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My mum's very picky when it comes to the boys I date. How do I get her to like my BF, despite of the age difference?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now. He is really great, and I love him. The only problem is our age difference. I have no problem with it, I think age is just a number when it comes to love. But my mom thinks otherwise. My mom does not ...
A. 4 August 2008: Your mom has every right to be concern because you are still underage. She is just being a MOM and trying to protect her daughter. She loves you.
You did not mention his age..so i'm guessing in his twenties. Either case..age is only a number, but ... (read in full...)
My husband looks at other women and we have not had sex in years because, he says, I fight too much. Help!
Q. my husband is extremely interested in looking at other pretty women even in my presence. . He is very interested to listen anything about them through me.[innocently i used to say about them.] it was so apparent that he would show no interest...
A. 4 August 2008: I cannot believe that you've been married without sex for 8 years. That is mind boggling to me. Sex is VERY important to a marraige. That is when two people connect on an intimate level. The reason why he looks at pretty girls is his needs are not ... (read in full...)
Please help me to understand him, I'm about to give up.
Q. Dear Cupid! I am 46, and live with a man, 43 for almost 2 years now. We moved in together after 2 months of meeting each other. Money is not the reason why we decided to live together, but companionship and attractiveness were my reasons and his ...
A. 4 August 2008: living together after two months is definitely rushing things. Now you see how things are,..it's never too late to walk away. His actions shows that he's not ready for a committed relationship. He's emotionally detach AND he has a wanderin... (read in full...)
How can I make my beautiful young sexy wife agree to have sex with my friends?
Q. I have been married since 3 years and have a 2 yr. old son. There is something going on inside me, which turns me on. My wife is very beautiful, young, sexy, but she is a homely girl. I want to see my wife having sex with 2-3 guys at a time in front ...
A. 4 August 2008: I have to ask you what are you thinking? Most men love their ladies and do not want to share them with anyone. what you want is a fantasy..and if you want to make it reality..then maybe you married the wrong type of girl. She is a good girl, an... (read in full...)
Is he becoming bored? After two years of sex with just me, is he losing interest?
Q. I have tons of questions going through my head! Ok, maybe just three or four, but it's driving me mad, I need guys help... So, me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. He's been my first. I was his second, but almost like his firs...
A. 4 August 2008: I think what you're going through is normal. I think most couple go through this. In the beginning, you're at it like rabbits..but as the relationship continue..something in the brain tells you the body can't handle it anymore.
I think you're thin... (read in full...)
I have been seeing this guy for eight years, now we broke up once, got back together, he will not take me around our town, if we go out, what is the problem?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for 8 years now, we've had our ups and downs as all couples do. He did cheat on me once and I broke it off but we got back together. Why after all this time wont he been seen with me around town, when I mention it he kicks off ...
A. 4 August 2008: He's definitely not serious about you like you are about him. This is a definitely a red flag. If he gets angry when you ask him, he's hiding something. Either he has a girl on a side and doesn't want to get caught...or..he told everybody you guys ... (read in full...)
He's told me not to fall in love with him because he has to be single for a while. '?'
Q. I have become friends with a guy over the past year through work and have always liked. He has split from his girlfriend in the past 3 weeks (mutual break up). For about 2 months before they broke up he was calling and messaging me a few times a ...
A. 4 August 2008: Yeah..i have to say you were the rebound girl to get over his ex. He likes YOU but not that into you.
He wants to "see what's out there"...meaning sleep with as many women as he can. So unless you want to be that girl for him ..you should leav... (read in full...)
I can't compare with this 'famous pin-up star' that she slept with in the past.
Q. hello. i have been with my girlfriend now for almost a yr, we have slept with the same amount of people in the past before we met and have both been relatively unlucky in past relationships. i love her to bits and she loves me the same. we have amaz...
A. 4 August 2008: hmm.. i wonder why she told you this in the first place. I guess she is proud of the fact that she is hot enough to land a movie star. Although this is in her past, i think she and you need to let it go if you guys want to build a future together. ... (read in full...)
