I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married almost three years now and we barely have sex. We got married sooner that expected because I got pregnant. We had sex all the time before we got married, but after I think we have three times. When I try to talk ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hi. I agree with the other aunts - I think counselling is something worth a try but only IF you want to see if this marriage can work. Sometimes when things seem so bad - it is hard to imagine that the effort and emotion required to go and put ALL ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 3 July 2008: Hey again, I'm glad my post was able to give you some food for thought - you'd be surprised how things are all 'linked' sometimes! I really hope you can do as you say and take a step back - sounds like you need to spend some time focusing on ... (read in full...)
What does the future hold for a 23 yr old woman and a 38yr old man?
Q. I'm 23 and my fiance is 38. We're due to get married next year but I'm worried about the future of the relationship. I love him more than anything,trust him completely and we have a perfect relationship compared to my friends dating men their own ...
A. 2 July 2008: If we each had a crystal ball and could see what would happen in 'the future'...it would be a pretty easy/boring?? life wouldn't it. Sometimes you have to risk losing in order to truly gain. ... (read in full...)
I keep blowing my chances of finding a soul mate and I need advice.
Q. I'm 27 and vergin.Never had a girl friend or dated in yhe true sense of the term.I just xcouldn't strike the right cord when it cimes to women..I always end up talking crazy getting nervous and blowing my chances of finding a soul mate.What do you ...
A. 2 July 2008: Dating is pretty nerve racking...most people can tell a tale of 'talking crazy' or getting too nervous, but that doesn't mean there is no hope for you my friend.
Do you suffer from anxiety, or social anxiety in general? Or is this 'nervous... (read in full...)
My husband kissed a girl who stays with us. I need some advice what best to do.
Q. Am married for 5years,am having a son of 4years and and within a month am expect our second child.my husband has been always faithful to me.he shares with me everything and it hard for us two to keep secret for each other.In our house we have a girl ...
A. 2 July 2008: If you have made the decision to try to work things out with your husband the first thing would be to get rid of the other woman - there is NO WAY that you can even begin to work on your marriage/ rebuild trust and closeness if this "guest" is ... (read in full...)
Can you really remain friends with an ex?
Q. Is it possible to remain friends with an ex, and can rekindled relationships actually work?...
A. 2 July 2008: I personally never found it easy to remain friends with someone who I had been intimate with...how do you 'hang out' without wanting to touch or think of that closeness that was once there...or why it didn't work etc?? I also coudn't have stood to ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi again,
I asked about what is going on in your life to make you even consider an affair with a married man...because I feel that there must be something 'not quite right' for you to be in such a vulnerable position.... and maybe making choi... (read in full...)
He may break up with me because his mom does not approve! I'm a single mom...
Q. I am a 32 yr old single mum (my daughter is 15 years old) and I have been seeing a lovely guy for 4 months. I got a bad feeling that something wasn't right with him and I confronted him and asked him if everything was ok. He admitted that he isn't ...
A. 2 July 2008: I really hope we are all wrong - and that this guy's feelings are stronger than any other's opinion...and that together you can make things work!
If not - keep your chin up.
x... (read in full...)
Am I going to die alone because I'll be single forever?
Q. Am I going to be single forever??? I have been single for ages after my boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me. Iv been on a few dates and have made sure im not clingy, that I pay my own way and am fun etc etc (its been a while since i dated lol). T...
A. 2 July 2008: Hey Lonely Lady,
I may be way off here...but I suspect the answer to you woes lies in finding yourself again.
You were with a guy for 8 years - that's huge - and I expect you had an imagined 'future' with this man...probably marriage, kids- th... (read in full...)
Office romance: What if this develops more, should I carry on?
Q. I have rcently gotten cosy with this guy I work with. We are constantly flirting with each other on a daily basis at work. I know he knows I want him and he knows I know he wants me too. Problem is we are both married. He has even met my husband ...
A. 2 July 2008: There are about 6 million questions on here that have a similar 'theme' (tagged as cheating, forbidden love, marraiage problems etc)...why don;t you have a read...may give you some food for thought.
Dr Psych is spot on...this "crush" is a symp... (read in full...)
He may break up with me because his mom does not approve! I'm a single mom...
Q. I am a 32 yr old single mum (my daughter is 15 years old) and I have been seeing a lovely guy for 4 months. I got a bad feeling that something wasn't right with him and I confronted him and asked him if everything was ok. He admitted that he isn't ...
A. 2 July 2008: The aunts and uncles are right...this guy is using "mummy" to fight his battles and allow him to cop out of acting like a grown up basically. I am all for a man respecting his mother and her opinion, but not at the expense of him never having his ... (read in full...)
How can I get psychological help without my parents knowing?
