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How to cope with your man going to prison

Q.   im 19 me and my man got busted together hes going to prison. I feel so guilty like its my fault. I tried taking some of his charges but he wouldn't let me. were in love but its so hard for me not being able to see him. im waiting for him but all I ...

A.   19 February 2013: I think your emotions are causing you to make bad decisions. Its obvious you two are trouble when together so whats the point of being with him?... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is ditching me for work and I'm having a hard time dealing with it

Q.   To start, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. From the beginning he's been the type who's needed his space, and isn't much for daily communication. I could accept that, in the beginning. Recently he's come in to more work, and I've...

A.   18 February 2013: I think this guy doesnt have the cajones to end it. He is in establish career mode right now n hes stringin u along n quite honestly ur doing quite well in chasing ill give u that lol but hes not communicating with u about his priorities.... (read in full...)

I have proof that my boyfriend cheated but how do I get him to admit it?

Q.   i had a suspision that my boyfriend was cheating so i set up a recorder one nite and sure enough i got my evidence but he stil denies it. How to i get him to tell the truth?...

A.   18 February 2013: Iamheretohelpu nailed it.... (read in full...)

Mixed Signals From A Guy I REALLY Like

Q.   I am seriously conflicted about something and really need some guidance from those that personally don't know me because I know you all will be honest! I will do the best I can to keep this as the condensed version, but I do apologize in advance if ...

A.   18 February 2013: He was not warm to u on xmas or vday cos his logic kicked in. LDRs do not work cos relationships are built on face to face interaction n experiences not emails fb comments n messages. Most if not all ppl who are on dating websites have some kind of ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend tells me he doesn't love me as much as he used to. What should I do?

Q.   Hello, I'm pretty sure there may be lot's of questions like this here, and pardon if you're tired of hearing it ^^; What do I do, if my affectionate boyfriend suddenly says that he does not love me as much as he used to? Last night, he told...

A.   18 February 2013: I sense this relationship is toxic and unhealthy. End it so u can focus on ur personal issues. Good luck.... (read in full...)

I haven't given my b/f oral sex. Is that a bad thing?

Q.   The guy I am seeing is really great and patient because I have only ever had sex with one other guy so I am still a bit new to all of this. My best friend was so shocked because he has gone down on me and I haven't on him. She made it sound like a ...

A.   18 February 2013: This guy is a wuss. He should demand reciprocation n u shouldnt be scared to give. Try it. Practice.... (read in full...)

Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?

Q.   My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...

A.   17 February 2013: Lol shes lying. Guarantee it man.Dont be naive. U dont go to a guys house to bring him a kleenex... For his tears anyway. Long distance is a waste of time end this n move on.... (read in full...)

He's upset with the gift I gave him -- even complained on lack of gift wrap??? Explain it to me.

Q.   Dear Cupids, I have a long distance friend that lives in Germany that I've known for almost 3 years. I'm 25 and he's 23.5. I feel we like each other a little more than friends but each have our own lives, etc. And I don't see them collidi...

A.   17 February 2013: Yea I laughed at this a bit. All u have here is a pen pal at best. Not a friendship or even a reltshp. Its not even logical what you two are doing doll. Youre both wrong.... (read in full...)

Please remember to be kind when you give advice on the site!

Q.   I have been on this site for years,I sometimes come in as a person who needs advise or sometimes to give one..but recently I have been noticing quite a change in the attitude of some agony aunts,down right mean and cruel,I think you need to remember ...

A.   17 February 2013: Lol so dramatic. Im appropriate n compassionate when need be. Overall not on here for ppl to agree with me with what I have to say.... (read in full...)

Am I sending out the wrong signals in regards to dating?

Q.   I'm a college student and hardly have any time to date. However, I'm getting to an age where all my friends are meeting great guys out of the blue and getting into serious relationships. So, needless to say, it gets frustrating and lonely not having ...

A.   13 February 2013: At your age and in your culture to still be virgin can generally be seen as weird or not normal. I was sadly one until I was 25 so dont worry. Use this to your advantage to weed out guys who only care about sex. Ask them peculiar question... (read in full...)

The personality is there. What are the positives and negatives of not having a big physical attraction to the person?

Q.   Please consider if someone has the personality, but their looks aren't all the way to what you'd like and you're considering them for a serious relationship, possibly marriage. What are the positives and negatives of not having a big physical attr...

