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I read his email, found out he cheated and now he says he doesn't trust me!
Q. My boyfriend was away on course for 2 months in a different city. He was drinking a lot, very stressed and meet an old female friend he know 6 years ago on the course. When he arrived home, he very distance too me. My gut told me something happen .I ...
A. 24 November 2010: why would you tell him sorry when he was the one cheating on you? Two and a half years is nothing compared to the rest of your life with this person. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you deserve better than this.
You are settling beca... (read in full...)
I broke up with my GF who has love addiction and now feel sick
Q. Thank you for the wonderful advice from wonderful people like FloridaCatGirl and others for a question I posed a few days ago. I will paste the link to the question at the bottom if you care to read it. I kind of knew what had to be done, I just ...
A. 24 November 2010: We all know how you are feeling. We've all been there. What you need to do is focus on forgetting her and moving on. Going back to that place of wondering what she is doing and who she is with, that is not healthy for you.
You broke up with her ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my GF who has love addiction and now feel sick
Q. Thank you for the wonderful advice from wonderful people like FloridaCatGirl and others for a question I posed a few days ago. I will paste the link to the question at the bottom if you care to read it. I kind of knew what had to be done, I just ...
A. 23 November 2010: We all know how you are feeling. We've all been there. What you need to do is focus on forgetting her and moving on. Going back to that place of wondering what she is doing and who she is with, that is not healthy for you.
You broke up with her ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife with this girl...and now she's giving me a hard time...
Q. Dear All, I am very depressed because i have done a sin. I am married but was on a business trip for 3 months and befriended with a girl. She started loving me and started thinking about our marriage. I didn't tell her that i was already married....
A. 6 November 2010: I agree that once you tell the young girl the truth, you need to cut all contact. No email, phones call, anything.
She needs time away from you to mend her heart so that one day she can find the right man for her. If you keep her in your life, it i... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife with this girl...and now she's giving me a hard time...
Q. Dear All, I am very depressed because i have done a sin. I am married but was on a business trip for 3 months and befriended with a girl. She started loving me and started thinking about our marriage. I didn't tell her that i was already married....
A. 6 November 2010: First, you need to apologize to the young girl. she deserves to know the truth. By changing your number and running away, this does not leave her closure.
As telling your wife, I believe she should know because if this catches up to her and she ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife with this girl...and now she's giving me a hard time...
Q. Dear All, I am very depressed because i have done a sin. I am married but was on a business trip for 3 months and befriended with a girl. She started loving me and started thinking about our marriage. I didn't tell her that i was already married....
A. 6 November 2010: I hope you learn from this. It sounds like in your post that you don't care about this girl. You are more worried if it is traced back to you and you get caught and get in trouble with your wife, or maybe the law.
I feel bad for the girl in what... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with my husband?
Q. So, my husband and I are separated, due to me finding out he cheated on me. I asked him to move out, and he rented an apartment, and let the OW move in with him (along with her 3 girls she will be getting custody of in a couple months). After a few ...
A. 15 June 2010: Please don't take him back. I can tell by reading
your post that you ate a caring,
loving, and forgiving woman.
However, this man has done you wrong
and you need to cut him loose. No matter
how much it hurts and no matter how
much you love ... (read in full...)
Lonely married military guy
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married now for 9 years and I'm not happy with the intimacy in my marriage. I feel my wife is being very resistant to improving our relationship. Our relationship was passionate and giving, on both sides. Even after a...
A. 7 June 2010: You are in the military so I'm sure you can find
some marraige councelors to help you work
through the issues. Marraige is hard work and
being deployed put another amount of
stress. Lack of sex is always an indicator
of problems in a marrai... (read in full...)
My heart says to meet with her and discuss it, my head says run for the hills.
Q. I have been dating a lady for about nine months, and we both agreed at the outset that this would be an exclusive relationship. I am just out of a marriage that lasted 26 years, and she has been divorced for 2 years after a marriage of 30 years. ...
A. 3 June 2010: I think you are being too nice in thus situation.
You are not listening to your head and letting her have her way because
of the love you have for her. I think you should run for the hill to protect you heart. I don't want you to get hurt and I fe... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 3 June 2010: Omg!! You don't get it!!!! You don't need to tell him!!! That means you are contacting him!!!! I'm starting to feel like you are so attached to him you can't let go. I'm done posting because you are being so stubborn!! LET Go!!!! He doesn't love ... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 26 May 2010: Being alone is good. It let's you spend time with yourself
and it's obvious that this is what you are running away from.
