Like what
she writes?
... Add *appygirl to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *appygirl a private message | | | *appygirl's profile:I love to help people.I give great advice for others but awful advice for myself.I've been through a lot and consider life a wonderful journey full of ups and down. I believe I am wise through my years of traveling and seeing the world.I would like to help out anyway that I can because I think that is the reason we are here. To help each other. |
|
How do you find a decent man? One who doesn't just want you for sex?
Q. How do you find a decent man? who doesnt just want you for sex? How do you know when they are telling the truth and not just trying to get into your knickers? coz I dont have a clue, and neither does anyone else I know. Please help, Im starting to f...
A. 16 September 2008: the best way is to test them. Wait as long as you can to have sex with them. And look at what they do, not what they say.(action speaks louder than words) All guys will want to get in your pants, but it's the nice/decent ones who really wants to get ... (read in full...)
Does this request for lunch mean anything from a guy??
Q. I emailed a guy i liked to buy him lunch which he turn down coz he said he could not make it and suggested another day instead. I did not ask him again pursue since then. However, after a week or 2, he suddenly ask me about the lunch and insist that ...
A. 16 September 2008: Tell him the original offer expired. If he wants to meet for lunch, it's on him. If he agrees, he's interested. If not, he's not worth it. What a cheapskate... (read in full...)
I am just so outraged! Is he some kind of pervert? What should I do?
Q. I recently made a horrific discovery that is making me questioning the man I thought I loved. While helping to clean out his room, I came across a stash of some 30 or more porn magazines and several DVDs stashed away. I was shocked. He told me ...
A. 16 September 2008: Every male i've know has had porn stashed away someplace.
This is normal for them. It doesn't make him a pervert. This makes him a male.
Don't be outrage, try to be understanding. Sometimes they need it for themselves and it has nothing to do wi... (read in full...)
He won't open up to me - he is very secretive - is he cheating on me or has he got something to hide?
Q. My boyfriend is sending me really bad mixed signals! From the outset, he's always been on the secretive side and never really willing to tell me anything too personal about himself. I've always attributed this to a) cultural differences (he's ...
A. 16 September 2008: Being Asian, and dating Asian all my life, i have to say all of them seem to be raised this way. Very "masculine" and controlled with their emotions. Drives us NUTS!! it's like we can't get anything out of them.
i think the problem is they are not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suddenly became abusive and now won't contact me. Help?
Q. i met my boyfriend during xmas at my home in 2006. for quite sometime, we were so much in love especially i love him too much. but to my suprised sudently he changed his attitute towards me, and started abusing me everyday, still i told him that i ...
A. 16 September 2008: I agree. He's the one that abuse you and now your chasing him? Doesn't make sense to me. He should apologize to you.
Although you love him, give it some time and space. He might come around, and if he doesn't, he's not worth it.
You want a guy th... (read in full...)
He complimented me on my appearance, is he playing mind games and how can I react? Ask him out?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and I've had a huge crush on this guy who went to my school, only thing is he's 19. He left a year ago, went on a gap year, we started messaging again the past few months...he must have found out I liked him. you might recognize this ...
A. 16 September 2008: If you really like him, then try to play it cool.
Just respond back on his page with a simple "thanks"
Short and sweet. whatever you do, don't ask him about his feelings for you and don't ask him out.
He is older than you, so you have to take... (read in full...)
Has anyone been to a clairvoiyant and what they told you helped you make a decision in life, or do you think it's a load of rubbish?
Q. Hi, just a quick question. I was on holiday a few weeks ago at a well known seaside resort and i went to see a clairvoiyant. I'd been to this area a couple of times and have always wanted a reading, and this time i plucked up the courage to go in. I...
A. 16 September 2008: Just like anything, there are good ones and bad ones. (usually the gypsy that live in the house that says "Psychic" in neon colors by the side of the road are the money hungry ones
I am not a skeptic and believe in the "supernatural". But I have... (read in full...)
Have I been played?
Q. I was seeing an Army man for over a month when he was here locally for schooling. He had to go overseas to Germany to clear out and will return in Nov. I thought when he left we were on very good terms. He told me he would e-mail me and even call. ...
