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A straightforward FAQ
Q: Should I have an affair?
A: Absolutely not, I wish Jerry Springer was popular again so you'd know why and I'd see this question less than three times a day. No, don't say, "but..." the answer is still "NO" and you know it. NO! NEVER DO IT!
Q: Is my penis big enough? Why does it look different?
A: An average penis is 5-7 inches. Less than that can still do the job and if you are worried, use something besides what is between your legs. And if everyone has a different face, why would genitals be different in this aspect? They come in different shapes and sizes, so you're probably normal. Same with vaginas.
Q: We had unprotected sex, but he pulled out before he had an orgasm, how did I become pregnant?
A: Um, when did they stop teaching Sex Ed? Just because he didn't shoot, doesn't mean his dribbling precum didn't have sperm. It only takes one of his little tadpoles to swim across the finish line.
Q: Dude, my sister is so hot, should I ask her to have sex with me?
A: HELLS NAW! That's called incest and it is illegal. If you have a kid, he/she would probably be retarded or genetically defective in some way. You are only hot for her because she is the female closest to you.
Q: I'm 40 and want to date this 11 year old. Is this okay?
A: No, that is disgusting, you're a pedophile, get help.
Q: My significant other abuses me physically and/or emotionally and I want to stay, how do I go about this?
A: Leave. Leave him/her right now. You know those women on Oprah that you'd say are crazy for staying with the wifebeater? Well, that's you. Stand up for yourself, don't be a doormat, and walk.
Q: Everything is going great, why do I want to leave him/her?
A: Remember the first Matrix movie? The main agent said that the original Matrix design was a world with no pain or consequence. The human mind could not accept this and everyone woke up. It didn't work until pain and consequence were introduced. Think on that. There is much truth to reality. Other than that, you may have a fear of success, or be seeking a challenge. Americans do well under stress, we are used to it. We don't know how to handle things when they go well, much like a child doesn't know how to handle freedom.
Q; I'm a pregnant teen and don't know if I should keep this baby or tell anyone.
A: We'll I don't have a definitive answer, but let's hope this helps. First, I don't see how you will keep it from your parents at your age. Your best bet is to be honest and tell them right now. If you are worried that your entire life will stop and you'll drop out, let me hopefully provide you with inspiration. I have a female co-worker, she got pregnant when she was 16. She kept the baby and finished high school ON TIME and in mostly HONORS CLASSES! She finished college on time. She is now a teacher in her mid 20's with three kids and a husband that is the father of all three kids. She is finishing up her masters degree and she always has enough money to go on vacation, even though her husband works part-time and is going to school. Of course this is not the norm and it takes a supportive family/families and the guy has to be there too, but it is not impossible! NEVER have an abortion just because the guy threatens to leave. On top of that, a lot of young mothers are worried until the baby is born and would have regretted the decision to have an abortion. for more inspiration on this matter look at this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/for-all-young-women.html
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I have put an end to contacting her. Was that the right decision?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm afraid I did something very stupid yet again, and this time I think it has really blown things apart. *Check my column to hear about my situation* Last night I dreamt about her. It was us getting back together. First thing I di...
A. 19 August 2007: Sure, good luck in whatever you decide!... (read in full...)
I have put an end to contacting her. Was that the right decision?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm afraid I did something very stupid yet again, and this time I think it has really blown things apart. *Check my column to hear about my situation* Last night I dreamt about her. It was us getting back together. First thing I di...
A. 18 August 2007: Perhaps she is thinking about the "later on down the road" thing too but now isn't a good time due to the distance. However, don't wait around for that. Move on, I think you can do that while still being friends at a distance. At a distance ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over my ex even though I know I need to move on
Q. I feel betrayed by my ex. We were together for two years and with plans to marry. I gave him my virginity and he knew most of my secrets and family private stuff. I was the one who dumped him but because he started changing and betraying me ...
