How can I play this one cool and have some fun?
Q. My BF had oral sex with another gal. He thinks I don't know about it and yet he's acting guilty. I think I'm gonna have some fun with this instead of falling apart like most women would do. This oral sex happened at work. I need lots of ...
A. 28 May 2008: This is probably a "boring answer" - but I reckon you've wasted enough energy on this guy already if he has done what you think he has....why don;t you just ditch him and invest your time and effort in either yourself or some new, nice guy who ... (read in full...)
I hate everything about my boyfriend but I love him more than anything in the world... should I leave him?
Q. I hate everything about my boyfriend but I love him more than anything in the world... should I leave him? I used to trust him, I used to feel comfortable with him in public, I used to enjoy having him around, I used to like doing things for him, ...
A. 28 May 2008: This sounds like a mess - he is mucking you around and effecting your whole self worth...I think you really should leave this guy...it isn't going to get any better, probably worse...do yourself a favour and dump him!... (read in full...)
Argh! My boyfriend is planning to go out partying when I'm teaching!
Q. My boyfriend is so... argh! I can't quite describe just how angry he makes me! See, I broke his trust, because last year I told him I wouldn't talk to this certain guy who used to have a crush on me anymore. But the thing is said guy is in my cla...
A. 28 May 2008: I don;t mean to be disrespectful - but is he kidding? Either there is more to your "talking" with this guy than you are saying or your BF has some major insecurities and trust issues that he really should address!
What you describe sounds comp... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant after a negative test or am I just imagining things?
Q. I recently had a pregnancy test after experiencing signs of pregnancy for instance, sore breats, feeling sick and not being able to smell food without feeling sik etc. It Showed up negative yet these signs have not gone. Could I Still be pregnant...
A. 28 May 2008: Hi, not to freak you out, but a friend of mine had symptoms too - but took several home tests and they all came back negative. Eventually she demanded a pelvic ultra sound and they found she was about 10 wks along - but it was an ectopic (in the ... (read in full...)
Tears stream down my face when I orgasm! Why is this?
Q. Hi. Any advise will be helpful. In the last 6 months or so when my boyfriend brings me to orgasim I have this rush of emotion and I can't help but cry. I don't understand what this is about. It just starts and tears are just running down my face. I ...
A. 27 May 2008: I am guessing it is to do with those hormones...I believe the culprit in this case is Oxytocin...
It is interesting to me that you feel sadness tho - are there other emotional issues going on for you at the moment that could be triggering the sadn... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my sneaky scumbag ex without lashing out?
Q. hi there,wonder if anyone can give me some advice? i have an 11year old son by my ex. i have been with my new bf for 3yrs. my ex was a complete lowlife loser. he had affairs when i was pregnant and even let one girl he was seeing send me a death ...
A. 27 May 2008: I don;t know what the laws are in your country - but here in Australia your husband would be liable to pay child maintenance. Why don;t you seek leagal advise? You are never going to get any satisfaction if you continue to try and deal with your ... (read in full...)
Can circumcision be reversed?
Q. i have a girlfriend and we been together for like 6 months and were planning on having sex but i have a circumsised penis....can i asked a docter to uncircumsise is or no??...
A. 27 May 2008: I am fairly sure you can;t reverse a circumcision. Why are you worrying about this? Are you concerned it will make a difference to your sexual experience/pleasure? There are plenty of guys/men who have wonderful sex lives and who are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hits me and calls me names. I don't know what to do.
Q. Ive bin with my boyfriend now for 2 years, at first he was lovely now he hits me pushes me, calls me names fat, ugly etc, wont help with the kids if he dont get his own way. one is his. he works in the day he comes home helps a bit with the children ...
A. 27 May 2008: It makes me sad to see you have used the log in name you have...is this how you see yourself?
It sounds like things with your BF have deteriorated over time - and that you have had little success trying to talk with him about it - I am assu... (read in full...)
Did she sleep with him?
Q. Hi, About two years ago my girlfriend cheated on with with her friend from London, over about 3 months. My g/f says it never went any further than kissing all the time they were together, but i have a feeling that sex was involved. The...
A. 27 May 2008: Whether she did or didn't sleep with this other guy is probably not the most relevant thing here....the problem is she cheated on you. Cheating is more than having sex with someone else - she pretended to be available, put herself in a position to ... (read in full...)
Is it better to ignore his calls till he gets the picture or talk to him and tell him it is over?
Q. Hoping someone can help me here. I would appreciate it very much. My ex and I split a couple of years ago. After the split, which was painful for us both, he moved to another city, met someone else and was with her till last October. We have been ...
A. 27 May 2008: No - sounds like you don't think he deserves the ignoring ...neither do I. You're a grown up, so is he...so just talk to him. It'll be an awkward conversation yes, but you're already well into "awkward"!
