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| | Deema's profile:I'm a 58 year old woman, and though I'm very wary of saying it cos when I do something else comes and smacks me right in the face, but I have seen a lot of things in my time. I'm the mum of 2 lovely girls, who live together in London. We don't see each other often cos I brought them up to be independent - and so they are - serves me right (lol). But I'd rather it that way than needy, dependent, kids. I'm married to a man much younger than me now and our road is not easy - different culture, different age etc etc, but we keep trying. I've survived breast cancer, a family full of alcoholics and the abuse that comes with that, and a whole host of other stuff too long to list here. I'm into anything spiritual, am clairvoyant and a healer, and I feel I do most of my healing work when I'm speaking with people, hence the fact that I'm now in the process of training to be a Life Coach. I love anything that is outrageous and different, love travelling the world, have a constant need for new things and stimulation, and I'm fun. Yes I am, I know I am. I'll try anything once, and that has not changed with age, if anything I've got bigger and bolder at what I do, hence the young husband now probably (lovl). So thats me. And just like you I come on here with problems that I hope others will at least understand, and I get comfort from hearing mens points of view because as a woman sometimes I just don't get it, but I like the empathy of women too, as we understand each other very well. So pleased to meet you. Love and blessings. Thanks for reading this. |
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Is douching unsafe?
Q. What happens after sex, I mean should you wash or is going to the toilet ok. I am never to sure when people say you should douche after sex, I have heard that douching to much can cause UTIs....
A. 15 November 2009: Well as a lady with a husband from a different culture where they HAVE to shower after sex or the kingdom of hell will fall on their heads - or something like that :))) - personally I think for your own sake you need to pee, clean up the area even ... (read in full...)
How can I help him with this depression?
Q. Hi im 18 and I need some advice as to how i can help my boyfriend. For the last 2 weeks my boyfriend has changed. i think he is experiencing depression - i come to this conclusion as i have depression myself and i have been learning about it in my ...
A. 15 November 2009: Don't even try love. He needs a Dorctors help and possibly some counselling. Don't put yourself in the place of 'rescuer'. Its not a good place to go - you will spend the rest of your life rescuing him - trust me I've been there. Until you let ... (read in full...)
Should I accept?
Q. Hi this is the first time i am writing here. Well, i am in relationship many years. It seems serious. We had said, when i finish my studies to get engaged. But after the years i rethink again and again if this man is my best choice. A)He is from ...
A. 15 November 2009: Hi honey. I can see you have a huuuuuge culture difference there, and that alone is not easy. I too am married to a man from a different culture and you kind of have to teach them and train them in your culture, as well as respecting theirs. And ... (read in full...)
No strings attached??
Q. How does a guy feel when a girl tells them that she wants no commitment no strings attached, nothing just someone she can have fun with?...
A. 15 November 2009: It's an odd question. Are you asking because that happened to you and you don't know how to feel, or are you asking because thats what you want to do? In which case why are you so worried about putting that idea to someone if you think its right ... (read in full...)
Can I ever find happiness again in life while I am still in this marriage?
Q. Been married for close to 12 years with 3 lovely girls. My husband is an orphan,he had nothing when we got married, i worked so hard to build our marriage, 3 years ago he started behaving funny, between 2006 and late last year he had slept with 4 ...
A. 13 November 2009: Oh dear, what a sad story. I have to be blunt here, there's no gentle way to say it 'Get out, and get out fast'. He only continues to hurt you, and he will never change. If it's not you he's doing it to it will be someone else. You are worth so ... (read in full...)
I'm really paranoid thinking that she is cheating one me!
Q. Now this is a tough one. Me and my partner have been on and off for 4 years. I love her more than anything and I wish she felt the same but she has said that she doesnt. I cheated on her for 2 months but never had sex with this girl, I had ...
A. 13 November 2009: Don't mean this nastily, but isn't it wierd that you cheated on her in the first place and now its YOU who is paranoid about what SHE'S doing. Is that because of what you did? It seems that reading between the lines, you are now scared because of ... (read in full...)
Our kids sleep with us... how can I tell my wife I think it should now stop?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a great relationship, We have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and an 8 month old son, my wife still exclusively breastfeeds our son and our daugther still nurses before bed and during the night. ...
A. 30 October 2009: Isn't it strange how its so hard to talk to those nearest and dearest to us? You'd think they'd be the easiest, but we are sooooo afraid of hurting them. Well I think you are great, very patient and very kind, and I think she's a real earth mother ... (read in full...)
