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Right now I need to focus on me, and not the recent break up, and recover from being emotional needy and clingy. Any help?
Q. How do i let go of hope, hope the phone will ring, hope ill get a text message etc.. hope hope hope.. its because the last thing he said was "Im sure well see each other again one day" and " I just dont want anyone right now but we can talk" I would ...
A. 31 August 2008: I am going throught the same thing as you.
I believe the thing we need to do is discover ourselves again. Find out what makes us happy besides having a man in our lives. Start taking classes, volunteer, go to the gym. The key is to keep busy and ... (read in full...)
General question about breaking up/ getting back together?
Q. what do you guys think...Someone once told me that if you break up with someone even if you come back together...things are never the same...and the same problems are gonna surface....I know that even if my ex asked me back...now id be kinda afraid ...
A. 30 August 2008: I say once you break up you should move on with your life and not look back.
i've been in a relationship for 12 years, broke up 3 times to only get back together. We got married, and now he left me. Looking back, I wish I never took him back the ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my best friend, and I miss him, but I won't be the first to call.
Q. Two weeks and one day ago I "broke up" with my best guy friend.We had been friends with benefits in the past,but he lost his virginity to some girl he doesnt even know or care about and i've secretly loved him.I have given him my heart and always ...
A. 23 August 2008: I think you are doing the right thing. It's very hard to be FWB when you have feelings for someone. And for a guy..once you are FWB..they don't see you as girlfriend potential.
I say give it some space..even though it's sooo hard.
Let him think it... (read in full...)
Why are people so stressed and miserable?
Q. Why is everybody I see always so stressed and miserable? You only get one life,and its way too short to be anything but happy.why dont people realize this?...
A. 23 August 2008: Because people get jaded, resentful, and basically wake up one day and regret the decisions they made and hate the lives they lead. They go out and the world and project this misery to strangers and it's like a virus that spread. Also..America is a ... (read in full...)
He's always complimenting me and flirting, but when I asked him out he said no. What should I do?
Q. About 2 years ago i meet this lad. We both liked eachother and were going out with eachother on and off for about a year. I feel in love with him. We still speak almost every night and often meet up that leads to things. He is always comp...
A. 18 August 2008: If he said no, there's nothing you can do to change his mind. He might resent you for making him try and then it not working out again. Sometimes we want things that we can't have. It's part of the attraction. You should just let it go. You are ... (read in full...)
Unhappy in this relationship, work it out or take a break?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 2 plus yrs lived together for over a yr. The past 5 months, we've been arguing daily about pointless things. He gets so angry and defensive anytime I talk to him or ask him anything! I get frustrated and sad ...
A. 17 August 2008: I agree..why fix something that is already broken.
You are still incredibly young and have your whole life ahead of you.
It will be hard because you love him, but someimes you have to let things go and move on with your life.
It will only ge... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with my married boss and now I'm expecting his child!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been having a sexual relationship with my married boss on and off since January, we have always been very close and sexually compatible (we slept together briefly 2 years ago but it was purely a lust thing) but very recently th...
A. 17 August 2008: Wow! you got yourself in deep trouble. And you are still so young. Common sense would tell you to put on a condom if you are cheating on your partner.
You need to sit down and discuss this with your married lover.
Are you both going to leave yo... (read in full...)
Respect: Is there hope for improving our relationship?
Q. Why does he treat me badly and what can be done to improve our relationship? My boyfriend of over 2 years is treating me unkindly. He has a very short temper with me, calls me bad names -jokingly he sais- and does not seem to trust me. I have told ...
A. 17 August 2008: It will only get worse. End it now. When you leave..you are showing him that he has crossed your boundries and you are not going to put up with it. he thinks you will never leave and he can do or say anything. Prove him wrong.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my feelings before he becomes famous?
Q. i have had a crush on this boy for about a few months i havent been able to do anything or tell him how i feel because i have been busy.i recently found out he is on a very popular singing show and has got through to the "boot camp stage".i dont ...
