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writes:I'm 14, gay, and a freshman in highschool. I like a 17 year old junior. He (of course) is straight. Yup, I'm officially living the stereotype, unrequited love that can never work out. But I want to know, is it really love or just a crush that'll pass in a few weeks. I'll just give a brief recap of events:I met him this summer. I had just moved into town, and knew no one. I went to a church pool party to try and meet people (cause that's not awkward for a new kid). When I first saw him, I just thought, man he's cute. Then he started talking to me. He immediately was nice to me, and tried to get me into the group. Ever since, I can't help but feel for him. It used to be that I couldn't even talk in his presence cause I would just blush and freeze up, but I'm finally over that (mostly). He's really cool, and kinda has a badboy reputation, and tries really hard to be the cool kid. But even though he tries hard to hide it, I can see little bits of the real him peeking through when he thinks that no one is looking. He has completely different interests than me, but for some reason, I can talk to him for ages without ever getting bored or anything like that. He's always been nice to me, without actually treating me too differently than everyone else, and maybe I just feel a debt because of that, but lately I've been thinking it might be something more... maybe not love, but maybe more than a crush? I'm trying not to be shallow, but please, help tug me out of this dream cloud. I'd rather be taken down from it than fall
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reader, Holli'  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 I don't think you'd be in love with him, I think you have a stronger chemistry with him than you realise, he sounds like a nice guy, he made you feel welcome by being friendly but If he isn't gay then the chances are he just wants to be your friend not your boyfriend, everyone finds someone who they thing is cute however usually the feelings go within 2-3 weeks though sometimes it takes longer.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Just say no im pretty sure only bad things will come from you telling him how you feel being a teenage dude is hard enough then to find out your dude friend really wants to be your boyfriend trust me it will be all bad. besides have you really thought this out have you fully excepted your sexuality are you sure you dont like girls i always say dont knock it till you either try it or your pretty sure it will lead to a horrible death.
any way i only bring that up because if any one where to find out are you prepared for the consequences
oh and try this Google Nikki Manaj stare at her for ten minutes if nothing happens ie fuzzy warm feeling i rest my case
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (8 January 2010):
 it does sound like you do care about this guy. And so its more then lust. I don't like to use the word "crush" because I think it belittles real feelings, you sound like you are pretty head over heels for him. Its too bad he's straight :/.
But, I recently had a similar experience. I'm a 22 year old female, I'm straight but I liked this guy and for reasons I won't get into, we didn't end up dating but remained friends. He is one of my best friends and now that I've gotten over him (and believe me, I was HEAD OVER HEELS for him) its quite nice to have such a good friend in my life.
my advice to you, I think you should give it some time and maybe you'll find out later on that he's bi. You never know. But don't keep your hopes up, because I'm not sure how likely that happens. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): You sound lovely. I don't want tug you don't from your cloud, but perhaps you will find it easier if you view this as infatuation, not love, but not a crush either (I hate that word, so demeaning.) Be a friend to this guy if you feel you can. You know you can never be anything more, so it's not worth thinking about what could have been. I think that being in high school can only intensify the problems that are causing you so much grief, because it's such a close environment... good luck for the future darling. xx
p.s. try not to let this polarise your life... if it's meant to be, it will happen. Enjoy your feelings, but don't dwell on them.
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