Facing yourself. It's much easier to hurt and play victim and all this
but you need to reflect.
We are all afraid to look o... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 19 May 2010: I disagree with the online dating.
Having a rebound relationship will only make it worse.
I am going to be brutally honest, but you are part of the problem if you don't walk away. It's over.
End all contact. So what if he text. he can say what... (read in full...)
Is going out on a date while in a relationship cheating?
Q. My boyfriend thinks that dating other women is not cheating,but I think it is cheating. Is going out on a date while in a relationship cheating? Both male and female's opinion's is appreciated. ...
A. 16 May 2010: Of course it's cheating, but since your boyfriend does not think it's cheating. I say you go on dates with other guys.
Only then will he know how it feels.
Two wrongs don't make a right but in this case, a piece of his own medicine won't hurt. ... (read in full...)
Should I just settle for the kid?
Q. My ex and I are having a baby. She's 11 weeks gone. Now she doesn't want to get back with me at all and I recently found out that when we were together she had cheated on me. I'm so stuck I don't know what to do, do I forgive her and hope we can w...
A. 16 May 2010: Why do you want to be with someone that cheated on you?
Your responsibility is only to that child, if that is your child.
What you need to do is get a paternity test, and if it's yours
pay child support and request visitation.
Have boundrie... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 16 May 2010: It seems to me that it's you that's waiting for him to give closure but the truth is you are never going to get it from him because he he wants to keep you around for his own selfishnish. What you need to do is create your own closure. Change... (read in full...)
How can I win his heart back?
Q. Ok my ex broke up w me a few wks ago, because he said he didnt love me anymore. We were together for about 10 mths, im currently 7mths pregnant. We argued alot and broke up several times during our relationship but we really loved each other. ...
A. 12 May 2010: why do you want to win someone back who doesn't love you?
I know you are very vunerable and emotional now, but you have to be strong for you and your baby.
You can create a better life for both of your without him.
Don't be afraid that no one ... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 12 May 2010: The problem is you are trying to change and mold yourslef to his dream girl. You have given away all your power as a woman and he does not respect you. You think by doing more he will appreciate you, but that's not how it works.
You should than... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a gang member and the girls are passed around..is he cheating on me?
Q. hi =) Im madly in love with my boyfriend, he's just about everything i've ever wanted in a guy, he's my life. And he tells me the same, it seems like he does.He treats me better than anyone ever has, he calls me his "KWEEN" and treats me like 1... ...
A. 9 May 2010: Let me save you a lifetime of heartache and regret.
Please leave this guy. He is no good for you.
I am 35 and have once been 18 and in your shoes.
I was attracted to the bad boys who I thought needed "saving".
Let me quote everything you... (read in full...)
How can he be so selfish? We only just broke up and he's already hanging out with girls!
Q. How is he so selfish? We seriously JUST broke up,he JUST dumped me. And he is already hanging out with girls. How do I know this? Facebook..I know I should stop looking,but I can't help it. We were together for over a year,I can't just shut him out ...
A. 5 May 2010: He had a head start in getting over you because he knew he was going to end it. So by the time he ended things, you were in shock while he felt he was allowed to move on because he wasn't tied down anymore.
As much as it hurts, you have to dele... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to get rid of all my pictures and letters from my former girlfriend who died in my arms, is she in the wrong here?
Q. I have been dating a young woman for a few months. She is very sweet and I care very much for her. She came over to my apartment when I wasn't home yesterday and my room mate let her in. She went into my room and found an old year book I had ...
A. 5 May 2010: If you want to keep the pictures, then you should have that right. No girlfriend should come in and tell you what to do. If anything, she should be compassionate and sensitive to your situation. I feel she is insecure and needs to understand that ... (read in full...)
Why won't he call me his girlfriend?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 months. It's not normal dating....we are together 4 to 5 nights a week. He has met my family, I have met his, he has come to work functions with me, he is talking vacations in 5 months....yet he will not label me ...
A. 4 May 2010: I agree with Caring guy. Its new and he wants to make sure a 100% before he goes to that next level with you.