A. 17 August 2008: right now, the last thing he has on his mind is liking a girl. He is dedicated and focused on the competition.
If you only liked him AFTER you found out he was on the show..then yes...you like him for the wrong reasons and i would leave it a lone... (read in full...)
How long do I wait to start dating again?
Q. I recently moved and broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years who I lived with, and thought about marrying. I've been seeing this guy, but I think it's too soon in my life. How long should I wait to date again? and also I'm 20 should I date someone who ...
A. 14 August 2008: Start dating when you feel you are ready to give something in a relationship. A lot of people date and get caught up in messy rebound relationships. Make sure you are over your ex.
Also, if you like the 34 year old, you should give it a chan... (read in full...)
I think we both like each other. Any tips on how to take this flirting game to the next level?
Q. I work at a theme park in the gift shops. I have gotten to know Anthony who is my age and is very sweet and happens to work in my department. He gets me and other workers in our department soda (there are free soda fountains throughout the p...
A. 14 August 2008: I don't think you should ask him out, but continue to give him hints that you like him.
Be flirtatious, play with your hair. just little subtle signs that he'll pick up and feel more confident in asking you out. Be patient. Guys like to be the chas... (read in full...)
What would you think of this?
Q. If you found a message to your husband saying "Last time you came over in the middle of sex you said..." and "if you can make the 4th that would be great. Better not come back to mine, we shouldn't have sex again. The pain wasn't worth the...
A. 11 August 2008: Virtual? whatever. He's a cheater.... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my ex boyfriend
Q. I cant stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. We broke up in May, I haven't seen him or spoken to him since early June. I dealt with the break up, the emotions and I got over it. I even stopped thinking about him. He broke up with me because it wa...
A. 11 August 2008: I can. I am struggling to get over a guy, and i want to call him so bad. I have to fight it everyday. I miss hearing his voice so much.
but the point is it was over for a reason. It didn't work out because either he didn't live up to your stan... (read in full...)
We had no-strings sex, but now I'm confused what is going on
Q. Hello, Need some advice please. Been friends with a colleague at work for 3 years, getting along well and a little v. innocent flirting within strict boundaries since both in long-term relationships. Both relationships finished - his 18 months a...
A. 11 August 2008: I think you are coming on a little too strong, and he is overwhelmed. It' started as no strings and that's how he sees it. Men can have sex without any emotions involved. Not women.... (read in full...)
How can I cope dealing with divorce and separation
Q. This is to the aunts or anyone whom has been separated and or has gone through a divorce. Im married under 1 year, 2 mths shy from our 1 year anniversary so to speak but that will not happen. My husband and I have split, insisting on nee...
A. 11 August 2008: I am going through the same thing.
I guess the only thing is to take one day at a time.
You will have good days and bad days.
But time will heal your heart. What's important is to take time out and learn to love yourself again. A divorce can ... (read in full...)
Can he really fancy me if I am 10 years older?
Q. I am 33 and have recently become very good friends with a 23 yr old guy who calls and texts me all the time and I am attracted to him but he is really good looking and cannnot imagine that he would fancy me but am getting mixed messages.how do I ...
A. 8 August 2008: This happenend to me too.
The best advice I can give is take it very very slow.
Let him take the lead. i too got mixed messages..but I think because they are so young, they are testing out their "game".
So don't make the first move. You will kno... (read in full...)
I'm cheating and feel stuck in this situation, what should I do?
Q. First of all, I know that it is wrong for a spouse to cheat. But that is what I am doing. I feel bad but I also feel that the person that I have met is more like me. He is 10 years younger than I and I thought it would be a problem to really be with ...
A. 8 August 2008: the reason you are cheating is because you are not getting your emotional/sexual needs met by your husband. Along comes a younger guy and of course you feel young, loved and desirable once again. Be careful..what you are feeling with the younger... (read in full...)
After a great night with him, he hasn't called me!
