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writes:I want to first say a big thanks to all the house members here, I think my problem is really getting to be solved soon.. My girl is now at the point of forgiving me, but still one more thing to get solved, I sent mail that I cheated on my girl, now she has asked me to, tell her the reason i cheated on her and lied to her, and until then she will forgive me and can trust me back again in the future, but the truth is that I've no reason for doing this, but within me I know I will never cheat on her again in my life.. please I just want to know the reason why men cheat...I really love her, and I've cheated on her, and don't ever want to lose her.. thanks from emmanuel... Reply to this Question
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reader, 48years  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 Men cheat noy because someone else is prettier or better...but because they are different. Men are wired to be turned on visually. The mature ones resist the urge to cheat.
Women have to guard their ears- we get seduced through listening.
Satan sent the serpent to talk to Eve.
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reader, Too Sensitive  +, writes (8 December 2008):
From everything I've read, it seems the biggest reason is not actually sex, but rather the man is seeking emotional reassurance. The man will often look outside the relationship if he feels underappreciated, especially if there is another woman with whom he has interacted that makes him feel good about himself.
Check out this link, b/c the information applies to all seasons of the year, not just the holidays:
http://advice.eharmony.com/article/why-men-cheat-during-the-holidays.html?cid=23600&aid=700
I don't know if the link will work after I post this reply, but you can probably find it by searching it out.
I am glad you are seeking answers you don't seem to have. Understanding a behavior or acknowledging it is half the battle. I am also glad you vow never to cheat on her again. I hope for your sake and hers you are able to keep that vow.
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female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 December 2008):
 You have to answer this question for yourself, you know. You say you have no reason for cheating on her. Well, what was your motivation then? I mean what was it that had you with another woman?
If you don't know what led you to cheating, how do you know you won't do it again?
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Maybe you love her...but NOT enough.
Meaning you didn't love her enough to stay committed to her. I think if you truly..truly..have a special tight bond and relationship with someone you respect and adore, you would have no need to look somewhere else.
Obviously something is missing. Either she is not giving you enough sex...communication. Or maybe you've been with her too long and you were bored and wanted excitement.
Whatever the case, I think you can't say that you'll never cheat on her again. YOU just don't know that. You were weak once and it's possible you could be weak again.
Some people have the theory that men can't stay and be with one woman. that they need multiple women to fullfill their desire. I think that is all a bunch of lame excuses and crap to let men get a way with their desires. Whatever the case, if she gave you a second chance, don't screw it up again. And if you find the need to look outside your relationship and cheat again, its time to end it and move on. Be a man.
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