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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why did this player start laughing so loud after we had sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, I was having sex with this player..we enjoy the chemistry between us and he just cannot commit. Anyhow, my question is not about commitment but about sex. We've had sex several times over the years..Usually it is sensual and soooo much chemistry involved, but last time it... (187 words)

There are no boundaries for his ex and I'm always left waiting!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid; I dated a man for a little over a year. Early in the relationship, he had dumped me for a old girlfriend and when that didn't work out, came back to me. He also has a teenage son who he has 50% of the time. They have things they do together several times a ... (196 words)

I'm contemplating leaving her and moving out to live on the streets!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age - I absolutely love my fiancee and I want only good things for her. Our dilemma is that we live in an RHCF (we both have depression) and needed services and treatment. We no longer need to be here and I have been working as a freelance writer. She is permanently disabled because ... (230 words)

Why don't girls look at me the way I look at them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hello. i just have a kind of weird question to ask you all! first of all i consider my self being a good looking guy, i have dark features and i get compliments about my look and my charme. but the thing is. i dont feel like i get so much female attention, when im around ... (133 words)

I think I moved too fast in this relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I started dating my guy friend of two years a couple weeks ago. On Saturday we were at his house alone and fooled around a bit (i gave him a hand job and he fingered me). It was completely my choice as he was adamant that I only do things I'm comfortable with and that he ... (290 words)

I feel foolish being a virgin at 21

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel worthless because me being 21 and a virgin now that I look at it is foolish and pathetic. I was so blinded to actually think I was going to find someone to share myself with but now its really a fantasy. Women my age aren't looking for relationships. I think its about ... (86 words)

Are my dreams revealing an inability to have sexual fantasies?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi there, I have a question about dreams. In particular, dreams of a sexual or intimate nature. Whenever I have a dream of this kind, I find that something always happens to interrupt or stop the 'action' before anything happens. This could be anything from making out to mo... (139 words)

Am I experiencing normal side effects of the morning after pill?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, wow this is awkward even though it's online, lol. But here it goes long story short, a condom split on me and my partner about two/three weeks ago, I have the coil inserted but to be certain I didn't conceive a child, I went to my local clinic and took the morning after pi... (161 words)

22 year old girl with confidence issues

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Thank you for taking the time to read this. I have always had huge problems with confidence. My main problem is that i get embarrassed and shy and my cheeks go red. It bothers me so much. Especially when i have to make contact with people or if i feel "trapped" in a s... (168 words)

Problematic relationships and having 4 sex partners at 16

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) age 26-29 - This will be a messy thread, however I'd like to share this with someone, as I do not want to ask for psychologist's or psychiatrist's help, they were of no help... And I'd like to see just a general opinion and/or read other's experiences and advice regarding my situation. ... (654 words)

Stuck in a rut! What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I,m stuck in a rut. I have no love life, no job, hardly any money and christmas is around the corner!!! 1. lovelife: I,ve never had a boyfriend before I,ve dated 1 guy but we never officially became a couple. I just assumed I was boring him thats why he never texted back. 2... (144 words)

Advice needed on how to start a conversation with him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Heya :) Right there's this guy at school that I like. We talk a bit in school when we do see eachother, but that isn't alot. however we sometimes walk home together. I'm quite certain he likes me too because when we walk together with his friends, he kinda ditches his mates to... (196 words)

Why do I compare my personality to other people's?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I need some advise, I feel like there's something wrong with me?? I always compare my personality to other girls. When I over here girls talking sometimes I think to myself, 'She's so much funnier than I am, 'I would never think of saying that' etc. I feel like I hav... (220 words)

Am I wasting my life away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - so this is not a relationship question more of a life question. ill try keep this as short as possible and as informative as possible. so long story short, i have social anxiety very shy and basicly just want a simple life with no worries ie; steady job (wich i have more... (547 words)

Is my boyfriend being cheap?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, The other day me and my boyfriend were out and he wanted something to eat, I told him I didn't have alot of money on me and that I would eat when I got home. He looked at me and was like you can't be that broke and I was like yes I am. He didn't offer to pay for ... (185 words)