Having a partner is not everything but I don't really want to spend the rest of my life on my own, any helpful advice would be so appreciated
Q. I split up from my partner in september because he cheated on me, it was the most painful time, emotionally and financially, i,m now starting to get on my feet at last and i can tell you, it hasn't been easy as i did love him to bits and i thought ...
A. 30 October 2009: So pleased for you. You see when you go for the one who isn't your'type' how much better it turns out to be. I tell my daughters now that when they see a man they know is their type - run. Cus it means they are just gonna go round and round in ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my guy that I'm having my period today, without totally ruining the mood?
Q. I've been out with a man about 6 times over the course of about a month. The first 2 or 3 dates I thought he was strange and weird looking (sorry, just being honest here) but for whatever reason, kept wanting to see him again. The last few time...
A. 9 April 2009: Well, from experience, I never invited someone in the house unless I felt really comfortable about them being there and knew that I could trust them. If you live on your own, you could have an axe murderer or a stalker on your hands, so you have to ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 3 April 2009: This answer is soooo long overdue, but I haven't been on here for some time. You are so right - it is like a drug - we want to go back and back for more - its a very hard pattern to break. We only see the good in them, not the pain and abuse they ... (read in full...)
Happy New Year to all!
Q. Happy New Year to all those who post on here, aunts or otherwise. May this year bring us all love, luck and happiness, and if not then enough alcohol so we don't care :)))))). Love and blessings to you all, Deema....
A. 1 January 2009: How lovely you are so happy. Long may it continue. xx... (read in full...)
Do guys mind it if their gfs wear padded bras to make their breasts look bigger when going out?
Q. Do guys mind it if their gfs wear padded bras to make their breasts look bigger when going out? Like there are certain bras and tops I can wear that make my boobs look much bigger than they actually are. My bf knows my size of course but I'm just ...
A. 31 December 2008: To hell with what he thinks - its your body, do whatever makes YOU feel comfortable. You're not his possession and it really doesn't matter what HE wants. Be proud of who you are, however you look. He's lucky to have you, big boobs, small boobs ... (read in full...)
My friend tells me that guys can tell if you're a virgin, is this true?
Q. On Saturday I lost my virginity to a guy who is very sexually experienced. I'd heard that going on top was best if it was your first time, so thats what I thought I'd do. Anyway, it kinda really went wrong (an embarassing moment, he musta thought...
A. 31 December 2008: Forget it hun. He's not perfect, so don't put yourself down. Doesn't matter if you're a virgin or an old hand, first time with anyone new is always a bit of a fumble and tumble, but like with anything it gets better. Just think he's lucky to have ... (read in full...)
Do you think the long distance ruined our relationship?
Q. For the past 6 years, my husband and i are in a long distance relationship. My son who is 6 years old (he left a month before he was born) and i visit him twice yearly for a total of 10 weeks. Initially when he left, i would cry all the time and get ...
A. 31 December 2008: Then you have to talk to him about it again, tell him its not getting any better for you, that you need his love and attention if you are to survive. Maybe his position is such that he can't spare the time or the energy to give you what you need ... (read in full...)
How to end my relationship, without breaking her heart??
Q. I have recently posted a question asking whether i should stay with my girlfriend or not. After alot of thinking i have decided to end things, my question is How do i tell her i want to end things, i love her so much and i know this will upset her ...
A. 31 December 2008: OK, I see it from a different perspective. You do sound as though you really care about her but I can see your predicament. You care but you're not really getting on right? And she's going in the army, so why wait on someone you're not sure of ... (read in full...)
I'm being forced into marriage in India. Please help!!
Q. My parents have arranged a marriage with someone I really do not want to be with. He is 17yrs older than me, short, balding, overweight, unattractive and the few times I have been forced to sit with him I found him to have bad hygiene! I know people ...
A. 30 December 2008: And I forgot to say - PRAY - it helps a great deal and can move mountains. I'll be praying for you too. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm being forced into marriage in India. Please help!!
Q. My parents have arranged a marriage with someone I really do not want to be with. He is 17yrs older than me, short, balding, overweight, unattractive and the few times I have been forced to sit with him I found him to have bad hygiene! I know people ...
A. 30 December 2008: This is so difficult for you. You must try to find a doctor, counsellor or trusted person you can confide in and maybe even enlist their help in speaking to your father. I know this is a problem we do not have in our culture, but we empathise ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a money leech?
Q. my question is why does my boyfriend keep asking me for money? he says he needs help paying rent. hes got a job i think? not unless hes been kicked out of work and not bothered to tell me? sometimes its £100 or £300. i told him all this money ...
