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Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: To clear things up. I am not with the married man anymore.
i felt guilty being the other woman, but it does come down to your own moral values. What do you believe in.
I think most people are hurt because the trust and honestly is broken..... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single ... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single ... (read in full...)
Indecent proposal--should I continue the affair?
Q. Ok, here I go. A bit long, but I want you to get the whole picture. I am a successful business woman married to a wonderful man and have 3 beautiful boys. If you "knew" me you could never tell I have a deep dark secret. I have had an affair wi...
A. 18 June 2009: What it comes down to is you secretly thrive
on all this drama. You created it because without
it, your life would be boring.
you are crazy about Abe because he is a huge
Challenge to you. You are bored with your
husband and need ... (read in full...)
Is there a good reason why I should have to wear makeup to please him?
Q. Maybe this is a stupid question, I don't know. My boyfriend is 28 and I am 21; we have been dating about 8 months. Lately he and I have been having problems in our relationship, mainly communications but some other things also. A couple days ago we ...
A. 23 May 2009: I disagree with some of the comments here.
You should only put make up on to make YOU
feel good. Do it for you and not for him.
If he doesn't like how you are now.. Then screw him.
Tell him, sorry this is me and if you don't like it, take a ... (read in full...)
Dating a guy who shares a room with his so called female "best friend"
Q. hi! i have been dating mi guy for two months now and the problm is he is staying with a girl in the same room, and when i ask him he says the girl is her best friend and there is nothing that will separate the two of them,its eitheir he introduces ...
A. 23 May 2009: It is up to you depending how you feel.
If you love him and trust him give him the benefit of the doubt. However if you feel they are more and uncomfortable with the situation
end it. Trust what your instinct is telling you.
... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is abusive, so why do I keep staying with him??
Q. I have felt for a long time in my relationship that my boyfriend is on the abusive side. He's never hit me but he shout's at me and makes me feel really bad sometimes (this happens if he is worrying about something or feels bad about something he's ...
A. 13 May 2009: I've been in the same shoes you've been in
and I stayed 13years. After 2 child , he says
he left me. Not before he killed my confidence
& self esteem. Don't think u are being selfish,
you're not!! Love yourself enough to leave before
He does... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how long I can continue being punished by him!
Q. I need some advice please. My bf wanted to know everything from my past, every last detail of who I was with, what I did with them, when, where etc etc. When he asked who I had slept with I lied. Reduced the number mainly as I was ashamed and regr...
A. 11 May 2009: He is manipulating you and the situation
And now he holds all power and control
Over you. He thinks he has you now and you
Are not going anywhere. ESP with his baby..
He's trapped you to where exactly where he
Wants you. I hate to tell you .... (read in full...)
Are we really meant to be? Why do we keep coming back to each other?
Q. I will try to make this brief but there's a lot of history ..I have an ex boyfriend who I started dating about 10 years ago the first year or two were rocky...then had some really good times for about four years. The happiest times of my life where ...
A. 11 May 2009: As hard as it may be. I think you need to learn
To let go. You are only coming to him
After the fact things didn't work out with other
People. I hard to tell you but you are being selfish
And manipulative. Don't take if wrong.. Now you ... (read in full...)
Should I try now, later, or never to get back togeather with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend of three months and I just broke up two weeks ago. For both of us it was our first real serious relationship. We pretty much broke up because I was upset by the fact that although his residents hall was a 3-5min walk away i only real...
A. 5 May 2009: Move on! He wants to date new girls and see
What's out there. You should do the same.
He doesn't love you so don't chase him. ... (read in full...)
He has mental issues and I want to dump him! Should I be scared?
Q. My boyfriend has mental issues and the more we stay together the more controlling he is becoming towards me. When we started dating, he was so much fun and exciting and did everything possible (in a good way) to make me fall for him. As we got to ...
A. 5 May 2009: Do you live in Pa?? Sounds like my ex!! All kidding
Aside.. Just end it nicely. If he goes postal
Then get a restraining order!
Turn to close friends who can help you.
Or call women's shelter who can support
You if he gets abusive. Do not... (read in full...)
I know it was to break up with him but I feel so sad
Q. Hi, my name is Reyna, i need you to help me. Today I ended things with a guy who obviously didn't care about me. We dated for 4 years and i truly can't remember the last time i felt like i was worth something. I want to give you some quick inside i...
A. 4 May 2009: I am in the same shoes you are in. I feel your
Pain. It gets so hard some days . You just
Have to keep telling yourself that he was no good
For you and he doesn't love you. most of all
he Doesnt DESERVE YOU!! You are better than him!!
Be s... (read in full...)
