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Archived questions from: January, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My fiance is feeling insecure after a burn accident. How can I help him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

31 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance has always been self-conscious about his acne. Bad days are occasional, but they do happen, and it causes him social anxiety. A few months ago, he was in an accident that burned his arm, chest, and face, and it has affected how he looks. His self-esteem has plummeted ... (348 words)

Was he confused about his intentions or did I misread the situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

31 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Very long convoluted story here and in all honesty I think it is over and put to bed. It was a complete non event in reality, but it did affect me quite a lot at the time. I am in a happy relationship now so it’s not something I am going to actively pursue whatever conclusion I ... (1393 words)

Did I say something I shouldn't have? Boyfriend got offended by a remark I made

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

31 January 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - MOD NOTE: DID YOUR BOYFRIEND GET OFFENDED, WHY ARE YOU ASKING HOW THE VOLUNTEER AGONY AUNTS WOULD RESPOND? I was looking for honest feedback without me possibly swaying what they felt with the outcome. Yes, he was offended. His response was, a sarcastic "thanks", he stomped ... (222 words)

Pregnant not in love with my husband should I live like this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 795 days ago

31 January 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 34 years old... I have a husband and daughter.. Another child is due 3 months from now... In all honesty I don't love my husband but I have decided to stick with him for the sake of my children. I had an affair for 2 years with someone else that I love so much.. But had to ... (273 words)

My boyfriend doesn't know what's expected in a relationship.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

31 January 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, What do I do if my boyfriend (Who is an adult.) was never been taught anything about woman/Being in a romantic relationship/ Has never had any experience in a relationship? Details: (Dating for 5 months, I'm his first relationship) My boyfriend (24) is super sweet, ado... (620 words)

I'm not sure if the new team member is trying to make connection or being inappropriate.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1553 days ago

30 January 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - A new guy joined my company three weeks ago. he transferred over from another company in our group after I heard his work was really great (I run the company). He’s middle aged, been working a long time but in a different line of work to what we do so we’ve got to help him ... (271 words)

Was it my fault that we got into a mess?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1554 days ago

30 January 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I’ve been with my bf for 5 years now. I’m 22 and he’s 25. We live in the city in sort of a sketchy area, so sometimes I have to park my car down this creepy alleyway because our complex doesn’t have assigned parking. Annoying, I know. So last night, I got upset with my ... (344 words)

Ghosted after 2 years

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1554 days ago

30 January 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - My 2 year relationship just ended by the guy ghosting me. We went bowling for our 2 year anniversary had a good time and we got into a fight that night when we got back home over the status of our relationship. We have been on and off for 2 years and he is unable to fully ... (475 words)

How do I explain my poly relationship to my sister and others?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1553 days ago

29 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in a poly relationship with two men and have been for nearly a year now. Everything is great although we keep it quite hush hush as we want to live our lives in peace. We all live together so we just say that one of the guys is our roommate. Nobody has questioned this. My ... (302 words)

My husband says he's too special for me and too special to go to counselling

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1554 days ago

29 January 2020 (F) age 30-35 - Hi and thank you I have been married almost 10 years. First 5 were good then it started going downhill, especially this last year. My husband can be very mean to me. Calls me stupid, idiot, dumb, b****, bast***. I think he calls me a bast*** because I dont know my ... (199 words)

The woman I'm dating says I'm too much for her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

29 January 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship with someone for 3 months, I must stress, it's not sexual yet, but we both flirt and it feels like something we both like. Recently she told me I was too full on, too involved in her social media and that it was too mucb for her. I always feel like... (172 words)

My ex doesn't like it that I'm speaking with his cousin

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1554 days ago

29 January 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - So my ex boyfriend and I broke up a month ago and his cousin in I have been talking for a while in my ex (Trevion ) is kind of mad because he thinks its wrong . so what should I do?... (42 words)

