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I don't want to mess everything up like I did last time.
Q. Hey everyone, I need as much advice as I can get please! Basically, ages ago I wrote about a stupid thing I did (met a boy on the internet, fell in love but I was using pics of some random gorgeous girl instead of myself) I deceived him and went to ...
A. 22 January 2009: I've seen some of the ugliest girl snag the hottest guys out there. When it comes down to it, it's all about who you are on the inside and if you are confident in who you are. You made yourself believe that you are not good enough for this guy and ... (read in full...)
I need to walk away but something is holding me back
Q. Here is my issue: I had a boyfriend who I was with for about 3 years. Our relationship went down the drain after fighting constantly, day after day.. about stupid things. So me and my boyfriend went on a break. But even though we were on a break, we ...
A. 22 January 2009: Okay, here's the truth. He doesn't love you anymore.
If he did, he would have done things to show you that he did. You have to let this guy go. You have to know that you deserve someone out there that is going to treat you like a queen. If you stay... (read in full...)
Ready to live with my boyfriend and become estranged to my parents... HELP!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so desperate I've resorted to asking over the internet. My parents told me they are never going to accept my boyfriend. He is 36 and I am 20. We've been dating for 2 years. He is a nightclub promoter and has been having money pro...
A. 22 January 2009: please stay in school. That is the only way to an independent secure future. Men come and go but family is forever. Your parents will make mistakes but at the end of the day, they do love you and have your best interest at heart. I've been where you ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same about my girlfriend any more. How do I break up gently?
Q. I am a 20 year old male who has been seeing the same girl for 3 years now. Things have been going OK and we haven't had many major arguments. However, I think the time has come for me to end this relationship because I don't have any feelings for ...
A. 22 January 2009: If you don't love her or miss her anymore, you have to think that although it will hurt her, you are doing what is best for her. If that makes any sense.
I wish my ex had the guts to break it off and the balls to tell me the truth. Instead he lead... (read in full...)
I hate myself for cheating, but I cannot seem to stop! I need to understand why I am doing this...
Q. Ok, i know people will have little sympathy for me but I cannot stay faithful. My parents died when I was 3 and I was raised by my aunt and uncle who never really had much time for me. They were'nt affectionate and in some ways seemed to resent...
A. 21 January 2009: you can't be faithful because you don't respect your partner and the relationship you have together. Also , don't mean to sound harsh but cheaters are very selfish people who only think of their needs and nobody elses.
They want their cake and eat ... (read in full...)
Was I an asshole?
Q. One night came home after work and was horny as hell. I ended making love to my girlfriend. She's extremely self-conscious about her breasts because of a birthmark and won't take off her bra for me no matter how I beg. Anyway I couldn't take it ...
A. 19 January 2009: you are very insensitive and a big jerk. She trusted you and you blew it. I don't know about asshole..,but very immature and inconsiderate. Apologize with flowers and everything in the book ... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 3 January 2009: Wow!JonEmma... I am looking for a rich guy to marry and take care of me!! Come to America!! Somehow I always end up with the poor boys with big hearts and no future. haha.
Seriously, though, i don't mean to make light of your situation but as I wa... (read in full...)
My husband has beaten me up.
Q. Can you help. My husband has beaten me up. What happened was I had affair with his brother and got pregnant. We tried to work through it but my husband had a mental breakdown and was admitted to hospital. When he came out he was a changed person. ...
A. 28 December 2008: Physical violence is a deal breaker and should never be tolerated. I am not excusing your husband's behavior, because he probably snapped and reached his boiling point.
But his mistake is not punching you, his mistake is he should have left you the ... (read in full...)
I can't move on...
Q. Hi, I met my girlfriend 2 weeks after we had been chatting on the internet. It was love at first sight and we both had the best day of our lives, it felt like we had both known eachother all our lives. We lived 100 miles from one another, and...
A. 28 December 2008: You are doing the right thing in not contacting her.
It seems that your relationship was a volatile, destructive one. Although you want closure, sometimes by her not contacting you that is the closure you have to accept. That she doesn't love and ... (read in full...)
He doesn't text me back!
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 3 weeks now and it really aggrevates me that I text him 1-2 times a day and sometimes he never even texts me back. he says he likes me alot blah blah but why doesn't he say a simple hey how are you?? ...
A. 28 December 2008: yes. i agree with the men's post.
We as women want them to show the same affection and attention that we show them.
However, if we do this too much, it can be overwhelming for a guy. So i say back off, and he will text and write you when he misse... (read in full...)
Do I have trust issues or am I right to worry?
Q. So I'm not officially in a relationship with this guy, but we're very much a couple. For new years, he is planning on going to Whistler (a ski resort in Canada) with his best friend who is a huge major player. I trust my guy but when he's drinking ...
