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How long did it take for you to be ready to talk to your ex again?
Q. So, my ex (who was also my best friend for four years) and I broke up almost four months ago (after six months as a couple), and I find myself missing her these days. She tried calling me a couple times last week after not having spoken to one ...
A. 16 February 2009: no it doesn't make you petty or immature. You have every right to move on with your life. The damage is done and the trust is gone. In time you will heal. That is what life is about. You are going to meet new ..more people and sometimes we have to ... (read in full...)
I never wanted a relationship with him! Why do I feel this way?
Q. My "friend with benefits" recently told me that he had met someone who he thinks he could have a future with and doesn't want to mess it up by fooling around with me. Initially I was happy for him and dropped the "benefits" part of our friendship ...
A. 16 February 2009: You probably didn't want a relationship with him because you are commitment phobe, or you just wasn't ready.
But for him to be your FWB, you obviously had to have feelings or a little bit of attraction for him. He might not have all the qual... (read in full...)
Need some advice for my mess and his cheating......
Q. Can you advice me? I am at the breaking point cos I don't know what else I can do. Let me explain it to you. I am a deaf mum of 1 kid and live with my hearing partner of 4 years. We are in mid 30's. Since I discovered that he's been cheating on me ...
A. 16 February 2009: with all the info you've mention, it does look like your man is cheating on you. The problem is you have more control and power than you think. Because you love him so much you've given up all your power to him. So he knows he can do this because he ... (read in full...)
What does becoming redundant mean?
Q. What Does becoming redundant mean. I guess I am a uninformed American (I was going to say Stupid...but I'm not) I think I know what it means but not sure. I have asked the question in one of my answers to someone else, but haven't heard back. I...
A. 15 February 2009: dictionary.com is very useful... (read in full...)
Confused, don't know what to think or do!!!
Q. my boyfriend of 6 years and my sons dad finished our relationship yesterday, i thought it was him havin one of his moods but today he has told me its over for good, and even told his mam and dad and asked them if he can move back home. they said no ...
A. 14 February 2009: i don't know how old you are but i'm guessing around 21 and you met him at 15. So he's your first love.
You don't want to lose your first love. But it doesn't matter if you "fight" for him. His heart is not in it anymore and there's nothing you can ... (read in full...)
Confused, don't know what to think or do!!!
Q. my boyfriend of 6 years and my sons dad finished our relationship yesterday, i thought it was him havin one of his moods but today he has told me its over for good, and even told his mam and dad and asked them if he can move back home. they said no ...
A. 14 February 2009: i think its because he is still young and he wants to do much more with his life. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you. He will always love you and care for you and your son but he wants to go out there and be on his own.
As much as it hurt... (read in full...)
I found a text on his phone telling his ex he loved her...
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months now and we're really happy together, there's just one thing that upsets me. He's always texting his ex, and I know I shouldn't mind as everyone tells me she's his ex for a reason but it just really ...
A. 14 February 2009: You have every right to feel how your feeling. It is obvious that your bf is not over his ex. This is what you do...you don't talk to him about it. You leave him and you tell him, "when you can decide who is your girlfriend and that you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't care...!!!
Q. Today is valentines day.... and he hasn't even called me or sent me nothing! ...
A. 14 February 2009: Its only 11am east coast time. its still so early.
i say at least wait til the day is over before getting so upset. Do not say or bring anything up.
if he hasn't even called to wish you a Valentines Day by tommorrow I say ignore him and move on ... (read in full...)
Am I deluded here???
Q. Hi people, I'm a 26 year old guy, and thought I'd write here to get some advice on my relationship with my girlfriend (23) of 6 years. During this time together, we have had our ups and downs, and as most couples do, broken up to make up again. U...
A. 14 February 2009: give her her space. You cannot put a time limit to how she feels. You just have to take the chance of her ending it, then its something you have to accept. But honestly, by you pushing the situation and not giving her time to think, you are being ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating..what else could it be?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our early/mid thirties and have been in a long distance relationship for 18 months. I have nagging doubts that something is amiss. The first time was 7 months ago when I spent ages waiting for him whilst he went to buy t...
A. 13 February 2009: long distance is very hard.Most likely your instincts are correct. the thing is even if you confront him, he might not fess up. But it looks like he is slowly trying to end things by creating the distance. the best thing to do now is not call him ... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 13 February 2009: dude here's the deal. I have the same luck with men. Then i realize it is a pattern and YES it is ME!! why?? because i am attracted to and attracting these type of people in my life. the kind that are heartbreakers, bad boys..ect.
in your case... (read in full...)
