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writes:I am just wondering what can I do to make my b.f. know he's appreciated without actually telling him (he hates romantic crap and so do I) He has intimacy issues, and I do too. I am fine with this. But what can I do that isn't over the top? I am a stay at home mom and he works and supports us and I know he is fine with this. But I feel like I should do something to make him feel appreciated for his work. Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Gosh so many things. Buy him his favorite book or cd. Or get tickets to his favorite band. Get him beer before he gets home from work. Give him a back rub. Buy lingerie and model it for him. Go down on him. Hire a babysitter so you two can have alone time. Get a makeover (guys love it when you look different and real pretty). Plan a trip. Have a barbeque with all his and your friends on the weekend. I know you don't like the mushy stuff but just telling him that you love and appreciate him and then giving him a big hug is priceless.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Food and tools are certainly the way to a man's heart. All I have to do is put a big bow on a new drill and slap a piece of fried chicken in front of my husband and he's in 7th heaven.
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reader, ilikenight +, writes (9 August 2007):
ilikenight is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have been in relationships where men have been romantic. But I don't feel like I need that, I've been there. Yes it'd be nice once in a while. But since he is nothing like that, why would I want to make him feel uncomfortable? Actions speak louder than words & a man can promise a woman the world, but if he doesn't come through, it's just words. I've been let down by men a lot in my life. I feel like some men try being overly romantic because they can't fulfill other aspects of a relationship. I've seen this so many times. Don't get me wrong, I know that isn't always the case, but if my partner isn't comfortable with that, I'd rather not make him feel akward. And by the way, my question wasn't about your opinion on romance. It was what can I do to make my man feel appreciated without making him feel uncomfortable..so thanks for your 2 cents.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (8 August 2007):
Just to add to BassChick's response, you may consider the dinner or the tickets ideas as an unexpected surprise too.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 You could cook him something special, perhaps he has a favorite dish or dessert that's a bit of work to prepare so you don't cook it very often. Especially if your schedule is hectic, and you actually took the time to shop for the indredients and make it from scratch, he'll feel appreciated. You could buy him tickets to a game or a concert he's been dying to see......Take his dog to the groomer for him, pick up his dry cleaning or spend a day running all his errands so he can be free to watch TV and have a day off. Or simply telling him, "Hey thanks for all that you do around here, I really appreciate you." Is straight, to the point, and isn't sappy or romantic at all. I hope this helps you out.
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