A. 30 December 2008: Run, Run, run. You know nothing about him yet you are feeding him all this money. What kind of relationship is that? You obvioulsy need to be needed and are desperate to find someone, but its not HIM. You deserve someone far better than that, ... (read in full...)
How to end my relationship, without breaking her heart??
Q. I have recently posted a question asking whether i should stay with my girlfriend or not. After alot of thinking i have decided to end things, my question is How do i tell her i want to end things, i love her so much and i know this will upset her ...
A. 30 December 2008: If you love her that much you couldn't let her go, it would be impossible. Yes, it feels horrible to tell someone they aren't going to be part of your life any more. There is no easy way, trust me, its very painful for all concerned. Just do the ... (read in full...)
Why does he still have his ex wife's number?
Q. Is it normal for a guy which has been devoiced for 2 years now to still have his ex wife's number on his cellphone, just not under any contact name but 'sweetheart', she left the county to marry another guy. we have been dating for 7 months now, i ...
A. 30 December 2008: Hmmmmmm. Even look like her? I know thats not unusual, but can be a bit disconcerting if you know that. I don't think its unusual to have her number still, especially if there are kids involved, or if they parted on good terms, but tell him you ... (read in full...)
How do I save our marriage?
Q. I don't know what to do from this point. My husband doesn't have any affection toward me, and he won't touch me. He has ED. For non- medical reason. I don't know what is the reason for his ED. He says he loves me. Should I believe him? He says he ...
A. 30 December 2008: This is very difficult for you. My ex husband was very similar. It is a very lonely existence living with someone who gives nothing. Its very empty. I discovered my ex had been sexually abused as a child, but that was after 36 years - a little ... (read in full...)
14 and worried about getting pregnant!
Q. hey im 14 and i have a 17 year old boyfriend and i want to have sex with him he says he is ready when i am as long as its not years and years he said , now im fine with that im just worried of getting pregnant its so scary on tv i dont want it im ...
A. 30 December 2008: Hate to sound like an old fogey, but its acutally illegal darling to have sex under the age of 15 or 16, can't remember which at the moment, so he could potentially get into trouble - and hey, if it is years and years - as he puts it, whats the ... (read in full...)
Do you think the long distance ruined our relationship?
Q. For the past 6 years, my husband and i are in a long distance relationship. My son who is 6 years old (he left a month before he was born) and i visit him twice yearly for a total of 10 weeks. Initially when he left, i would cry all the time and get ...
A. 30 December 2008: Hi honey. Its very difficult being in a relationship where you don't get to see the other person very often. You have to work very hard at keeping things going and keeping the interest there, and if its one sided thats harder still because what ... (read in full...)
I have a family and BORED why??
Q. Hello all Iposted before and received so much great information. I have something I would like everyone's thoughts on. I ended an affair of 2 years this weekend and I'm feeling upset about it I almost feel depressed. I'm married for 14 years an...
A. 2 November 2008: Try spicing up your life - in every way - and see if that helps. If you are truly happy with your husband and not out of love with him, very small things can put you back on track. It may be your life is empty apart from your family. Ask yourself ... (read in full...)
Did I make a move forward by calling him on the phone or not?
Q. I met a guy 2 years ago in a tech event. We became friends that day and since he had to move away after wards, we started keeping in touch by emails once a month. I emailed him and he always replied back. The once a month thing became in a twice a ...
A. 2 November 2008: Well you're just gonna have to wait and see now !!!! But, just so you don't end up losing your self-esteeem on the way and feeling you're doing all the chasing, presumably he has your number too? Now you've made that first call, whynot leave it up ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have periods when you're pregnant?
Q. Hi me and my boyfriend (of 2 years) have been trying for a baby now for the past 9 months im 21 and he's 22 we have been best friends for 5 years before we got together so we know its the right thing and we have had a few finger crossing moments but ...
A. 2 November 2008: Yes you can and though a test shows negative you can still be pregnant. However, I guess you do also have to face the fact that you may well have been pregnant but something caused it not to continue. I've been in your situaition and it is very ... (read in full...)
I’ve run out of ideas of what to do - please give me advice
Q. I've liked the same guy for two years At the beginning of last year we were sort of a couple Our parents are friends which made it so much easier to see each other we all went away on holiday..there we got even closer not knowing what was still t...
A. 2 November 2008: You are both very young and I think he is just having fun with as many girls as he can - and he doesn't seem to have any trouble in getting them either !!!! Don't be too serious at this time in your life. Go out and see other boys too. You need to ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship doomed?