Nice guys always finish last?
Q. Hi all, This question has been tearing me apart time and time again. Please bear with me, as this will be a long post. Is it true that, no women will ever want to be with a nice guy? I don't consider myself 100% nice, I am not overly r...
A. 4 August 2008: Women are attracted to strong, confident men who know what they want. We want to know our man can protect us and make us feel secure. From your post, I can see where the problem is. YOu don't challenge your women enough. We need men who will put us ... (read in full...)
Is it over ???
Q. Im old enough to know better but when it comes to love.. common sense goes out the window, I was with my boyfriend for a very intense 6 months, then he went to pakistan for family matters. Whilst out there he wrote text and rang me EVERY DAY ...
A. 4 August 2008: Wow! I'm sorry you are going through this. You must be hurting deeply and what women wouldn't. To find that the guy they love got married to someone else. You are right, you have no closure from this relationship so it is hard to move on.
I thin... (read in full...)
Should I try to save my marriage?
Q. I feel my marriage is over but I am too scared to leave. I have been married for 9 years and he was my first ever boyfriend! We just no longer seem to get on. He shows no love or affection although he always tells me he loves me, he never sh...
A. 4 August 2008: You are still very young and although you are scared to leave what you know, you still deserve to be treated better than you are now. No one can tell you what to do, you have to come to that conclusion on your own. You guys did meet very young, so ... (read in full...)
I feel so empty inside, why should he be the one to decide when we are ready to have a baby?
Q. I recently got married to my boyfriend of over eight and half years. I feel that I am ready to be a mom but my husband says that he is not ready and that this is not the right time either. I feel sad and empty inside that I eat to fill the ...
A. 4 August 2008: If you rush a man to have a child before he is ready, he will resent you and the relationship will fail even when you do get your baby. All you can do is wait. And also talk to him when the right time will be because you need a definite answer. He ... (read in full...)
My wife is infertile so I decided to divorce, as children are important to me. Your comments?
Q. I am 31 yrs old and married some six years back. We did not have a child due to the infertility problem from my wife side. I am an assistant professor. I am the only kid for my family. I want to have kids.Therefore I decided to divorce. I need your ...
A. 4 August 2008: If you divorce her because she can't give you a child..that means what you never truly loved her in the first place. There are many options out there and it's a shame that you don't try every single thing before you rush into divorce.
Your vows were... (read in full...)
I feel controlled by my girlfriend, but I wonder if I am the one in the wrong.
Q. Hi, I'm having problems with my girlfriend but im not sure if it is me who is in the wrong. I'm 30 and she is nearly 27. We have been going out 4 mths now, and I normally see her a few times a week. However she doesnt like me arranging social a...
A. 4 August 2008: You are definitely not in the wrong. Although you are a couple, you have a right to do your thing without consulting her. Sounds like she has insecurity and control issues. Don't let her make you feel that you did anything wrong. The best ... (read in full...)
I feel controlled by my girlfriend, but I wonder if I am the one in the wrong.
Q. Hi, I'm having problems with my girlfriend but im not sure if it is me who is in the wrong. I'm 30 and she is nearly 27. We have been going out 4 mths now, and I normally see her a few times a week. However she doesnt like me arranging social a...
A. 4 August 2008: You are definitely not in the wrong. Although you are a couple, you have a right to do your thing without consulting her. Sounds like she has insecurity and control issues. Don't let her make you feel that you did anything wrong. The best ... (read in full...)
We are in love, but he said he needs time, shall I wait or walk away?
Q. Im in love with my ex brother in law, we have known each other for 15 years and are really good friends. He went out with my sister 6 years ago and split up with her 2 years ago and they have a child together. There was always something there, it ...
A. 4 August 2008: Definitely give him his space. He needs to sort out his emotions. You don't have to walk away because you love him. But just wait for him. And if he comes back to you it's meant to me. If he doesn't, then you have to let it go and walk away.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me because he thinks I'm a liar... I love him, what do I do?
