because I had physical pain in my back, headache, so much work, so much stress. Then he brought up family which is my Achilles heel. I was grown up in single parent family so I got emotional. I actually acted very stupidly by telling him that I couldn't be in his house instead of talking to him what's my problem. So I was about to leave his house but in fact I didn't want. But now I realized that I shouldn't have got upset, since it's his life not mine. When I started to cry a little bit, he was saying that our relationship was not same anymore. I just went on asking him that if that meant we should break up. Then I said that if so let's break up. Then I left him there. After that I regretted what I said and really wanted to know what made him to say so. I was calling and texting him but no reply on that day. Then I stopped calling or texting. I realized I should hold myself back. Yesterday he texted me apologizing for his silent and said good night. I didn't reply because I didn't know what to say. So here's my question. What should I do now to get him back? Here's my thoughts. 1) Texting back asking what day he want to sit down and talk. 2) just wait one or two days, then apology for doing so and saying I didn't know what to do which is true. Then ask what day he want to meet with me? 3) slipping hint to him that I can start complete new life without him which is true. But I don't want because I'm thinking that I didn't put my effort enough to work things out. However, I don't want to enter high-school "who-will-call-first" game. That's just silly. All I want is that if possible to get him back and work together to fix our relationship. I don't want I will be only one who would like to work on this project alone.

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