I want to get pregnant on purpose so I can see how he feels about it. What's wrong with me?
Q. This is gonna sound really wierd but, I had an abortion when I was 15 by a guy 10 years my senior(which I was unaware of by the way) and he obviously didn't love me like he said cz not only did he force me to get the procedure done he left me at the ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hi, I don;t think there is something 'wrong' with you, but given what you went through at a very young age (I am sorry)it is not surprising for it to have played some role in shaping how you are in relationships today. I'm not a psychologist, but ... (read in full...)
I think I want to leave my wife!
Q. I have been married for the past 14 years. We were both 19, pregnant, and pressured into this marriage. Not an excuse, just a back story. Now I am having several thoughts of leaving my wife. I have had a couple of little flings in the past three ...
A. 23 August 2008: I agree with Country woman - despite not feeling like you want to work on the marriage - you really should consider seeing a counsellor either yourself, or with your wife. It sounds like you are fairly certain you no longer want to be in the ... (read in full...)
21 years old and worried the size of my penis won't satisfy my new girlfriend.
Q. Im a 21 yd old guy im a virgin and im really embarrassed my penis is very small just 2.5 inches when erect ive been seeing a girl for about 4 months shes my first gilrfriend and im too embarrassed to show her my penis im worried she will laugh at ...
A. 23 August 2008: Hey there. I reckon you need to remember that there is more to sex and satisfaction than just the penetrative side of things - perfect your kissing, caressing, your oral technique...you know, all the other things that go into making sex with someone ... (read in full...)
I'm stressing over the smallest things! Please help!
Q. i seem to have a problem latley......I cannot stop worrying over tiny little things or stressing over things that dont even matter! is there something wrong with me, is there any treatments out there that could help this...Im stressig over tommorow ...
A. 23 August 2008: Hey there! It's a bit hard to know what to advise based on the info you've given here. Can I ask - would you say that you are usually an anxious person? I know you feel that you are stressing over everything at the moment - but is this kind of ... (read in full...)
He said it was no strings sex--how do I know?
Q. hi im 30 in relationship with 2 children.ive known this guy 4 years as friends and we had sex together the other day he is also married with 2 kids he said it was just sex how do i know if its anything more need advice.he keeps saying dnt tell know ...
A. 12 August 2008: I am sure for him it was just sex - from what I understand of affairs that is how many of them start out - two people agreeing to have "just sex" - for the thrill, the excitment, the selfishness of it....with the idea being that both parties get ... (read in full...)
Are there any other couples still using condoms after getting married?
Q. My husband and I are married less than a year and we're still using condoms just to play safe. We've tried without once or twice but are too scared. Just want to know if there are any couples who are still using condoms after getting married. Or...
A. 12 August 2008: There are lots of different types of contraceptives available these days - for both men and women. Why don't you and your husband visit your Dr and discuss the options - get all the info you need and make a decision from there.
... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a married man for 6 years and I think he's talking to other girls online!
Q. Hi: I have been seeing a married man for 6 years now, he tells me he loves me but he keeps chatting with women on line and wanting to get to know them better. When I ask him about he says it is not true but I know otherwise, what should I do?...
A. 11 August 2008: I agree 100% with Wild Thaing.... you need to look within yourself and heal what is broken there. I really hope you can find yourself again - and happiness long term.
One comment though - re your post, so many "other women" use the excuse t... (read in full...)
He has not initiated sex in the last 11 years! He likes looking at and talking to other women.
Q. My husband is fond of looking at other women.And he is also interested in talking for hours with other women.Neither of which he does with me.He is not at all interested in having sex with me .There is no one single time that he had asked for sex ...
A. 6 August 2008: Sex and intimacy are a critical part of any good relationship - and it is no wonder you are feeling so lonely in your marriage.
It sounds like your husband does not really acknowledge the lack of sex a problem, and that he isn't interested in talk... (read in full...)
It's been two years and my boyfriend won't tell me where he's living!