Q. Ok so here is my dilema..its been about a week since my bf broke up with me and its driving me crazy I can't seem 2 get over it. He broke up with because he said I lyed about something( so stupid may I add) and now he feels he can't trust me, he ...
A. 4 August 2008: Being dumped unexpectedly is a hard thing. It will take longer than a week to get over it, so give yourself time.
I believe if he really loved you, he would talk with you about issues that he was having with you. AT least give you a chance to chan... (read in full...)
Why can't I simply keep my word?
Q. Im 17 and my EXboyfriend is 25. At first I thought it would never work but we ended up getting really serious. We had been dating for a few months and he started getting mad that I didnt "keep my word" about anything. Like if I said I was gonna ...
A. 4 August 2008: when you say you're going to do something, then you don't follow through..it shows that you are untrustworthy. So basically he lost trust in you and doesn't believe anything you say. When you do this, you dissappoint him and let him down, and that ... (read in full...)
All the guys I date move along after 3 months. Is it because I'm too independant?
Q. I don't understand. Every guy I date, after about 3 months or so moves on and seems to find someone else. Starts off strong, they seem to really like me, constantly together and calling and then out of no where, the calls die down, they are "busy" ...
A. 4 August 2008: I totally relate to what your saying. It's like these guys can't handle a women being independent. I think men do feel like they have to have the upper hand and when they don't they move on. Maybe you're not challenging them enough. You say ... (read in full...)
Did he go behind my back with other women because of his young age? Has he truly changed now?
Q. Jenny, marry and still not togehther. Can someone please tell me what they make of this Back in my country (in the caribbean) there was a boy way much younger then me, who swear one day i would be his wife, me and everyone else laught and found...
A. 4 August 2008: I don't think it has anything to do with age. It his characteristic and personality. It seems like you guys really don't spend quality time together enough to really know each other. You should not have took him back after he cheated on you with the ... (read in full...)
He says he hasn't done anything with other girls, yet people are telling me different. Who do I believe?
Q. i was seeing a guy for a while fairly seriously..and then it all went a bit wrong. we are now no longer anything serious but i will occasionally speak to him or see him on a level that is more than just friends. but i know he is no good for me and i ...
A. 4 August 2008: Trust your friends. They probably are trying to protect you. Also look at his actions and not what he says.
Players want to know they can have you but are selfish and don't want you to have anybody else. I say get over him by finding hobbies and ... (read in full...)
He didn't call me, I'm in shock. Did I scare him off?
Q. I have been dating someone for about 1.5 months,we immediately fell in love. Constantly calling and texting etc.. When we don't see each other its constant keeping in touch. He tells me how much he loves me, that he loves me more than anyone in ...
A. 4 August 2008: Any guy that tells you he loves you after a month has to be a player. He does and says everything right to make you fall for him. Then when you do..they lose interest because the chase is over. I think when he called you by a different name is a ... (read in full...)
He seems less and less excited about being around me! What's going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years now. i am 20 he is 24, recently he seems to be losing interest in me. We rarely have sex, he seems to prefer chilling on his own in the evening or going out with his friends, I have always ...
A. 2 August 2008: He wants to break up but doesn't have the balls to do it himself. he's giving you hints to do it..so he can take the easy way out. You guys are both so very young, and it's not that he doesn't love you. He wants to see what's out there and not be ... (read in full...)
He enjoys time with me but says he is bothered by the age difference. Could it be an excuse?
Q. I'm 34 and I just started dating a 54 year old man. He's never been married. I was married, divorced, and waited 2 years before putting myself out there again. I initiated the relationship and it's only been 2 months. I have very strong feelings ...
A. 2 August 2008: Yes..it is an excuse. Age should not matter if you are crazy about someone. You said you mentioned you initiated the relationship. That means he didn't get a chance to pursue you. So the truth is he's not sure if YOU are the one for him. I say take ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake by never making an effort with my ex girlfriend when I had the chance?
Q. I had a girlfriend who was really nice to me, gorgeous, independent, smart (college grad), never asked me for material things, cooked for me, took care of me when i was sick, there for me when i needed her, faithful-- and i never made time for her. ...