A. 15 September 2008: Yeah, i don't think you got played, but he's not thinking about you or wanting to marraige while he's away from you.
He's just busy doing his thing.
You were seeing him, but you guys aren't in a relationship, so he's not obligated to email or... (read in full...)
He keeps blowing hot and cold, is he playing games with me?
Q. i have been seein this man for a few months now i think and basically to start with it was just casual fun.. im begining to develop feelings for him now. and not sure how he feels about me. He keeps blowing hot and cold with me once minute he...
A. 15 September 2008: Don't ask him, because he will not sit down and tell you the real answer. I did't want to admit this at first, but i've learn that the whole dating process is a "game"
if you like it or not.
So if he's blowing cold air at you, then you ignore i... (read in full...)
Why has he never made love to me?
Q. I spent the night in bed with a man I love on Saturday, and it's about the eighth time I have shared his bed. We only see each other now and then but he has already said that he adores me, that he thinks I am a great woman and that he admires me. ...
A. 15 September 2008: I think you both are mature enough to talk this one out.
Personally if I was standing there naked in front of a guy and he didn't jump me, I would think he's gay.
I wouldn't let it bother my self-esteem at all.
I'll move on to someone who ... (read in full...)
Could he be playing games?
Q. What does it mean when a guy wants you to stay the night after sex, but then says he does not want a relationship with you. Is he playing games? ...
A. 15 September 2008: i don't think he's playing "games".
He just wants to have his cake and to eat it too.
Meaning, he wants the comforts of having you in his bed, cuddling, holding you.
But when sunrise comes, you both go your separate ways and no headaches, a... (read in full...)
My parents think it's wrong for me to date a black guy, is this racist?
Q. My mom and dad are soo protective. i like this black guy...alot and he likes me. but my parents think it is wrong for a white girl to date a black boy. i think thats racsism. but me and this boy have been talking for a year and we tell each other ...
A. 15 September 2008: OF COURSE IT'S NOT WRONG TO DATE A BLACK GUY!
Their hot and sexy!
It's kind of sad that this day and age some parents are
still ignorant and try to pass this thinking on to their children. It has nothing to do with people's skin color.
U... (read in full...)
I am seeing and sleeping with a married man! Why am I such an awful person to have gotten myself into this situation? What should I do? What does this tell about me?
Q. I really need to ask a complete third party about this because I can't ask anyone I know. Im feeling horrendous guilt and I don't know why I do the things I do. I really don't. I have a good career and 14 months ago I started a new job and be...
A. 15 September 2008: You sound very remorseful, but you should beat yourself about it and bring down your self-esteem.
SPELLING CORRECTION: I MEANT YOU "SHOULDN'T"... (read in full...)
Does he just want me for some booty or does he really like me?
Q. Sooo, me and this guy I've met twice hooked up last weekend. The first time we met we also hooked up (we were also drunk each time). Although we ended up sleeping with each other, we only messed around and didn't actually have sex. Then last nigh...
A. 15 September 2008: Yeah, he's interested...in booty..not a relationship.
If you like him and want more,
I say take it slow. Stop texting him too much, and don't give him sex until he earns it. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love but not with my husband. Do I follow my heart?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've tried to deal with this situation alone but, it's getting the best of me. I got into a relationship in 2006, everything was wonderful, it was like he was made just for me, so we got married in 2007, had our 1st child in 2008. B...
A. 15 September 2008: i know a lot of people might dissagree with me, but i think you should not be in the marriage where you are not in love with the person. Relationships and marraige are a lot of hard work and if you are not committed, then you deserve it to the other ... (read in full...)
I am seeing and sleeping with a married man! Why am I such an awful person to have gotten myself into this situation? What should I do? What does this tell about me?
Q. I really need to ask a complete third party about this because I can't ask anyone I know. Im feeling horrendous guilt and I don't know why I do the things I do. I really don't. I have a good career and 14 months ago I started a new job and be...
A. 15 September 2008: You sound very remorseful, but you should beat yourself about it and bring down your self-esteem.
The important thing is that You know this is a mistake and to learn from it.