I know it was to break up with him but I feel so sad
Q. Hi, my name is Reyna, i need you to help me. Today I ended things with a guy who obviously didn't care about me. We dated for 4 years and i truly can't remember the last time i felt like i was worth something. I want to give you some quick inside i...
A. 4 May 2009: I am in the same shoes you are in. I feel your
Pain. It gets so hard some days . You just
Have to keep telling yourself that he was no good
For you and he doesn't love you. most of all
he Doesnt DESERVE YOU!! You are better than him!!
Be s... (read in full...)
Was I being disloyal to my boyfriend
Q. My bf and I were invited over to his brother's house for a bbq. His bro likes my potato salad so much, he asked me to make a lot of it so he could have some leftovers. Ok, no problem, I did. When we were over there, towards the end of the ...
A. 4 May 2009: Your Bf. Has issues with his brother.
Maybe cause their parent favored one
Over the other. Whatever the case .. This wasn't
Over potato salad and a game of Taboo.
It was who was the better man.. With the better
Girlfriend.. Ect. These two boys ... (read in full...)
Do I truly miss him and only wish that I had him to lean on?
Q. June of 2008 I married what I thought was the man for me. We have been together for 4 years before getting married. He came into the relationship with no children. About a year later come to find out he has 4 boys. The youngest being 8. At first I ...
A. 4 May 2009: You are missing him because you are feeling
Down and lonely. U miss how it used to be.
But think back to all the drama and the lies
And deception. Can you handle that again if
You reconcile? Don't look back and go back
In time. Look for... (read in full...)
Should I hang on in there and see what happens in his relationship or cut contact? I like him.
Q. Help, I think I have entered the friends zone!!! I had a one night stand a few months ago with a guy I knew vaguely from a long time ago. He lives about 200 miles away and was visiting his parents in my home town. Since our night together we have...
A. 4 May 2009: I say cut contact. Realistically it'll never work
Because of the distance and also because
You had a one night stand with him.
Also you shared stories of other guys to
Him so he already has judged you based
On these stories. If u want t... (read in full...)
Should I hang on in there and see what happens in his relationship or cut contact? I like him.
Q. Help, I think I have entered the friends zone!!! I had a one night stand a few months ago with a guy I knew vaguely from a long time ago. He lives about 200 miles away and was visiting his parents in my home town. Since our night together we have...
A. 4 May 2009: I say cut contact. Realistically it'll never work
Because of the distance and also because
You had a one night stand with him.
Also you shared stories of other guys to
Him so he already has judged you based
On these stories. If u want t... (read in full...)
Why does he always come back if he doesn't really want me?
Q. Hi, me and my ex had a good strong relationship. We had so many good times and we went thru a lot together. Wen our son was born it was the happiest time of our lives. Things were so going so well. After our son was born things changed. My partner ...
A. 3 May 2009: Its obvious that you still love him and that is why you take him back everytime he comes running back.
you are always hoping and wanting for it to be how it use to be when you guys first met.
You need to let that dream go. It's over, he basicall... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist?
Q. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist? If so, could you share any experiences? Behavior examples? Thanks!...
A. 3 May 2009: I agree with SDesire. true narcissist have
Issues and the will never change. It's not
About looking at themselves in the mirror
All the time., it goes deeper than that.
... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist?
Q. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with a male narcissist? If so, could you share any experiences? Behavior examples? Thanks!...
A. 1 May 2009: Yes!! All they do is talk about themselves
And they never see reality for what it is.
They manipulate and change situations
Around to make them look like the good guy .
They can make your life hell if you let them.Best
thing to do is ru... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with this game playing!
Q. I'm confused, seriously: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and it hasn't been perfect, but I am at a loss with what is going on now. We talk to eachother everyday, text, msn ect and now it is going on 4 days and nothing. Lately he's ...
A. 24 April 2009: Look.. This is an advice site and you can
Take it or leave it. If u don't like what I wrote
Ignore it ..why are you being defensive
At what I wrote?I did in no way judge you at all..
I wrote purely based on the information
That YOU!!! Provi... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with this game playing!
Q. I'm confused, seriously: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and it hasn't been perfect, but I am at a loss with what is going on now. We talk to eachother everyday, text, msn ect and now it is going on 4 days and nothing. Lately he's ...
A. 18 April 2009: You need to give him his space. Don't focus on him anymore.
He is slowly distancing himself from you because he wants to
Break up with you and preparing himself mentally.
You have 2 choice. Break up with him first before he dumps you.
This ... (read in full...)
Does he just wants to fool around or is he actually interested in me?
Q. Hi, I just need some explanations. I have met my friend's brother a couple of months ago at her house and that night, we kind fooled around and got very intimate but we didn't have sex. After that night, we have seen each other a few more times w...
A. 14 April 2009: guys sense that and it's a turn off. They like to pursue
...so act cool and enjoy his company without
Any thought to the outcome. ... (read in full...)