A.   12 February 2013: Thank u all n yes just started dating her. Shes underweight n diagnosed as underweight. But shes healthy. I like thin women shes just a lil more. Maybe with time attraction can grow more.... (read in full...)

Is this normal for a couple to have a sexual relationship in this way? And am I turning gay?

Q.   HI I have this question that I hope will not be taken the wrong way. My wife and I don't have sex very often but she watches me masturbate myself. It's come to the point that I like to masturbate in front of her rather than have sex. When I'm r...

A.   10 February 2013: Normal.... (read in full...)

Is this normal for a couple to have a sexual relationship in this way? And am I turning gay?

Q.   HI I have this question that I hope will not be taken the wrong way. My wife and I don't have sex very often but she watches me masturbate myself. It's come to the point that I like to masturbate in front of her rather than have sex. When I'm r...

A.   10 February 2013: Normal.... (read in full...)

I'm so used to girls rejecting me. Never had a Gf. How can I change this situation and get a girl interested in me?

Q.   I am a 20 year male and I have never had a girlfriend/had sex. My first question is, is this normal? I feel it is not because I am surrounded by people in relationships, or at least have had their first kiss by now and I just feel this emptines...

A.   10 February 2013: Tease women playfully, build sexual tension, eye contact, body language, tone of voice etc are all important when attracting a woman. Read man read plenty of books out there on psychology of women. Keep in the gym too. Women love a nice body.... (read in full...)

He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?

Q.   Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...

A.   10 February 2013: Your emotions are getting the best of this. Dont let them. This guy is married has kids youre the mistress. Its all ready a recipe for serious drama. Dont throw it in the pot or itll come out ugly GUARANTEED. And if those guys had any game theyd ... (read in full...)

Why has my Fbuddy become so dis-interested in joining me for sex? He says he cares.What can I do?

Q.   hi friends, i am 20 years old and my sexual partner is 27. he is as of now my Fbuddy. we both share mutual trust and love in our relationship. i am quite a pest. i expect him to be the boyfriend and do all the expected acts of kindness. we stated...

A.   9 February 2013: Hes finished with u. Pick up a kleenex then move on.... (read in full...)

Sex between my and I boyfriend has become awkward and dissapointing. Any advice to improve things?

Q.   A lot of the time I feel like my boyfriend isn't into me sexually, and its getting on my nerves. My boyfriend has a bit of a problem where he cannot ejaculate with me, but he has been able to with previous girlfriends, seems I found out the reas...

A.   9 February 2013: Ask him how he likes to be stroked n have him show u. Its not difficult.... (read in full...)

Why do I keep coming back to him for sex when the sex isn't even good?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have known this guy for about 3 years give or take. He's 4 years older than me. Ever since I met him I have had this strong sexual attraction towards him. We first hooked up when I was 18, then the second time when I was 19. I am abo...

A.   8 February 2013: Ur prob in need of sex n thats it. Do u have other options other than him? If not id say that could also be why. ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my girlfriend but don't feel guilty. What should I do now?

Q.   Ive been dating my gf for over 3 years now, and Ive been extremely faithful this whole time without ever being tempted until now. The last 2 years though have been rough, I havent been excited to see her, or genuinely been as happy as I was the ...

A.   6 February 2013: Don't tell her about the other girl. It'll create all kinds of stupid drama. Instead tell her you're done and do it in a civil way like in a public place over coffee. Tell her what you've learned dont dig into her personality. Or state why you fe... (read in full...)

We only have sex once a day when we used to have sex 6 times a day! Are we on different pages sexually?

Q.   Cupids, my boyfriend and i dont have sex as often as we used to. We used to have crazy wild sex and passionate sex at minum 6 times a day. Yes we were horny teens then but we arent much older. He is 20 and i am 21. Could our age have effects on why ...

A.   6 February 2013: No if you ask me a woman can't ever be wet enough ;) Next libido decreases as you get older Also a factor could be boredom. There are books out there that'll tell you how to keep the spice but you may not to reference such material. Talk to your g... (read in full...)

Other than a credit card? How to purchase sex toys without the small town bank staff knowing what I purchased?

Q.   Hi! Very childish question here, but Im worried. Its a very miniscule problem but I am looking to purchase some "bedroom toys" but Im worried that if I use my debit card the bank will see my purchase! I live in an extremely small town Im taking ...

