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Q: Should I have an affair?
A: Absolutely not, I wish Jerry Springer was popular again so you'd know why and I'd see this question less than three times a day. No, don't say, "but..." the answer is still "NO" and you know it. NO! NEVER DO IT!
Q: Is my penis big enough? Why does it look different?
A: An average penis is 5-7 inches. Less than that can still do the job and if you are worried, use something besides what is between your legs. And if everyone has a different face, why would genitals be different in this aspect? They come in different shapes and sizes, so you're probably normal. Same with vaginas.
Q: We had unprotected sex, but he pulled out before he had an orgasm, how did I become pregnant?
A: Um, when did they stop teaching Sex Ed? Just because he didn't shoot, doesn't mean his dribbling precum didn't have sperm. It only takes one of his little tadpoles to swim across the finish line.
Q: Dude, my sister is so hot, should I ask her to have sex with me?
A: HELLS NAW! That's called incest and it is illegal. If you have a kid, he/she would probably be retarded or genetically defective in some way. You are only hot for her because she is the female closest to you.
Q: I'm 40 and want to date this 11 year old. Is this okay?
A: No, that is disgusting, you're a pedophile, get help.
Q: My significant other abuses me physically and/or emotionally and I want to stay, how do I go about this?
A: Leave. Leave him/her right now. You know those women on Oprah that you'd say are crazy for staying with the wifebeater? Well, that's you. Stand up for yourself, don't be a doormat, and walk.
Q: Everything is going great, why do I want to leave him/her?
A: Remember the first Matrix movie? The main agent said that the original Matrix design was a world with no pain or consequence. The human mind could not accept this and everyone woke up. It didn't work until pain and consequence were introduced. Think on that. There is much truth to reality. Other than that, you may have a fear of success, or be seeking a challenge. Americans do well under stress, we are used to it. We don't know how to handle things when they go well, much like a child doesn't know how to handle freedom.
Q; I'm a pregnant teen and don't know if I should keep this baby or tell anyone.
A: We'll I don't have a definitive answer, but let's hope this helps. First, I don't see how you will keep it from your parents at your age. Your best bet is to be honest and tell them right now. If you are worried that your entire life will stop and you'll drop out, let me hopefully provide you with inspiration. I have a female co-worker, she got pregnant when she was 16. She kept the baby and finished high school ON TIME and in mostly HONORS CLASSES! She finished college on time. She is now a teacher in her mid 20's with three kids and a husband that is the father of all three kids. She is finishing up her masters degree and she always has enough money to go on vacation, even though her husband works part-time and is going to school. Of course this is not the norm and it takes a supportive family/families and the guy has to be there too, but it is not impossible! NEVER have an abortion just because the guy threatens to leave. On top of that, a lot of young mothers are worried until the baby is born and would have regretted the decision to have an abortion. for more inspiration on this matter look at this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/for-all-young-women.html
Other people on this site that are very helpful that you can trust:
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http://www.dearcupid.org/people/flower_girl
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He doesn't txt a lot & that makes me insecure, any guys on here that can give their opinion?
Q. Hi , I'd like a guys opinion on this. I have been talking to my ex again and we got together again but hes pretty bad at the whole texting/ringing thing? He does text back straight away if I text him and he is really sweet in the messages, but then...
A. 26 August 2007: Dittos on that anonymous guy's comment too.... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm still bothered by him seeing other girls
Q. Lived with longtime boyfriend of 6 yrs, Moved out because he did not want to take the next step, he has committment issues (at 45 yrs of age) also he wants to date other woman. But he still continues to text, email, calls to ask me out to dinner...
A. 26 August 2007: Walk and forget about it. This isn't your problem unless you let it be. He has to come to some conclusive decision.... (read in full...)
I think the guy at the store likes me. How do I let him know I am interested?
Q. The other day I was shopping for some things with my mum and dad. We had a sales guy advising us on what to buy etc...He seemed really nice and cute. I recognised him cause I had seen him at our local shopping centre and I asked if he lived in the ...
A. 25 August 2007: He might want to see you again, or he might just charm you into coming back to buy something. You probably aren't going to make him make a first move, especially if he is working. It might not look professional in the eyes of co-workers and his ... (read in full...)
My Mom is afraid I will become a 'loser'. Maybe I should just prove her right!
Q. My first relationship I ever had was an abusive one, that was this year and I am 18 years old. I broke it off not too long ago, however the effects are still evident. My mum thinks that my ex bfs bad influences on me are still obvious and that ever ...
A. 25 August 2007: You and your mother need to realize that you are going to be who you are and not who she wants you to be. She cannot live life vicariously through you and she cannot expect you to be your sister either.
