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*aelmac
writes:I have been on a few dates with this girl and we have been talking for weeks. We started to get close and very much enjoyed spending our time together. I ended up spending the night last weekend. We did not do anything. The next day she was weird and later informed me that it got too real for her and she is not ready for the dating/relationship area because it made her realize she is not yet able to let go of her last relationship. It lasted nearly 3 years and ended about 3 months ago. I really really like this girl and am not sure what steps to take here? Reply to this Question
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (8 December 2008):
 I am in the same exact shoes she is in.
the only way is to give her the space that she ask for. Continue to date other girls and be there for her when she comes to you but take it very very slow.
Let her come to the conclusion alone that she miss you and want to be with you. Don't force it on her because that will scare her off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): If you want to be her friend, only her friend, see if that is something she can handle right now. I'm in the same place she is, newly out of a relationship 2 months ago, and can't even begin to think about another one yet. People need to properly grieve one relationship's end in order to begin a healthy relationship with another, and if she were to continue with you, you very well may become a rebound. You don't want that to happen, because it will not end well for you. Keep dating others in the meantime, and maybe something in the future can happen between you. Good luck!
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