I'm uncomfortable with boyfriend's friendship with this other girl

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

29 January 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I would appreciate some advice on this situation. My bf and I have been dating for several months, we started long distance bc of college a few months ago, but we aren't out of hs we met at cc. So we started out as friends and we are each other's first relationship and we take ... (606 words)

I want to meet with him but don't know what to say and I'm scared out of my wit's after being antisocial for so long. What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

28 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I was badly bullied by this guy Dominic in school. He was part of the reason I didn't go to the 10-year HS reunion. (He wasn't the only one but he was the worst). We graduated in 97 and in 07 half my senior class friended me and I friended them back to be polite. I had a hard ... (698 words)

No matter how much of an effort I put in, my husband looks at me like I'm am old dish rag

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1554 days ago

28 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel my husband is not attracted to me . He shows very little interest in me . I could walk around naked or in lingerie and he wouldn’t bat an eyelid but with other younger women who he clearly finds attractive he definitely pays attention . If we are out he is all eyes for ... (187 words)

I just need another person's perspective on boyfriend's attitude when we are gaming.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1556 days ago

27 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everybody. I would like peoples honest opinions on the way my partner sometimes speaks to me, as I feel he could be more tactful with his words sometimes. I will give one recent example from the other night. We were playing a two player game on the XBOX, which i... (432 words)

He cried more over his old dog dying than he did over us splitting up.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1556 days ago

27 January 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I’ve just ended a 6 year relationship he preferred being at work and spending time with his dog than with me and his twin daughters who are 3 years old the problem is he is still living with me until he finds somewhere we split up 6 weeks ago I ended it and he simply said ok ... (158 words)

My father feels I betrayed him when I was a child.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

27 January 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - My father has been mad at me for years and will hardly even speak to me. He and mom were divorced when I was 7, my brother was 9, and my sister was 4. Mom is old school about certain things. When I was 10, I had stayed out past dark playing at a friend's house, past the time ... (213 words)

Is it possible for this to happen?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1554 days ago

27 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend was married at twenty years old, he is now forty. He has said he was naive, manipulated into getting married and knew he didn't love her. Is it possible people do get married when they know they don't love someone and know it wont last forever?... (48 words)

Is he normal? He says he doesn't want to sleep with me right now.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

27 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I had a date last night with an amazing guy! We went out for drinks, ice cream, and to browse books at the local bookstore. After that, he invited me back to his place to play chess. We didn't get to play because we were too busy talking but then he reached out to hold my hand. ... (155 words)

Was it silly to throw away my entire life on the back end of a few messages and meetings?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

26 January 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I’m 6 months out of a long term relationship. When we first got together he had what I can only describe as a flirtationship with a woman at work - just messages and flirting and I let it go, but assured him next time it happened he would be gone. We had a great 7 years ... (394 words)

Is there such a thing as "harmless flirting"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

25 January 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I don't have a girlfriend at the moment and I don't date older women. There is this attractive lady in her early 30s. I think she is about 7 or at most 10 years older than me. A few years ago when I first got to know her, I used to flirt with her a lot. She didn't flirt ba... (408 words)

How can I stay positive, I know I will never be slim and trim.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

23 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Can some people give me some ideas on how to stay positive . I suffer from a hormonal endocrine problem that Menander my body holds on to body fat . I’m medicated for it and see a specialist regularly but it will be with me for life . I follow a nutritionist guided diet for ... (301 words)

My step father is abusive but wants my mother to take him back.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

22 January 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - My dad passed away in 2009 by suicide. I was 13 at the time my sister was 2.. In 2010 my mum met this guy -let's call him Jay. They dated for awhile until my mum fell pregnant and the family forced them to get married -she had a miscarriage. During 2010 I was trying to cop... (1249 words)

I had an affair and my parents want me to return to my husband.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1560 days ago

22 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Im guilty of having affair with another man while im still married. My marriage was a wrong choice from the beginning. There is so much red flags that i ignored because of my low self esteem. Im told i cant have better relationship with other man and i dont deserve better ... (1580 words)