You have to end the relationship NOW. it's not worth the pain you are ... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest in me? He has trouble staying erect...
Q. I am 23 years old and engaged to a man who is 30. We have been together for 4 years and have had a good sex life until recently. About a month ago we start having problems, where my sex drive is a lot higher than his and he is not satisfying me. ...
A. 15 September 2008: i don't think he's losing interest in you.
I think his body can't keep up with your high sex drive.
I'm not a male, but i do think it takes a while for them to recover. haha
I'm envious! LOL.... (read in full...)
Having a girlfriend is stressful for him right now so how should I support him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have a healthy and supportive relationship. We don't really fight much. I've helped him through his academy. He's helped me through school for the past year. When the program for school ...
A. 15 September 2008: If you love him like you say you do, you have no choice but respect his wishes, step back and give him space to get his life back together. You might think that this distant is going to tear both of you apart but the truth is it could bring both of ... (read in full...)
While I am in a long term relationship, I am aggrieved that my sex buddy is getting attached to me and not respecting our deal!
Q. i got involved with a guy on a purly physical bases, we where both very attracted to each other and i was in a long term relationship that i have no intention of leaving. i know its not ideal but we both were in tune and understanding of the ...
A. 14 September 2008: This is the reason why some people say Friends w/benefit relationships never work. Someone always gets hurt because one person will eventually develop feelings and the other won't.
It did work for a while, but now that he's hinting more, than i th... (read in full...)
I'm a teen cheating on my boyfriend with a man in his 40's. Is this wrong?
Q. ok well this is kinda supper coplicated so i'll try to just keep it simple. im 15 and i have a bf thats 16 i live in florida but hes now moved all the way to oregon. but i still love him. now theres this guy that ive known for a while and really ...
A. 14 September 2008: I don't even know where to begin how wrong this is.
A 41 year man messing around with a young teenager is called child abuser/predator.
I know you might not think it because you have feelings for him, but you have to understand that he is way olde... (read in full...)
I'm a teen cheating on my boyfriend with a man in his 40's. Is this wrong?
Q. ok well this is kinda supper coplicated so i'll try to just keep it simple. im 15 and i have a bf thats 16 i live in florida but hes now moved all the way to oregon. but i still love him. now theres this guy that ive known for a while and really ...
A. 14 September 2008: I don't even know where to begin how wrong this is.
A 41 year man messing around with a young teenager is called child abuser/predator.
I know you might not think it because you have feelings for him, but you have to understand that he is way olde... (read in full...)
Got into a fight protecting myself and my girlfriend, who was in the wrong?
Q. all im asking is who is in the wrong? and if it happend to you, would you do the same? if not, then what would you do differently? me and my girlfriend was on the front of my house speaking with 2 friends when 2 boys from 2 houses away w...
A. 13 September 2008: You did the right thing. It was self-defense. YOu didn't start it and you didn't have a chance to walk away.
For a 23 year old he seem very immature picking a fight with teenagers then saying "his parents will finish it off"
Hope your okay.... (read in full...)
How do I know when to give up on this guy?
Q. I like this guy, and we've been in an on and off relationship for the past 4 years. I know the reason it didn'work out is because of how I acted. Now I think he;s moved on and is now dating my friend. Do you think I should just give up and move on? ...
A. 13 September 2008: from a girls perspective..move on for sure... (read in full...)
Hooked up with an ex after 5 years, I was left with the impression he still loved me and we agreed to contact but now he doesn't return my calls?!
Q. I went home for Labor Day weekend and saw my ex from high school (we dated for 2 1/2 yrs) we were pretty hot and serious then, but then we broke up when we both left for college. We stayed in touch for about 8 months but then I started dating ...
A. 13 September 2008: You were probably hoping to rekindle your romance and start where you left off.
But you said "it broke his heart"..meaning you broke his heart and to him, he's not going to let you back in because there is a chance you will break it again.
He ... (read in full...)
Trapped! If I stay, I'm miserable, but if I leave, he hurts himself. What do I do??