Q. My bf wont tell me where hes moved to recently?, we have short brakes where he tells me he neads to be sucsefull and he cant do that while living or comitting to me. he tells me hes got a lot of work on, turns off his phone. Then i tell him where ...
A. 5 August 2008: I'm sorry - but this is crazy!! Why are you putting up with this? This is not a relationship - this is him controling you and doing whatever he likes regardless of how you feel.
This is not normal in any way honey - and you are right to feel angr... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a married man for 6 years and I think he's talking to other girls online!
Q. Hi: I have been seeing a married man for 6 years now, he tells me he loves me but he keeps chatting with women on line and wanting to get to know them better. When I ask him about he says it is not true but I know otherwise, what should I do?...
A. 5 August 2008: The cheating nature of this guy aside (the other aunts have covered that), if you are certain he is lying to you about this - does it make you wonder what else he lies about?
You must have done alot of 'convincing' of yourself that this guy was ... (read in full...)
Why do tears come out during sex? Do men like it?
Q. During sex i cant help but my tears came out, what is the reason for that? is it because im over whelmed, happy or what? is man happy to see when their partner have a tears when they have sex?? please answerrrrrrrrrr...
A. 29 July 2008: I'm pretty sure it's not 'abnormal' - I think you'll find it has to do with a little natural hormone named oxytocin that is released in the body during sexual intercourse (it's also released during child birth and at other times and has to do with ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi Love Him,
Have you tried actually articulating the pro's and con's of having a baby right now? I'm talking being TOTALLY honest...looking at ALL aspects. You can't be so naive to have not considered some of the 'challenges' you and your man face... (read in full...)
I found out that my best friend and my girlfriend had been sleeping together. Am I going to spend the rest of my life dwelling on my failed friendship?
Q. I found out last spring that my best friend and now-girlfriend had been sleeping together for 3 months and had kept this from me. My gf and I weren't together when it happened, but my best friend knew she and I had unspoken feelings for each other. ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hi again,
I probably wouldn't say the first paragraph either...the thing is, if you could go back and change things you might not be in the happy loving r'ship you are now...so why would you? In your friends mind you won - it came down to her chos... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...
A. 20 July 2008: Sweetie - I know you probably don;t want the "old bags on here telling you what to do"...but I can't help it...I have to say what I think first.
I think you are very very young and that you really should not be trying to fall pregnant. Having a ch... (read in full...)
Isn't even a friendship based on trust or am I assuming too much here?
Q. I met a woman on a dating site and she informed me she was just looking for friends as she had recently ended a long marriage and wasn't looking for another relationship. After one date and a lot of texting and phone calls for a week she revealed ...
A. 20 July 2008: I don;t really think your anger at her sounds fair - from what you've described. What has she done to break you "trust" in her? Not tell you something soon enough? And then it was only a week before she did?? Why does it even matter - the guys an ... (read in full...)
Unhappily married, but the man I'm seeing won't let his guard down, is he worth hanging on to?
Q. My male friend and I have known each other for about 17 years and have been co-workers for the last five years. About 3 years ago his wife cheated on him and eventually left him. They have been divorced for about 2 years now. I saw the hell he ...
A. 20 July 2008: Hmmmm how many people who cheat out there think they have "good" reason?? I refuse to accept that there is EVER good reason. There are motivating factors sure, but you have choices, everyone does. Not everyone who feels unhappy or unloved, or who ... (read in full...)
My marriage is in a rut and my 'friend' is now back in the picture! How do I get a commitment from him?
Q. I have been married for almost 12 years. For the past 6 years or so, my marriage has slowly deminished. The care for each other is not there any more. Both are not attracted to each other as well as no intimacy now for 3 years. Approximately 4 ...
A. 19 July 2008: I think it's a very good thing you have finally confessed your feelings to your husband - and that you are taking steps to dissolve that relatonship. Very necessary - given the lack of feeling you have described...and also your desire for another ... (read in full...)
Is getting seductive texts from an ex considered cheating?
Q. Does it mean a current boyfriend is cheating if he gets seductive text messages from an ex.... He claims he's not cheating.....this was just something stupid that happened.... I need help with this one....I trust him!!!!...