A. 26 December 2008: i don't think you can tell him what to do.
he's his own person and although you don't feel comfortable with it, it all comes down to trust.
If you don't trust him or give him trust then there is no relationship. If he is giving you reasons ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 25 December 2008: hmmm.I was going to bash you for cheating on a warm and caring husband, but when i think about it. Not saying what you did was acceptable but i do see you side. Marraige have disolved because of mismatched libidos. i see your point as I get older, i ... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 25 December 2008: Wow!!! that was long. Can't believe i finished reading the whole thing.
Well...first off all trust have been broken
between you and your wife. you forgave her and she still
lied to you the 2nd time around.
Now, when she opens her mouth, how do yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't get me anything for christmas.
Q. My boyfriend didn't get me anything for christmas. It's very upsetting since I spent lots of money and thought out each present. I even took our kids out to pick him out something!!! I am sooo freaking upset and just want some feed back. He knows ...
A. 25 December 2008: I was typing from my phone so... To fix my sp errors. do not show anger.. Do not blame...do not cry. Be calm and tell him how you felt by his actions. Good. Luck... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't get me anything for christmas.
Q. My boyfriend didn't get me anything for christmas. It's very upsetting since I spent lots of money and thought out each present. I even took our kids out to pick him out something!!! I am sooo freaking upset and just want some feed back. He knows ...
A. 25 December 2008: I disagree with the male response. It is no excuse for him to forget. It is a lame excuse to say this is a male trait. What's done is done. You need to talk to write him a letter about him forgetting made you feel. In this letter do not accuse him ... (read in full...)
I wished him a merry christmas and he never responded!
Q. So I wished my ex a "Merry Christmas" and got... ABSOLUTLY NOTHING...no response whatsoever. WTF? A little background: we dated for about 3 months, decided we would be better off as friends (ok, actually, I made that decision and told him I'd r...
A. 24 December 2008: The truth is he has no obligation to return any message to you. He's your ex. He doesn't even have to keep in touch with you.
I think you are upset because he's moved on and not thinking of you anymore. Maybe he's giving a clear signal that he does... (read in full...)
I wished him a merry christmas and he never responded!
Q. So I wished my ex a "Merry Christmas" and got... ABSOLUTLY NOTHING...no response whatsoever. WTF? A little background: we dated for about 3 months, decided we would be better off as friends (ok, actually, I made that decision and told him I'd r...
A. 24 December 2008: The truth is he has no obligation to return any message to you. He's your ex. He doesn't even have to keep in touch with you.
I think you are upset because he's moved on and not thinking of you anymore. Maybe he's giving a clear signal that he does... (read in full...)
Should I go to the police or settle it myself?
Q. hello aunty again;I have still been sleeping with my neighbour..when her husband came,she ignored me and used to tease me in front of him..guess to so her husband could not find anything out..2 days ago her husband left for the airport,as he goes ...
A. 23 December 2008: WoW! I don't know to sympatize with you or be angry at you for sleeping with another man's woman. You should have gone to the police and filed a report right after the incident. I believe the evidence is gone and it will be hesaid/she said.
the w... (read in full...)
Why would my fiance say this to me?
Q. Before we got engaged, my fiance told me he "is not obligated to do anything for me". What does he mean by this? Why would he even say this to me ?...
A. 23 December 2008: First..i believe you are WAY too young to get married.
And second...to commit the rest of your life to this JERK?
No thank you. you deserve so much better. Someone who will treat you like a queen.
A husband does not have to "do anything" fo... (read in full...)
My question is, why won't my FWB commit?
Q. So, my best friend and i started to become friends with benefits about 4 months ago. earlier this year i went through a hard time with my ex and he always helped me through it. for the past few months, my friend has begun to act like my boyfriend: ...
A. 23 December 2008: why would he commit if he can have you as a best friend and sleep with you...without the "label" and still be free to date/sleep with other girls.
Yes he likes you, but think about it. You are doing everything a couple is doing... so if he agree... (read in full...)
She thinks of our relationship as more of a friendship, what do I do?
Q. i have been with my girlfiend for 18 months now and i love her so much. latly everything has changed and i dont know what to do. she said that she feels as though our relationship is more of a friendship. i dont know what happened. i buy her gifts ...
A. 23 December 2008: you are probably giving too much and she has gotten bored.
Unfortunately girls like a little challenge..excitement.
Not to ignore her and be a jerk, but be less available and attentive. Don't make her YOUR WORLD. just focus your on your life, an... (read in full...)
What are the reasons that people have sex because to reproduce
Q. Besides the reproductive reasons what are some other good reasons to have sex? People are not always having sex just to have a baby. Women I am interested in your reasons. ...