Is there any chance you're feeling a bit ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone that you are sexually unattracted to?
Q. I have been dating the same girl for almost a year and a half now. Shes great. I love her to death. She wore a promise ring until today. At first glance I wasn't that attracted to her. But a couple months after we met we started dating. We started ...
A. 27 May 2008: I think it is possible to love someone you're not sexually attracted to, but I am not sure you should ignore the fact that you're feeling unattracted to her.
Sexuality (yours and hers) and sexual relations play a very important role in a heal... (read in full...)
How else besides lab tests can a pregnancy be determined?
Q. IF a woman is suspected to be pregnant, what other means of test aside from lab tests can it be proven. like what color her vaginal secretions are? are they sticky or what?...
A. 27 May 2008: Vaginal secretions can help you determine if a woman is in a fertile or non-fertile part of her menstrual cycle - if they are sticky/like egg whites it is likely she is fertile (so not pregnant)...but unless you're wanting to get pregnant use ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a hand job and a blow job, but I don't know how to do it.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to give him a hand job and blo job. I'm fine with this, except I never done it before. How do you do a hand job? How do you do a blo job?...
A. 27 May 2008: I agree that you may be a little young for this kind of stuff..but if you are going to experiment just make sure it is something YOU want to do for you...not just to please your BF. If he's a good guy he will understand if you say you're not ready. ... (read in full...)
My uncle asked me out, and we've talked about having sex, but I have some questions.
Q. Hey, im having trouble with a major issue in my life. My uncle asked me out and i like him a lot so I said yes. But we keep it a secret so he can spend the night. He is six years older than me. We talked about having sex, but I'm scared it will hurt ...
A. 27 May 2008: You are keeping all this a "secret" because both of you know that this is not OK. You're young, but not too young to know that a sexual relationship with a close blood relative is wrong...for numerous reasons. Your uncle should know better - his ... (read in full...)
Is it so bad to cheat on my boyfriend with my ex? My bf has not been able to satisfy me sexually...
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend.. w my ex................. i dnt want to be back with him but i have been dating my current bf for 5 months. He was a vifgin and has not been able to satisfy me sexually. He tries and has gotten somewhat better ... he cant ...
A. 27 May 2008: MMMMmmm - I'm gonna say yes, it was bad and it something you need to face and think about. There is no excuse for betraying the trust that comes explicitly with being in a long term "relationship" - you have done the wrong thing by your current BF. ... (read in full...)
Is he using me for sex, but is it possible he has feelings for me too?
Q. i love my sex partner so much. He has other plains with his son's mother. she's always in and out of his life. He suppose to married her in 3 months but he's unsure.I'm HURT! i've been ONLY with him during our 5years of sex relations. Why would he ...
A. 27 May 2008: I suspect he is having his cake and eating it too...does his "fiance" even know you exist? I doubt it. What are you wanting from him anyway? If he hasn't committed to you in 5 years - what makes you think he would/should now? Sounds like you have ... (read in full...)
Will me and ex end up going down the same troubled path as before?
Q. I'm having a bit of trouble on the love side of things. I've recently rekindled a friendship with an ex-boyfriend, which was lovely and I'm really appreciating being friends with him again cos he's a great person, but I'm scared that things are ...
A. 22 May 2008: If the two of you do not identify and talk about what went wrong last time, AND then take the necessary steps to change these things, then chances are you may end up in trouble again. I would suggest good, open communication from the get go...talk ... (read in full...)
Crush on my flatmate but don't want to ruin our friendship?
Q. I have a huge crush on my flatmate. She used to live next door and we did at one stage make plans to go out and see a movie, but we never got around to it. She moved away and then just happen to visit one day when we had a free room in the house. ...
A. 22 May 2008: Hey there Mr Lovestruck!
You may find this a bit cliched - but life is too short!! If you have deep feelings for this gal you should let her know - the worst thing that can happen is that she will say she doesn't feel the same about you, and even... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose the spark in our relationship, but it's getting that way because of money issues.
Q. Dear Cupid, my boyfriend and i have just bought a house and we are finding it hard with money, we are coping, just, but can't find the time to save money. We want to go out and do things but we can't afford it, so we stay home and watch the tv. I ...
A. 22 May 2008: Do you live in a decent sized city/town? Here in Australia there are always heaps of free events on - markets, concerts, exhibitions, short film festivals etc...check out what's on near you guys!! ... (read in full...)
I know the obvious thing is to go to the GP or get a pregnancy test, but I'd like some advice first please.
Q. Am I pregnant? I know the obvious thing is to go to the GP or get a test, but I'd like some advice first. I'm too young to have a kid I personally believe, and I missed my period last month (it should be due again in a couple of days). The docto...
