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writes: i'm affectionate with all of my close guy buds and even other teachers and some others who are way older than me.but this situation has somehow gotten out of hand. it all started as an inside joke between the two of us. i was kidding around with him. my teacher (who is more than twice my age and is married and with kids) is just one of the many guy buddies i have. he is close with the other students in our class, too. even the girl students.i'll just call him as mr game. i was talking to him about how he is so much alike my former crush in the way he talks, his gestures, his aura, and almost everything else. he wanted to prove that he is unique, so we decided to kiddingly consider each other as boyfriend/girlfriend. when we are together, we have secret pet names for each other that nobody other than us knows about. i thought that was just it for him. a joke. i was starting to get worried even before the 'joke' started because i was already starting to fall for him when i got to know him, mostly because of his reminding me of my ex-crush. but i felt okay because of the thought that he is just kidding and it is just a one-sided feeling (and the fact that i don't really like him, its just the similarities with my crush).after hanging out with mr game more often and the occurrence of situations that caused us to have 'alone times', due to unavoidable instances, i realized that i was really falling for him, and not just for his similarities with my crush. so i decided to talk to him and tell him the truth and end it at that.but when the day came that i was supposed to stop it all, mr game told me that i was someone special for him. we were alone in this room. so i wasn't able to tell him what i wanted because i didn't want to hurt him.to cut the story short, mr game later on admitted that he has indeed fallen in love with me. but he still doesn't know that i feel the same way. we are still acting like we are a couple when we are alone. but i make it clear that its all a joke on my part.nobody knows all of the details. even my friends only know nothing about the real happenings. they just know about the joke part. but one of my classmates suspects that there is something between us, but does not have any proof.i tried to avoid mr game, but he won't let me. i don't have the courage to tell him because i can't bear to hurt him.i know it is wrong. but how can i stop this moment of insanity? with minimal possible damage on all parties concerned?
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (9 January 2010):
 i wish i did; i'd use them for mine.
you might try writing a letter though in which you express all of your feelings. and then burn it. apparently, it can be quite cathartic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010):
thank you for your suggestions.
soon567:
i just want to make it clear that there is not even a single indicator that mr game will ask me to sleep with him, and that in his class, i'm just in the average cluster. i won't let him do something that will cause me to have any form of debt to him. my conscience is already eating me alive 'cause of this mess. i have not also acknowledged his 'feelings' for me. whenever he tells me about it, i just say that it is impossible because he is a married man, and that i don't believe him. i've also started to get some space between him and me. thank you for speaking some more sense to me.
does any of you have any suggestions on how i could erase the feelings that i have for mr game?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (7 January 2010):
 hmmm interesting, well this mr game is a married man a very weak and stupid man. This is not a joke this s life your life mr games life his wife and childrens lives the reason life isnt a joke or a game is because theres no start overs no contnues and second chances what ever you do the choices you make your stuck with they will effect you and others till the day you die. And at your age that could be along time.
Hers some side effects of your little so called joke, Jail being fired and ridicule for you and this mr game, Fortunately your the child mr game will take the brunt of all this witch he will rightly deserve for being so stupid.
Now i would suggest telling mr game exactly what ive told you you wont hurt his feelings you will wake him up and make him realize how mutch of an idiot hes being in fact he will probably thank you because your gonna be saving his ass,
Breaking this off with mr game will be the best thing you could ever do for him hell owe you one, this is real the three Rs dont quite prepare you for these types of situations but listen to my advice and youll get an A+
I would suggest telling him face to face its over notes can backfire you really dont want a hardcopy of what transpired laying around
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): thank you for your suggestions.. hmm.. but is there any other way? i don't want to ruin our friendship just because of hurting his feelings.. i would like to end it up while talking to him.. what can i say that might make some sense in him? actually.. this is the second time that something like this happened to me.. but in the first was the teacher was the only one with the feelings.. i easily ended that one.. this one's harder because i am also having forbidden feelings for mr game..
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (7 January 2010):
You can try either one of two things:
Either write him a letter saying you can't do this anymore then leave it where he will find it and read it. That way, you don't need to confront him face to face.
Or, you tell him your mum found your diary and read all about what's been going on and she is threatening to go to the police. He will probably suggest that its best to stop the game because this will wake him up. You can then tell him you managed to convince your mother that it was all just a fantasy but its best to keep away from him.
Well done for taking steps to end this; this is illegal as you know. He can go to jail or be fired from his job. I suggest that if he continues pestering you that you tell your guidance counsellor.
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