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writes:Mod note: OP's own titleThis may seem like a dumb question but any advice would be helpful.What are the signs someone(in this case a female) close to you, who you are interested in, may be playing hard to get?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): I have always believed that when someone doesn't respond or react to you and you take it to mean they are just "playing hard to get," it is analagous to when someone says no and you take it to mean yes. Alot of people mistake genuine lack of interest with "playing hard to get." Bottom line is if someone genuinely likes you they CAN and WILL make time for you. Assuming their is some game being played here, (which is very possible), "playing hard to get" would mean that she is consciously doing it on purpose, (possibly with the intention of getting a reaction out of you). As far as I've seen, when people play games, you can usually see right through them. I dated a guy who would play games, even semi "hard to get" games that were so transparent. One time he called me on Monday because he needed to know if I wanted to go out either Tuesday or Wednesday because he had two "girl" friends in town and he needed to divide the days up between me and them. I told him to go out with them since they were in town for a short while and to call me later in the week. And just as I suspected he was "suddenly" free on both Tuesday and Wednesday. I suspect he made it all up to get a rise out of me or to make me think he was this super stud. He would do stuff like this all the time. When people do stuff like playing "the most desired guy in the universe," or volunteering too much information (he didn't have to tell me about those other girls) is how you can tell they are playing games. There are also the "games" where someone is stringing you along. Not so much "games" but rather something mean-spirited and inconsiderate. Where they bail on you at the last minute but then come around only to let you down again and it becomes a vicious cycle. They give you hope and then pull the rug from under you. This is plain malicious and a big indicator that this person is definitely seeing someone else (if not several other people). Definitely someone you do not want to get involved with. Its not cool. Last but not least, and like I mentioned earlier, there are the people who genuinely from the bottom of their hearts just do not give a sh*t. They are nice, and they wouldn't mind being your friend, they are not stringing you along, they are courteous, respectful, sweet, friendly...however, they are just not that into you...if at all. Their actions sometimes can be mistaken for "playing hard to get." The guy I previously mentioned above who would try to get a rise out of me, possibly thought I was "playing hard to get." But in reality, I just didn't care all that much. I cared about him. I just didn't care like he did. C'est tout!
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I would say flirting with you, but not giving you enough to make a move. Little things, laughing the odd touching, but then being aloof. It's difficult. You never really know, and some girls dont actually realise they are being hard to get!
Personally tho, I would like to know if men ever play hard to get? Or is it just me who finds these types?
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reader, raiders +, writes (27 April 2010):
 If she gives you signs and flirts but won't move forward could be that she is interested and is waiting for you to make a move.
If she walks away every time you are around, and if she cuts you short on your sentences most likely she is not interested.
Only you know what her body language is when she is around you, read her signs what is her voice, smile, eyes, walk, attitude telling you when you two are together.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (27 April 2010):
 It is never really easy to tell if someone is playing hard to get or if they are genuinely just not interested.
Anyone who plays hard to get and doesn't get the attention they were expecting might eventually change their tactics, which would work in your favour.
If you are that close to them, then you'd be the best judge of character.
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