Q. This guy I met on a thursday texted called asked to hang friday we finally did saturday and had an amazing time. he acted like he was really into me and went had fun laughed etc. nothing I can think went wrong. We went back to him place at the end ...
A. 6 August 2008: He got what he wanted from you..now it's on to the next girl. or like the book says "He's not into you". nothing personal..that's how some guys are.
He might call again expecting another bj. but don't expect a serious relationship.
Next time, wh... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he is playing mind games with me. How can I leave him when he has no one else to watch his kids while he works?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for almost a year now, and it seems as though at times we can be close, but then he pulls himself away from me, and when I try to pull myself away from him, he pulls me back. I've turned my phone off since ...
A. 6 August 2008: You are not obligated to watch his kids. You are doing it from the kindness of your heart and he calls you stupid?
Sounds like he's manipulating you and using you.
You're not even his girlfriend.
but of course he wants you around to watch his ki... (read in full...)
I want to break up with her as a friend, but I might lose my other friends as well?
Q. Ok, so I met this girl, let say her name was kaithlin. She became my bff but I was the only one trying to keep our friendship going, I mean sometimes she will take charge but it lasts usually 5 seconds flat. Then one of our classmates came into the...
A. 6 August 2008: I agree. If your friend is treating you bad, then she was never a good friend in the first place and you need to weed them out of your life.
As for your classmate, she can still be your friend and not choose sides. If she does, then she too is n... (read in full...)
She's with someone else, but my ex still calls me. Is it possible to remain friends?
Q. I just got off the phone with my Ex who is sleeping with someone else now. I told her I couldn't speak to her anymore and for a month she obliged me. Then started calling again so we're now "Speaking" I guess. Sometimes I look at her pictures and...
A. 6 August 2008: The reason people don't keep in touch with their ex is because it prevents them from moving forward. you'll always be kinda stuck or still think of her. What if a new girl comes in your life...you might miss a great opportunity with her because you ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in a deep hole with my relationship with a married man. I need advice.
Q. Im sleeping with a married man who has an 8 month old son and he lives next door to me. I think i have fallen in love with him and Im really close to his wife. I know its really stupid but i 14 years old. nd before anyone says hes taking advantage ...
A. 5 August 2008: I don't even know where to start.
Call the cops.. tell your parents...Run!
Listen and listen very carefully. This is a GROWN man...and he IS taking advantage of you.
He is saying and doing all the right things to make you fall in love with hi... (read in full...)
My parents hate me seeing my boyfriend because of his past.
Q. Ive known my boyfriend for at least 5 years..we fell in love when we were 12 but i was to young so we broke it off and waited..4 years later we went back out and now im turning 18 in just four months he is turning 19 in two months. My parents found ...
A. 5 August 2008: Man! You sound like me when I was your age. Seriously!!
Okay..I know you don't want to hear this but you parents are just trying to protect you. That is their job. Of course you don't agree with it because it's not what YOU want to do, but you have... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend is losing interest in me?
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 months and he pursued me a lot in the beginning. Everyone told me he really wanted to be with me, a lot of the deep conversations we have about our relationship is my ability to trust guys in ...
A. 5 August 2008: i was just reading up on this. men are scared of their emotions and dealing with them. If anything..he's IS falling in love with you. The best thing to do in this situation is give a Man their space and distance. They will come back to you when they ... (read in full...)
For four months, I have been involved with a man who is wonderful, but who does not want to have a relationship, but will not let me go on my way to find someone else, I am tired of the yes, no, maybe so, what should I do?
Q. Help! I have been dating this amazing guy for four months and he is everything I could possibly want in a man; however, he has issues with relationships. He has been hurt a lot before and tells me that "relationships are just exhausting" to him r...
A. 5 August 2008: "He's not ready for a relationship" means he wants to sleep around with as many women as possible.
If that is not what you want. Then you have to put your foot down. He's just selfish because he wants you, like you, but does not want to put in the ... (read in full...)