Q. I need advice on my current relationship. He is a great guy I think I am in love with him. I am not sure if it is for the right reasons. My husband committed suicide in front of me 1 year ago. I am sure sure if I will ever really get through ...
A. 29 October 2008: Bless you both - really. You so need each other at the moment. You are both suffering that loss, and thats why you are helping each other. He sounds extremely sensitive and caring and that is just what you need at this time. Be gentle with each ... (read in full...)
Is 'seeing each other' and 'being with someone' the same thing?
Q. hey guys this is a question for the guys... whats the difference when you say we are seeing each other and actually being with someone... is there a difference between the two phrases... why would you say we are seeing each other if you are boyfr...
A. 28 October 2008: Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who was confused by this stuff !!!! And you're young too!!! My daughters had to explain this one to me. I just never got it at all. Apparently when you are seeing someone that means you are seeing them but you ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship doomed?
Q. I need advice on my current relationship. He is a great guy I think I am in love with him. I am not sure if it is for the right reasons. My husband committed suicide in front of me 1 year ago. I am sure sure if I will ever really get through ...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi, so sorry you have had to go through all this stuff. It must have been a very difficult time for you, and these things don't just go away overnight, even though we wish them to. I, personally, feel the loss of someone through suicide is a much ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and have never given a blowjob. Will someone please tell me how ?
Q. Ok, this is very embarrassing for me but it's something that bothers me......alot! I am 23 years old and don't know how to give a blow job for the life of me. I have had relationships in the past and they have never mentioned it, but i know myself i ...
A. 27 October 2008: Well done the boys!!!! Think you should get all the info you need there. You go girl !!!... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 14 October 2008: Wow!!!! Justice was done!!! You got the whole kitkaboodle there kid - I'm so pleased for you. It must be so good knowing he got what he deserved and that you and the other girl have saved so many other young girls from this treatment by being so ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard anything... so is there any point?
Q. Hi all, need your help again. The guy I was seeing for three months came home a wedding in England and invited me out on the Sat night and I couldn't go with work commitments. He phoned me on the Tuesday after as I had had a break in to the house ...
A. 9 October 2008: Hi lovely Irish lady. Can hear your accent as you write :)))). Well my best peice of advice for you is read the book called 'The Rules'. Its all about how to behave in a relationship and how to keep your man. Its not about playing games, its ... (read in full...)
Young married couple... headed for disaster
Q. I am a 26 year old married female, mother of a two year old. I have been married 3 years, and it feels like 50! My husband and I dated 2 years before hand and have known each other 6 years total. We have had our ups and downs but lately it feels ...
A. 9 October 2008: Hi. Well I'm not young, but I have recently remarried (2 1/2 years ago) to a man much younger than me. Your situation is very interesting because I can see some similarities with my situation. I don't have kids, but I don't go out to work either ... (read in full...)
Is there any point in discussing what we each want out of this relationship when I cant see it going anywhere? Should I just break it off?
Q. I think my relationship is in trouble. You know how you can go out with someone and it's pretty good, not too dreadful, and you start dating regularly, and it just stays sort of OK and doesn't really go anywhere? That's how I feel. I've been...
A. 8 October 2008: Oh dear, its all up in the air - but no communication. You're thinking one thing, she's thinking another, and shall you, shant you - but you're not SAYING it to each other. You've been around quite a while. She sounds as fed up as you. BUT you ... (read in full...)
I asked him to be gentle but he focused on himself during sex and wouldn't mind my objections. Should I believe him that it won't happen again?
Q. Hi, So I need some serious advice again. Ive been with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and for our anniversary, i booked a hotel to make our 'first time' special. I had told him I wanted to take it slow with lots of foreplay and candle...
A. 3 October 2008: Pleased you are doing whats right for you. Clear your head and take time to get over this. Then you will see exactly what you need to do. All the time you are in it, its too difficult. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can get him to invite me over at his house? I suspect he's still living with the ex? Can I get him to change his mind or feelings?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 7months now. He has been to my house many times. I havent been to his place yet. He says hes stayin with his sister due to a recent situation. However, a couple weeks ago his "ex" or "g/f" lives a few blocks up ...
A. 2 October 2008: Darling you're not confused and hurt at all. You know exactly whats going on, you've said it all above. Trust your gut and do what its telling you. You don't need us to say it, you already know. ... (read in full...)
I feel so shallow for feeling this way, my boyfriend's such a great guy, and my best friend, but I just can't get over his bad hair, and skinny body!