Female 15 year older than male relationship can it work?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1559 days ago

22 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I am looking for advice about big age gap relationships and if they can work. I've started to see a guy 15 years younger than me, (2 week) were taking it slow and havent slept together yet. Weve spoken about quietly seeing each other to see if there is a future to build and to ... (88 words)

Is it psychological ED?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1558 days ago

21 January 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, Not really sure where to start... I'm a relatively young male and I just entered my first relationship. I am a virgin. I've never done anything sexual, other than masturbate. My girlfriend is also a virgin. Very recently, my girlfriend and I tried to have s... (398 words)

Is my One Night Stand acting normal?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1561 days ago

21 January 2020 (F) age 30-35 - I joined plenty of fish in August last year, and swapped numbers with a guy, he lived in a differnt town then me , but had family members in my home town, Anyway new years eve he was down and we finally got to meet, i knew from day one that when we met it was going to be a ... (289 words)

I don't know how to be alone.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1563 days ago

20 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I split up with my ex of 8years 7months ago but only stopped living with him 3months ago. Since splitting up I had a few casual dates that meant nothing and then met this guy I really liked him and I thought everything was going great but he just ended it with me without any ... (201 words)

Is there a cruel free way to break up?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1561 days ago

20 January 2020 (F) age 26-29 - Hello agony aunts, I've been with my bf for 1 year now, it's been a year full of ups and downs. The first few months of the relationship were great, well he's my first boyfriend, and I felt on cloud 9 with all those emotions and the love I felt, but I think it was more like ... (259 words)

We broke up after 10 years. How long will I be hurting?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1561 days ago

20 January 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi Just wondering if anyone could give me some advice.. Here is my story. Last year I broke up with my partner of 10 years not my decision I wanted to work through any issues.. There was no violence or cheating or drug abuse. It hit me hard and I struggled with my break up for ... (174 words)

What is the ideal male body type?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1562 days ago

20 January 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I have been lifting weights for ten years and had a bodybuilder type of body. Most other males envied me. I assumed women found my type of physique attractive too. So I was surprised that my girlfriend didn't quite like the way I look and wanted me to lose some of my precious ... (262 words)

My boyfriend wont even text me while another boy will talk for hours on the phone.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1561 days ago

19 January 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - my boyfriend don't give me the attention that I need in he always making excuses about why he did not talk to me. But it is another boy that like me in he been there for me more than him in. me in the other boy be on the phone for 10 hours or 8 hours. but I don't want to don't ... (89 words)

I've lost the desire for sex with my boyfriend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1556 days ago

19 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my bf have been together for 5 years. I really do love him so much but in the last year I've felt little to no desire to sleep with him. I feel terrible but when it does happen it just doesn't feel exciting. Usually he is the only one that gets any satisfaction out of ... (344 words)

My girlfriend appears to be stalking people I know.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1564 days ago

19 January 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I was using my girl’s laptop to finish off some work when I ended up closing my windows and having to open them up through my history upon clicking I realized that she had been pulling up instagrams for people on my Instagram. Upon clicking the history I discovered she had a ... (125 words)

I feel like I've wasted my 20s, and its hard to be optimistic!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1563 days ago

18 January 2020 (M) age 36-40 - I'm looking for peoples personal experiences with this if possible please. Has anyone ever wasted 10 years of there life and manged to not let it get them down? I've wasted a lot of my 20s as I've kind of been stuck in life. So no love life and no career building.. I alway... (124 words)

I'm battling to trust my boyfriend's word about strippers and lap dances.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1564 days ago

18 January 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - My bf and I of 5 years recently had an argument about him being at strippers and getting a dance. It was brought up again last night and his reaction took me by surprise. He had asked what was wrong I said upset still and he said after a week he though ridiculous, said... (605 words)

Boyfriend masturbates to people he finds on instagram. I feel like I've been cheated on