Q. Hi everyone. Normally I wouldn't put myself out there like this, but I am in a pretty desperate situation, I think. I've been in a serious relationship for almost three years, and my boyfriend is wonderful to me. He is respectful, sweet, and he ...
A. 13 September 2008: You have to break up with him.
He is emotionally blackmailing you.
You ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS LIFE.
HE IS.
He said he'll do all those things, but I doubt he'll really follow through. Don't let a man do this to you.
This is horrible.... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me after we made out and I feel horrible! Since he has a girlfriend, is this cheating?
Q. I did something terribly wrong last night. I went to a club with some friends and a guy last night. This guy and i have a past but i thought it was over since he now has an out-of-province girlfriend. That seems to be a problem tho because i got pr...
A. 13 September 2008: I think you should learn from this mistake and move on.
We all make bad choices sometimes and it's best to see our wrong doing so we don't do it again.
Do not tell his girlfriend. Do not tell anyone.
They don't need to know, it's none of thei... (read in full...)
How can I avoid being so clingy? It's annoying to my boyfriend!
Q. i love my boyfriend so much.. but i cnt stop bein clingy which is kinda annoying him. what can i do to myself to stop me doing tht? HELP SOS!...
A. 13 September 2008: the best way to stop being clingly is try to stay busy and have a life outside of your relationship.
Join clubs, pick up other things that make you happy.
hang out with other friends.
Guys need their space so that it gives them time to miss you.... (read in full...)
Should I cut off contact completely and never see my ex again? I realised I missed him terribly while on the phone.
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago after 4 years because he didn't want to get married or have children, plus he moved out of my flat so we only saw each other at the weekends which didn't suit me. We have kept in touch and have met up with ...
A. 13 September 2008: Definitely cut off contact.
Stick by the "no contact" rule so that you can heal and move on with your life.
You still love him but he made it clear he will never feel the same way for you.
Break ups are hard and letting go is harder, but the more... (read in full...)
Do you think I am being unrealistic in thinking she will text me?
Q. Hi I went out with my mates to the pub last night I did not drink as I was driving anyway to my problem we started talking to a group of girls my mates went outside for a smoke and left me to play pool with one of the girls the pub was closing ...
A. 13 September 2008: If you like her,
you should find a way to get her number and call her then ask her out on a date.(ask your friends if they have her number)
She likes you because she made the first move
now you make the effort to show that you like her to.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is cheating and got another girl pregnant...what should I do?
Q. I met V when I was 15. At the time hhe told me he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. Eventually I broke up with my boyfriend. He still had his girlfriend and was obviously not ready to be in a relationship with me so I moved on. I got pregnant ...
A. 13 September 2008: spelling corrections
I meant "YOU SHOULD NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT."... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is cheating and got another girl pregnant...what should I do?
Q. I met V when I was 15. At the time hhe told me he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. Eventually I broke up with my boyfriend. He still had his girlfriend and was obviously not ready to be in a relationship with me so I moved on. I got pregnant ...
A. 13 September 2008: i agree with the other aunts.
You have to leave and find a way to make it on your own with your son.
Yes, you love him, but he does not love and respect you.
If that relationship is okay with you, then stay.
But you deserve so much more. Someo... (read in full...)
Do you think he will ever realise he has made a mistake and come back??
Q. My husband divorced me after 16 years leaving me and the children citing that he wasn't happy and that there must be more to life etc. I was terribly hurt. Since then he hasn't bothered with the children and although he is very well paid it has been ...
A. 13 September 2008: I am sorry you are going through this.
however, you are wasting your time begging him back into your life.
You need time to heal, and find a way to be strong.
For you and your children.
It's hard letting go, but you have to remember, why would ... (read in full...)
Do you think he doesn't want to know?? Should I text again??
Q. Hi all, Im 34 have 2 children and have been seperated from my husband for 3 months. i went out last weekend and met this guy there was instant physical attraction between us. We exchanged numbers and spent all evening together. he is 4 years young...
A. 13 September 2008: All the aunts are right.
Because you slept with him the first night, he only sees you as a booty call. Sorry if it sounds harsh.