A.   6 February 2013: This is hilarious! Yes try paypal.... (read in full...)

Does low self-esteem lead to infidelity?

Q.   Just trying to make sense of something that probably isn't easy to make sense of. I recently broke up with my longtime gf of nearly 6 years after catching her in an inappropriate text/email/Facebook "flirtation" and the subsequent lies she made in ...

A.   6 February 2013: Women cheat on you because you can't maintain attraction. Assuming they’re attracted to u in the first place. Pampering them with gifts n crap only comes across as a soft ass kisser man. Its wussy n as much as women say they like it they don’t on... (read in full...)

Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!

Q.   Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...

A.   6 February 2013: Its on your end man. Dont go lookin for girls to notice you. Are you insecure that you need their approval for somethin? Be the initiator. Make contact. Smile. Approach. It's not hard.... (read in full...)

Girls: Would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend?

Q.   Girls, would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend? My girlfriend invites me to her home often. She has a 12 year old brother who wrestles. He's always challenging me to wrestle and arm-wrestle. So, I did one day and he beat me b...

A.   3 February 2013: Yea man avoid the kid. Tell him ur not interested n dont feel like doing it. And if he teases u dont show emotion just say I dont want to. I had guys in high school does that to me a lot cos I was big n tall but fat n they did it as a form of making ... (read in full...)

Girls: Would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend?

Q.   Girls, would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend? My girlfriend invites me to her home often. She has a 12 year old brother who wrestles. He's always challenging me to wrestle and arm-wrestle. So, I did one day and he beat me b...

A.   3 February 2013: Yea man avoid the kid. Tell him ur not interested n dont feel like doing it. And if he teases u dont show emotion just say I dont want to. I had guys in high school does that to me a lot cos I was big n tall but fat n they did it as a form of making ... (read in full...)

Met a gorgeous guy on the train but he has a girlfriend!

Q.   Hello Everyone This Week I met a guy. The way I met him and started talking seems like it belongs in a movie. Basically I was waiting in the train station waiting for my train number to be announced. When they finally called it I headed down the ...

A.   3 February 2013: First things first juliet. Ask him about his rltshp? Is it over? My guess is he left her place on a bad note otherwise he would not have expressed interest. Get to know his intentions so you can proceed with ease if he's available and ready to be ... (read in full...)

Dating for one month so far. I feel as if I'm not good enough when I'm trying to pleasure him. What could be the problem?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. Let's call him X. He's 39. I'm 22. I'm still a virgin and he's not. We've already done sexual stuff and he knows what he's doing. I, on the other hand, have not been able to get him off. I feel ...

A.   3 February 2013: Have him show you what he likes. I've been the first for two women they've given a hand job to and both got me off n pretty good too lol. Just ask him what would turn him on while you are stroking him. Certain position he might like? Certain lotion? ... (read in full...)

Three months together and already I am jealous of this other girl. What should I do?

Q.   Okay, I have been going out with this guy for almost 3 months and he's the type of guy every girl wants to be with. And this one girl especially is all over him and she's always talking about how they use to go out and stuff and well I don't kn...

A.   3 February 2013: Yea. She will prob go after him and not care if you're involved with him. Talk to him and agree on friend boundaries.... (read in full...)

Online girl I met says she has a b/f yet sends sexual pictures to me and then gets angry! What gives?

Q.   hi people i need advice and insight as to what's been going on between me and this lovely and sweet, caring girl i met a few months ago playing video games... LONG STORY SHORT. she's 18. met her online but never met in person but plan on ...

A.   2 February 2013: Gimme a break pal. This girl is projecting her insecurities onto u about her committment. How can you trust a woman who is cheating on her bf with YOU? You can't man, you can't. Break it off.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend drinks and tells me he's sleeping with other people, what should I do?

Q.   Hello i have been with my partner now for 2 1/2 years and has been a very terbulant relationship, he drinks heavily and when he aint arounf me he promises he wont drink and when i phone him and he is drunk on the phone or even before he gets to that ...

A.   2 February 2013: Wow hes very abusive and immature. When you have kids you shouldnt act like this. He sounds like an alcoholic n needs help. Tough situation. Good luck.... (read in full...)

How should I approach the attractive girl on Facebook?