Parents want the best for us and in their... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away. How can I maintain this relationship and not sound all lame and cliche?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months is leaving the country soon to start a new job. Things have been fairly casual between us as we both have been really busy with work but everytime we are together we have a great time and I really thought this would have ...
A. 25 August 2007: If he meant that much to you, you might have to get mushy. Afterall, he deserves to know how much of an impact he had, so just write from the heart. ... (read in full...)
How do i get my friend to ask me out???
Q. I have been waiting for this guy for around a year and nothing has happened between us ... he likes me but he says that he doesn't want to ruin our friendship so he doesn't want us to do dat. how do i make him want to ask me out and fall in love with...
A. 25 August 2007: The only thing I have to add to Flower Girl's response: Don't wait around, you can't wait for someone. Move on and in the future if something happens between you to, then it happens. He seems pretty set in his decision. Of course you could plead ... (read in full...)
We have unprotected sex. Could i be pregnant?
Q. I think i'm pregnant. Well me and my boyfriend have been together for a month and a few weeks. Anyway we started having unprotective sex last month and my period came on and last month and after my period went off everything was messed up now that...
A. 25 August 2007: It doesn't matter if he pulled out. This question keeps coming up. Did they stop teaching sex ed in schools or something? He can still have sperm in his precum and all it takes is one that can swim really well.... (read in full...)
I was ashamed of my gay friends job, how do i get our friendship back to how it was?
Q. Hi, i need some impartial advice about my situation. I'll start with some background info to help explain. I'm 28yrs old, Gay and a teacher at one of the country's most prestigious boy's school's. I got the job partly because i have some fantastic ...
A. 25 August 2007: In time it might become where it was before, but you have to put the time in to prove it and hopefully erase the memories in her mind you just created.
However, you are right to worry about your standing at work since it is a school setting.... (read in full...)
He doesn't txt a lot & that makes me insecure, any guys on here that can give their opinion?
Q. Hi , I'd like a guys opinion on this. I have been talking to my ex again and we got together again but hes pretty bad at the whole texting/ringing thing? He does text back straight away if I text him and he is really sweet in the messages, but then...
A. 25 August 2007: There you go. Kay KAy is right.
Plus, some people are just really bad when it comes to contact and some people are really not big on text messages, they just know it is a big part of life now and they go with it here and there.
I think... (read in full...)
Mixed race relationship. How can i get his family to accept me?
Q. Help!! i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and i converted to islam a month before we got together, and were now getting serious. he has very strong family ties and values. i have met his brother in law who basicslly interviewed me o...
A. 25 August 2007: You might not be able to do much. Stay with your boyfriend and if he loves you, he won't give in to them. It might be a very trying time and you'll both have to decide if you can deal with this.
I am a product of a white father and a Chinese ... (read in full...)
I work with my ex and she is being nasty and abusive towards me; all I wish is to get on with my life.
Q. Hi, a bit of a problem, Ex wont leave me alone...?!?! Im single for about 2 months now and I work with my ex for another month or so, but she is being nasty and abusive towards me. I'm trying to lose contact with her but no matter what I do sh...
A. 25 August 2007: You should go to Human Resources and tell them you are being harrassed. I don't know if it works the same in the U.K., but in the U.S. they usually have to protect you and give her a talking to or else the company can have a lawsuit filed against ... (read in full...)
How important is my hairstyle in attracting a woman?
Q. I was just wondering how important my hairstyle is to attracting girls. I'm not that into my hair, it's blonde...not much information i know, but can you help at all? Thanks for any of the help you give....
A. 25 August 2007: Y'know, the women have given you good advice, but it also comes down to personal likes and dislikes of any given female. Especially in high school now, kids have all kinds a weird hair styles. It really depends on the type of crowd you run with ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and have fallen for a 17 year old girl, could it ever happen?
Q. i'm fifteen and i've fallen for a 17 year old girl. shes the only one definatley! i see her a couple of times a week if i'm lucky. shes really nice to me and hugs me quite a bit. we can talk for ages, shes just amazing! i'm in year 11 and shes in ...
A. 25 August 2007: It is usually harder when the guy is younger in high school, but then again times are changing. It isn't impossible.... (read in full...)
I have stayed with my husband because my daughter can't bare another divorce, but he is not treating me right
Q. I don't know if anyone is in the same position! I'm 37 and have a daughter of 10. I married a man 3 years ago after much stress on both sides. Both our previous partners had, had affairs and left us with a child. So we are now married with a ...