My aunt got my crush's number for herself, after I told her I liked him!!
Q. I have been crushing over this guy that i work with and told my aunt, and she went to him and got his number for herself! That really made me mad, what should i do?...
A. 5 August 2008: confront your aunt and call her out on her actions.
Then flirt with your crush and show him that you are interested. Hopefully he will ask you out.... (read in full...)
In a four year relationship with kids, very unhappy, went back to work, met a guy I like, torn between keeping my family together and developing a relationship with this guy, what should I do?
Q. Ok,Im in a relationship and have been for 4 years, recently we have had a few issues and we have tried desparately to correct them but unfortunately the result will last a few weeks and then he slips back to his old ways. I always thought this would ...
A. 5 August 2008: You are very young, so it's normal to be attracted to another males.Esp when you've been committed to someone for 4 years.
I say resolve your issues with your boyfriend first. Since you guys aren't married, you can work out ways to still rais... (read in full...)
Should I give up and not lose someone who is good for me ?
Q. ok, this is a long one, but I need some advice. I met this guy 8 years ago and I liked him straight away. I only knew him a while, but I felt this spark, or connection and even years later, if I heard his name or heard something that would relat...
A. 5 August 2008: What it comes down to is he is a married man who had an affair. And you are the other woman waiting for him to leave his wife to be with you.
Well..good luck with that because if he's ignoring you, most likely he's trying to send you a message.
I ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I love him. What should I do? He has a girlfriend.
Q. I am love with my friend and i dont know how to tell him. we already have a sexual relationship, but he has a girlfriend. What should i do about this? i am single and we have been seeing each other for about 3 years....
A. 5 August 2008: basically, you guys are friends with benefits and now you develop feelings for him.
This always happens because women are emotional being and having sex with someone is very intimate.
If he wanted you as a girlfriend, you would have been his girl... (read in full...)
We broke up before unexpectedly, now that we are together again I have big doubts and sometimes don't understand him!
Q. Okay...well my boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now. He told me he loved me really quick in the relationship. But we also were very close friends on and off through out 3 or 4 years. Then we hung out one day and it was like an ...
A. 5 August 2008: First off, you are way too young to even consider marraige.
In fact he's young too. I say don't take what he says too seriously. The reason you have doubt about him is because of his actions contradicts what he says. Do not get married. Date arou... (read in full...)
Does it mean that he really wants to let me go if it didnt bother him that I was going on a date with a guy?
Q. I'm Desperate for advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 8 months. Lately we have been arguing and I dont have sex with him very much anymore, and It has kinda gotten to the point where I want to start talking about a future ...
A. 5 August 2008: Seems like he wants to see what's out there, but still hold on to you just in case he doesn't find anyone better.
The question here is What do YOU want?
He is right..you guys are both very young and it is good to see what's out there.
I s... (read in full...)
He still wants us to go on holiday at the end of the month but only after I grovelled!?? I don't know if he wants me or not.
Q. been with my boyfriend for only 4 months but fell in love very quickly with him he dithered and on day out of the blue told me he loved me which made me very happy indeed i have a trust issue due to being abandoned 2 years ago by my husband and i ...
A. 5 August 2008: Girl..wake up. He's playing mind games with you and manipulating the situation. You don't need to grovel to him. I think the thing with his mom is total BS.
He's totally disrespecting you.
Yes you have trust issues from your ex husband, but... (read in full...)
How do I find out if she likes me?
Q. We have a lot in common,music,sports,general hobbies. she gives me harmless insults randomly, she plays catch with me a lot with a tennis ball.She's always talking to me on MSN till late/early morning on the phone thing .I don't want to ask her out ...
A. 5 August 2008: The only way you will truly know if you ask her. IF you like her..then go for it. What do you have to lose. So what if she says NO.
Rejection is a part of life and you shouldn't take it personal.
But if she is spending time with you..i say she ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 years old, going to have sex for the first time. What position is best?