How can I pick back up old friendships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I've recently been diagnosed with Cyclothymia which is like mild Bi-Polar. Seeing as medication is still trying to be balanced out i'm still quite up and down, after leaving secondary school i've slowly grown away from my old friends and not really made any new ones. I feel so ... (129 words)

My boyfriend is at uni now but I don't know if I am strong enough to cope

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I'm 20 and my boyfriend moved away to uni 5 weeks ago, 2 and a half hours away from home. I see him once every 2 weeks now. how do I cope better with this situation? I feel like he has a brand new exciting life and I'm just at home with the same life I had when he was ... (138 words)

After several chances, should I give him one more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

- I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago but we arranged to live in the same house several months back so we now live together with 3 of my other friends and will do for the rest of the year whilst attending uni. To cut a very long story short I broke up with him because ... (459 words)

Scared and confused, should I marry him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi cupids, ive been with my guy for 3yrs.we have a boy of 2yrs.he's been divorced from a previous marriage.he wanted to marry me last june which i refused.because of the way he treats me.i am very confused.i still stay in his house.i cry almost everyday.i'm always alone in ... (238 words)

Can it really be so weird for a guy to sleep with his pregnant woman?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am currently 26 weeks pregnant. I have not gained any weight but my belly has grown seeing how there is a baby in there lol. I've been with my boy friend who is the father for two years. Over the past couple weeks I've noticed our sex life is suffering. I finally brought it ... (224 words)

34 year old Saudi woman dating a 50 year old American man for 9 years.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - iam 34 years old woman dating 50 years old american man for 9 years,i met him when i was 26 and he was 42 and we are completly commeted to eachother. we are trying to be married 5 years back but my family refuse him for 2 reasons,one, he in not saudi,two,he is older than me.... (204 words)

Pregnant and on bed rest which is why I'm living with my parents, but should I move out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i never thought i'd be in a position asking people for help but i have no real friends that at this moment i would care to really hear what they have to say . you see I'm married and just recently i found out that i'm now expecting my 1st baby in april. Since my husband works ... (627 words)

How does a large guy make himself more attractive to women?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - As a large guy at the 18. (6'4 and 17 and a half stone) How can I make myself more attractive to the opposite sex? I'm got quite a round face and although I can hide my stomach and that sort of thing I do struggle to look 'attractive'. I feel my lack of experience is evidence. ... (65 words)

Why don't the question askers read their mail?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello all, From time to time as a regular Aunt on this site, I receive messages in my mailbox from people needing a personal reply to their problems. I am more than happy to help if I can and I do reply to all messages with help or information where they can find help. I'm h... (147 words)

He said I could console him with sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi. This guy I kind of know (we had a little 'thing' a while ago) is going through a really tough time at the moment as his mum has just passed away. I feel so sad for him and I asked if there was anything I could do, and he wants me to stay the night at his, i.e have sex with ... (76 words)

Guy hitting on heavily in public in quiet in private!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4229 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, Could you please help me decipher this guy's behaviour? We're colleagues working in a very big organisation and do not have any common work projects. He's recently divorced (probably for about 6-7 months) - his wife left him for another man. He's always hitting o... (203 words)

I've painted myself into a corner and have no idea what to do!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I think I may be depressed, and I'm not sure how to cope with it. The past year and a half has been a steady decline for me. It all started when I was academically dismissed from my university. I also found out I was pregnant the same day. I ended up having an abortion, which ... (699 words)

I have my suspicions...is this woman he claims to be his 'sister' really his wife?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a guy for almost one year who lives with a woman in a single room whom he claims that the lady is his sister. There is a long distance between where he stays. He has been to my place twice and I've been to his place twice. My first time i went to his place that found out ... (241 words)

Her dad caught us in a compromsing situation, now I'm worried about how awkward its going to be when I meet him properly!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been dating a girl for a few months now, we are both 22 yrs old. She is a complete daddys girl and always talks about how over protective her dad is. At the very beginning of our relationship I spent the night and when I was leaving in the morning I met her dad walking ... (205 words)