A. 14 August 2007: You are remembering the good moments and therefore have trouble letting go. I don't know your exact situation, but if he hurt you that badly, you must let go. You know those women who end up on talk shows because their husbands beat them and they ... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know will I feel like this forever or will I start getting over him?
Q. Me and my bf recently broke up. I really miss him and I am finding it hard to move on. I just wanted to know will I feel like this forever or will I start getting over him? ...
A. 14 August 2007: You will be fine. Life will go on and you will forget about this in time and find someone else. If it ended, there must have been a reason. Go out, socialize, meet people. You have friends and they'll be glad to help you feel better. You wil... (read in full...)
I'm just worried that she wont text me. I don't know why but knowing she did not text me will kill my insides
Q. My birthday is tomorrow. All my friends are texting me already, but there's this girl who i liked so much. We are good friends. I'm just worried that she wont text me. I don't know why but knowing she did not text me will kill my insides! Am i ...
A. 14 August 2007: You're just letting your mind run away with you and you're stuck on this one girl. If she doesn't text you, she doesn't text you, it doesn't mean you can't ask her out next time you see her. The worse she can do is say no. Instead of letting that ... (read in full...)
Should we give it one more try?
Q. I still love my ex and she loves me too. what should I do should I give it one more shot or should I leave it alone? We've broken up twice already and I'm afraid that if we give it one more try I will end up heartbroken again but I want to try ...
A. 14 August 2007: You are both young and might think you are in love, but probably aren't. You could either address whatever issues caused you to break up previously and re-enter a relationship together WITH CAUTION. Or you could try to see other people and if ... (read in full...)
My husband of 5 years has suddenly asked me to stick my finger up his butt while going down on him. Does this mean he is gay?
Q. My husband of 5 years has suddenly asked me to stick my finger up his butt while going down on him. Does this mean he is gay? Why does he want me to do this? I asked him won't this hurt you and he said your fingers aren't that big it will feel ...
A. 14 August 2007: Never done it myself, but supposedly if you can get to the prostate you can hit a "male G-Spot." I've also heard that if timed right, a finger up there can make a man shoot across the room, but it doesn't feel good after.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with and it really upsets me.
Q. My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with, he makes it a subject and it really upsets me. We've been together a year and I don't want to leave him because I love him. I've told him to stop talking about it but he ...
A. 14 August 2007: This might be bad advice, I don't know. But what if you revered it and talked about past boyfriends and intimate moments with them? ... (read in full...)
I just dont know what i should do, should i marry him?
Q. I'm 18 and last weekend my boyfriend of 3 years asked me to marry him. At the time it seemed perfect - the way he asked, the place, everything he said, but now I had time to think about it and I am not sure I really want to be married so young. I am ...
A. 14 August 2007: Don't do it, at least not now. Why would he propose now? To try keeping you close in case you grow distant in college? He cheated on you three times, and those are only the ones you know about. And when was the last time? Who knows what he'll... (read in full...)
Does anyone have some advice about kissing technique?
Q. Hey, this is a simple question. Does anyone have some advice about kissing technique? For all the guys: What do you all like best from a girl when kissing? ...
A. 14 August 2007: I'm sure you've heard someone say, "Say it like you mean it." Same with kissing, whatever you do, do it with passion and like you mean it, otherwise you think too much and you turn robotic and might choke up. ... (read in full...)
My fiance is 33 and I am 24. He has some friends his age and he also has some friends that are girls that are 13 and 15.
Q. My fiance is 33 and I am 24. He has some friends his age and he also has some friends that are girls that are 13 and 15. He knows I think it's weird that they are young, so he never takes me out with them. They sit on his lap. Is that weird?...
A. 14 August 2007: Sorry, but that IS weird and inappropriate. I mean, he doesn't let other females your age or his age sit on his lap does he? If he's not a store Santa, you better have a long talk.... (read in full...)