A. 25 August 2007: Yeah. Divorce him, it's the only way. You don't want that, I know, but it sounds like you two didn't get married under the best of circumstances. It will be hard on you and the kids at first, but it's not worth sticking around. He's abusive and ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm still bothered by him seeing other girls
Q. Lived with longtime boyfriend of 6 yrs, Moved out because he did not want to take the next step, he has committment issues (at 45 yrs of age) also he wants to date other woman. But he still continues to text, email, calls to ask me out to dinner...
A. 25 August 2007: Look for Frank B. Kermit on this site. If he didn't answer your question yet, find him and ask it. He wrote books on this kind of stuff.... (read in full...)
We argued a lot, and now she dumped me for someone else
Q. so there was this girl that i started to like but i kept it to myself and i found out she was keeping it to herself too. so we found each other after 8 months then we dated for 3 weeks, when we were alone we had so much compatible but when we were ...
A. 25 August 2007: Um, it's been three weeks, you're not in love. You don't even know her. You just want more, but you should just move on. You just still have anticipation of what this could have become and have strong feelings for the ideal you think she can be. ... (read in full...)
He's visited masage parlours in the past and paid for sex, now I feel worried about our future!
Q. I'll start off my saying i'm very much in love with my boyfriend. He's a good guy with a lot to offer, one that i can see a future with, so far, still a lot to learn about each other. We've been dating for over year... and conversation cam...
A. 25 August 2007: It seems like a big thing especially since it is illegal in this country (was he in another country when these things happened?). But he admitted it, it was when he was single and it is in the past. I think you (and a lot of people would be too) ... (read in full...)
In love with my recent girlfriend but my longtime platonic friend suggested a no-strings-attached relationship, what should I do?
Q. I have a girlfriend that I love. We have been dating for months and all that we have done is kiss and make out. This is fine with me because I really like her. It can be frustrating, though. Meanwhile, my longtime platonic friend Kim has made it ...
A. 25 August 2007: Sex doesn't make a relationship. If you really love the girlfriend, I don't think you'd have too much thinking to do. And if the friend is really a friend, why would she bring this up when you have a girlfriend anyway?... (read in full...)
I'm confused about whether he is looking for a visa to stay here or genuinly cares about me! Should I wait some years for him to get at the level I am at in this country?
Q. I don't know, maybe I needed this help; I guess that's why I'm writing this question here. My story is that I am a very attractive young female, in my early 30s, single, I've never been married, and I am still looking for my right better-half. I ...
A. 25 August 2007: You're stressing the money situation too much. That part of your posting I will totally not acknowledge.
That being said, you are wasting your time from what I can see. He might be sincere in wanting to marry you and provide, some foreigne... (read in full...)
I found out my wife gave oral to her male friend, what should I do?
Q. Hi, not sure what to do about this. My wife (and now me over the years) has a friend Brian that she was friends with before me. I don't think I've actually specifically asked, but it was always assumed that they were just friends. My wife was a ...
A. 24 August 2007: I guess you could ask and just make sure it was before you were with her, but you hve no right to say she cannot be friends with him because of the past. Does this mean you are going to break off the friendship with him too?
The more you would tr... (read in full...)
I am 23 and want to ask out a girl who is 17, is that okay?
Q. I'm 23 years old and I've liked this younger girl since I was 20. I found her on Myspace and she's 17 now, and I want to ask her out. I live in the US so the age of consent is 18, but I would have no problem waiting, I just want to be with her. Is ...
A. 24 August 2007: Everything is fine if you wait for the age of consent, but you may have a problem if she is immature mentally. That could be a gap.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to smell bad down there even if he hasn't had sex in a few days?
Q. Is it normal for a mans penis to smell if he hasn't washed it for a day or so? [Without having sex] Usually my boyfriend washes his penis before we have sex but before he does it usually smells even if we haven't had sex the day before. Is this ...
A. 24 August 2007: Could be, maybe he sweats a lot down there.... (read in full...)
I accidentally had sex with a 14 year old girl
Q. ok I have a (hypothetical) question. I am a male in my mid 30's. My wife my 2 daughters (3 and 7) and my niece (15) and her friend (14) went on a road trip to Florida. We stopped halfway there and got a hotel room, my wife and I in one room the...
A. 24 August 2007: Um...if you TRULY didn't know you are no pedophile, but will probably be able to get into trouble. Think about what could happen if she gets pregnant.
So this happened and she said nothing? Why did she come to your bed anyway? ... (read in full...)
I want him back now, but i'm not sure if he wants that.
Q. I need help. I was dating this guy for three years. We broke up twice in the middle of the relationship, but fixed it. I have a problem that when things start getting hard and I start finding other guys attractive, I would break up. Well, I ...