His ex wife is back on the scene...
Q. I married a wonderful man 3 years ago. He has a heart of gold and is very, very good to me. My concern is his ex-wife. All of a sudden she has started to show up at my husband's family events. This past christmas she showed up at the family party. ...
A. 13 February 2009: She comes to make a scene and to get a reaction from you guys. If you stop coming then she knows she won.
why give up your family to her. I first ask your family not to invite her. but then she might come uninvited.
I say who cares. He's with you... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 13 February 2009: it work both ways. men are the same way. playing mind games and all. It all comes down to being with someone exciting and lighting your fire. We don't want to be bored. and the men don't want a boring women either. we all like challenges in life and ... (read in full...)
Single on V-day..go out? or stay in?
Q. what are you singles doing on valentines day/night? i used to hate valentines day when i was single, but now i am kind of excited, as i keep thinking there will surly be nice single guys out in the evening to have some fun with. will you singles...
A. 13 February 2009: i'm watching "He's just not into you" with my good friend. ... (read in full...)
Is he protecting me from him? Or is he playing me?
Q. I am an 18 year old collage student. My friends consider me good looking and even knowing me do not believe that I am a virgin at times. I have everything, and everything that a teenage girl could want...except a serious relationship, I fear ...
A. 13 February 2009: This guys wants to have sex with you. He likes you in that way, and if he is a past player than you are a challenge to him. However, it seems like it's gotten too hard ...meaning he has to work too hard to get you into bed and he's given up. OR...he ... (read in full...)
Why am I so intent on hurting the only man I love?
Q. I'm awful. Morally bankrupt. I feel disgusted with myself to even admit this to anyone, let alone me. I've been with my partner for three years now, and love him with all my heart.We're soulmates and best friends. However during the three years ...
A. 13 February 2009: you are hurting yourself more than you are hurting him.
You can't stop because you need thes men to fill a void that only you can fill.
These men aren't going to love you but still you crave their warmth and closeness..even for a day.
I think... (read in full...)
What shall I text back to this guy?
Q. I've just text this guy which has shown ALOT of interest over the past month. Weve bumped into each other two times and got on REALLLY well :) and hes always said sweet things like hopefully il seen you soon your really pretty we should go cin...
A. 13 February 2009: guys like to chase girls...by you chasing him and asking him out you take the fun out for him. I say stop thinking about him and wait for him to ask you out. ... (read in full...)
How long did it take for you to be ready to talk to your ex again?
Q. So, my ex (who was also my best friend for four years) and I broke up almost four months ago (after six months as a couple), and I find myself missing her these days. She tried calling me a couple times last week after not having spoken to one ...
A. 12 February 2009: It's funny you ask this question. My ex (first love) made contact again (thanks facebook) after not having contact for 13 years. We talked on the phone, and it turns out he was mad that our relationship ended and didn't want anything to do with me. ... (read in full...)
I have to stay with my GF because she's pregnant, but I think I may be gay...
Q. help me please! im totally confused about my sexuality. im in a relationship for a year and half with a girl. iv been having sex with her for about 7 months and im 21. around 2 years before i met her i was in a relationship with a girl and lo...
A. 12 February 2009: hmm...if you think of men's body part then i guess that you are attracted to the same sex. There is nothing wrong with that. Do you see yourself looking at other men and finding them sexy or do they turn you on. Maybe you do love guys but are in ... (read in full...)
He's a great boyfriend but he has no motivation!
Q. I am 27 years old and my boyfriend is the same age. We have been dating almost two years. We laugh, have great chemistry, share some common interests and get along great with eachother's friends and family. The problem is that he has very little ...
A. 12 February 2009: I hate to tell you but this could be a deal breaker.
If you married this guy this is what you're going to get and he's not going to change anytime soon. If you are okay with supporting him, being the breadwinner, then go for it.
But if you abso... (read in full...)
I made a bad choice when I was younger, and now it's affecting my relationship.
Q. When I was 16, I was crazy about this boy in school. For years I dreamed of returning the feelings, and even though we were good friends, I knew he didn't feel the same way... until I had a party and he kissed me. But next thing i know, I ended up ...
A. 12 February 2009: I disagree with Dr.John's answer about telling your current boyfriend. This has nothing to do with him and there's nothing he can do about it. So why indulge him that information. What you have to do is forgive yourself.
You made a mistake that... (read in full...)
I feel so unappreciated by my husband...
Q. My husband and I have been married for six years and have two children together (6 with adhd and 2), however most of the time I feel like I am a single mother. He never does anything but sleep. He'll stay up until five o' clock in the morning ...
