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Brother and sister playing footsie..too close?

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Question - (11 January 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 12 January 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *ookiemon77 writes:

I had a concern and maybe it is not. We were watching a movie yesterday and my fiance was sitting with his sister on the coach. It just was alittle wierd for me they were all bunched up together and were playing footsies but it looked weird and I was sitting next to him but he was kind of ignoring me. It felt weird so I got up and left to the laundry room to do the clothes and left upstairs to take a shower. He came after me and asked me if something was wrong, I looked at him and said no nothing wrong. But when I came down they were both sitting on oposite sides so I sat in between them but didn't cuddle with him because I felt weird. He was trying to cuddle but I didn't want to and asked me if something was wrong. Maybe I am over reacting.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010):

hi, this may not be as innocent as we want it to be. i have read a lot about incest and the ongoings between siblings ( i am not saying it is the case here) but just be aware that it happens and it does exist but since it is taboo, we try not to talk about it. the OP may be overly sensitive but i always say, trust your gut! maybe all was innocent and he feels that you were getting jealous at his relationship with his sis, but at least he was observant enough to know that you were upset.

btw, why would they both move to opposite sides of the sofa when you came down. this to me is the creepy bit. guilty , of what????

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (12 January 2010):

RAINORFIRE agony auntlol this is great

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010):

come to think of it i do it with my kids all the time too...even the married son and daughter. it is a mindless thing for me i think. i dont however do it with my inlaws. ive never even thought about doing it but when i read the post i realized i do ... lol mal

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A female reader, Katiekins86 United Kingdom +, writes (11 January 2010):

Katiekins86 agony auntAre you an only child? Just a thought because I am and I would find it weird but then i have no idea what's 'normal' between siblings.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010):

this is perfectly normal...i would even do it with my sister or mom and not think a thing about it. nothing sexual at all. mal

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010):

i had a boyfriend who seemed like he had a weird relationship with his sister and kind of did stuff like that. she'd get mad when he hung out with me, kind of like she was jealous which i found weird because id never seen siblings act like that before. he'd come home and she'd like ask what he wanted for dinner and say he needs to eat healthy (not that weird i know just not what i was used to) and just act like a girlfriend in some ways (ex. make him come home when it was too late, but i guess thats like a mom too. still weird because he's 21) i know i was overreacting too but i guess some siblings are closer than others. also i dont have any siblings so maybe its because i can't really relate.

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A male reader, bharat mehta India +, writes (11 January 2010):

bharat mehta agony auntYes, your reaction is too much. You can correct your mood. Anyway nothing is serious, so take it lightly, and better you forget.

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A male reader, Honest Answer United States +, writes (11 January 2010):

Honest Answer agony auntYou are over reacting. I would bet a pretty penny that his relationship with his sister is normal. Just remember that the way he treats a sibling is a good indication how he treats women in general. Seems like you got a keepr if you ask me.

Good Luck!

Jeff

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A female reader, cookiemon77 United States +, writes (11 January 2010):

cookiemon77 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

He is 45 and she is 38

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom + , writes (11 January 2010):

I think you are. Siblings still play fight now and again. I don't think there's anything in it at all.

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