A. 23 August 2007: Good luck... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on a 15 year age gap online relationship?
Q. Anyone can tell me their opinion about a 15 yr old age difference relationship i.e 17, 32 (older male) views from the male side are appreciated (even female), and what if the meeting was from internet that started as a joke and then became a serious ...
A. 23 August 2007: Depends on where you two are mentally. Could also be illegal depending on where you live until you become 18.... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of his ex girlfriend. How do I get over her and the time they spent together? How can I feel like I don't have to compare myself with her?
Q. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 26 and I'm jealous of his ex girlfriend. They met in college and dated for 3 years! He even proposed to her before she moved away! They never set a date and he didn't give her a ring... He has been broken up with her for ...
A. 23 August 2007: It might always be in the back of your mind since there are constant reminders of her. I think the only way to really get over this is with time. This should hopefully ease your mind, even if her presence is always around.
I also think th... (read in full...)
She had unprotected sex but he didn't ejaculate. Could she be pregnant?
Q. Hi Cupid. This time it's not about ME. Today i got a call from a friend saying she had unprotected sex last night (first time). She isn't too worried about becoming pregnant as she thinks the guy she was with didn't come in or near her. Cou...
A. 23 August 2007: Yep, she could. Just because he didn't ejaculate doesn't mean there wasn't any sperm in the pre-cum. That's why protection should always be used.... (read in full...)
I broke up with my guy after seeing the texts he was sending to a girl
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, I love him to death but there is just this huge problem I don't trust him and he’s told me that he doesn’t trust me either….. well yesterday we were spending time together and I was messi...
A. 22 August 2007: Sometimes people flirt playfully and don't mean it. Of course it is harder to realize this when you read a text. Have they said this out loud to other people? If you've heard it, did it bother you then and did you address that?
And it is me... (read in full...)
Help me! I want to have sex with my own sister
Q. hello i need advise i am 16 years old and i want to have sex with my sister she is realy attractive i dont know wat to do plz help...
A. 22 August 2007: Okay, it is fine to look at her and realize she's attractive, but wanting her sexually is just freaky. Look to other girls, chances are you can find hotter. Get to know them, perhaps you are attracted to her too because she's the easiest girl for ... (read in full...)
I am getting ingrown hairs and shave bumps
Q. Alright, so I recently gota gf and decided to start shaving my pubs (from what i gather girls my age prefer shaved). so anyways, i have a problem and i'm wondering if its normal... getting ingrown hairs. sounds nasty i know, but i'm wondering if ...
A. 22 August 2007: Yeah, you shouldn't shave just because She MIGHT like that. You shouldn't fix what ain't broken and you might have just broken what was working fine.
As for the bumps though, I was getting a lot of them when i shaved my face and ran out of a... (read in full...)
Are they really addicted or just being guys?
Q. When guys say that they are addicted to porn, is that REALLY that bad or are they just normal people being guys?...
A. 22 August 2007: Ya know, most are saying that those guys are addicted to porn for saying they are, but they might not be. They might just be bored and in the habit of doing that when there is nothing to do.
The real test is if they prefer it to sex, or even ... (read in full...)
Should we break up before Uni? He wants to get serious and eventually married!
Q. I've had a boyfriend for nearly 2 and a half years, we're both off to uni this october.. the problem is he wants to stay together, get serious and evetually get married. I want to have a break and have informed him of this.. I am only 18 and have so ...
A. 22 August 2007: Chances are you will break up if you go to different places for college anyway. If it really does hurt you that bad breaking it off, perhaps you could try staying together. But be real with each other. You will not have nearly as much time to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to masterbate to help me get over him?
Q. Hi im sixteen and am really confused. I always want to txt this guy friend of mine and i always want to fool around with him, but theres been some problems in the past and he wasnt very nice, and i know he'll probably hurt me again. So ive been ...
A. 22 August 2007: Sounds like you have good sexual chemistry and that's all you've got. In the end it wouldn't last even if you tried really hard.
If masturbating is working then fine, just don't become obsessed with him or masturbation. If the religiou... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sister wants to move in with us. He said ok, but I dont want her here!
Q. I'm 2 months pregnant, and have a 4 month old at home. My boyfriend works, I am a stay at home mom. Last night, my b.f. got a call from his sister who lives 2 hours up north with her b.f. Something happened, she didn't say what but she was packing ...
A. 22 August 2007: It sounds like your life has been hectic enough. He should say no, because you are in no financial shape to do it. If it were temporary, like two weeks, then maybe. When do the parents think they'll move?
But honestly, she should only move in ... (read in full...)
Please help I need to decide whether to end it (but I don't know if I'm strong enough to do so).