We split up and now a month on I'm getting these weird feelings, such as one day I want her and crave for her the next I dont give two shits if you get me.
Q. Hi fellows, Me and my girlfriend have split up for over a month now. I'm having some difficulties. We were engaged for a year but things got complicated and complex so we finished. We split up and now a month on I'm getting these weird feelings, ...
A. 13 August 2007: It is naturally to have mixed reactions after a long relationship has ended. Part of you remembers the good times and is still in shock that it is over. The other part realizes it is over and that you're probably better off.
I'd say take one... (read in full...)
When he asks why we're together or why I love him, I never know what to say
Q. i want to know how to communicate with your lover, when ever he talks about why you love him or why we are in to relationship. i cant answer and he looks like am not serious. i want to know how to alway talk with him. thanks...
A. 8 August 2007: He sounds insecure. He shouldn't need to be told why, just that you do. Or maybe he's just so analytical he needs to rationalize everything in logical terms rather than emotional feelings. That may need to be addressed later, but since that won't ... (read in full...)
My brain won't shut down at night and I can't sleep, what can I do?
Q. Hi i've been having problems sleeping lately. people have always told me i have an over active imagination but i never thought anything of it.Recently i have been not able to sleep well even though i'm really tired. I can't keep my eyes opne but my ...
A. 8 August 2007: Just a couple things to add. You said you've been really tired. It seems illogical, but it has been proven that if you are too tired, you cannot sleep. I forget the biological reason for this.
Also, besides stress levels (and sometime... (read in full...)
I wanted my best friend but he said it wasn't an option, so I started dating a great guy; my friend got jealous and now I'm dating him but I have regrets
Q. So my best friend and I have been dancing around a relationship for over a 1 year. We both felt the same way about each other, but he repeatedly told me that nothing more would ever come about. So, after many conversation and agonizing nights I ...
A. 8 August 2007: Yep. Sounds like Bob was trying to keep you in his hip pocket while looking elsewhere, now that you jumped out of his pocket he wants what isn't his.
Choose one, but make it clear that it is over to the one you don't choose to be with.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very skinny and I feel uncomfortable with my body when we're fooling around
Q. Right well... Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now and it troubles me how thin he is. I love him for who he is but because I myself have a slight weight problem, it makes me feel bad. He's not anorexic and I'm not obese but ev...
A. 8 August 2007: I can't add anything new, so I'll just reiterate and hope it makes a difference that i am the only guy posting so far.
You feel bigger because he is thinner. He loves you just the way you are. You don't love him less for being thin do you?
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There's an 8 year old boy next door to me and he's emotionally neglected and I hear screaming; what can I do to help him?
Q. i know this is not love or reletionship advice but i need to know what ppl think i have no where eles to turn. I need real help the boy next door well i know he is not treated right not hit bbut shout at alot and i never see him have hugs or kisses ...
A. 8 August 2007: Perhaps if you know the school he goes to, talking to the principal will yield good ideas. They know the best routes to go on this stuff.... (read in full...)
She's an emotional mess, torn between her boyfriend and I; what should I do?
Q. Hi, all. Just some advice needed before i go crazy. Been involved in an emotional/sexual affair with someone i became friends with at work. She wouldnt get that way involved for months but we did and it was like we were in a bubble - amazing for ...
A. 8 August 2007: Pretty much what DJ said, but I won't sugarcoat it. You've done enough damage and confused the hell out of her. She cheated on her bf with you and what would stop her from cheating on you with someone else? She is now feeling guilty and probably ... (read in full...)
We're getting married but I'm no longer sure how I feel
Q. ive been with my partner for 3 years we have 2 kids and are getting married next year.he is 39 and im 22. he only wants to sleep with me when he wants. one minute he will be all over me then next minute he will be distanced.i love him but i dont how ...