A. 18 December 2008: when you're younger it out of curiousity and experimenting.
Then you if you find that someone special, you do it out of love by getting closer with another person.
But when a women reach their 30's, they reach their sexual peak, and it just fee... (read in full...)
My daughters are calling my girlfriend nasty names and I can't get them to stop!
Q. My daughters (they're only 8 and 5 of age) call my girlfriend (of 2 years) names like b!tch, s*ut, wh*re, ugly, fat, skank, smelly, tramp and the list goes on. I cant them to stop. Of couse I give them time out after time out but its losing its ...
A. 16 December 2008: You need to put your foot down and control your children.
It's obvious that you feel guilty for them losing their mother and hard for you to discipline your children.
1st off, they should not be having these words in their vocabluary. Are you tryi... (read in full...)
Does having braces create a problem when kissing?
Q. hey um I have braces and I'm wondering if that will create a problem while kissing. I've never been kissed before but I think I might this weekend on a date I'm going on. will it hurt me or him and like if we like just so happen to fre...
A. 16 December 2008: i am 33..with braces and i kiss fine.
Can't feel it because I'm more focus on the kiss and the person i'm kissing. just relax and enjoy... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from her since her son deployed to Iraq, we're in a LDR, your advice?
Q. Hi, I was recently reunited with a high school classmate of mine. She found out that I was pending divorce and contacted me. She was very direct and we have started a long-distance relationship (I'm working in Germany). We have made lots of ...
A. 11 December 2008: She knows you are contacting her and she is not replying because she has issues to work on. I say give her space to work things through.
Send a final email, telling her that "You will be there for her if she needs anything. and to contact you when... (read in full...)
What is my next step for this girl I like?
Q. I have been on a few dates with this girl and we have been talking for weeks. We started to get close and very much enjoyed spending our time together. I ended up spending the night last weekend. We did not do anything. The next day she was weird ...
A. 8 December 2008: I am in the same exact shoes she is in.
the only way is to give her the space that she ask for. Continue to date other girls and be there for her when she comes to you but take it very very slow.
Let her come to the conclusion alone that she miss... (read in full...)
If he cares so much about me, why does he want to date other people?
Q. Hi please help me if you can, I am 43 and have been divorced for 3 years. Last year I met a man who was 40 and we were together for 8 months. Things between us ended when he admitted that he was still using the internet to meet other women and ...
A. 8 December 2008: Too keep it short and simple...he is using you.
He doesn't want you and see no future with you.
But he is keeping you around to fullfill his needs when other women aren't around to do the job.
Because you made the initial contact, he has it in hi... (read in full...)
While I know it is none of my business, I am upset she slept with someone else when we separted temporarily
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and half and, about two months ago I thought I fell out of love with her after moving to uni. To see if this was true I decided it was best we went on a break. She lives about four miles away in other ...
A. 8 December 2008: Men are possessive and that includes their women.
Because she has been with another man..you don't see her as YOURS anymore. Even though you are back together...inside you are crush because thoughts of another man being with her will always fill... (read in full...)
Who do I pick: the guy I'm dating and starting to like or the mean ex who apparently has changed??
Q. Hello. I just turned 21 and am stuck between two guys. The first one (A) and i were going out for 3 years. He took me for granted, was mean to me, didnt have a job, etc. We broke up and the day we broke up i found the second guy (B). He was ...
A. 8 December 2008: You need to dump guy A As soon as possible.
I know you love him and you think he will change..but the truth is if you get back with him...the same problems will arise. People don't change that easily and esp at 18-21. Give guy B a chance.
You d... (read in full...)
He responded to my facebook friend request. Does that mean he is interested in me?
Q. I asked about this situation recently but I went for it and did something about it but I feel stuck again so please help :) I saw this guy on one of my friends' Facebook and I thought he was hot. I sent him a friend request and told him I thoug...
A. 8 December 2008: I don't think he's interested. Just curious because you are someone new. Don't think too much into it. It sounds like you are facebook stalking him and he could get freaked out if he found out. Let things progess slowly and whatever happens happens... (read in full...)
Me and my friend are both pregnant by the same guy and now we're not talking... help!
Q. hi me and my friend are both 14 and we both got pregnent by the same person please help, we are loosing are friendship over this the guy is gonna be 17 in 2 weeks and we both love him he bought us both the same ring and me and my friend just figured ...
A. 8 December 2008: Why are you so concerned about your friendship, when you have bigger issues to deal with right now.
YOU ARE PREGNANT AT 14!!!! Do you know how BIG that is?
Do you know how your life will be forever change from this point on?
You are still a mino... (read in full...)
WHY do men cheat on women???