Q. I'm the kinda girl who is always nice and wouldn't hurt anyone intentionally. My boyfriend can be very nice but when he wants to be he can be very hurtful say nasty things, hang up the phone on me, put me down by saying I can't do stuff etc. ...
A. 22 August 2007: Because you are nice, you have trouble saying no to him and leaving and give the benefit of the doubt. If it is that bad, then leave and walk away from this. He sounds like Jekyll and Hyde and it is forcing your relationship into extreme ... (read in full...)
He's asked to marry me and although I love him I can't see us getting married until he stops being so hot headed!
Q. I'm with my boyfriend 4 years, and 2 of these we have spent living together. We love each other very much and do consider us to have a future together. The other night my boyfriend drunkenly told me he planned on popping the question soon, and ...
A. 22 August 2007: You definitely cannot marry him if you have doubts like this. You must sit down and talk about this and he must show that he can make a long-term change and even then there is no guarantee he will remain changed after the marriage.
How often ar... (read in full...)
Can he tell if I am good or bad in bed if I am on the bottom?
Q. i have only just started to have sex...and my Bfs always on top because i want him to be at the moment..can he still tell if im shit in bed if im on bottom!? as he does most of the work...
A. 20 August 2007: Maybe if you're lying there like a dead body. Depends on what he likes and don't be afraid to experiment. If you're afraid you aren't good, then you'll never get better if you don't try new things. I'm thinking you're just lacking confidence. ... (read in full...)
My online interest is kinda chubby and I am not sure how I feel about that
Q. I've been talking to this girl over the internet. She seems like a really nice person, and we get along.. great to be honest. I recently saw photos of her. She looked quite nice, but then I saw a few more that she hadn't posed for. Turns out she ...
A. 20 August 2007: Yep, you sure are shallow, but let's face it...looks do matter. That's what reels us in. However, they become less important as a relationship goes on.
I suppose there is no harm in meeting her if you wanted to since you do like her personal... (read in full...)
My professor winks at me
Q. Hello! So there is this professor who started winking at me a couple of months ago. The first time he winked i was with a friend of mine so i didn't give any attention to that. I thought it was his "way' of saying hello. The next day he w...
A. 20 August 2007: It can mean anything. But it doesn't matter, just stay away. Nothing good can come out of this.... (read in full...)
My 12 year old daughter is viewing graphic porn!
Q. My 12 year old daughter looks at porn on the internet. I already talked to her about it. But I'm worried. She's been going on some really nasty sites. Sites that use the F word, P word, and c word. She's been going on quite alot of them to. She does ...
A. 20 August 2007: You probably cannot keep her from the internet for school purposes. Use a parental control software or allow her to use it only when supervised. And by allowing her, I mean make sure she cannot even use the computer without a password.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me because she said I was moving too fast
Q. My Ex-Girlfriend brokeup with me becuase she said I am moving to fast when she is the one who kissed me first she says she still loves me and cares about me but she don't show it at all, according to her mom she does have alot of feelings for me..So ...
A. 20 August 2007: She's confused. Maybe you were moving too fast and it scared her, even if she initiated the speed.
All you can do is talk to her and see where you two stand and perhaps make a promise to take it slow. But realize you cannot wait for her fore... (read in full...)
He snogged me, do you think he likes me again?
Q. Hi, i like this guy, and last year in september we were going out until he dumped me,and he said he was really sorry and i could tell, today i saw him and we were talking and we asked each other if we were going out with any one i reply no, i ...
A. 20 August 2007: Well he obviously wants you, but unless you ask him, you won't know if he wants this to be a one time thing or back to a relationship.... (read in full...)
We have known each other for years, do you think he now likes me?
Q. I was really worked up abou a personal family matter and was crying. He lives across the road from me and he was over with his mum and dad as his mum is my mums bst friend. Basically, as he was tring to make me feel better, he told me that he liked ...
A. 20 August 2007: Ditto on what loveprincess said. He might just be trying to be nice, he might like you. He might be preparing for a rebound relationship with you.
All you can do is ask, and try not to make it awkward. You are not to advance on this unless t... (read in full...)
I want him back now, but i'm not sure if he wants that.
Q. I need help. I was dating this guy for three years. We broke up twice in the middle of the relationship, but fixed it. I have a problem that when things start getting hard and I start finding other guys attractive, I would break up. Well, I ...
A. 20 August 2007: Or he likes you, but doesn't want to be hurt again. all you can do is talk with him about it, plead your case and see what he says. But be prepared for a "no" since you broke it off twice already and he probably doesn't want it to happen again. ... (read in full...)
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