Just because you're pace is faster doesn't mean he should speed up his to catch up with you.
I say enjoy your time together. If he doesn... (read in full...)
I discovered something worrying on his computer
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three and a half years and we love each other very much. I have a problem of snooping his computer from time to time - I am too curious for my own good - but I have managed to all but stop myself ...
A. 4 May 2010: I don't think you are curious.
I think you are nosy and insecure.
You're boyfriend has given you no reason not to trust him
and you are going in his personal space making a mountain out of molehill.
You mention you were fine with both, and n... (read in full...)
I'm secretly seeing my ex and falling in love with him again
Q. i am in a relationship wih this guy and i really like him we started dating after me and my ex broke up because my ex cheated on me and had 2 kids by 2 different girls during our relationship. the only thing is i have been secrectly seeing my ex ...
A. 4 May 2010: You are messing with fire.
Go ahead and touch it, but you will get burned.
You are only asking for trouble getting involved with your ex. I bet you are bored in your current relationship and looking for some excitement. Well, look elsewher... (read in full...)
My love has ADHD. What are all the things I may need to know to ensure our relationship stays healthy?
Q. Allo! My girlfriend and I have been together for...ah...whoa...21 months, that's nearly 2 years, lol, neither of us realized. I'm 18, she turns 19 in a couple of months and we seem, well, absolutely fine. We'd like to hold on to our relations...
A. 13 April 2010: i live with ADHD and that is the cause of the end of my 13 year relationship. Sometimes it feels like i am a coke bottle being shaken and I have to do something to release it. my mind is all over the place and it sometimes difficult to function I ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy being unfaithful to my boyfriend but I cant stop seeing my cousin!
Q. Hi All, I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for eight years and we have a daughter who is three years old. I am comfortable with my life with my boyfriend and I do care for him, however I am not in love with him. Recently...
A. 13 April 2010: this is for the original poster.
First off, I do not want to judge you and feel for you for the situation you've gotten yourself in.
I honestly think you are just confuse.
You've been with your boyfriend so long, and things have gotten borin... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy being unfaithful to my boyfriend but I cant stop seeing my cousin!
Q. Hi All, I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for eight years and we have a daughter who is three years old. I am comfortable with my life with my boyfriend and I do care for him, however I am not in love with him. Recently...
A. 13 April 2010: this is for the original poster.
First off, I do not want to judge you and feel for you for the situation you've gotten yourself in.
I honestly think you are just confuse.
You've been with your boyfriend so long, and things have gotten borin... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to let go of a person who's not treating you right?
Q. im stuck in one of the worst situations ever. i think im in love with this man who doesnt care at all about me. all he wants is sex and because i care about him, i neva minded. but now im so hurt, to a point where i cant do anything but cry. i want ...
A. 21 November 2009: There's nothing wrong with being alone.
Being single doesn't mean you are undesirable.
This is a time to refect and get to know yourself
again. Learn from your last relationship so you
don't repeat the same mistake.
It is hard at the beginnin... (read in full...)
Are my parents doing the right thing?
Q. Hello. My mum and dad are currently breaking up, although I have the feeling that they shouldn't be. Basically, my dad gave up smoking a year and a half back, but his job has gotten really stressfull. My mum had this happen two times before and...
A. 26 October 2009: Divorce is a painful and tough thing.
but it looks like your parents have gotten to the point where they do not respect or love each other.
Your mom cheated and your dad probably holds a lot of resentment.
Communication is broken.
Sometimes par... (read in full...)
Let's Talk About The Problem With Nice Guys!
Q. "I was so nice to her but now she's going out with someone else!" "Women don't really want nice guys, they want assholes." "He never even noticed all the wonderful things I did for him!" If you've ever said any of these things, you might be a ...
A. 22 October 2009: I was a nice girl. I didn't see my wrong way until my husband left me. It was the most painful experience of my life but then I learned so much from it.
I had no boundries and was a doormat.
After 2 years of being completely alone, I learn to... (read in full...)
He is deeply spiritual and senses spirits around him. Should I stay away?
Q. Hello Advice please asap Ive met a great guy online and plan to meet me him on Sunday. He is deeply deeply spiritual, says he feels things, knows things, senses spirits and that he feels them around him all the the time.... His mother was...