A. 22 May 2008: Hey Fellow Aussie,
Have you tried doing a urine pregnancy test? You can get them at the chemist for around $20. They are about 99% accurate according to my GP. Some of the brands can detect a pregnancy around 5 days before your period is due.... (read in full...)
I think back to when we were first together, and great we were and I felt loved, now it's like he doesn't love me.
Q. Dear cupid, i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a bit now, and we recently bought a house together. I know i love him but lately we feel so distant, i've tried to talk about it with him but he justs gets angry and thin...
A. 22 May 2008: Your BF's behaviour is really inappropriate - someone who cares about you should not treat you like he has been, there really is no excuse. Something is obviously up with him - but he should be talking to you rather than pushing you away and making ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he may propose? Or is this his way of fantasising?
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are both madly in love with eachother, and we are expecting our first child! We have lived together since the day we started dating practically! We have just been inseperable! He h...
A. 22 May 2008: He is with you, loving you, excited to be having a child with you...he's giving you lots of signs that he is very committed to you so chances are one day the proposal will come...but is it so important? You've got so much already - enjoy it!!
I... (read in full...)
I know if I was to leave him - it would crush him.
Q. I have been dating this guy for 3 years now. Things were going really well for us but the last couple of months i have not been happy in my realationship. I feel like i am leading him on now, and feel really guilty about it. But I know if i was to l...
A. 22 May 2008: Hi. This is a hard situation for both of you, I feel for you. Obviously you have given considerable thought to your feelings and have gained some insight into what's going on for you,and what you think you should do?
There is no easy way to sepe... (read in full...)
Do we confront her about our uncomfortableness and leave my wife alone?
Q. My wife and I have been married for quite a few years. We have a great marriage, great house, great kids, great dog and cat..... Anyway, her friend of a few years (I think they are friends about 5 years, it's way after we were married) is gett...
A. 22 May 2008: Hi, I don't think you guys sound too prudish - you're just different to your wife's friend - and that's fine.
I agree with the other posters that is not really your place to say anything to her fiance - what exactly would you say? "Your fiance acte... (read in full...)
I thought he really liked me, but then he told me it was just a fling for him. I'm so hurt right now and don't know what to think or do?
Q. Hoping someone can help. I am so hurt right now. My ex left town three years ago and moved back to his hometown. He was with someone and they split about six months ago. He called me in February and I stopped in and visited with him in March.We have ...
A. 20 May 2008: Let him go - there is a massive history between you so I can understand why you still feel so much for him and you are certainly not the first "ex's" to get physical...it's so weird not to be that way with someone you were so intimate with for so ... (read in full...)
Could my birth control give me a false reading...?
Q. i started taking birth control 3 weeks ago and took two pregnancy tests today that both came out positive. could my birth control give me a false reading??...
A. 20 May 2008: Hmmm - to be honest hon, those pregnancy tests are VERY accurate these days...if you've gotten two back that say positive you should get yourself off to a Dr and have a blood test! Did you have sex around the middle of your cycle? Why did you do the ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?
Q. I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...
A. 19 May 2008: This isn't sounding good at all, the fact that he dismisses your concerns is a sign that he is not treating you in the manner he should. If he was behaving as a caring husband and partner he would acknowledge your insecurities around this, talk with ... (read in full...)
What's best for my child's sake? Do I stay or leave?
Q. Hi, i'm in a relationship of 8 years, and in the end we don't sleep with each other, or ever kiss or hug, i dont want to kiss her. I have one child and i think that i'm in it for her, so i can look after her. Our relationship has been dead for year...
A. 19 May 2008: It kind of sounds like you know what you want/need to do - and that asking on this site is to "get permission" perhaps?
Does your wife know you feel like this and have been considering leaving? Have you asked her how she feels about you / the marr... (read in full...)
What's best for my child's sake? Do I stay or leave?
Q. Hi, i'm in a relationship of 8 years, and in the end we don't sleep with each other, or ever kiss or hug, i dont want to kiss her. I have one child and i think that i'm in it for her, so i can look after her. Our relationship has been dead for year...
A. 19 May 2008: It kind of sounds like you know what you want/need to do - and that asking on this site is to "get permission" perhaps?
Does your wife know you feel like this and have been considering leaving? Have you asked her how she feels about you / the marr... (read in full...)
Is it just me or is anyone else feeling concerned about the amount of unfaithfulness goin on here?
Q. Is it just me or is anyone else getting scared as hell of the amount of unfaithful married couples goin on here? This makes me super frightened to be married! Dosnt anyone believe in a commitment these days? No wonder the divorce rate is sky high, ...
A. 13 May 2008: I think we live in a particularly complex society nowadays - and unfortunately the big push is individualism, and the idea that if it's broken you should just go out and get a bigger better one! The other problem is the "Disney" portrayal of ... (read in full...)
Help! I need somebody!- Do you think he's sending signals or not???