A. 19 July 2008: The guys are right - if he entertains, repsonds to or encourages the ex in any way then that would be cheating in my book, if he ignores her or puts boundaried in place then no.
How do you know of the texts? Is he being open with you about it? That... (read in full...)
I'm not OK with this friends with benefits setup. I need some advice.
Q. I've recently gotten involved with a guy and we've been seeing eachother for around five weeks. It's basically just a "Friends with Benefits" setup and no matter how much I try to convince myself I'm ok with that, I'm not. I'm starting to fall...
A. 19 July 2008: The other aunts/uncles are spot on - if you are not prepared to accept the situation as is (and I am glad to hear you're not!!) then you have only one option - end it. He's not going to change things - why would he?
All the other 'bits and piec... (read in full...)
Unhappily married, but the man I'm seeing won't let his guard down, is he worth hanging on to?
Q. My male friend and I have known each other for about 17 years and have been co-workers for the last five years. About 3 years ago his wife cheated on him and eventually left him. They have been divorced for about 2 years now. I saw the hell he ...
A. 19 July 2008: Look - you are probably not going to like this answer my friend...but I need to point something out...it seems obvious, but I suspect you may not be "seeing it"...
This guy you are having an affair with...you saw him go trhough hell when his wife... (read in full...)
Are women too self conscious about their imperfections?
Q. This is a question mostly for men... Men, when you are about to sleep with someone...do you typically notice a woman's imperfections example: slight cellulite, stretch marks, fatty bits?... or. are women in general too self conscious about ...
A. 19 July 2008: I think it would depend on the guy - some would, some wouldn;t...but if you love yourself and are confident in yourself, your body etc...that's shine brighter and he won;t see anything else!... (read in full...)
I foolishly told him I love him because I thought he needed some love; what can I do to mend my mistake?
Q. I recently told a man I loved him becasue he had been through some bad stages in his life and thought he needed some love. I meant well but of course naturally he doesnt like it,which I can understand, so now I have lost him as a friend. I KNOW it ...
A. 18 July 2008: In my opinion you should just meet him and tell him all this...that you were 'daft' but why you said it etc...playing "games" like going quiet etc won;t help...
if he still is weird then that's his loss!... (read in full...)
All the guys I like are way out of my league. What do I do?
Q. I dont understand life anymore... i often feel so ugly because i dont have a boyfriend...all my friends do,and when they leave me (or shud i say ditch...) for their other half i feel like im a sad waste for a teenager.. its like all the guys ...
A. 18 July 2008: O'Connor is right....until you love yourself how is anyone else supposed to? I suggest you examine what it is that you "dislike" about yourself and what it is you think that others don't like about you...then, take steps to deal with that. That ... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to flirt. What do I do to let him know I like him?
Q. Okay...so I like this guy and I dont think he knows (im too shy to flirt!!) but something gives me the feeling that he does (- but i dont wanna be too out there incase im rejected- i'll feel like a fool...summer breaks coming...and so i wont see him ...
A. 18 July 2008: I agree - just say to yourself that you CAN do it...be confident in yourself and go for it. The worst that can happen is he doesn't reciprocate, at least you know where you stand then...
being shy sucks, I am too and was absolutely pathetic when... (read in full...)
I found out that my best friend and my girlfriend had been sleeping together. Am I going to spend the rest of my life dwelling on my failed friendship?
Q. I found out last spring that my best friend and now-girlfriend had been sleeping together for 3 months and had kept this from me. My gf and I weren't together when it happened, but my best friend knew she and I had unspoken feelings for each other. ...
A. 18 July 2008: It sounds like you have alot of insight into your feelings and the 'options' you have in this situation. It seems to me that the only way forward for you is to try and let go of your anger, and to try and forgive this guy. I'm sure you're thinking ... (read in full...)
We seem to have nothing to say to one another and I can't handle the bitterness any longer, is this the end?
