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A straightforward FAQ
Q: Should I have an affair?
A: Absolutely not, I wish Jerry Springer was popular again so you'd know why and I'd see this question less than three times a day. No, don't say, "but..." the answer is still "NO" and you know it. NO! NEVER DO IT!
Q: Is my penis big enough? Why does it look different?
A: An average penis is 5-7 inches. Less than that can still do the job and if you are worried, use something besides what is between your legs. And if everyone has a different face, why would genitals be different in this aspect? They come in different shapes and sizes, so you're probably normal. Same with vaginas.
Q: We had unprotected sex, but he pulled out before he had an orgasm, how did I become pregnant?
A: Um, when did they stop teaching Sex Ed? Just because he didn't shoot, doesn't mean his dribbling precum didn't have sperm. It only takes one of his little tadpoles to swim across the finish line.
Q: Dude, my sister is so hot, should I ask her to have sex with me?
A: HELLS NAW! That's called incest and it is illegal. If you have a kid, he/she would probably be retarded or genetically defective in some way. You are only hot for her because she is the female closest to you.
Q: I'm 40 and want to date this 11 year old. Is this okay?
A: No, that is disgusting, you're a pedophile, get help.
Q: My significant other abuses me physically and/or emotionally and I want to stay, how do I go about this?
A: Leave. Leave him/her right now. You know those women on Oprah that you'd say are crazy for staying with the wifebeater? Well, that's you. Stand up for yourself, don't be a doormat, and walk.
Q: Everything is going great, why do I want to leave him/her?
A: Remember the first Matrix movie? The main agent said that the original Matrix design was a world with no pain or consequence. The human mind could not accept this and everyone woke up. It didn't work until pain and consequence were introduced. Think on that. There is much truth to reality. Other than that, you may have a fear of success, or be seeking a challenge. Americans do well under stress, we are used to it. We don't know how to handle things when they go well, much like a child doesn't know how to handle freedom.
Q; I'm a pregnant teen and don't know if I should keep this baby or tell anyone.
A: We'll I don't have a definitive answer, but let's hope this helps. First, I don't see how you will keep it from your parents at your age. Your best bet is to be honest and tell them right now. If you are worried that your entire life will stop and you'll drop out, let me hopefully provide you with inspiration. I have a female co-worker, she got pregnant when she was 16. She kept the baby and finished high school ON TIME and in mostly HONORS CLASSES! She finished college on time. She is now a teacher in her mid 20's with three kids and a husband that is the father of all three kids. She is finishing up her masters degree and she always has enough money to go on vacation, even though her husband works part-time and is going to school. Of course this is not the norm and it takes a supportive family/families and the guy has to be there too, but it is not impossible! NEVER have an abortion just because the guy threatens to leave. On top of that, a lot of young mothers are worried until the baby is born and would have regretted the decision to have an abortion. for more inspiration on this matter look at this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/for-all-young-women.html
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I am 23 and have fallen for a 14 year old!
Q. i am a 23 year old male, and i have a 14 year old friend i have meet and known for a while, we get on really well, and her parents seem to trust me and her. but i think i maybe fallin in love with her, and i think she feels the same way, im not...
A. 8 September 2007: Hmmm...you might have the best of intentions by staying friends with her. However, many mistakes were created by having good intentions. Considering how you feel about her, I'd say that there might be a chance that a mistake could happen here. ... (read in full...)
Still living with my ex and want to move on, but my new boyfriend hasnt suggested we live together
Q. Hello beautiful people, please help me to see the truth, here is my problem…… I am divorced for one year but still living with my husband. We have been unhappily married for 3 years. It’s a camaraderie relationship with no other feelings involve...
A. 4 September 2007: Good luck!... (read in full...)
I am 23 and have fallen for a 14 year old!
Q. i am a 23 year old male, and i have a 14 year old friend i have meet and known for a while, we get on really well, and her parents seem to trust me and her. but i think i maybe fallin in love with her, and i think she feels the same way, im not...
A. 4 September 2007: Maybe you're also too close to her. Do you hang out with many other females? If not, you should start. It might take your attention off of her and you may start feeling the same way for one of them.... (read in full...)
Still living with my ex and want to move on, but my new boyfriend hasnt suggested we live together
Q. Hello beautiful people, please help me to see the truth, here is my problem…… I am divorced for one year but still living with my husband. We have been unhappily married for 3 years. It’s a camaraderie relationship with no other feelings involve...