She rejected me because she doesn't want to risk our friendship!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey there, after a long friendship I finally built up the courage to ask a this girl out. We've always had a very flirtatious and hands on relationship so I thought it was the natural step. Apparently not. I asked, I got a on. She didn't want to "risk our friendship." In fact,... (215 words)

What can I do to open up to him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Please help ! I have been seeing a great guy for about six months .its not too serious but we get on and see each other about once a week . We go out and he's affectionate holds my hand etc. At the beginning I felt so much for him but as we have seen each other more I can feel ... (135 words)

Was he just really enjoying it or should I go easy on him next time?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - While recently giving a blow job to this guy, I felt he started to tremble and shiver vigorously. After he came in my mouth and we were done, he did exclaim that he could hardly stand then and sat down. Wanted to know if it is because he is just really enjoying it or was ... (77 words)

My husband thinks I'm too thin! Is he concerned about me or has his love just gone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. My husband is complaining that i am too thin. Of course my body has generally been small, but it has never been an issue in our relationship.recently i hav lost some weight. I am confused. Is he concerned about me or his love has jus gone? Do you have any suggestions on ... (75 words)

Is my penis normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - i need to know if my penis is normal its is a little bit dark and has a weird patch does that matter?... (23 words)

B/f isn't an Australian citizen, has run out of money, no studies, no job, is addicted to poker...and he wants to marry me!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months but I've got a few problem... 1.His not an australian citizen. 2.He came here to study and almost finished his diploma until he ran out of money because he spent it on going out everyweekend. 3.no study means his not allowed to wo... (316 words)

Please help me stop obessing about the guy I'm dating!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I just would like a little help to stop me obsessing so much about a guy I'm dating, I'm driving myself mad! I met him through an online dating site, this isnt the first time I've used online dating so I know what to expect. We had an amazing first date, and all the subseque... (883 words)

I can't get my ex out of my mind. Do I try to become good friends with him? Or do I try and forget him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi. About a month ago my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. I know it sounds silly, because we weren't together very long, but I REALLY miss him. My family loved him as he was so level-headed and we've had many amazing memories. He treated me perfectly. Texting everyday, ... (262 words)

Is is possible to have a 4th c section if you want?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it possible to have another baby after you have undergone three c sections - first one was an emergency and the child died a few days after birth, the second was an emergency though was awake and thankfully she is alive, third one was an elective section and he is alive at ... (129 words)

I just had a baby - I wonder why my relationship is falling apart ever since having it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I just had a baby boy two weeks ago and my bf is not pulling his weight enough around the house to which he is the father of this one. I already have an 18 month old (not his - her father didn't want to know her nor has he ever tried to see her once though was offered) Anyway, ... (595 words)

Are we FWB or something more? So confused!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone here is my problem its a bit complicated. I met this man in march this year, we started having sex. I went out one night, he got jealous he thought I'd met someone else which I hadn't I told him I only wanted to be with him cos I thought we were a proper couple, ... (208 words)

How do I help her gain confidence again? She was amazing before! She is now scared and nervous about sex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Really need some advice. I'm gay and ive been dating this amazing girl for about 3 months and its been perfect. Recently however she has been lacking considerable confidence when we have sex, and now its got to the point where she just won't do anything. She says she gets ner... (355 words)

Could the average guy handle this? Eight months on and my Gf is trying to treat me like her servant

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M) age 36-40 - 8 months back , I dumped my girlfriend with whom I had spent 3 years . I had no reason to dump her except I was feeling bored in that relationship . She tried for next one month to bring me back into her life but I didn’t move an inch and then she stopped contacting me. After... (206 words)

Do men like to be the Hunters or the Hunted?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) - I'm in love..I can't stop thinking about him. I know he loves me but we havn't had a discussion about starting a relationship. I told him I might go away to Vet school..im a senior in college and he just graduated. He has an accounting job travels a lot and is starting to get ... (433 words)