Q. I have been living with my boyfreind for 2 years we have been arguing and irritating each other for 2 months now. It started really as he got a new job as a manager and has been coming home around 9 pm at night. At first i thought maybe he wa...
A. 18 July 2008: Hey. I don't think anyone on here can tell you whether it is 'the end' or not...you and your BF are the only ones who have any control over that.
It does sound like you have given up on the relationship at the moment - and sometimes it is easi... (read in full...)
Is it possible to suffer morning sickness so early and is it possible to concieve 2 days before the period is due?
Q. I didnt see my partner for 6 weeks and then slept with her 2 days before her period was due and then 5 days later she said she was being sick in the mornings and thought she was pregnant.she says she done a test 9 days after the suppossed conception ...
A. 18 July 2008: It is not common for a woman to ovulate that close to menstruating - but it can happen, her cycle may be 'out' for any number of reasons. She could also get a positive test quite early on - lots of the home testing kits can now detect pregnancy ... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married almost three years now and we barely have sex. We got married sooner that expected because I got pregnant. We had sex all the time before we got married, but after I think we have three times. When I try to talk ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hi. I agree with the other aunts - I think counselling is something worth a try but only IF you want to see if this marriage can work. Sometimes when things seem so bad - it is hard to imagine that the effort and emotion required to go and put ALL ... (read in full...)
He sent me this email... opinions please?
Q. I was dating this guy for 6 months and I'm 7 months pregnant and he left me for another girl and I don't know why. He is excited about the baby but doesn't want to be with me, can you read his e-mail and let me know what you think?dearest Miranda, ...
A. 3 July 2008: Old Fool has a point...what is it YOU want?
Your BF's email smacks of him being very hurt - as if you have done something to betray him or damage the relationship. Maybe you need to give us all some info on your relationship. Was the 6 month thin... (read in full...)
I love her but I don't think I'm in love with her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. Hi. Im currently in a relationship with a girl who I started living with about 2 months after we started going out. Its now 6 months into it and although I do love her I dont think im in love with her. Were from different backgrounds and ...
A. 3 July 2008: It will seem like that for now - but you won;t regret having done this. You couldn't have let things keep plodding along, you did the right thing by being honest and communicating with her. She'll appreciate that one day too...but give yourselves ... (read in full...)
He said he'd be here for the baby but he just ignores my messages, why?
Q. i am preg but not with the father,he will stil be around for the baby..but sometimes he ignore's my messages and it would be only about the baby,why do men do that??...
A. 3 July 2008: To be honest - this post doesn't tell us very much...everyone is just speculating on why this "dad to be" is behaving like this...but we really don;t know a thing about the situation, the 'relationship' or how the pregnancy came about...or about ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance of getting pregnant on your period?
Q. Hello, I have been wondering lately, if there would be any possiblity of geting pregnant on your period. Because last weekend my boyfriend came inside me. But he told me not to worry because i cant get pregnant on my period. He said theres like a o...
A. 3 July 2008: Your best bet is to assume that ANY unprotected sex you have COULD result in pregnancy....in light of that, if you don't want a child right now you should take steps to ensure you are protected. See someone at a Family Planning Clinic or your Dr for ... (read in full...)
Help! My ex tried to use me to cheat on the mother of his child and she just called me to ask if he's been faithful!!
Q. Please help me! I don't know what to do... I recently had a very, very complicated situation dropped into my lap. About four months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. Shortly after he moved out he found out his ex-girlfriend that he had dated ...
A. 3 July 2008: The fact that the 'mother of his child' is phoning you to see what he has or hasn't been up to tells me she knows what he's like...eventually she will kick him out too.
You don;t need to expend your energy on him anymore - so I would stay out of t... (read in full...)
Why would a guy have sex with a girl and not want her to be his girlfriend?
Q. If a guy doesn't want a girl to be his girlfriend but still wants to have sex with her, does that mean that shes ugly or doesnt have a good personality?...
A. 3 July 2008: Sex and relationships can be two very seperate things - depending on the person. This guy is probably physically attracted to you to want to have sex - but that doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with you....
so, the important thing here... (read in full...)