Q. I want to first say a big thanks to all the house members here, I think my problem is really getting to be solved soon.. My girl is now at the point of forgiving me, but still one more thing to get solved, I sent mail that I cheated on my girl, now ...
A. 8 December 2008: Maybe you love her...but NOT enough.
Meaning you didn't love her enough to stay committed to her. I think if you truly..truly..have a special tight bond and relationship with someone you respect and adore, you would have no need to look some... (read in full...)
What do her words and actions mean? Friends or more? And what should I do next?
Q. I need some help with this situation: FACTS: - We've known each other for about 2 months, met through a friend - We've spoken everday wether it be txt email or msn. But extensively -huge messages numerous times a day - We met up for a few dri...
A. 3 December 2008: well..if you like her, then you should ask her out and take the initiative. She probably doesn't know what's going with you since you haven't made a move.
If you don't like her then let things fade.
The ball is in your court... (read in full...)
It's been three days after we had sex and he still hasn't called!
Q. Okay. This is kind of hard to talk about but... I met a guy and we began getting to know one another a little... texting mostly. we smoked together a few times... it was clear that we were both interested...then one day something told me to ask him ...
A. 1 December 2008: what did you expect to happen? after sex..the connection would be so amazing that he left his girlfriend for you?
Well... i'm sure you want that result but the truth is. he's probably guilty about cheating on his girlfriend.
He needs his distance... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 13 yr old to date a 19 yr old?
Q. Is it wrong for a 13yo girl to be dating a 19yo guy that lives over seas? I love him to death, but i want other peoples point of view. No my parents dont know about him-im not supposed to date. I have been with some one that was 14....it didnt work ...
A. 23 November 2008: Yes! Even though it's only a 5 years difference, you're at the age where ..maturity wise, it does not match up.
You have to wait until you are of legal age because technically you are still a child and he is an adult.
Once you both reach adult st... (read in full...)
She's said she's in love with me but it's not working... she's terrified of committing here. WHY?
Q. To all you girls out there, I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t rush anything - ...
A. 19 November 2008: I totally understand where she's coming from.
she likes you, like to hang around you. But if it gets too serious...she'll freak out. Not ready for anything serious because she's afraid to get hurt. or afraid you will hurt her. The best thing to d... (read in full...)
He never sends me e-mails... how do I get him to like me?
Q. how do i get a boy to like me. i'm 13. i have sent him to e-mails in the 11 years that i have known him and he has never e-mailed back. What do i do to get him to like me?...
A. 19 November 2008: unfortunately ...you can't make someone like somebody else. Either they do...or they don't.
Because he didn't respond to you, that means he's not interested. And no matter how much you pursue him, it might not change his mind. The best way is to d... (read in full...)
Ladies and gentlemen, my sister is naive and making excuses.
Q. This one pertains to my sister more than me. just as a concerned brother. My sister is 20. She is a waitress just making ends meet and working her way through a community college pre-med program. about 10 months back she met this guy. The 30 year ...
A. 18 November 2008: Wow! sounds like she has fallen for his sweet talks and charming ways. The only way to make her see the truth is expose the truth. Meet with his current wife. get answers.
As a big brother, I totally see your concern. This guy can ruin your sist... (read in full...)
We've been texting each other and he seemed keen, then suddenly lost interest, what could it be?
Q. it's this guy that i'm into.we have been talking for a while.we are considering starting a relationship i think.he seemed like he was so into me just like maybe a week ago.but then my phone had gotten turned off i hadn't talked to him in five days.i ...
A. 18 November 2008: Ughh! i know exactly what you mean. I was texting this guy I met online ..everything was going great! we were flirting, joking. His last text was "How are you? Miss me?"
and I was out of town and it took me later in the day to return his mess... (read in full...)
We've set our wedding date but I'm having second thoughts about it all...
Q. I am engaged to be married in 2010. Everything in our life is perfect except for a few things that are HUGE in my eyes. We enjoy doing the same things, our family and friends are perfect and everyone gets along very well and we have the same ...
A. 17 November 2008: If you are unhappy and having doubts the best thing to do is go with your instinct and end the relationship.
People do not change unless they want to, and your fiance will never change. he likes the way he is. And you can't make him become who you ... (read in full...)
She yelled at me and accused me of cheating. It's only a picture!!
Q. Is this cheating? I have a picture of a female musician on my binder. It's a normal picture, not one where she's half naked or in a slutty pose. Girlfriend: Who's that woman? Me: That's a musician I like. Girlfriend: Do you think she's pretty? Me...
A. 4 November 2008: If i were you I would keep the poster and dump her. haha
okay seriously, she's way insecure and she is being overly controlling. She's young and sounds a lil immature.
You could reassure that she's the only beautiful girl that you know. sweet ta... (read in full...)
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