A. 22 October 2009: I have a friend who is an exact description like you describe. Some people are more in touch to a different vibration and can sense/ talk to spirit.
I do believe there are some people with this gift. However,
what I don't believe is what Older Si... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to let go of a person who's not treating you right?
Q. im stuck in one of the worst situations ever. i think im in love with this man who doesnt care at all about me. all he wants is sex and because i care about him, i neva minded. but now im so hurt, to a point where i cant do anything but cry. i want ...
A. 20 October 2009: i agree with Caring Guy cause I've been there and done that.
I put up with so much crap from my ex, and only when I got out did I realize my self esteem was down in the gutter.
Love yourself enough to know that you deserve so much better. ... (read in full...)
Is this how "Grown Up" relationships work?
Q. Hi :) i'm Trixie and im 16 (17 in a few days!!) Basically I have started this "relationship" with a really great guy who is 20. The thing is we have been acting like boyfriend and girlfriend for about... 5 weeks now, although were not going out. No...
A. 20 October 2009: he definitely has one thing on his mind, and it's not to get you to be his girlfriend.
I'm pretty sure he's thinking up ways to get you in his bed, and fantisizing having sex with you.
In America it is illegal to for a 20year old to have sex with... (read in full...)
How do I convince my friend that he shouldnt take this girl back as she is holding him back from finding the girl he deserves!
Q. Well, i have a friend who met this girl about a year ago. When he met her she had a boyfriend but he was only trying to be her friend at first but then he started liking her. They ended up getting really close and the girl started liking him as ...
A. 20 October 2009: love is blind and your BF loves this girl. He doesn't want to let her go because he cares deeply for this girl.
From outside looking in, it's obvious that this girl is using him as a safety net. She doesn't want to be alone and knows that your BF w... (read in full...)
10 Things that Women should never allow any Man to talk her into...
Q. Men can be pretty persuasive. They've been known to talk women into almost every poor situation imaginable under the disguise of love. If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times that when a man starts a sentence with "If you love me", what ...
A. 18 October 2009: thank you for this great article. You are absolutely 100% correct. As a single women, sometimes I am hesitant to carry a condom on me at all times, thinking the men might think i'm slutty or whatever, but now, I will always have it with me. My ... (read in full...)
How do I get this happily married man to notice me?
Q. i like this guy,but he is married and happy.i see him once every fortnight at work.what shoul i do for he notice me,please?...
A. 18 October 2009: I question why you are interested in a married man.
why you want attention from him. Is it the challenge?
So what happens if you get him... will you dump him because the fun is over?
What about his Wife?
I don't know what is going on in your... (read in full...)
Do lack of actions show lack of care?
Q. I have a question, if someone that claims he loves you but then never calls, writes, or does anything to initiate contact, do you back off???? Very confused and told that it is your not believing in the love or trusting that is the fault. But ...
A. 18 October 2009: Forget what he says. Look at his action. If he is not calling you and showing interest, most likely he "just not into you".
You need to move on. He is dangling a carrot in front of you, so don't chase it.
Men who care and love you will jump hoo... (read in full...)
I don't want to be in this relationship any longer, what should I do?
Q. What should i do? I have been in a relationship for 3 years and out of the 3 most of it has been arguments over me cheating. I have not cheated and stayed true through out the relationship, now its to the point where i dont wanna be in this anymore. ...
A. 18 October 2009: You are your own person, and if this person is not a right fit for you, then you have to do what's best and that is to end it. Break ups are hard, but the pain of prolonging a doomed relationship is even worse.
Just calmly sit her down and say I do... (read in full...)
I just can't be with him anymore. How can I get him out of my head?
Q. I need to move on and I know that. The man I was seeing (fallen in love with) was separated and going through a divorce. He asked me out and I accepted and we had the most fantastic 5 months together. His ex started threatening to move away with ...
A. 6 October 2009: You are doing the right thing by walking away. You have to protect yourself and your heart. He is not in the right state of mind to give you what you need.
Of course you will miss him, but in time you will forget and move on. Keep yourself busy... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: To clear things up. I am not with the married man anymore.
i felt guilty being the other woman, but it does come down to your own moral values. What do you believe in.
I think most people are hurt because the trust and honestly is broken..... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single ... (read in full...)
Have you cheated or been cheated on?
Q. I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?...
A. 14 July 2009: to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single ... (read in full...)
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