My boyfriend cant stop looking at porn and explicit pictures, and lies to me about it! How should I handle this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so in the recent past I've had some troubles with my bf of nearly 2 1/2 yrs looking at porn and having explicit pictures of girls on his phone. For ages I knew and didn't say anything. Until one day I asked does he watch porn and he said no. I followed my gut and checked ... (329 words)

What does he mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Well, there's this guy I know, and he's one of my best friends. We have known each other for quite a while. And I started having these feelings for him. So about 3 weeks ago, I told him how I felt. And he said he didn't feel the same way, and he wanted to stay friends. About a ... (206 words)

When can I openly Cross dress? I am not gay. I just want to Cross dress. In what countries is cross dressing most accepted?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Women can wear men's clothes then why can't men wear women's clothes? like saree and salwars and all? why is there not support for men to wear women's clothes? I am a 15 year old , almost 16 year old male and i love cross dressing since i was younger But no 1 knows this. When... (152 words)

Any advice on how to fix our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello people I need some serious advice about my relationship with my girlfriend now we've been together for 2 years and 3 months and what really bothers me is her friends her aunt and her cousin they all pretty much want me out of her life and are willing to do anything at all ... (511 words)

He said if I ever fell pregnant he would leave me if I didn't get an abortion.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year, we plan to have a future together, have even spoken about marriage and kids, but kids would be at least 10 years away. (I know sometimes relatioships don't work out, but we do have a good connection and strong relationship). ... (912 words)

He's 21, but still has tantrums. Do I tell him? Does he need counselling? or what? It affects me, but he never thinks about that.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 5 years) has a BIG problem that I don't know if I should bother dealing with any longer, so I need your advice. We're both 21. I love him to death. But he just cannot handle problems he comes across, no matter how small, in an adu... (679 words)

Will she ever give me what I want? And is what I want right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now and our relationship is in a really bad place. i am recently graduated from college and she is in her final year. we met over the summer and fell in love and now that she is back in school two hours away we have broken up 3 ... (569 words)

Can't find the perfect woman (or near perfect woman).....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm quite a perfectionist, granted. I've had several girlfriends throughout my twenties so far but I can't seem to find the 'complete package'. My ex girlfriend was perfect in respect to the fact that we had an amazing physical connection from the start and sex after 4-5 ye... (213 words)

What does this man want from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I really need help in this... i have been writing about this problem for several months.. and this is an update on what really happened lately.. I am a dancer, and my dance instructor made many hints that i don't really understand.. he is latin american... 1- he asked me ... (451 words)

Why didn't he want to continue?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please, please, I really need your help. I have so many mixed feelings now that writing this is hard. I had recently gave my bf my v-card. It was unexpected to him because I've planned it all to my self. We've dated for a year and up til now, all we've done is foreplay and ... (323 words)

Is he into me or does he only see me as a friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I just recently realized I have a crush my friend. I have never been friends with a guy first and then found myself attracted to them. So this crush really took me by surprise. But anyways. Out relationship is still fairly new, we have only known each other since the quarter ... (545 words)

My fiance slapped me. Should I dump him?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - im engaged and my weve been together for 3 Years. Yesterday we got in a argument and i told him something that pissed him off and he slapped me in the face twice. He has a bad temper but that was overboard.at the moment i told him that i was done and he said then give me back ... (139 words)

Why would he go back on facebook?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my boyfriend had some issues over what he used to do on facebook.he deleted his page 10 months ago and now,i have discovered he is back on there.why would he go back on there when he knows how much trouble it caused and that it upset me ?.i cant stop crying and my nerves ... (58 words)

Why am I always thinking about my ex-friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey! Ok so I have this friend who isn't really a friend cuz she hates my guts, lets call her Alex. Me and Alex stopped being friends last summer when she overreacted about something really stupid like she does all the time. I decided I was done being her puppy and left her ... (150 words)

How do I get closure, heal, move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

20 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm struggling to move on from my "first love" ...and its been almost four years. So it happened a month before my 15th birthday. I was so stupid and naive, I thought this guy really loved me and wanted to be with me. In hind sight everything he said and did now I can see th... (317 words)