A. 8 August 2007: Yes, talk it over with him before jumping into marriage. This is why divorce rates are so high now with a lot of short term marriages. Either people aren't actually taking time to get to know each other or they aren't addressing what needs to be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me but she's still upset and down; doesn't that mean she loves me, despite what she says?
Q. just split up with my girl of 2 years and i worship the ground she walks on we split up coz she sed she didnt love me anymore ,but theres a guy at her work who she talks about she said she doesnt fancy him justs likes his pesonality im realy torn up ...
A. 8 August 2007: She may have feelings left, or she may not. She might just be confused. After two years of being there for her, you are now gone and it is a shock to her system. Change is scary and sticking with what is known has a certain comfort. In fact step ... (read in full...)
I'm married and have been seeing a married woman; we know it's wrong but we're not happy in our marriages
Q. I am a 32 year old male and i have been married for seven years and have a son. Like all marriages we have had our ups and downs but i feel that my feelings for my wife are not as strong as they should be. Over the past two years i have developed ...
A. 8 August 2007: Yep, it's obvious. You should never have started another relationship without ending a previous one first. Marriage is a commitment. End it officially before jumping into something else. The mistress too.... (read in full...)
Our sex life has been boring since he got out of jail; any tips to liven things up?
Q. My husband had been in prison for 9 months. He recently got out in June. We've had sex over 60 times since he got out and now its just boring. Can you all give me some ideas that might excite our sex life?...
A. 8 August 2007: He might just need some recovery. It seems logical that he's want to have raging animal sex right when he gets out, but life in the pen, even in less than a year, might have taken a psychological toll. Give him another month or two unless things ... (read in full...)
I want to make him feel appreciated without all that slushy romantic stuff
Q. I am just wondering what can I do to make my b.f. know he's appreciated without actually telling him (he hates romantic crap and so do I) He has intimacy issues, and I do too. I am fine with this. But what can I do that isn't over the top? I am a ...
A. 8 August 2007: Just to add to BassChick's response, you may consider the dinner or the tickets ideas as an unexpected surprise too.... (read in full...)
I want to get divorced, but I am terrrified of the wrath of G-d!
Q. I want to end my 25 year marriage because my husband and I have grown apart and there is absolutely no attraction in it for me. But I have tremendous religious guilt and worry incessively that God is going to punish me for doing this horrible ...
A. 8 August 2007: Most of what has already been said makes sense. I just want to add to what Taylor Chu said, and maybe with a slightly different spin. Hopefully it helps. Don't jump on the divorce wagon right away, try to work it out first. Give it one good ... (read in full...)
I was asked out the other day by a 15 year old girl but I'm 23. Should I go?
Q. Hi all I'm a 23 year old male and was wondering if you could give me some help and or your opinion on what I should do. I was asked out the other day by a 15 year old girl. I have known her quite a while and get on really well with her. She is v...
A. 8 August 2007: Yes, some 15 year olds are attractive and dress like hoochie mamas, but don't do it. Think about it. You're an adult and she isn't. Sexually you'd be in trouble, but mentally you're probably on different ends of the spectrum too. She's probably ... (read in full...)
Should I be with him and make all my dreams come true?
Q. okay, so heres the story, this story happends to be like many others but theres a twist. there this guy that i met exactly a year ago today. he happends to be a very famous man, unfourtunantly i can not mention his name because i do not want him ...
A. 8 August 2007: Taylor Chu makes a very good point, but you also have to be cautious that he may want the opposite. What I mean is that if you don't have these life skills, he might be looking for someone he can control.... (read in full...)
I'm 20 years old, and dating a 36 year old. What do you think?
Q. I am 20 and the guy I am starting to see is 36. I know how to handle myself as a woman so I'm not worried about getting to attached like most ladies my age... I know I know girls say that all the time but seriously I'm a very mature 20 year old. ...
A. 8 August 2007: As you can see, you have many differences in opinion here. This just proves that it is a case to case basis.