A. 31 August 2007: No matter what was said or how you two feel, this is pretty much a new beginning for you despite your past. It is probably too soon for you to move in together and perhaps he realizes that. Although it would make sense from a practical standpoint, ... (read in full...)
Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends
Q. Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...
A. 29 August 2007: It all depends on the guy and how close to the friends you really are.
It especially bothers the guys that don't have many friends that happen to be female. They often seem to think in black and white: strict groups of the same sex = people h... (read in full...)
I'm happy in my relationship and a guy at uni is interested. Whats the best way to let him down gently?
Q. Hi! I'm happily together with a very nice young man for nearly 3 years and I love him very much. At the moment he is working at the other end of town and I'm learning for exams at university, so we don't see eachother everyday. Last week I was lear...
A. 29 August 2007: It all depends on what the email said, but the basics can still be there. "You're a great guy, and any woman would be lucky to have you. While I do like knowing I've stil 'got it' I do have a loving boyfriend and am devoted to him..." Of course, ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that this little girl doesn't know the truth of why her Mom and Dad broke up?
Q. My boyfriend's daughter who is 7 years old told me she wants to know why her mom and my boyfriend got separated. She doesn't understand why everyone keep telling her they will explain to her when she is 17-18. The truth is her mom had an affair with ...
A. 29 August 2007: Maybe 17-18 is a little excessive, but it depends on her maturity at the age of seven. She might not be able to handle it or completely comprehend it at this time. It also might taint her view of her mother at this early age (rightfully so, I ... (read in full...)
My friends guy kissed me. I really like him. Shall i tell my friend?
Q. hi recently i kissed one of my friends boyfriends, i really like him and a couple of friends have told me he likes me more than his own girlfriend. he had made a pass at me a few times before this time and i rejected them, then finally i just gave ...
A. 29 August 2007: Tell your friend. Wouldn't you want to know if he was your boyfriend and he kissed your friend? Friends watch out for each other.
If you end up going further (NOT recommended), then wait until they break up, but realize your friendship would be... (read in full...)
My girlfriends parents are trying to come between us!
Q. My gf/s parents are trying to seperate us (after almost 11 months together) because I have had a few minor traffic violations in the past. last being in 1994 and they act like they are all high society and people will think bad things if they ever ...
A. 29 August 2007: While they try to control her, how controlled is she? Does she allow them to run her life?
You'll have to talk to her and if she is the kind to stand up to them, she will do her best to put it right. Of course if she were that type, she prob... (read in full...)
My step dad has drug problems and i cant face going back to school!
Q. Hi ive been on here before but in december of 2006 my stepfather became violent(yelling at everyone)and i was a sophmore in high school but since december he has been constantly mad and sneaky he has a drug problem serious drug problem...it has affe...
A. 29 August 2007: Definitely see a school counselor or the social worker. They are trained to handle this stuff and would know the best avenues for you to take. ... (read in full...)
I like me my friend, but he doesnt like me back
Q. theres this guy. and he has been my bestfriend for years after years. and we have dated alot. but now i like him and he isnt interested in me. infact he got mad at me for liking him. what do i do. im in need of help.!!!!!!! D:...
A. 28 August 2007: Maybe he is mad because he likes you too but knows you two aren't compatible, afterall you said you two dated a lot before, there must have been a reason why it ended.
Perhaps he is interested in another woman/women and your feelings for... (read in full...)
My partner wants me to move in, but I am worried his damage runs too deep
Q. My partner and I have been together for 7 months. We have a great relationship and he wants us to live together, but I'm having some reservations. You see, he was in a very painful break up with a woman he was engaged to marry. She cheated on him ...
A. 28 August 2007: You are right to worry. You should wait, it would be too soon in most circumstances and definitely way too soon in this situation. many couples don't even know the details of the other person well enough to make this work at seven months.
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The love of my life is married.
Q. Please a man's point of view I have a situation that is forever nagging at me. The man i love is married. We were friends and dated before he got married. It did not work out because we were neither emotionally ready for a relationship. Wh...
A. 28 August 2007: By entering and reentering each others lives, you are confusing each other and using each other. Were you not emotionally ready before, or were you mentally incompatible while still having physical chemistry?
Perhaps if you made an exit fro... (read in full...)
I'm happy in my relationship and a guy at uni is interested. Whats the best way to let him down gently?
Q. Hi! I'm happily together with a very nice young man for nearly 3 years and I love him very much. At the moment he is working at the other end of town and I'm learning for exams at university, so we don't see eachother everyday. Last week I was lear...