Q. (this is a combination of several of my replies to other users before I had my own account....now it's a question) I've known my english teacher for 2 years, last year when we would talk in passing and then this year when he was finally my teach...
A. 13 May 2008: Please don't take this the wrong way - you are very young, crushes are normal (often on older males in positions of 'power')but keep in mind that this age/stage of development is when you are really only starting to define yourself, to become an ... (read in full...)
Is 17 too young to know you have found "the one"?
Q. Ok I know what everyone is going to say when I ask this question but is 17 to young to find the one? Me and my boyfreind are very matture then most other couple and so happy, everyday just keeps getting better with him , so what im asking is can it ...
A. 12 May 2008: It's great that you are in love - my advice is to just take each day at a time and see where things go. No matter what age you are when you meet someone and fall in love, there is no guarantee it will be your life's great romance...but that's the ... (read in full...)
Can someone please tell me how to trust my boyfriend? He's cheated in the past.
Q. I have really bad trust issuses with my boyfreind, the problem is he has never done anything to betray my trust. My ex boyfreind cheated on me so much and i never found out till we had broken up...Im jsut worride my boyfreind is doing the same. Even ...
A. 12 May 2008: This is a pretty unfair situation for your current boyfriend - although having been burnt in the past I can understand your fears and trust issues. It is good that you have enough insight to recognise that your concerns stem from past grievances - ... (read in full...)
Will having sex with this woman make me stop yearning for her, alleviate this sexual frustration so I can focus on my marriage?...
Q. I'm getting concerned about my sexual feelings for my wife, as I've been strongly attracted to a very attractive and wholesome woman at work, and I came to learn she feels the same as me, and she is also married. There has been no sex between us a...
A. 12 May 2008: Another female perspective I'm afraid - but here goes...
don't do it. If focusing on your marriage is what you really want this is not the answer!! Talk to your wife - even explain this "crush" and how scared/confused it has you....start comm... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't like kids but I have a 4 year od son. Can you advise?
Q. I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for about a year and half. I love being with him, he is amazing. Although he has met my 4 year old son a few times, I don't like to bring him around because I'm afraid that my son may get attached ...
A. 12 May 2008: Girl - this sounds simple to me....there is really only one boy for you in this situation - and that is your son. There is NO WAY you are going to get what you desire in your current relationship given what you have described.
You and your son dese... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 12 May 2008: I assume you haven't been in a long term relationship - for if you had you would realise that it isn't all rosey rosey like when you first start dating and the sex is great, and you never fight, and you love all the same stuff...blah blah ... (read in full...)
I keep miscarrying, why can't I stay pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, I feel like i'm about to just break down and just die it's tearing me apart that i can't ever stay pregnant, or get pregnant when i want! I was 5 weeks pregnant and i have no idea why i have miscarriages. Its tearing me apart, i dont...
A. 12 May 2008: Yes, speak with your Dr. I think after a certain number of miscarriages there are specialists that you can link in with to look at options/why things are happening etc. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has moved abroad without considering me, should I follow him?
Q. My boyfriend has moved from the UK to the US a month ago - something he has had planned for 2 years. I met him 14 months ago and we fell in love quickly but he never once considered whether I was able to come with him and decided that he could not ...
A. 12 May 2008: Don't follow him.... (read in full...)
Unbearable truth....do I move on or wait for a cheater to reform?
Q. I am 38 and my ex gf is 23 going on 24. We had been together for over a year and a half. Chance meeting at a bar and I wasn't looking for someone this young. Firstly, she's geniunely naive, stupid and weak. I slept with her the first night. I had ...
A. 12 May 2008: Move on.
From what you write - in your heart and head you have already started to - and I don;t think you are really going to be able to forgive and forget. If you stay - it should be about wanting a fullfilling relationship with this woman - not ... (read in full...)
Can projecting a bad conscience ruin my relationship?
Q. Help!!! I have been in the most perfect relationship for circa 18 months now with a girl that means everything in the world to me! I really love her with all my heart! Then 2 days ago I was at this birthday party (with my girlfriend) where also my e...
A. 12 May 2008: It sounds like your relationship is very important to you - and I believe you can keep it/rebuild it.
I think you should focus ONLY on your slip up - getting defensive and bringing up her naughty kiss is only going to see the two of you end up in a... (read in full...)
My ex wants us to be friends even though he has a girlfriend. Why does he send me mixed signals?
Q. Me and my ex-boy friend been broken up for almost 4-5years and he is in another relationship still with the girl he was cheating on me with. He want's us to be friends but it's hard for me because we had history. I get a feeling that he regrets are ...
A. 12 May 2008: You have already answered your own question! You have been maintaining this messy relationship by staying in touch with his family, and by continuing to see him and "play games" with him. Lets call a spade a spade...he is having his cake and eating ... (read in full...)
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