A. 12 February 2009: Stop talking with words and do action. Don't tell him what your about to do but just stop nagging him. it doesn't work. Stop cooking for him, stop cleaning for him. Basically ignore him and let him do his own thing. just cook and take care of the ... (read in full...)
Do you divorce your spouse when you're still in love with him?
Q. My husband and I are going through a divorce after being together for 15 years. We have a beautiful little boy that means the world to us but our relationship has been an uphill battle from the start. I've been the bread winner for the family i...
A. 12 February 2009: I get the feeling that he's been getting away with murder is because you've been letting him.
you do everything around the house and it feels like you're taking care of two kids.
I say stop babying him and give him a change to grow up and be a... (read in full...)
How will I really know that our relationship is over?
Q. How will I know that our relationship is over? We've been together for 8 years now 2 years ago I left the country to work broad next year is our plan to get married. Little by little I feel like he doesn't sound interesting in listening to my ...
A. 12 February 2009: i say let it go. Its not meant to be. If he really really love you then he would have waited and no other woman would have stood in the way. If you change your life around and will do anything for him, he will know this and have an upper hand in the ... (read in full...)
Would you date a girl with this sexual past?
Q. She is perfect in looks for you, perfect in personality for you! She is 21 years old (just imagine that is the perfect age for you lol), KNOW 100% she would never cheat on you, EVERYTHING is perfect for you. But..... She lost her virginity at 14...
A. 11 February 2009: You should want to be with her because you like her and want to be with her. don't judge her on her sexual past.
If you have a problem with it, don't be with her.
If it doesn't bother you, go for it.
She is probably looking for love and still eq... (read in full...)
How many sleeping partner have you had
Q. Hi im doing a survey about how many sleeping partners (vaginal or anal) you or anyone you know, GF/BF etc, has had? Plz also state how sure you are of yours and your partners number! Plz be honest as there's no need to lie because you can just put...
A. 10 February 2009: i'm 33, and my last count is 7
I'm trying to keep the numbers as low as possible. my aim is no more then ten ..haha... (read in full...)
Afraid of making the wrong choice!
Q. Torn between two men and I can't decide. One is patient, kind, buys me lots of nice things and treats me well. But I'm not really attracted to him. He is very quiet, and I don't feel close to him; I don't feel lik I really know him even after many ...
A. 10 February 2009: I did not read in the post that you were married to either one. So i am quite confuse by mothermother's answer.
While I was reading your post, something struck me. You are a lot like me. We like bad boys. The ones with the edge, the fun, crazy on... (read in full...)
Guy treated me horribly now how do I move on?
Q. How do I get over this guy? Its impossible! Long story short, I met this guy 2 years ago and we started off as friends who developed into more. He told me he liked me, we hung out and texted nonstop, leading me to believe we were headed for a rel...
A. 10 February 2009: Tell him to leave you alone. Then change your number, cancel your facebook. make it impossible for him to reach you. This is the hardest thing you will do because a part of you care so much and want him so bad. But you have to face the fact that he ... (read in full...)
Why does he say he wants to meet up and then never shows up?
Q. So I live with my boyfriend of a few years and we get along pretty well. But he has this thing were he will say or text me to meet for dinner or meet at the supermarket or tell me he will be home for dinner in 15 min.....things like that but then ...
A. 10 February 2009: this is what you do: Don't "talk to him about it".
what you do is play the game back at him. Don't make a big deal out of it, don't say anything. Next time he says he'll be home 15 mins.. you pick up your purse and go to the movies or a frie... (read in full...)
He cheated! Does he still love me?
Q. I think my husband don't love me any more, he was unfaithful to me, he don't touch me he don't hug me, when I ask him if he still loves me he said yes but I don't really know, I just get a baby, my husband said to me he's sorry for what he done to ...
A. 10 February 2009: trust your instinct. Your husband does not love you anymore. He will never have the guts to tell you.
and i doubt he will leave you because you have a baby together and he wants to be responsible. He's just bored and want to have some fun but stil... (read in full...)
Should I put up with his moods to prove that I care, or just move on?
Q. I met this totally awesome guy a couple weeks ago. We go out or just hang out at his place. We have so much in common it's crazy. I've never believed in the soul mate thing till I met him. Everything was fine. He told me he was falling in love with ...
A. 10 February 2009: I just had a guy look me in the eyes tell me "he loves me"
then... got drunk and messed with w/another girl in the next room. Us girls want to find an explanation because things don't add up or make sense. But when it comes down to it, you look at t... (read in full...)
I have a dilemma... Uh oh!
