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writes:hey guys, i have suspisions that my gf is cheating.. i hate to that but i cant help it. been dating for about 2 years now and shes being so weird lately..everytime i ask to see her phone, she has to delete her msg's first. she always goes with her friends and other guys and doesn't tell me. and when i find out she freaks out on me and tells me that i'm trying to control her life..at school she'll be talking to a guy. and it's always the same guy. but everytime i come around, she'll walk away.wat hurt the most was when i got out of class and was walking to the lunchroom and saw her sitting on his lap.... i asked her wat the hell shes doing and she yelled at me saying that shes just being friendly and he's just a friend..i always call her at night but lately she'll go to sleep at 8. and i'll call back around 11 cuz i cant sleep. and everytime she sounds like shes wide awake. i wanna kno wat those txt that she's deleting says.. but i dont kno how. can u help? thx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): dude i'll be honest, she is cheating on you. BUT WAIT. cheating is not always a sexually oriented act. cheating is simply doing something with a member of the opposite (sigh, or the same : / ) sex that that person would not want their significant other to know about. please save some pain and move on. girls are attention... grubbers. if she is getting attention for this guy EVEN IF THERE IS NOTHING SEXUAL INVOLVED and does not want you to know the details of it, then leave her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): I would say she is. If she has anything to hide (sounds like it)..... then she has something to hide... make sense? One thing I've learned is to trust what you feel.... I'm 30 yrs old.. and that feeling has never been wrong.... by the way ALL of my girlfriends have cheated, and I always knew from that feeling.. but I always look for evidence before asking.. You can always confront her later, but if she thinks you know something... she will hide evidence more carefully.. so play dumb until you catch her slippin.... they always do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): don't run away from her - walk away... she'll probably try to follow you. but don't look back.. as you walk away, your wall will get taller and stronger. then when the time comes and the right girl comes along, you can take down your wall - b/c getting cheated on is the worst of the worst.... and no one - absolutely no one should experience that.
another good thing to do is to picture yourself w/ this girl again. will it be the same? w/ the information and evidence that you know? will you trust her again? doubt it.........
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): yo man...sorry to hear that but your gf is definitely cheating! best advice: break up with her and try your hardest not to speak to her again. if she really loves you she'll change and come back to you,if she doesn't,nothing will change her. break up with her and at the same time change your life,like get a new hairstyle,dress better and be more open with other girls. this would get to her the most and make her want you back.trust me,this really really works even with the most stubborn of chicks!!
good luck!
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Dude, she's cheating on you! A girl doesn’t sit on another guy’s lap that she’s friends with unless he just paid her 20 dollars at a strip club. That plus all the other details point to a secret life she's having away from you.
Sometimes people like your girlfriend get friendly with other people, and call that friendship, which actually it is. But when that friendship becomes intimate and you are sitting on each other its more than a casual acquaintance. There is no reason your so-called girlfriend should be on this guys lap, and her story is total Bull!
On that fact alone I would split with her. I don’t know if stealing her phone for evidence is such a good idea. Even if you did find evidence, how do you expect to confront her without her getting angry about your violation of her privacy? It may only serve to give you concrete evidence...but what more evidence is better than what you saw with your own eyes. He had her ass on his lap, and you saw them together several times before.
Drop her dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): She is definitely cheating on you.
Dump her before she does you - that'll surprise her a lot because at the moment she thinks you're a stoopid lovesick doormat who she can walk all over.
It may even pique her interest enough for her to want you back - but don't fall for that old trick!
Show her you're a man with a backbone and self-respect. You deserve better, and you'll get better.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Sorry dude, she's cheating on you alright.
Best to put this one down to experience and let her get on with her cheating ways. You guys sound young, some people just find it hard to stay faithful in their youth, if it makes it any easier she does this because she has no self respect and uses the cheating as a way to feel better about herself with no thought about how it will affect you.
There are plenty of girls in your college who would welcome a commited one on one relationship, why don't you find one of them and leave your gf to get her kicks with someone else. It is all very sad and once you dump her she will soon get bored of the new guy and do the same thing to him - you see its the thrill of cheating and going behind your back which makes it exciting for her. You don't want to get involved with these types mate.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Wow, sweetness...
You sound like a really sweet, dedicated boyfriend and your girlfriend sounds... well, less than. You are being played, my friend, and even if she's NOT cheating on you (which I doubt), she is still treating you like crap, and that's not fair.
Don't waste any more of your time with this girl. There are so many other girls who would be happy to be your girlfriend and who will treat you a hell of a lot better. I suspect that your current girlfriend is cheating on you and just toting you around on the side. Don't settle for that.
Good luck, sweetness. You deserve much better than what you have right now.
xxIndia
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reader, Serinity +, writes (9 January 2008):
 I completely agree with Phil. Be firm and let her go. She is being selfish and immature and she's playing with your emotions. Don't let her get the best of you. Honesty is very important in a relationship and I think I've got more honesty in my little pinky than she has in her whole body. Sitting on another guys lap, the same one she continuously talks to all the time? Don't let her continue to humiliate you like that. This is a dead end realtionship and you should move on to someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated. I know it's hard to walk away after 2 years, but if you don't do it now you might end up with some kind of STD or a bigger heartache than you bargained for. Just keep in mind, there's someone for everyone and she's just not meant for you. Trust me, when you find that someone you'll be SOoooo glad you dumped her and moved on with you life. You've already wasted 2 years of your life on her. Life is too short to waste it on someone who doesn't appreciate you. Good luck sweetheart!!! Feel free to message me if you need more encouragement. :-) God bless you love!
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Yeah she's cheating. She's just mapping the right time to let you go. She'll never confess but she will break your heart if you continue this way. Just back off slowly don't break and run. This will leave her with no option but to open up more than she would normally. Prepare yourself for the worst because its on its way. This so-called "friend" will soon be your replacement. There's nothing you can do but have a plan B you know whats about to happen so if you don't take heed you will only hurt yourself.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (9 January 2008):
 If she isn't already cheating on you, I'd say she's definitely interested in her so-called "friend". You should give her the boot. It's only a matter of time before she shatters your heart. I think she's too young and too immature to be serious with anyone. Cut her loose and let her go figure out who she is. There will be someone better for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): She's playing you for a fool mate. She's having a little game with you.
If I were you I'd forget about her or she'll annoy you all the more. She likes to think she's in control of you, so disappoint her and ignore her from now on. Tell the other guy he can have her if he wants her, you've had enough of her s**t and let him have it instead.
Miss right will come along sooner or later, you may even come across more than one 'Miss right now', which could do your ego a world of good - and shatter hers maybe.
Phil
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