A. 28 August 2007: Your question is a breath of fresh air due to all the usual "Should I cheat on so and so?" posts.
Basically I would say you should just tell him the truth and maybe give him a name - work it in. Something like, "Sorry, you're a great guy and ... (read in full...)
How can i let him know our age gap doesnt matter????
Q. Hi, I recently turned 18 and not long after I found myself liking a guy that is a bit older than me. We first met at work and he thought I was older. But then he found out I'm only 18. I have no problem with the age gap and at first I thought he ...
A. 27 August 2007: How old is older? He might be thinking you two are not on the same maturity level. If that is so, you are just going to have to show him you're on the same mental level.... (read in full...)
I never seem to 'get the girl' at the moment! Any tips on internet dating or getting succesful when I'm in clubs???
Q. Hi, I'm a 32 yr old virgin, I have a good job, live with my older brother in a inner city apartment and have always found it difficult to connect with women from as long as I remember. The few times I've got to know some, I've always been bran...
A. 27 August 2007: No, I won't give you the same old advice. This is what I will say:
Online dating is often crap. It seems like a good idea at first, but you have to realize many of the poepl are on there for a reason. From experience, that reason is simply t... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my parents I haven't gotten my girlfriend (ex) pregnant???
Q. Hi my relationship with my girlfriend ended suddenly and today I decided I couldn't hang on to items and Projects that I did when I was with her and one of the things I tore up was a list that she made of me called The Pro's and Cons of dating ...
A. 27 August 2007: What your parents must be made to realize then is that you are an adult and can/will/and have to make your own decisions. They CANNOT use this to control you and keep you under lock and key. You have a right to have a life and you are perfectly ... (read in full...)
For all young women
Q. This is a true story of love and lost. When I was 12 years old I met this 15 year guy he was very handsome he had the whole package, my parents loved him, his parents loved me, we spent every minute together, we dated for 4 years before we ever had ...
A. 26 August 2007: I hope you don't mind, but I posted the link to this story on my profile under my No Nonsense FAQ.
I wonder if we could petition for this, as well as other things that are frequently asked to be linked at the top of the main webpage since yo... (read in full...)
Mum and dad dont want me to go out with my boyfriend anymore, what should i do???
Q. My mom and dad don't want me to go out with my boyfriend anymore and I don't know what to do as we have been dating for 9 months, nearly 10 and I love him so much. What should I do?...
A. 26 August 2007: Tell us why they don't want you to see him, so we can help you instead of take a guess as to what is going on and give you an answer that is a shot in the dark.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps coming into my work. What does he want???
Q. EX HELP WANTED..... Ok story is my ex and i broke up 7 months ago, he did the breaking but secretly i was releived even though it hurt. We stayed in contact and we still get on so well, flirting and and he buys me things and makes me cds and thing...
A. 26 August 2007: Sounds like he doesn't want the responsibility of a relationship and wants to be friends with benefits...although the gifts thing is puzzling in this case.
Perhaps your boss could send him a message next time he comes in at least with the work... (read in full...)
He's changed now that I've gotten pregnant
Q. dear cupid, Right now I'm in this relationship with a guy I've been with 4 about a year.. our relationship was alright up until a few months ago in about January when i got pregnant things started getting really messed up when his whole person s...
A. 26 August 2007: I'm guessing he couldn't handle the responsibility and saw drugs as an outlet. You can't just tell him to quit as Cassandra suggests and hope it will magically stop. He's hooked now. He needs rehab and you two might need counseling.
He ne... (read in full...)
Am i allergic to him?
Q. this is my 2nd question but again, I'll gets straight to it, I'm bi an i had oral with one of my friends from school, when he came he pulled his penis out and ejaculated over my face, where the cum was there is a slight rash n i got no idea why ...
A. 26 August 2007: Or clean it off quickly!... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my parents I haven't gotten my girlfriend (ex) pregnant???
Q. Hi my relationship with my girlfriend ended suddenly and today I decided I couldn't hang on to items and Projects that I did when I was with her and one of the things I tore up was a list that she made of me called The Pro's and Cons of dating ...
A. 26 August 2007: Wait...hold the phone...explain what you mean by "difficulties."
I know that perhaps telling us what you mean could be embarrassing, but in order for a complete answer and good insight to be given, we might need to know what this means.... (read in full...)
How can I please him in bed?