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1563 days ago

18 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I know everybody does it but It’s been three years that we’ve been together and I walked in on my boyfriend masturbating and he pretended he was just gonna take a shower while slamming his laptop. So I did something I regret and snooped and found a secret Instagram instead of ... (134 words)

My boyfriend has a child already, but I'd like to have one of my own.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1564 days ago

18 January 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend and I have been together about a year now. He's almost 25 I'm 23. Hes already got one child a beautiful little girl whos 1 and a half. But lately I find myself wanting one of my own more and more. One who can call me momma. Her mother is still in her life so he ... (140 words)

How do I stop looking back and get busy building my future?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1566 days ago

17 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I’m at a bit of a crossroads in my life. I left a great job about 8 months ago - for all of the right reasons - but, my new role is not really great (or panning out). My family situation is OK but not where I want it to be - especially because I have a toddler at home and am ... (115 words)

I'm trying to put myself in my boyfriend's ex's shoes and wonder why she's behaving the way that she is, but I can't imagine why

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1565 days ago

17 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend's ex is still in the picture but on the peripherals, and I'm finding it hard to understand why. I have tried, so I'm just going to put the facts, coupled with my thoughts, and would like anyone to give me their feedback on what they think, please. So my bf was w... (695 words)

I feel lost in life.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1564 days ago

17 January 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I’m really lost in life. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t find any work and I’m just passing life by. I have wasted my 20’s trying to work hard but I just get used by companies and thrown. Now I am trying to find work and I have resorted to minimum wage, and I got ... (399 words)

Room mate blackmailing me and threatening to tell parents about my life if I don't go to church with her

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

17 January 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I live in the dorms and at first I had two roommates, "Sarah" and "Patricia". Sarah was/is wonderful: she is messy/clutter but she keeps it to her area and she's gone much of the time. She's a fine arts major with an emphasis in sculpting. She basiy uses the Dorm to sleep and ... (707 words)

Is he trying to or currently cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1563 days ago

17 January 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I am a little concerned as to whether my OH is in fact trying to or is currently cheating. Let me give you a bit of background. 6 years together. Engaged. Living together 2 and a half years, dog, cat, saving for house etc. He has cheated in the past and we have worked on t... (822 words)

I've not met this girl, but we talk and I'm smitten!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1567 days ago

16 January 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I want a lot of advice so I'm not sure this question will fall into a single category. I'm a 34 year old virgin - something that I'm not proud of but I guess that's life. I've been with girls and done stuff before and even without the sex I think I've been in love a few times. ... (420 words)

My boyfriend treats me terribly, maybe I deserve it.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1567 days ago

16 January 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi everyone, hoping someone can offer some advice.. I'm a 31 year old woman and I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He's the same age. He's been living with me for six months, around the same time he lost his job. It wasn't something we had discussed, he just brough... (796 words)

A man I had sex with keeps ghosting me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1566 days ago

16 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all So I really like this man who split from wife last year and now lives on own - we have had one night which was amazing about a month ago but nothing since . I’ve decided if he isn’t contacting me then he isn’t interested so have left it - then few days ago I ge... (188 words)

Is it possible to have healthy relationships with family with mental issues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1565 days ago

16 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - It has only been recently I’ve realized just how toxic my relationships are with my immediate family members. I’m having trouble knowing how to proceed with them now that I’ve had this realization. I’ve always been aware that our family is dysfunctional, and that our ... (1473 words)

Is it wrong that I loaned my b/f money because I wanted to help him?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

15 January 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone. I need help figuring out something. My boyfriend and I both in early 40s. He has a full time job, teaches at a university but financially in trouble because of divorce and some business investments. He has a potential as he is an entrepreneur and incredibly ... (254 words)

My FWB partner now wants to get serious with me but I turned them down

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

15 January 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi So I met a friend with benefits last summer, we both agreed we wanted nothing serious and were free to meet other people if we wanted to. We both really didn't want anything serious so this worked fine for us. As some time passed, i felt they were growing a bit a... (357 words)