Does he just wants to fool around or is he actually interested in me?
Q. Hi, I just need some explanations. I have met my friend's brother a couple of months ago at her house and that night, we kind fooled around and got very intimate but we didn't have sex. After that night, we have seen each other a few more times w...
A. 14 April 2009: He's fooling around. He probably thinks your
Cool and attracted to you. But guys this age just
Want to have fun. If he liked you u would know..
Your phone would be ringing! Don't think too
Much into it. ... (read in full...)
I know that I need to leave my wife...but does she really love me?
Q. I am in the most difficult situation that I have ever been. I am 34 years old, married and have an 8 month old baby girl. About 2 years ago I hired a woman to work for me who was 6 years younger than I was. After about 3 months I knew that I was ...
A. 11 April 2009: I feel sorry for your wife. Blinded by what kind of husband she married.
I don't want to bash you, but I think about how she was oblivious to your betrayal. How many times did you call her and tell her you would be "working late", while you
stay ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married teacher and now I want him to be with me!
Q. okay i posted a question quite a while back saying i tried to kiss my teacher but he rejected me. However last night i was at a nightclub with my friends and because hes only like 26 himself he was there and we started talking and he was saying how ...
A. 8 April 2009: okay you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
You are in LALA land if you think he is going to leave his family for you.
Not that you aren't beautiful i'm sure, but you are after an unavailable man. You know that he is married, and he is your tea... (read in full...)
No wonder guys are "coming out of the closet"!
Q. Dated this girl. We're both adults. I asked her out a couple of time and she always asked to see me again the next day for a movie or whatever so things were great. She says she digs me so much and I dig her. She kisses me. She says she's not ...
A. 8 April 2009: look. I just dated a man that did the same thing.
I am still recovering from all the bullshit and lies that came from his mouth. Its not just women.
Men do the same thing. It's all about the individual person. I miss my guy so much, but refuse t... (read in full...)
How to tell my husband
Q. About 6 months ago me and my husband were having problems with money and we have a daughter 9 months old. He works long hours working, I was feeling lonley one night as my daughter woulnd't stop crying so I contacted my ex just for company he made ...
A. 8 April 2009: i know i will get a lot of slack for this but :
Don't tell your husband.
He does not need to know. I am not justifying your actions.
What you did was horrible and wrong.
But If you can promise not yourself never to sink to that level and learn ... (read in full...)
His co worker told me my boyfriend stopped caring for me 4 months ago... what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together 2 years. He goes out with co workers but tells me nothing, does not text or call, he tells me he doesn't need to check in and doesn't want me to know where he hangs out. What do I do? His co worker told me he is ...
A. 30 March 2009: sounds like your boyfriend has already broken up with you without telling you. He is giving you hints he is checking out of the relationship and unfortunately there is nothing you can do to change his mind.
If you love him and want to save it the ... (read in full...)
What if he's the one I'm supposed to be with ???
Q. I'm with my guy for 6 years.... love him to death. Perfect on paper and in person. Handsome, outgoing, sweet and would do anything for me. He's my best friend and we're getting married in 6 months. Our families and friends love us together and ...
A. 30 March 2009: I think you love your boyfriend, but after 6 years you are bored with the relationship. Esp when you dated so young and never got a chance to see what was out there.
The relationship with the new guy is exciting, dangerous and forbidden. But what... (read in full...)
I think he still has some feelings for me a little
Q. I love my ex so much we split in july last year but carried on having sex after we split, about 2 months ago, we had sex for the last time, as since then hes got himself a gf, but about the 10 feb of feb he said that he wanted to suck my tits and ...
A. 28 March 2009: He's using you. Cut him loose. Although u love
Him and want him to love you . He's already
Moved on.. But still keeping u cause you let him
Find your self worth and walk away. No contact
Is the best solution. He will hurt you if he is
Still... (read in full...)
I think he still has some feelings for me a little
Q. I love my ex so much we split in july last year but carried on having sex after we split, about 2 months ago, we had sex for the last time, as since then hes got himself a gf, but about the 10 feb of feb he said that he wanted to suck my tits and ...
A. 28 March 2009: He's using you. Cut him loose. Although u love
Him and want him to love you . He's already
Moved on.. But still keeping u cause you let him
Find your self worth and walk away. No contact
Is the best solution. He will hurt you if he is
Still... (read in full...)
He won't put label of b/f & g/f on us!
Q. i need seriouse advise. i have been dating this guy for 1 year now and it has trully been an emotional roller coaster, he foudn me at my weakest point and some how i feel in love with him, which surprised me. im tired of not being able to be ...