Young guys really aren't looking for a relationship,
unfortunately you are going through a separation and it was nice ... (read in full...)
After our first date she said she is going through a bad patch and unable to meet anyone at the moment. How can we progress then?
Q. Hello, I have been in contact -via e-mail- with a lady for the last 6 months. We have also talked over the phone. After six months I asked her whether she would like to meet for a drink. She accepted. It resulted that we share a lot of ...
A. 13 September 2008: the only thing you can do is give her space and time like she needs to heal.
If you push a relationship on her she will resent you because she's not ready. You can be there for her and show her you care, but don't be too available and smot... (read in full...)
My girlfriend turns off her phone when she goes clubbing with her friends. Should I be worried?
Q. This is a question for the girls... My g/f likes to go out clubbing with friends. When she does she usually sends me a text message saying that she'll not be home until the morning. Not a problem, but then she switches off her phone... and tha...
A. 13 September 2008: you might be. It's hard to carry your phone into clubs because girls have no pocket to put them in. And we hate carrying a purse. She probably turns the phone off to save the battery because she knows she's not going to use it soon. It all comes ... (read in full...)
He promised that we could have children together, so I married him. Now he's changed his mind! Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to my husband now for 2 years. He has two children from a previous mirrage, a boy 9 and a girl 13. Prior to our mirrage, I made 100% sure he would want more children with me since he is 20 years my senior. He s...
A. 13 September 2008: To me, this is a dealbreaker.
Having children and being a mother is very important to you and he knew that before he married you.
If he took this away from you, he knows he is taking part of your happiness away. I believe he is being selfish ... (read in full...)
How do I give my ex boyfriend head?
Q. Hiaa.. Well my problem is that i'm really close with my ex-ex-ex boyfriend we havent been together for ages and we have both had a fe relationships since but we have still talked to eachother and anythig we are single at the same time we have ...
A. 12 September 2008: the best way to learn is watch some porn where the woman is giving head to the man. It's better to learn visually than someone write a descript detail that could digust you. : )
Also, buy a lot of Cosmopolitan magazine. They always talk about that... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with this online guy I've known for 3 years? I'm scared...
Q. I met this guy online three years ago we talked ever since but he lived in london which is otherside of england to me. we never met up and havent talked for about 6 months. Today i got a text from him, he is in Leeds for a year and wants to meet up ...
A. 12 September 2008: You definitely SHOULD NOT GO. Your instincts are giving you warning signs and you should listen to them.
But if you do change your mind and really want to meet him,
please protect yourself by telling a trusted adult about your whereabo... (read in full...)
Women only, penis question! Would you be ok with 3 inches?
Q. this is a short and simple question, can a 3 inch penis give a girl a gspot orgasm? and has anyone had sex wit a penis so small? how does it feel?...
A. 12 September 2008: Sex is a learned skill. It takes practice to get better and better.
Don't be too focus on the size and more on how you work it.
if you make a women feel great, she could care less about the size. ... (read in full...)
I just need to learn how to deal with or get over all this once and for all!! Help anyone?!!!
Q. There is this guy that I have been in love with for like forever! But for reasons I really do not want to go into it would simply NEVER be possible for us to be together because of complicated reasons that would have adverse consequences - so simply ...
A. 12 September 2008: If you are feeling this strongly for him, I think you should cancel dinner tonight. The best way to get over someone is distance yourself from them. It's going to be hard if you go tonight, and worse you have to act like your having a great time ... (read in full...)
How do I get the feelings back after my wife had an affair?
Q. My wife confessed to having an affair before we got married. This is 7 years in to our marriage. 20 years after being married she has a couple of affairs. I had no clue. Didn't ask to be told. Over 12 years have past since than and it still effects ...
A. 12 September 2008: you should try marraige counseling.
you obviously lost a lot of trust and respect for her.
You need to work out your problems together, because there is an underlying issue under all this.
women cheat because they are not having their emotio... (read in full...)
| *appygirl's friends
These are mutual friends, so *appygirl has
added them and they have added *appygirl!
|