Q.   Hey, so there is this girl I am friends with on Facebook and I find her very attractive, we have about 80 mutual friends (which in todays society meens f**k all, cos we probably added one another just because we have mutual friends, it's a numbers ...

A.   2 February 2013: I do this all the time. Tease her about her profile pic her profession or even her like pages. Do it in a respectful fashion n a wink. Nothing mean. A neg. Make a comment about one of her pics n ask a question. For ex one time I saw a hottie n her ... (read in full...)

How can I accept husband's impotence without any medical reason?

Q.   My husband puts me thru a lots of sexual wondering. He lost his erection several years ago, in the middle of an intercourse. Than he stopped getting erections all together, and lost his sexual desire 100%. I mean, never asked for sex, no touch, no ...

A.   1 February 2013: Maybe hes gay?... (read in full...)

My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.

Q.   Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese ...

A.   31 January 2013: Yea load of pony. Hes seeing here n laughs cos hes shocked he got caught.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend can't keep it up and I'm ready to walk!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We came across a sex problem after about 6 mths. The problem was, he couldn't stay hard and we got into an about that aftet it happened several times cuz I was left hanging. Now, it...

A.   30 January 2013: Yea if his skin is peeling it could be from lotion or ointment hes using for masturbation or he could have a disease. He could be stressed overweight many factors. Im not afraid to admit I have psychological ED n im only 28. Never taken steroids n ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my girlfriend her house is nasty and I wont eat at hers again until the roaches are exterminated?

Q.   Should you tell someone you love they are a slob and should do much better about being clean? I'm lesbian and coincidentally my girlfriend is too. Anyways I've recently just begun visiting her home after 3yrs making arrangements to meet up or visit ...

A.   30 January 2013: Youre being wayyyy too nice. This is her responsibility and if she doesnt take care of it that could be a dealbreaker. She could also be the type to take advantage of u since she is lazy and u r not. Be careful.... (read in full...)

He's 24. I told him I was 18. How can I tell him the truth that I'm 17 and not lose him when I do tell?

Q.   Hello, I'm 17 years old and iv met a guy and we have been seeing each other for about a month and we really like each other. However, I told him I was 18 as we met in a bar that I got into. He's 24. I want to tell him that I'm actually 17,...

A.   30 January 2013: Well dont lie in the first place. If some woman wants a guy who weighs 240 and not 260 thats her loss not mine. Point: Dont worry what others think even if its age. U could be mature n a good match for the person. Be honest. Thats key to a lot of ... (read in full...)

Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?

Q.   How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...

A.   30 January 2013: Maintain attraction. Do this by teasing being playful maybe even a little rude sometimes not to mention little things like cards or a rose here and there. Dont go all soft on her but be a gentleman.... (read in full...)

What to do with flakey friends? When she has a guy she ignores me.

Q.   One of my good friends from highschool tends to ignore me when ever a guy pays attention to her. When things end I am the first person she calls when she is sad. I am sick and tired or being put on the back Burner the minute a guy shows her inte...

A.   30 January 2013: Yea sounds like a one way relationship. Have u talked to her yet? If yes then id cut her out of ur life.... (read in full...)

I feel lost without my boyfriend and just want to contact him!

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago, over the phone. It was a somewhat mutual breakup once I found out who he was. Our morals and lifestyles are far too different to make a serious relationship work (he is a serious partier, smoker and ...

A.   29 January 2013: You need to develop more independence and by doing so you wont rely on men emotionally. Undertake more responsibilities even go out alone more. This guy even if he fills a void for the long term would not work due to differences.... (read in full...)

Why do men never seem to notice when a woman is being too friendly?

Q.   Why do men never seem to notice when a woman is maybe being to friendly? I hate how when I say something in that moment , that I may be viewed as crazy or jealous. I know I walked in the house today and a girl I never met had her hand on my ...

A.   26 January 2013: Men like attention but its how he filters that attention that matters. I'm saying as long as he doesn't act on her all touchy and feely with him you need not worry unless there are trust issues present.... (read in full...)

I positively enjoy performing oral sex on my husband. Do other women experience the same thing?

Q.   I enjoy and look forward to performing oral sex on my husband. He is shocked by this fact. I tried to explain that it is no different than a sexual position that turns him on or a fantasy he has about me. I want my husband to ask for it. He feels ...

A.   26 January 2013: Lol youre a gem lady. Ive only had women who enjoyed it but not at ur level! ... (read in full...)

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