Go on this: Where do you two fall mentally? Are you on the same page? Are your values similar? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I fight so much, and there are other guys out there that like me!
Q. Everyone I need your help!Please if anyone can give me answers i need em. Ive been dating my bf for a little more than half a year. Its been amazing none the less but we are getting in to more and more fights!Its unbareable! And to make matters ...
A. 8 August 2007: If these outbursts were just here and there, it would be fine. But if he's controlling you this much in every aspect of your life, it is destined to end.
Go see your friends. That is not unacceptable. Have a life outside of him, but still sh... (read in full...)
I am at my wits end with him... why is money more important to him than our relationship and my feelings?
Q. Hey... I've been in a relationship for almost 4 years now...my BF and I live together, and I am on disability. He struggled with abusive parents and has walked out on me in the past, refusing to talk to me, and trashing me to his friends and fami...
A. 8 August 2007: Again then. You're a scapegoat. Some things are out of his control, he's looking for answers to why life is what it is for him or his past was what it was. It is easier for him to blame it on the only person that is there instead of admitting that ... (read in full...)
I despise my job with a passion and I've had no luck finding another one. What can I do?
Q. i'm really getting desperate now,I could really do with some advice. I hate my job, i really cannot stand it, the company are viol - im off sick and they call me everyday questioning me (I've been there for a long time I have excellent attendance ...
A. 8 August 2007: Do what the first posts says. And remember that there are two ways to go about looking for a job. Saturate the market with resumes and send them out to everyone and doing anything. However this can spread you thin and I can only resommend this if ... (read in full...)
While drunk, he admitted to still being in love with his ex. He and I been together 4 years and have a son!
Q. My boyfriend's wife/soulmate threw him out after 15 years of marriage. We got together 4 years ago and have a son together. He still jumps when she asks for anything, and uses their children to get what she wants. She has recently split with her ...
A. 8 August 2007: Try what "bitter" and "here" tell you to do. But if it doesn't change anything and things get to the point of ridiculous, then you have to sit him down and ask him where he sees this going in the long run.... (read in full...)
He's gotten obsessed with making me squirt (and it's making me sore)...
Q. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH My Boyfriend just figured out how to make me squirt, but now hes addicted!!!The problem is :S it doesnt even feel as amazing as people set it out to be. Hes been trying too hard lately to make me do it an...
A. 8 August 2007: Yeah, it shouldn't be about his obsession. Your orgasm should feel good for you. Tell him to stop and throw it in the once in a while pile if even that. Your blood should be an indicator to him to stop. If he persists, offer to give him a ... (read in full...)
I have let the past go but he hasnt!
Q. I had a huge argurment with my boyfriend over his ex. They were together for 15 yrs broken up for 2 yrs. She is being clingy as she is much older than he, he feels guilty for leaving her. I acted irrationally, i lost my cool and sooped on him and ...
A. 8 August 2007: After two years, he should be over it. But perhaps he is trying to let go, but she won't let him. This is a very touchy situation. Anything you do could push him the other way, especially if she is laying some guilt trips on him. If you deci... (read in full...)
I have put an end to contacting her. Was that the right decision?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm afraid I did something very stupid yet again, and this time I think it has really blown things apart. *Check my column to hear about my situation* Last night I dreamt about her. It was us getting back together. First thing I di...
A. 8 August 2007: Okay, first off, you aren't stupid. You are a bit emotional and on top of that, the internet makes it easy to now send something out before thinking about it. Back in the day, we had to write letters, sleep on it and had the chance to back out. ... (read in full...)
We're having second thoughts about the abortion...
Q. Me and my boyfriend agreed that we didnt want an abortion but we also dont want either one of us to drop out just to take care of a baby. I'm having second thoughts about it all and im sure he is too. any advice?...
A. 8 August 2007: Not exactly advice, but maybe some inspiration. You don't have to have an abortion and no one has to drop out. I work with a woman who had her first child around your age. She took care of the child, was an honors student with good grades and ... (read in full...)