A. 1 August 2008: man! so that's the reason why you guys never call us back..return our text and appreciate everything we do.
(UNTil we leave your asses.) It's because you were afraid to get too close.
I never got that.
From a girl that's been there. I say ..get ... (read in full...)
I really like my new boyfriend, but I keep thinking of my ex.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and i really like him, we both get along brilliantly. But recently i have been thinking about my ex boyfriend alot and miss being with him.Am i being silly or what should I do ? ...
A. 1 August 2008: You're probably remembering the great times you had with your ex.
Try to remember the bad times. You guys broke up for a reason so list all his faults and what drove you nuts about him.
Also..you're probably bored w/your current beau. Maybe he... (read in full...)
What can I do before I lose her forever?
Q. Hi all, I am a soon-to-be college freshman who has been granted the wonderful opportunity to attend an outstanding university, and I am quite excited at being able to soon take advantage of all the new opportunities presented before me. Un...
A. 31 July 2008: Life is tough...there are tough decisions to be made ..esp at your age. Personally I think you made a right decision in choosing your college. You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You have to go out there and experience life. Yes ... (read in full...)
Despite warning about this lad and knowing that he's no good - I can't stay away from him
Q. I know I risk sounding naive in this question, but I need some answers really badly. Ok, my problem mainly involves me, my best friend and a boy (I say boy, but he's 18 nearly 19 so this classes him as a man). Im about to turn 16 and have a boy mate ...
A. 31 July 2008: why do us girls love bad boys? because they are a challenge and we think that we can change them. Unfortunately these guys will never change so don't go thinking your love for him is special.
You know what will happen.
Go for him..get hur... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to start a family by my older girlfriend...
Q. Am i a freak because i will not have unprotected sex with my girlfriend and try and start a family? I am 15 and she is 19 and wants to start a family with me, but i am only younge and want to get a job and to be able to surport them both. I ...
A. 31 July 2008: Let her leave!! Any girl that wants to start a family with a 15 year old virgin is a sicko/wacko in my book.
Dump her now and dump her fast before she ruins your life.
You are way too young and you have your whole life ahead of you. She is the o... (read in full...)
Will losing my virginity help my self confidence?
Q. I'm 16 in a few days. I always feel lonely and lost even if I have a girlfriend. I guess I just feel different from everyone else. Maybe it's a self-confidence thing. Does anyone think that losing my virginity will help this a little? I mean, I want ...
A. 31 July 2008: no.. losing your virginity will not help your confidence. Most likely you'll get all stressed over it. You don't sound like your ready. you are still young, there is no rush. When your ready you will know it and wouldn't have to ask.
to help your... (read in full...)
I know she cheated, but I don't know what to do, is this a waste of my time?
Q. I am completely in love with my gilfriend. We were just friends for 5 months or so and we've been dating for about 6 months now. I cant tell if my girlfriend really loves me, or if she just playing me. She always talks about how hot other guys are, ...
A. 31 July 2008: Yeah. She's a bad girl and you like her because it's a challenge. She's testing you to see what you'll put up with. Be a man, put your foot down and you will earn her respect. She knows you love her so she's taking advantage of it. Set your ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my ex-husband and my boyfriend! What gives?
Q. Hello everyone. My very soon to be ex husband left me and our two younger children at the time ages 2months and 2years. He left me for his ex girlfriend who was is very first. I was a stay at home mom that was a full time student. I was so hurt he ...
A. 31 July 2008: I know your confuse..and with good reason. First..what women doesn't want to keep their family together. It is our dream to be happy and our husband love us unconditionally.
But the fact is..He left you. FOR ANOTHER WOMAN. you can never forg... (read in full...)
His family is getting in the way of us. He won't stand up to his mum!
Q. Hey, I was hoping you'd be able to shed some light or give me some advice on some of the things that our relationship has been facing lately. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, I'm 20 and he's 22, we both are at uni, and both share the ...