He has lied to me from the beginning, I don't know what to do!
Q. Im 28 years old and my husband is 38. We have been together for 10 years. I met him at 18 and was everything I dreamed of. I got pregnant a year later. Three months into my pregnancy I found out he was living with a woman and had 3 kids. After al...
A. 3 July 2008: Oh sweetie, what a mess! I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through all this! My first question for you is who are you getting support from? Something like this is just too BIG to carry on your own. I understand it isn't an easy topic to ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 3 July 2008: Hey again, I'm glad my post was able to give you some food for thought - you'd be surprised how things are all 'linked' sometimes! I really hope you can do as you say and take a step back - sounds like you need to spend some time focusing on ... (read in full...)
What size and shape of girl do men prefer?
Q. I'm really curious. Do guys Prefer Skinny, slim, curvy or overweight girls? If you had to pick a clothing size for a girl what would it be?...
A. 2 July 2008: Well, Ok. If you work hard and are happy with your body then great...it can do wonders for ones self esteem to feel fit, desirable and physically strong, and that would make all your effort "worth it" if you ask me.
But if the only reason you work... (read in full...)
He broke up with me in an email- should I send him a letter to express how I feel?
Q. My partner broke up with me by email on Monday. I had no idea it was coming and I'm still in shock - heartbroken. Although only 5 months - this is 5 months out of my life which I value. His email told me that some relationships last and some do...
A. 2 July 2008: I wouldn't bother to email back - I doubt this guy would take on board anything you might write about his low treatment of you, let alone your feelings. To break up with you in such a manner tells me he lacks feeling, lacks insight, lacks maturity ... (read in full...)
I love her but I don't think I'm in love with her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. Hi. Im currently in a relationship with a girl who I started living with about 2 months after we started going out. Its now 6 months into it and although I do love her I dont think im in love with her. Were from different backgrounds and ...
A. 2 July 2008: Yes, this is a hard situation - there is no easy answer for you. I think Eyeswideopen is right though, the doubts you are describing are not minor, and it is unfair to leave this girl in the dark if you are feeling like you say you are. Talk to ... (read in full...)
What size and shape of girl do men prefer?
Q. I'm really curious. Do guys Prefer Skinny, slim, curvy or overweight girls? If you had to pick a clothing size for a girl what would it be?...
A. 2 July 2008: What a wonderful answer Uncle Sneaker!Hehehehe
No offence meant xcharlottex, but how constructive is any answer to this going be? Each woman is different and you are what you are - if somone tells you curvy is best and you are rake thin...w... (read in full...)
What does the future hold for a 23 yr old woman and a 38yr old man?
Q. I'm 23 and my fiance is 38. We're due to get married next year but I'm worried about the future of the relationship. I love him more than anything,trust him completely and we have a perfect relationship compared to my friends dating men their own ...
A. 2 July 2008: If we each had a crystal ball and could see what would happen in 'the future'...it would be a pretty easy/boring?? life wouldn't it. Sometimes you have to risk losing in order to truly gain. ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi again,
I asked about what is going on in your life to make you even consider an affair with a married man...because I feel that there must be something 'not quite right' for you to be in such a vulnerable position.... and maybe making choi... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 2 July 2008: I'm afarid I am with Eyeswideshut on this one - you are looking for 'permission' for your actions...and even on here you are making more and more excuses/"reasons" why you should go for it - and hang the consequences. I also don;t think you really ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 1 July 2008: His marriage has been going downhill for a few years??? Did poor didums tell you that?
I wonder if his wife knows her marriage is in crisis...I suspect not! She probably thinks everything is fine.
I am sorry to be sarcastic...but this whole '... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married almost three years now and we barely have sex. We got married sooner that expected because I got pregnant. We had sex all the time before we got married, but after I think we have three times. When I try to talk ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hey there. This is such a difficult situation - I can see why you are so stressed though, this 'problem' has far-reaching implications for your whole relationship! If your self esteem is being so negatively affected, how are you going to want to be ... (read in full...)
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