Q. How can I please my 27 yr old bf of almost 7 months in the bedroom department?...
A. 26 August 2007: Then why does it say you are 16-17? If you want an answer, then you have to give us the facts, which your question doesn't have much of. We worked with what we had, if you don't like it, that isn't our problem. So if you would kindly provide us ... (read in full...)
We dont have sex, he's got a small manhood, but everything else is perfect. Should i have an affair?
Q. Hi, I'm in the same boat. Well, I haven't met anyone else but I married my husband in April of this year. We've had sex once in 12 months. We have a brilliant friendship, we have fun together, can talk about everything and he loves me like no one ...
A. 26 August 2007: Yeah, if everything else is perfect, and you are worrying about a piece of him that, even if above average size, would only amount to a few inches, I think you're the one with a bigger problem.
Let him know you also have sexual needs. If he is... (read in full...)
I'm with the most wonderful guy yet i'm still not happy, why???
Q. why is it that i have the most wonderful man in the world and i am still not happy?...
A. 26 August 2007: Perhaps you are looking for a challenge and don't know how to handle things when they go well for long periods of time. We're American. We know how to handle stress, we don't know how to live without it.
Perhaps you also have a fear of success.... (read in full...)
My first serious relationship and shes great, but i crave being single again, help!
Q. Hello thanks in advance to anyone who can help me out with this. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. I am 21, she is 22. It started off rocky, basically we wernt really "dating" and she took 4 months to choose between ...
A. 26 August 2007: Seems to be a common theme now. We always want more. More money, more space, more passion. It is never enough.
You no longer look at love through that rose tinted glass, but part of you still thinks it is out there somewhere. You were fighting... (read in full...)
I have been dumped 3 times this year. Am i horrible and ugly???
Q. This summer i have been dumped three times. Am i just a horrible, ugly, stupid waste of space? I hate everything. Can someone help? ...
A. 26 August 2007: Everyone so far is right. If you were horrible and ugly, you wouldn't have had the chance to get dumped. You and probably the people you dated need time to get comfortable with someone else. ... (read in full...)
At what age are g-string panties appropriate for girls?
Q. I was shopping with my mom today. We were in the kids section. They had a display of "girls and junior g-string panties 20% off." My mom and I were both shocked. At what age are g-string panties appropriate for girls? Would you let your daught...
A. 26 August 2007: I think it is too young. Teenage girls everywhere are wearing really revealing things and their parents are somehow surprised when their daughters are having sex. The daughters and the parents wonder why they get pregnant, raped, or why guys think ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my parents I haven't gotten my girlfriend (ex) pregnant???
Q. Hi my relationship with my girlfriend ended suddenly and today I decided I couldn't hang on to items and Projects that I did when I was with her and one of the things I tore up was a list that she made of me called The Pro's and Cons of dating ...
A. 26 August 2007: Yeah, you're between 22-25, what the hell are they going through the garbage for and treating you like you're ten years younger? They've got to realize they can't hold a leash on you like this. If they don't trust you, they don't trust you. ... (read in full...)
Am i allergic to him?
Q. this is my 2nd question but again, I'll gets straight to it, I'm bi an i had oral with one of my friends from school, when he came he pulled his penis out and ejaculated over my face, where the cum was there is a slight rash n i got no idea why ...
A. 26 August 2007: Did you wash it off right away? Leaving a bunch of anyone's semen on your skin would probably do that. I don't know, just a guess. Maybe your skin is sensitive too.... (read in full...)
I'm 28, he's 16. He says we're just mates, can i change his mind?
Q. Im a 28yr old woman in love wit a 16 yr old guy. Is it wrong? we are great mates an have been intimate for a few months now but he says we just mates but tells me he loves me. can i change his mind if i play it cool?...
A. 26 August 2007: Um...he's probably a confused teenager. You should probably find someone more your age. Think about it, haven't you matured a lot in the 12 years since you've been sixteen?... (read in full...)
I keep losing my erection mix-sex... why?
Q. I'm 20 and healthy. I was a virgin before I met my girlfriend. She is not, she had one partner before me, she said he was awful. Now we have had sex four times recently, on the first night I was in the missionary position. Everything was going ok, ...
A. 26 August 2007: You've got performance anxiety all right. I doubt you had an orgasm without feeling, I mean did you see any semen? ... (read in full...)
How do you block numbers on a phone, he wont leave me alone!
Q. how do you block numbers on an O2 sony ericsson? please help, he won't leave me alone...
A. 26 August 2007: What Kay Kay said. I don't know how to block numbers, but even if you did, he could just start using other numbers to get ahold of you.