Q. How can I get psycological help without my parents knowing? I have anxiety attacks and problems with depression but I'd really like my parents not to know my business...Is there any way I can get help without them knowing? A school counselor is not ...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi Anon,
I'm in Australia too...and I think you do have options to access supports - depending where in Aus are you?
Send me a private msg if you like and we can go from there!... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 2 July 2008: I'm afarid I am with Eyeswideshut on this one - you are looking for 'permission' for your actions...and even on here you are making more and more excuses/"reasons" why you should go for it - and hang the consequences. I also don;t think you really ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him - do I have a right to be mad if he does the same?
Q. Twisted story..I need some advice please read story!!I will try to sum it up. I cheated on my husband at the beginning of the year and admitted to the affair about 2 months ago. He was hurt and of course mad but since then we have been trying to ...
A. 1 July 2008: Look, of course you're going to be mad, and hurt...thinking the person you trust most in the world is lying to you, cheating on you, thinking of another is just about as awful as it gets. I am not trying to be harsh - but has this MAYBE given you ... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for him, but somehow this FWB arrangement is better than a relationship - Help!
Q. My bf of 5 years broke up with me a month ago as we had argued and things got slighlty physical and the police had been involved. As they had taken him away to diffuse the situation he now blames me for the ordeal at the cell (he was kept in a cell...
A. 1 July 2008: This 'relationship' you describe now may feel great - you're still getting a part of him and for now that's keeping you content...however, this won't be the case for long! Sooner or later you're going to come to your senses and realise you deserve ... (read in full...)
Is this just cold feet or something more? I don't want to get married and regret it!
Q. Hi, I'm 21 years old, my fiance is 22, we are getting married in october of this year. we've been together for 2 years and known eachother for 6. I was very excited about our engagement but somehow in this past month, i've made very poor choices.. ...
A. 1 July 2008: The fact that you are even thinking that 'no money has been spent' is a huge red flag...you are obviously thinking it won't cause too many problems if you call it off now, which says alot to me about 'where you're at'. However, even if the dress was ... (read in full...)
My boss and I are VERY attracted to one another, but he's married!
Q. i met a guy a year ago, we clicked instantly, then i found out he was part owner of were i worked and was kinda my manager as well, i had no idea at the time, and had made a pass at him ...he responded , but not a full on response. because of his...
A. 1 July 2008: His marriage has been going downhill for a few years??? Did poor didums tell you that?
I wonder if his wife knows her marriage is in crisis...I suspect not! She probably thinks everything is fine.
I am sorry to be sarcastic...but this whole '... (read in full...)
I just want my husband to show some affection, he thinks by cleaning the house it shows he cares...
Q. i have been with my husband for 12 yrs. he never show`s me he cares, he says he can`t show his feeling`s. i have tried to except it but i can`t. i don`t feel loved, wanted, i just feel i have no one. he is never there for me. i have to cope with thin...
A. 30 June 2008: Big Sis is right, what you are experiencing is emotional abuse. You are not describing a marriage or even a relationship...there is no 'partnership' here is there?
I can see why you feel so alone and isolated - and imagine a real sense of hope... (read in full...)
Will he think it's weird that he's my first proper boyfriend?
Q. I've just started seeing someone, I like him a lot but I am embarressed because I am almost 28 and have never been in a serious relationship - he wants to talk about past relationships etc but I keep avoiding the questions, do you think he will mind ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hey! Listen to the Aunts and Uncles - they're spot on here!!
I was 25 when I began dating the man who I would go on to marry...he was my first 'serious'/adult relationship, my first sexual relationship - and it was/is wonderful. If he is a good guy ... (read in full...)
After 17 years, he says he doesn't feel the same. This breaks my heart, what can I do?
Q. I need help with a relationship that has lasted 17 yrs. A couple of weeks ago he said to me that I love you to death, but I don't feel the same anymore. I have no reason to believe he is cheating, there is no signs at all. He won't commit, he has s...
A. 26 June 2008: I guess what is important here is how YOU feel. Are you still 'in love'/feeling the same way about your man?? I imagine knowing he doesn't feel the same about you is having an impact on your self esteem and your confidence when with him...do things ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to have sex with me!?
Q. my boyfriend and i have sex very often. but lately he doesnt seem as though he wants too. he even told me he didnt care if i had sex with someone else. that was really hurtful, and i know he has mood swings and says things out of anger, but could ...
A. 19 June 2008: His behaviour sounds a bit odd...has anything changed recently for either of you that may be impacting on your relationship/sexlife? Have you been arguing more? Have you been doing the same things (other than sex) you did together to have fun? Has ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 19 June 2008: I agree with the other aunts...and want to add, the way your BF has been going about this is destressing. He is putting all the "problems" onto you - and I can see it is already taking a toll on your self confidence/sexual self esteem. This is ... (read in full...)