Q. I am 13 and me and My And My Boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 months now and i no he wants too have sex and so do i but i am a virgin so he will be my first. i am really scared.! What position is best for the first time? Everyone says ...
A. 5 August 2008: okay I am not going to preach you. BUT..i have to say.
Thirteen is still very young to lose your virginity. I'm saying wait til marraige, but you want to wait to give it to a very..very special guy. Dating a boy for 3 months is not enough time.
... (read in full...)
I've cheated on my wife three times. I haven't told her and I feel terrible. Help!
Q. I have been in a up and down marriage for about 5 years. We have 2 young children. We have tried counseling, only has helped some. Over the 5 years, I have had 3 one-night stands due to a lack of physicalness from my partner. I have not told ...
A. 5 August 2008: this is such a common problem in marraige. The truth is if you want more sex from your wife, you need to give her the emotional connection she craves. How can she be intimate with you when you're mind is always thinking about where to get your next ... (read in full...)
I have no luck with females. What do I do in the future?
Q. Hi People say I am very good looking. I don't seem to have any luck with females. I have asked two girls out and got rejected. I am quite shy infront of girls. Girls seem to notice the more confident lads, when we're in clubs or groups. I try to...
A. 5 August 2008: girls love confidence. what can i say. I say work on that first..then the ladies will follow.
Write down what you love about yourself and what you hate.
Focus on the good and work on the bad..but don't beat yourself up about it because we all h... (read in full...)
What can I do so that my girlfriend accepts she is beautiful?...
Q. Do girls and woman really judge themselves harshly on their own appearance? My girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous yet she is convinced that she is plain looking!!!! What can I do to get through to my g/f she is beautiful?! I keep telling her she is ...
A. 5 August 2008: I think all young girls in their twenty are insecure about their looks and never think they are pretty.
Of course i was this way. No matter who complimented me I didn't feel pretty, but I didn't love myself on the inside.
Only now when I am in my... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boss and it's driving me crazy
Q. hi everybody, my question would seem very familiar to all of you, im in fact in love with my boss, and this is driving me crazy, i tried to approach him by sending him anonymous letters, he replied of course by curiousity...the story went more com...
A. 5 August 2008: office relationships are hard to maintain. If he knows you have a crush on him and doesn't pursue you, then you have to let it go. I recommend transfering or getting another job. Being away from him is the only way to get over him. Sometimes you ... (read in full...)
Love my boyfriend, yet feel like I need time away to party and meet others, BUT what if he finds someone else in the meantime?
Q. Hi All. i just need some help. i am 19, and for the last 3 years i have been in a relationship with a WONDERFUL man who i love to pieces. lately i feel like i want to go out and meet new people and just have fun and be 'single' i have been in this ...
A. 5 August 2008: there is nothing wrong with wanting to go out and having fun. Esp at your age. That is what you're suppose to do. That way you can figure out what you want.
You're just afraid you can't find a better guy and if you can't you lost him fore... (read in full...)
He can be hilariously funny but other times acts like he cannot stand me. When I ask what's going on he changes the subject!?
Q. Ok, so short backgroud story and question. There is this guy i know, i've known him for about a year. Sometimes we get on great, he has a very sarcastic manner, but it suits him if you know what i mean. He can be hilariously funny and really cheer...
A. 4 August 2008: He could be bi-polar. Don't take it personal. It's him and not you.... (read in full...)
My mum's very picky when it comes to the boys I date. How do I get her to like my BF, despite of the age difference?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now. He is really great, and I love him. The only problem is our age difference. I have no problem with it, I think age is just a number when it comes to love. But my mom thinks otherwise. My mom does not ...
A. 4 August 2008: Your mom has every right to be concern because you are still underage. She is just being a MOM and trying to protect her daughter. She loves you.
You did not mention his age..so i'm guessing in his twenties. Either case..age is only a number, but ... (read in full...)
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