This is harrassment, so something could probably be done legally.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of a year has just found out i'm on probation, shes angry. What d i do?
Q. My girlfriend of a year just found out I was on probation. Shes mad I didn't tell her. What should I do?...
A. 26 August 2007: I don't think there is much to do except ride it out.... (read in full...)
He doesn't txt a lot & that makes me insecure, any guys on here that can give their opinion?
Q. Hi , I'd like a guys opinion on this. I have been talking to my ex again and we got together again but hes pretty bad at the whole texting/ringing thing? He does text back straight away if I text him and he is really sweet in the messages, but then...
A. 26 August 2007: Dittos on that anonymous guy's comment too.... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm still bothered by him seeing other girls
Q. Lived with longtime boyfriend of 6 yrs, Moved out because he did not want to take the next step, he has committment issues (at 45 yrs of age) also he wants to date other woman. But he still continues to text, email, calls to ask me out to dinner...
A. 26 August 2007: Walk and forget about it. This isn't your problem unless you let it be. He has to come to some conclusive decision.... (read in full...)
My inner lips are bigger than my outer lips! What will my husband to be think?
Q. i'm a female i think that sth is wrong in my vagina,i mean that i have an inner lip bigger than the other(meaning libia minora).it disturbs me so much and i'm going to get married,will i find any problem in intercourse and how my husband will think ...
A. 26 August 2007: Do faces of different people look different? Of course they do, and so do vaginas...so do penises. There is nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
My ex just got engaged, but then slept with me!
Q. I was in a relationship with someone for a couple of years. We broke up but remained good friends. Out of the blue he told me that he was getting married to a girl he's known for three weeks... I found this very strange, as he is not the type of ...
A. 26 August 2007: You better talk to him. See what is going on and if there is potential to start up again. Especially since he is engaged. I mean this marriage is doomed from the start, they've known each other three weeks and then he had sex with you. You might ... (read in full...)
How can I please him in bed?
Q. How can I please my 27 yr old bf of almost 7 months in the bedroom department?...
A. 26 August 2007: I agree with deejuliet, but since you are in Britain, it is legal. And if you do go through with it, it would be however you choose to with someone your age.... (read in full...)
He wants to cheat on his girlfriend with me
Q. basically, ive know this guy for as long as i can remember, and he is 4 years older. he has a g.f but he always says how she moans n stuff. recently he has been textin me askin me to meet him, and i have fallen for him. i am meant to be meeting him ...
A. 26 August 2007: The answer is simple, you know it is wrong so don't do it. If you were looking for someone here to tell you it is okay since that is what you want to hear, you've found the wrong place!... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight, but not in my boobs
Q. i feel so horrible about myself. please help. i want to loose weight, but not my boobs... im 10 stone roughly (137-142 lbs), im 5'3, and im a 34 e.. but im only 16.. i like being busty but i keep noticing that the rest of me is disgusting. i ha...
A. 25 August 2007: Do a lot of cardio, but actually strength training helps more than a lot of people give credit for. If you can build some muscle underneath there, it will take more calories just for the body to maintain the musle even if you aren't moving them at ... (read in full...)
I think the guy at the store likes me. How do I let him know I am interested?
Q. The other day I was shopping for some things with my mum and dad. We had a sales guy advising us on what to buy etc...He seemed really nice and cute. I recognised him cause I had seen him at our local shopping centre and I asked if he lived in the ...
A. 25 August 2007: He might want to see you again, or he might just charm you into coming back to buy something. You probably aren't going to make him make a first move, especially if he is working. It might not look professional in the eyes of co-workers and his ... (read in full...)
He doesn't txt a lot & that makes me insecure, any guys on here that can give their opinion?
Q. Hi , I'd like a guys opinion on this. I have been talking to my ex again and we got together again but hes pretty bad at the whole texting/ringing thing? He does text back straight away if I text him and he is really sweet in the messages, but then...
A. 25 August 2007: There you go. Kay KAy is right.
Plus, some people are just really bad when it comes to contact and some people are really not big on text messages, they just know it is a big part of life now and they go with it here and there.
I think... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm still bothered by him seeing other girls
Q. Lived with longtime boyfriend of 6 yrs, Moved out because he did not want to take the next step, he has committment issues (at 45 yrs of age) also he wants to date other woman. But he still continues to text, email, calls to ask me out to dinner...
A. 25 August 2007: Look for Frank B. Kermit on this site. If he didn't answer your question yet, find him and ask it. He wrote books on this kind of stuff.... (read in full...)
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