A a fresh start no lying or cheating. how can we make this work?
Q. i have been with my g/f for about 8 months and i have cheated on her 3 times. i dont know why i did it but i do know that i love her. i have been used to having more than one girl in the past but never been in a relationship, apart from my daughters ...
A. 19 June 2008: If you are serious about wanting to turn over a new leaf - you need to examine what it is that caused you to be unfaithful previously...unless you have insight into that side of you chances are it is just a matter of time before you slip up.
Y... (read in full...)
I don't want my husband to leave me
Q. i have been married now 16 years, in the last 3 years its been going down hill.my husband dont show any love towards me any more, no kiss, hug, not even a smile,sex is maybe every 2 months, i found out he has been talking to a female employee of ...
A. 19 June 2008: I know there isn;t an easy answer here - but the first step would seem to be to try and talk with your hubby about your feelings, your fears and your desire to examine your marriage/current relationship...if you think things have been going downhill ... (read in full...)
Is this abusive behavior. I feel useless !
Q. After a wonderful one year relationship i moved in with my girlfriend. Now it seems i can't do anything right. She criticizes me for the littlest things like how i fold the bathroom towels, the way i wash up and dry, how i make the bed, where i ...
A. 19 June 2008: Moving in with someone is a big step...and it is not surprising to hear you are having some arguments - this is now about working out what you can live with and what you aren't prepared to let go etc, when you are just dating you still have your ... (read in full...)
What can I do if I have lost that love and feeling for my wife?
Q. What can I do if I have lost that love and feeling for my wife. I feel I am not in love anymore. We have done the getaway trips, I have done everything to please her in anyway and she's done the same but I just don't feel it but I don't want to give ...
A. 12 June 2008: Sometimes if you love someone you let them go. After 10 years together and what sounds like lots of 'trying' to making it work...there may come the time when you need to accept things for what they are and work together on seperating in a way that ... (read in full...)
Children too soon or too late?
Q. My husband and I have only been married since March, and already he wants to have children, it is all he talks about. I realize that since there is such a huge age difference between us (he's 34, I'm 42), the biological clock is ticking and I need ...
A. 12 June 2008: There is always gonna be anxiety around taking a step like this...no matter what age you are, or how long you've been married. It involves a huge life-change and massive responsibility. However, if you think you want to be a mum...go for it! We ... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married almost three years now and we barely have sex. We got married sooner that expected because I got pregnant. We had sex all the time before we got married, but after I think we have three times. When I try to talk ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hey there. This is such a difficult situation - I can see why you are so stressed though, this 'problem' has far-reaching implications for your whole relationship! If your self esteem is being so negatively affected, how are you going to want to be ... (read in full...)
I need help to deal with his lies!
Q. I've recently found out my boyfriend of 6 years has lied to me. I found out by reading msg's on his phone should I confront him? please help feel as though I'm losing trust in him....
A. 12 June 2008: Without knowing much "context" - I am going to say yes, confront him. You are obviously very concerned about whatever you found on his phone..and if your trust is eroding...what are you to do? Leaving it will only make it fester and get worse for ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to be a part of a remembrance for our lost baby?
Q. I need some help please. I had a miscarriage 5 months ago and my boyfriend of almost 3 years never seemed to upset about it. He never would talk about it and he wouldnt help me pick a name out for our baby boy. Now that what would have been my due ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hmmm - this is a sad situation all round. Firstly, I am very sorry to hear of your loss, I truly hope you will be able to reover and heal very soon. To answer your question - I don;t know if you can "make" your man participate in something like t... (read in full...)
I was unfaithful - should I tell?
Q. been dating my boyfriend for a long while now. i love him very much and a loves me too.a believe hes been faithful these past years and he means the world to me. problem is i havent been so faithful. he thinks im a saint but ive had a few flings and ...
A. 12 June 2008: Having read both posts - it does sound more like an 'affair' which is very different from a one night thing. Cheating is cheating, but if you go back again and again you have to have a look at why???
I also have to say - you don;t sound tota... (read in full...)
She accepted my invitation to dinner but mentioned it will not be a date, as she's already committed. How can I win her over?
Q. My problem is that I am completely in love with this girl who I've known from the beginning of this semester. I asked her out to dinner a couple of days ago and she said she can't as a date but as maybe as mates, because she already has a boyfriend ...
A. 12 June 2008: You're welcome - and your plan sounds good! "Loves hurts" can be so true huh!!... (read in full...)
How do I let him know that I'm ready to try to get pregnant again?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have resenly experince a miscarriage, and im wanting to try again but dont know if he is wanting to try again or to wait. How would iapprotch him about it. The problam is that he dosent like to talk about things he never gives ...