Q. Please help! My boyfriend and I have been together for the last three years, and we were very much in love. However, recently I feel like my eyes have been opened up, and suddenly I'm not attracted to him like I once was. I still believe that my ...
A. 2 October 2008: I know its very easy to say appearance doesn't matter, but personally, I feel for most of us its the whole package. Doesn't mean we all have to be like Brigitte Bardot or Brad Pitt, but there is usually an initial physical attraction somewhere ... (read in full...)
I have had trust issues that I really don't want to have. Do you think they are justified? Can I trust him?
Q. This is really hard for me to ask for help. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We live together and both have a child in the mix. We live like we are married even though we aren't. Three months into our realtionship a friend of ...
A. 2 October 2008: Oh dear, you are so wound up with all of this, and I can read the pain going on for you here. I think you have to sort the fact from the fiction here. What is past and what is present? Some men do have a lot of female friends, like some women ... (read in full...)
I think my little sister is having sex. How should I handle this?
Q. I’m 20 male and have a 15 year old half sister who leaves with my Dad. I know she has had a bf for the last 4-5 months of which I didn’t think anything of it. The problem is, whilst I checking her social networking site for weird people and stuff...
A. 2 October 2008: Well, officially she is under age, but that doesn't seem to stop most people nowadays, so you could just try a general chat about girlfriends and stuff and drop in the point about underage sex without pointing the finger - which will just make her ... (read in full...)
I asked him to be gentle but he focused on himself during sex and wouldn't mind my objections. Should I believe him that it won't happen again?
Q. Hi, So I need some serious advice again. Ive been with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and for our anniversary, i booked a hotel to make our 'first time' special. I had told him I wanted to take it slow with lots of foreplay and candle...
A. 16 September 2008: Oh darling, sorry you had this experience when you wanted it to be so special. I'm sure you feel very confused about this. I feel confused too. You've been with him 4 months, so he was patient enough to wait for sex until you were ready, yet gets ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 6 September 2008: You go girl !!!! Luvya too xxxx... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 31 August 2008: Oh darling!!! I'm so happy for you. What a mature girl you are to have grown so much from this experience too. I'm so happy things turned out the way they did. You'll be able to help others now when they have this kind of problem, and I know you ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 17 August 2008: Bless you Older Sister xx... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 17 August 2008: You're on the road Baby Duck. Well done. It is a hard road. We are so desperate for the love we never got somewhere along the line, and we're looking for someone outside of ourselves to give it to us. Its normal, its natural - we missed out big ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 17 August 2008: Nothing is wasted honey. You can go on to help others see the light just like you did - in time. Work on yourself first. You deserve a better life xx... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 11 August 2008: Aaaaah wel done you. I'm so happy now. You didn't deserve to punish yourself further by being isolated with this. Now you have the right people giving you the right love and support, and thats what you do deserve. I know thats not the end of it, ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 10 August 2008: Aaah darling, so pleased you are moving forward. Your reply is so much more positive and I know you'll be ok. What a great mum. You know she'll be in for that night time hug - she'll do anything for you, she'll be there 24/7, and she'll deal with ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 7 August 2008: Oh my dear sweet child. How I so want to give you a hug. This is so bad for you. You really do need help - and fast. Its great you told your boyfriend, but you really must get help darling. Go to your Doctor immediately and tell him your ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 7 August 2008: Don't worry darling, you're not alone - how do you think we know the answers? Yes, that book was a lot of help to me. I had a very emotionally detached father (alcoholic) and then married an emotionally detached man (sexually abused as a child) ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 6 August 2008: Hello darling. Unfortunately I see the problem is as much yours as theirs. Its called co-dependency. You need them to need you. Thier coldness is a challenge to you, probably from some past childhood relationship, and you have the need to get ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 6 August 2008: Hello darling. Unfortunately I see the problem is as much yours as theirs. Its called co-dependency. You need them to need you. Thier coldness is a challenge to you, probably from some past childhood relationship, and you have the need to get ... (read in full...)
Having a partner is not everything but I don't really want to spend the rest of my life on my own, any helpful advice would be so appreciated
Q. I split up from my partner in september because he cheated on me, it was the most painful time, emotionally and financially, i,m now starting to get on my feet at last and i can tell you, it hasn't been easy as i did love him to bits and i thought ...
A. 13 June 2008: Its a wierd one. There are lots of ways to look at this. You could be in a relationship and not be happy. You could still feel very alone. Just because we see people holding hands and walking along together, doesn't mean everything is ... (read in full...)
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