Q. I'm going to try and make this as short as possible. I have known this girl for about three years now. I first met her through a party at her mom's house, we instantly became great friends. We "did it" quite a few times back in that time. ...
A. 9 February 2009: well she is going through a tough time and needing all the help she can get. The question is are you willing to help her as a friend and not have any expectation of her falling in love with you? she already told you she doesn't like you in that way. ... (read in full...)
Should I be dating him before we have sex?
Q. So me and and my ex have been talking about having sex and and all that stuff and and i love him very much so i know it would not be a mistake if i did it but i have one question should i be dating him before we do...
A. 9 February 2009: Okay. So you are 15 and think that we are all old farts who don't know what we are talking about.
The truth is we do because we've all been in your shoes.
Here's the thing.. You are obviously still so in love with this guy. and you didn't say that... (read in full...)
Should I put up with his moods to prove that I care, or just move on?
Q. I met this totally awesome guy a couple weeks ago. We go out or just hang out at his place. We have so much in common it's crazy. I've never believed in the soul mate thing till I met him. Everything was fine. He told me he was falling in love with ...
A. 9 February 2009: I hate to tell you but if you read your post, you gave sex to him only after a couple of weeks of knowing him.
He told you he was "falling in love" with you after having sex. C'mon. you should know by now that men will say whatever they can to get ... (read in full...)
Why won't he stop making contact with his ex?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me twice with the same girl, we broke up after the second cheating occurred.He dated her for three years. they broke up after a big fight. then we ended up getting back together. How do learn to trust him. he still make ...
A. 9 February 2009: sorry to tell you but you can't make him stop contacting her. I think he loves her more than you. He is disrespecting you and the relationship.
By you taking him back after you knew he cheated on you with this girl... he knows that you will alwa... (read in full...)
He left and now he wants me back.. should I trust him?
Q. My ex and I have been together off and on for four years. We split in September because he believed there were some things he needed to do for himself. The only reason in the past for splitting was because he always was confused or had issues to ...
A. 5 February 2009: move on. you broke up for a reason. Look ahead don't look back. trust your gut instinct. You are too young, too sexy, too beautiful to tolerate anything less.
the world is big and you should date and see what's out there. You won't regret it. ... (read in full...)
I'm really confused and unsure If I'm being walked all over.
Q. Hello all ! I'm going through a bit of a confusing time regarding my relationship with my boyfriend. First of all I'm gay, but it shouldn't have any bearing on my dilemma. I know that you guys and girls give good advice cos I've seen it before! ...
A. 24 January 2009: sometimes when you love a person so much, you are blinded by all the bullcrap they throw your way. You justify it and get in denial mode. You put up with it and next thing you know, they see this as a weakness and push the boundries further and ... (read in full...)
I badly need some guy advice please.
Q. A question for the men out there. My husband cheated on me 3 times that I know of. Anyway the last one got "under his skin" for some reason. He felt or thought that he loved her. He says that thru everything that has happened he has always loved ...
A. 24 January 2009: basically he knows that if he cheat, you will put up with it and he can get away with it. He will always love you because you share history together, but the truth is he thinks you will never leave him so he's basically getting his cake and eating ... (read in full...)
What does "wearing your heart on your sleeve" mean?
Q. Hey there Am justing getting to know a guy off the internet and he seems really lovely and funny. We were talking about relationships etc and he says he seems to get trampled on cos he wears his heart on his sleeve... what does that exactly mea...
A. 22 January 2009: People who wear their heart on their sleeve means that they show their emotions and feelings and do not hide it.
A lot of people put up their guards and will not show their feelings to protect themselve.
I use to wear my heart on my sleeve b... (read in full...)
He was hot, but now running cold
Q. He was full on to begin with and was really into me and the situation then he backed off because he was confused with what he wants. i have fallen for him big time and dont know what to do! Any tips?...
A. 22 January 2009: they are all like that. They love the thrill of the chase, and once they know you are hooked they run. Some guys just love to play the game. Its a challenge for them. Best thing to do is back off like you don't care or notice.
Act indifferent, go b... (read in full...)
I don't want to mess everything up like I did last time.
Q. Hey everyone, I need as much advice as I can get please! Basically, ages ago I wrote about a stupid thing I did (met a boy on the internet, fell in love but I was using pics of some random gorgeous girl instead of myself) I deceived him and went to ...
A. 22 January 2009: I've seen some of the ugliest girl snag the hottest guys out there. When it comes down to it, it's all about who you are on the inside and if you are confident in who you are. You made yourself believe that you are not good enough for this guy and ... (read in full...)
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