A. 12 June 2008: I agree with Tremor - the best approach with a topic as 'serious' as this is the direct approach....and afterall, you BOTH have to be in the right place to begin to try again/ start a family.
What you have both been through is extremely trau... (read in full...)
Guys, would you date her and kiss her? She was forced to perform oral sex by a previous boyfriend.
Q. If you see a beautiful girl that you really like and she also attends college. But she tell you that she was force once in the past to perform oral sex by a guy she was dating. she said she end it with the guy immediately after that. These are my ...
A. 12 June 2008: This is crazy! What's her sexual history really have to do with it?? Forced or not, her performing oral sex does not make her a freak!! I don;t mean to be nasty, but how old are you?
Frankly, I don;t know if you're the right guy for HER....if you ... (read in full...)
She accepted my invitation to dinner but mentioned it will not be a date, as she's already committed. How can I win her over?
Q. My problem is that I am completely in love with this girl who I've known from the beginning of this semester. I asked her out to dinner a couple of days ago and she said she can't as a date but as maybe as mates, because she already has a boyfriend ...
A. 11 June 2008: You can live without her...
but you've put out the invite, the rest is up to her.
If I were her, had a boyfriend and knew you were 'interested' I don't think I would go out alone with you, even as "mates" - so if she does come along maybe she is... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend is trying to cut me out of his life!
Q. (I NEED MENS ADVICE mostly) i am 3 months pregnant. abortion is not a option and my bf is at uni he hasnt spoken to me since i told him which was 2 weeks ago he has deleted me of myspace, facebook and wont talk to me he puts his phone voicemail wont ...
A. 11 June 2008: I think the guys who have answered have given good advice - I agree, you have to stop thinking this guy will be back - you need to try and focus on that unborn child now. I know it is very hard - you're heartbroken and scared, but your stress levels ... (read in full...)
My online guy wants to marry me even though we've never met!
Q. So, I may seem insane to you guys after asking this question.... I've been talking to this guy online for about 3 1/2 years. We've become good friends and both have been wanting to date for quite some time..but he lives in TN. Last year he joined ...
A. 11 June 2008: Firstly, I do believe that people who meet via the net or who have LD relationships - CAN go on to have great marriages, I have personally known two couples that have had that success! BUT....
it is my honest opinion that you should know each othe... (read in full...)
Sick and scared! What kind of operation will I have?
Q. ok so I'm a 14 year old female and I've been having problems with my stomach so I went to the hospital and they said that my gallbladder is only workin 42 percent. So my doctor said they would have to surgry. I was wondering what kind of surgry they ...
A. 11 June 2008: A relative of mine had her gall bladder removed - it was done using keyhole surgery - so there were about 4 little holes that have healed up really really well. She was in hospital for about a day and half - and then was a bit sore and sorry for ... (read in full...)
Should I put the baby my last name or his?
Q. well im in love with this guy who lives in a different state and he loves me we started going back out yesterday and hes coming to see me in two weeks hes gonna get me pregnant so i can have his baby when he is in iraq but i dont know if i put his ...
A. 10 June 2008: Have you looked into the legal issues in your country? I believe it can be easier to have the biological father pay maintenance money for the child if the surname appears on the certificate....but either way he will still be liable I think.
My husb... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hey jon23, I am glad you felt you could ask her sraight out - that can't have been an easy conversation for you! To be honest - girls can be a bit fickle and there is no way to know whether she may one day realise what a "catch" you were and wish ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have done anything to make him like this?
Q. It seems like my boyfriend of over a year has changed and doesn't want to be with me anymore. I've confronted him and he tells me he does but we've not kissed in weeks, he seems short tempered with me and we've not had sex in months! Do yo...
A. 9 June 2008: Relationship problems are very often a result of things that both parties may be doing that are causing friction, loss of interest, withdrawal etc...but that doesn't mean you should start blaming yourself or thinking you've done something 'wrong'. ... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi again, Well...she is giving you mixed signals, your second post highlights that. My suggestion would be to "put the ball in her court"...so, you can let her know that you would like to see her/take her out one night and tell her to call you when... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage but my husband doesn't want me for anything but sex...help!
Q. I am a 51 year old married woman who has desperately been trying to save my marriage recently my husband told me he doesn't want me anymore except for sex. The reason he gave me was because I won't give him a massage when he ask me, and I won't give ...
A. 9 June 2008: It's difficult whe you don;t feel like you can communicate with someone, and don;t feel they understand where you are coming from - often this can lead to built up resentment and create a whole new set of "issues"...exacerbating the ... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 8 June 2008: Well, I can see why you could be a bit confused...she may be giving you some mixed messages...but to be honest, I am more inclined to think she is actually trying to give you a clear message that she is happy with the decision to end the ... (read in full...)
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