A. 30 July 2008: okay..
your boyfriend is caught in the middle. You have to understand, he's known his family for 22 years..and been with you for 8 months. Even though you love him, your asking him to choose you over his family. And your not even married.
If ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive relationship?
Q. hi I need some advice i have been with my boyfriend for 14years since i was 14. about 5 years ago we went through a rough patch and he used to ge violent and call me nasty names, which i put up with as i was still young , then 3 years ago just a...
A. 30 July 2008: Omigoodness! He should have been on his knees and kissing your feet to love and care for him like you do.
Listen..He does not deserve you. i know he's your first love, and it's hard to let that go. But if you want to be truly happy..say good... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't live with me even though we've been together for ages!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and in a few months we are both moving to the same city for work (we lived in the same city for 3 years, pretty much next door to one another then have been long distance this last year). Our relat...
A. 30 July 2008: Definitely back off. The thing is...it's not that he doesn't love you. So don't take it personally. Men need their space and are frighten that their women will be clingy and take their freedom away.
You both are very very young. If you want him... (read in full...)
He's sending me mixed signals long distance. What should I do?
Q. I have known ‘John’ for 10 years. Our dads are best buddies. Unfortunately, we didn't get the chance to meet up often as distance set us apart (we are frm different states). Besides, he's studying Medicine in a American Uni while im still in my ...
A. 29 July 2008: I am going through the same thing with a long distance guy. When we talk on the phone he acts like he cares..miss me..ect. But it seems like he never initiates anything. And takes him forever to return a text or message.
I've come to the conclusi... (read in full...)
My twin sister is pregnant and the people she lives with are stressing her out.
Q. Okay, my twin sister is pregnant and should be due any day now, if not day then in a week. The people that she is living with are stressing her out by making her babysit 8 kids at a time everyday. The stress build up is getting to her, could that ...
A. 27 July 2008: Yes..stress can cause you to go into early labor. It also can cause damage during childbirth. Since she is in around her due date. She needs to take it easy.
Most important is she needs to take care of herself and her baby first. There has to be s... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of meeting up with an old flame, but we're both in relationships.
Q. I have been in contact with an old boyfriend from high school via email and telephone over the last few months and he has made it clear he is interested in me and would like to meet up. i feel the same about him, he is a really sweet guy and i care ...
A. 26 July 2008: Don't make the mistake of being in a relationship you are unhappy in. End it. You are way too young to stick around because you are afraid to hurt someone. Trust me..I made that mistake and it ended after 12 years. but i wish i did it sooner.
... (read in full...)
I fear I may have fallen victim to an online predator....help me please, should I meet him?
Q. I'm a 15 year old male and i recently met an older man off of a forum. It wasn't a dating forum or anything, and we started off as just friends, just talking about stuff. On my account it said i was 21 (I had listed my age as that to be taken more ...
A. 26 July 2008: You didn't say how much older the man was.
But what it comes down to is you are a minor and you have to be very careful and protect yourself. Obviously,..red flags are appearing that is why you posted this question. Trust your instinct. Love is v... (read in full...)
He might be "the one" if I can figure out for sure he's not a player! What are the signs?
Q. What makes up a Player? This guy i know might be one but Im also confused about what to do about it. This guy who used to like me and i still like has been lying to me and seeing other girls while we were hanging out. Now, at work, he likes t...
A. 26 July 2008: How can he be the one if he's disrespecting you like this? Is the reason you like him so much is it's a challenge for you to tame him? If he's leaving in 3 weeks...let it go. Yeah it hurts..yeah..you'll miss him. But you'll get over it and another ... (read in full...)
I am confused and hurt by his cruel actions regarding me and my son!
Q. hi everyone, im a 36 yr old woman whose been dating a 57 yr old man for 2 yrs, and even though things havent been that good over the last few months as they were in the beginning i never dreamed he would treat me and my son the way he has over the ...
A. 26 July 2008: Have some respect for yourself and walk away. If you stay..this just reinforce that you will put up with his bad behavior. There are many men out there who will treat you right...don't think that he's the only one that you can get. You deserve to be ... (read in full...)
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