I am at my wits end with him... why is money more important to him than our relationship and my feelings?
Q. Hey... I've been in a relationship for almost 4 years now...my BF and I live together, and I am on disability. He struggled with abusive parents and has walked out on me in the past, refusing to talk to me, and trashing me to his friends and fami...
A. 8 August 2007: It probably isn't all about money and you screwing with it. Part of that might be there on the surface, but we'll get to that in the end of my response. What's going on deeper...You said it yourself that he came from an emotionally abusive family. ... (read in full...)
Why would the guy I like want to see me so suddenly?
Q. Well yesterday the guy I like called me for the first time in like a month and a half..So we were talking and we were both bored becuz it wuz around 11pm..So then he asked me to go to Mcdonalds so I could see him and I told him my parents are not ...
A. 8 August 2007: Definitely a booty call. You can really do a lot better unless sneaking out of the house for McDonald's on short notice is your idea of a romantic date.
I hope it isn't.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly gives me a hard time for my past, and it makes me miserable!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am writing with tears on my eyes 'cause devastated. I will try to make my story short. I met my bf while in college and while in college I acted a little crazy and mess around with a couple of guys. My bf and I were not together...
A. 8 August 2007: Here's the thing. If you've been together for three years and he knew about your past from the beginning and it bothered him, why did he start going out with you in the first place? Have you asked him that? Is he just holding this over your head ... (read in full...)
Should I be with him and make all my dreams come true?
Q. okay, so heres the story, this story happends to be like many others but theres a twist. there this guy that i met exactly a year ago today. he happends to be a very famous man, unfourtunantly i can not mention his name because i do not want him ...
A. 8 August 2007: I agree with the first post. On top of that if he's friends with you and been working on making you famous, why should that change if you don't have a relationship?
But be honest from the beginning. If he starts making you famous while thinking... (read in full...)
What's the best way to figure out why she wants to meet with me?
Q. It has been close to seven weeks since we broke up (she ended it), and we have talked on instant messenger the past four days (she always initiates contact). On Saturday, she asked me if I wanted to get together for a drink or something in the near ...
A. 8 August 2007: Yep, be strong and go out on the date-like meeting. It is the only way to be sure. See if you can gain hints if you talk to her on the phone or message her in the mean time.
Again, be strong, but also be cautious. If it turns into sex, don... (read in full...)
I'm 20 years old, and dating a 36 year old. What do you think?
Q. I am 20 and the guy I am starting to see is 36. I know how to handle myself as a woman so I'm not worried about getting to attached like most ladies my age... I know I know girls say that all the time but seriously I'm a very mature 20 year old. ...
A. 8 August 2007: My first reaction: So what?
Seriously, age is a number. Forget about the number, it is insignificant. Do you like him and want to be with him? Does he want to be with you? Those are the things that matter.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I fight so much, and there are other guys out there that like me!
Q. Everyone I need your help!Please if anyone can give me answers i need em. Ive been dating my bf for a little more than half a year. Its been amazing none the less but we are getting in to more and more fights!Its unbareable! And to make matters ...
A. 8 August 2007: Yeah, despite the fighting, how do you feel about him? How does he truly feel about you? What are the fights about, is he trying to control you or what?
Talk about it, tell him you've been thinking of ending it and see what he says. It might... (read in full...)
I have "diencephalic syndrome" and the large penis that goes with it... how can I ever find a partner?
Q. This may come across as a myth, however, I assure you it is not. I have a condition called Diencephalic syndrome, meaning I have an extremely large penis. Last time I went to the doctor's it was measured at approximately 18 inches in length. My ...
A. 8 August 2007: I don't know if that "farther away technique" just mentioned would work. Is the width a problem too? If you try that stand at the end of the bed from further away, maybe you could hold your penis about 1/2 or 2/3 of the way down so your hand helps ... (read in full...)
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