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writes:If a guy doesn't want a girl to be his girlfriend but still wants to have sex with her, does that mean that shes ugly or doesnt have a good personality? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Because men are insensitive, arrogant and reckless but we are better at multi-choice than women.
The majority of our gender are just after sex. This tends to be people at a less mature level and age, but can range...
It doesn't really mean anything. Men don't really think on that level...its like women like hugs and kisses, men just think that as a necessity to get up to the next level.
This is excludes me by the way, and there are men who wouldn't do that and do think about how women feel!
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 Lazy Guy that is the best post I've read this week! Bravo!
I think women think guys are like women in their thinking so they think they will give sex to say please like me. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Oldersister, let's go over this one more time:
Two men (me and Lazyguy) say Lazyguy's point that the men who do this are coming out on top. One woman (you) responds that we're wrong and these guys are really losers.
Well, as long as a man feels the way women do, and not the way the rest of us men actually feel, you're right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008):
Women everywhere, please read what Lazy Guy just wrote.
He just nailed a bunch of things about this issue better than I've ever heard before.
When you sleep with a guy without getting a relationship out of it, then he is WINNING this game as clear-cut as it gets.
He got what he wanted, and she didn't get what she wanted in return. And other women will (admit it or not) be more attracted to him because he could pull it off.
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reader, issy-marsh  +, writes (4 July 2008):
just take the oppertunity! and see where it goes from there, obviously only if you are attracted to the man in question :-) , its the only way you will find out...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): put it down to experience, sex is not the same for men as it is for women.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Wham bam thank you ma'am
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): I'm srry but alot of guys just want to have sex and not have to go out
its called a 1 nite stand
or get in get out
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Because he wants sex.
Men are often called dogs. This is wrong, we are cats. Feed a dog three times and he is yours. Feed a cat three times and all you will have achieved is a happy cat looking for the next free meal.
Do NOT make the mistake of ever thinking that love is a requirement for a man to have sex OR that sex can make a man love you.
Some people claim that this is different for women, might be true, I am not a woman but men do NOT BOND OVER SEX.
The guy in question just wants your body, it has NOTHING to do with how it looks or what kind of person you are. You could be the most beautiful woman on earth or the hunchback of Notre Dame's long lost sister. You could be an angel made flesh or a bitch straight from hell. He just wants sex.
Some others call these guys losers. An odd term to use for a person who is getting exactly what he wants. Sadly calling them losers is a very feminine way of thinking "Oh he is missing out on my love, he is wasting his life". WRONG. He doesn't want your love, he wants your body. The loser in such cases is the woman who allows herself to be used for the guys pleasure without getting what she wants herself.
It is important to understand this or you keep falling for it again and again.
A GUY WHO USES YOU JUST FOR SEX AND GETS AWAY WITH IT IS A WINNER! He has WON what he wants. The woman who gives the guy who only wants sex, sex while she wants love is THE LOSER, because she hasn't gotten what she wants.
If you are not the type for casual sex then learn to spot people only after casual sex unless you want your heart broken time and time again.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow +, writes (3 July 2008):
 DUH! Because he only wants 1 thing from you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Most girls are really built to link sex and love in their minds. Their emotional radar says "he's sleeping with me, therefore he wants a relationship with me."
Guys are built so that this link can still be true too. But for most guys it's much more optional depending on the situation. Sex might mean a ton to a guy but you can't assume that with every guy if you're seeing signs that suggest otherwise.
If you want to be a no-committment sex toy for a guy who doesn't really want to put in the work of a relationship with you, there are plenty of guys who will be happy to take you up on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): One train of thought inspires that type of man, and I use MAN loosely here because a real man stands tall and faces his duties, all of them, even the less than pleasant and the needlessly romantic ones.'Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?'Men who operate under this train of thought, give us all a bad name.But there are decent men out there... you just have to dig deeper to find them.Flynn 24
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Hi,You need to start understanding more about men, in particular more about the type of men who will take advantage of a girl like you. These guys are called players, they will butter you up , tell you sweet things, and make you feel very special , but its just so they can have sex with you before moving on to the next conquest. there are a lot of guys out there like this and they naive girls like you are their main target.If a guy is really into you as a person he will hold off and not try and have sex with you at every opportunity because he wants to get to know you. There's nothing wrong with a bit of a pash and a cuddle - but tell them sex is out!You need to learn the difference between guys who will flatter you to get you into bed and guys who want you to be their friend first before being intimate. My wife's mother always told her when she was young she should avoid the boys who approach her who are full of confidence and showing off about themselves - these are the players.You will learn as you get older, but men find it a lot easier to have sex without committing to a relationship than girls do ( though there are plenty of girls who break this mold as well ). If you start going out with a guy, tell him you want to be friends first if he cant respect that then you know you have a dud on your hands. good luck
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reader, Nephertite  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Sex is just sex... a relationship is a whole other ball game.. if you feel a man should be obligated to you since he slept with you, then only have sex when you are in a serious relationship.. that way you wont be the only one emotionally attached.
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reader, pashanoodle +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Sex and relationships can be two very seperate things - depending on the person. This guy is probably physically attracted to you to want to have sex - but that doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with you....
so, the important thing here is what do YOU want?
If you want more than he is offering - maybe better not to see him at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Hahaha! Sorry, I could not help laughing to this question.
Girl, where have you been? Join us all in the 21st century. It most definetly does not mean there ugly or they don't have a good personality. It means the guy wants sex and only sex and is using the girl for it. So many guys are like this .. Where have you been!
Sorry, if your the "girl" in this situation.
Definetly no disrespect.
Oh dear .. Good luck.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (3 July 2008):
 It means he wants unattached sex from a woman. No strings sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): girl below me is right, shouldnt let that happen to yourself or anyone
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reader, Tremor +, writes (3 July 2008):
 No. It means the guy is a loser who wants some no-strings attached sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): No it doesn't mean you are ugly or have a sucky personality. Just remember that what is one man's "trash" is another man's treasure. It just means that he doesn't appreciate you in the way that you deserve. It also means that he is horny. And he is willing to have sex with you even though he is not inlove with you. Just purely for the physical nature of it.
I personally wouldn't have sex with him under those conditions. I'd rather eat sh*t.
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