A. 25 March 2009: Go read the book "He's just not into you" it'll make sense. I'm not saying you're not a wonderful person. Of course you are, but he's holding on to you but waiting for someone better to come along. that is why he is not committing... (read in full...)
I really want to get over his cheating, but I don't know how...
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me back in October, two girls in two nights, and I still haven't gotten over it. I told him I forgive him, because I love him, but since then it hasn't been the same. I really want to get over this, but I don't know h...
A. 24 March 2009: he doesn't love you. I don't think he even cares for you.
So let him and the relationship go. you deserve better.
it will be hard cause you love him, but you have to love yourself more and know that there is someone out there who will respect ... (read in full...)
Stay with the boyfriend, go back to the fling, or move on from both of them?
Q. I am in a very difficult situation. I have been with an amazing guy for the past four years. We met online through a friend and clicked very well. We can talk about everything, he is supportive, dependible and faithful. But he is also very different ...
A. 24 March 2009: well, you already broke up with your boyfriend. why are you thinking of getting back with him. You don't love him anymore and you two are too different. let that relationship go. Let your ex find someone that will love him the way he deserve to be ... (read in full...)
Using me??Guys?Are they all the same?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I met a guy he was gr8. I liked him I thought he liked me, well I did it. I had sex with him . We never went out on a date, after our first time together he brought up us being together. I was down with it so now he is my ...
A. 22 March 2009: yeah, he could be only turning to you for sex because he didn't have to work hard at getting. no offense.
If you want a relationship become a little less unavailable. Look at his actions. Some guys will say you guys are a couple but in their mind... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything if he calls me baby?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks but he still hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend. We act like a couple and he calls me baby all the time. I asked what exactly our relationship was and he said that he didnt know but he likes me and likes ...
A. 22 March 2009: I dated a guy that called every girl "honey" and "baby".
watch out for these guys, they could be players.
Just enjoy his company and don't analyze or thing too into it. You will know when you are a couple we he brings it up or you get to the next... (read in full...)
He won't put label of b/f & g/f on us!
Q. i need seriouse advise. i have been dating this guy for 1 year now and it has trully been an emotional roller coaster, he foudn me at my weakest point and some how i feel in love with him, which surprised me. im tired of not being able to be ...
A. 21 March 2009: He's keeping you around until he finds someone better.
He's not into you. Move on.... (read in full...)
Even his sister calls him a jerk,but I'm confused about what to do!
Q. Hi everyone I just need some advice as im in a tough confusing situation right now. Okay so I posted a lil while ago about my ex that went crazy when he lost his good paying job and left me the same week when I found out I was pregnant. Gave me $ ...
A. 18 March 2009: Like it or not, he is the baby's father and by you keeping the baby, he has everyright to see the child and be a father. Now you and him are a different story. you don't have to be with him. It's up to you to give him a 2nd chance or not. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but I'm doubting and he's still wife the wife
Q. I met a man online. He said he was separated and would be getting a divorce, but soon after we started to get to know each other, he admitted that he was still with her, just wanting a divorce. We continued to talk and he told her that he wanted a ...
A. 18 March 2009: run away fast!! He is a liar and a cheater!!he will never leave his wife and you are just sex to him. He will say and do anything to get it. Think with your head and not your heart. there will be other available men that you click with. Leave this ... (read in full...)
My sister wanted me to spy on her fiance..do I tell her what I found?
Q. my sister sent ne on a mission to spy on her fiance. their wedding wud take place in three weeks. well, i got to find out he has an affair wt his coleague at work and when i caught him red handed in an eatery, hugging her, saying bye see u later , ...
A. 17 March 2009: She has to know the truth. this is her future and her life.
She is going to spend the rest of her life with this man and he's not honest. let her know the truth so she can make the decision for herself. Men like this will never change.... (read in full...)
Why does he say he wants to be friends and then ignore me?
Q. I have to go away on a course through work regularly. I met this guy on the course, in September. After a few too many drinks we ended up in bed together. I really liked him, but he's only 21 and I'm 28, so just thought of it as a bit of fun. S...
A. 15 March 2009: Unfortunately he saw you as an Older woman
To have fun with. After the fun for him was
Older he got what he wanted and moved on.
Of course he didn't want to be a complete
Jerk by blowing you off but his action spoke
Loud and clear. He is you... (read in full...)
He made me feel like a dirty little slut
Q. Hello Friends! I have a scenario that I would like your opinion on. I was having a nice conversation with my boyfriend last night, and the topic turned to Hollywood actors. I was telling him who my favorites were. And then I said, Johnny Depp is ...
A. 14 March 2009: I don't think you did anything wrong. These are actors that
We will never meet. They are famous because they are hot!
And we dream of being with them. But there's a difference between
Fantasy and reality. Personally I think your guy is insecure.... (read in full...)
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