She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 10 June 2008: Hey jon23, I am glad you felt you could ask her sraight out - that can't have been an easy conversation for you! To be honest - girls can be a bit fickle and there is no way to know whether she may one day realise what a "catch" you were and wish ... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi again, Well...she is giving you mixed signals, your second post highlights that. My suggestion would be to "put the ball in her court"...so, you can let her know that you would like to see her/take her out one night and tell her to call you when... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage but my husband doesn't want me for anything but sex...help!
Q. I am a 51 year old married woman who has desperately been trying to save my marriage recently my husband told me he doesn't want me anymore except for sex. The reason he gave me was because I won't give him a massage when he ask me, and I won't give ...
A. 9 June 2008: It's difficult whe you don;t feel like you can communicate with someone, and don;t feel they understand where you are coming from - often this can lead to built up resentment and create a whole new set of "issues"...exacerbating the ... (read in full...)
Been together for 4 months..is it too soon for a baby?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for about 4 months and want a baby. Is it to soon? Am I too young? I've known my partner for 4 years because he used to work at the stables I used to go to. I love babies so much i've always have ever since i can ...
A. 8 June 2008: I agree with the other aunts - you should probably not rush into this. The decision to have a baby is not as simple as you make it sound - after all, you are bringing a child into the world who you will be responsible for. You want to make sure that ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and he acts like nothing changed!
Q. Okay, I'm 8 months pregnant and my boyfriend acts as if nothing has changed. I mean, we're still together I guess, and he stays at my apartment usually but lately..it's as if everything else is more important to him. I''ve always had a perfect ...
A. 8 June 2008: Hello mummy to be, Congratulations!! Pregnancy/hormones can make you alot more emotional than usual, that's for sure...but I don't think that's all that is going on here. It is really normal to feel scared about all that's happening when y... (read in full...)
Why does he bait me and how do I stop it?
Q. I almost started a relationship with a guy I worked with through volunteer work. I found out he was married and stopped things in their tracks. I still see him at the volunteer meetings. It seems I cannot win with him. He told me he wanted to speak...
A. 8 June 2008: Firstly - good on you girl!! It is refreshing to read of someone who is NOT going to pursue a relationship with a married man despite having feelings for him initially!! There seem to be an awful lot of people out there who don;t see a wedding band ... (read in full...)
He thinks my sisters picture is me - Help!
Q. Hello, I'm a 24 year old female who has had a rough life I've been using my sisters pictures as passing them off that that's me for about a year now. She knows about it and thought it was funny. Now I've met a great guy who I'm totally in love ...
A. 8 June 2008: Hmmm, this is a hard one...I'm assuming we're talking about internet dating?? Has this guy been thinking you are your sister for a whole year?? How many photos has he seen and have you discussed the photo/s as if it IS you??
The reason I ask is t... (read in full...)
I'm completely confused!!
Q. ok so things seem to be getting a little better. atleast we are not yelling at each other any more but now its really getting me upset and confused because when she talks to me on the phone she still knows we are married just kinda denys it then ...
A. 8 June 2008: Your question is a bit confusing too...but it sounds like you just don;t know where you stand.
Obviously you and your wife have had marital problems that have lead to seperation, but it seems like you have one idea about this situation (that you'... (read in full...)
What are the first sypmptoms of pregnancy?
Q. What is the first sign if you're pregnant? What are the symptoms?...
A. 8 June 2008: The symptoms can be quite different for each woman - for me, it was a really heightened sense of smell, loss of appetite (or else being hungry and not feeling like anything in particular), neausea at different times of the day.... lots of women co... (read in full...)
I have PMS and my mother thinks I'm no use around the house!
Q. Okay..So.. About a month ago i ahd the implant. My periods are Screwed up and im so much nastier. I love my mum to bits and i must admit shes my best friend. But Since ive Started Bein 'nasty' we fall out all the time. she says im nasty and i have a ...
A. 8 June 2008: I think that the implant is probably messing with your hormones/and therefore your emotional state/mood, you're at the age where hormones wreak havoc on your mind and body, and that implabt is probably exacerbating everything!However,I also think ... (read in full...)
Separated wife dated and I can't deal with it! Help!!
Q. why cant i get over my wife dating someone when we were seperated? weve been married for 13 years, i had some withdraw problems 2 years ago when my mom died then we grew apart and she accused me of having an affair. after months of fighting my wife ...
A. 8 June 2008: I agree with the other posters...you need to look at what you want here - from what you wrote you got your wish, your wife has come home. It sounds like both of you have had hurdles and issues to deal with in the past year or so - you've both bee... (read in full...)
Can this feeling last forever?
Q. I have always thought that marriage is a really bad idea. I mean, almost every couple I know is just a disaster. Nothing ever seems to last - and personally, I know myself, and I know how impatient I am. I'm not made for it. But now I'm hopeless...
A. 8 June 2008: We all wish we could have a crystal ball and look into our futures...however wouldn't life be boring if we could!!!It's normal to feel a little apprehensive on the cusp of a big decision or a life changing event...and yep, a wedding fits that ... (read in full...)
Is keeping in touch with a married man leading into a relationship?
Q. I met a guy in a business deal a year ago, he's American but was living with his family in china at that time , so he left shortly after the business deal. We met as simple acquaintances, but got along and started keeping in touch since. About ...
A. 8 June 2008: TO be honest - I think there IS potential for this contact to be problematic. You don;t give any details about your own situation...are you married/in a relationship?? My understanding is that this kind of contact CAN be the lead in to infidelity... (read in full...)
She's not answering me -- Help!!
Q. my g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago. we still talk every day mainly through text mess. she always ans. my text back but lately she doesnt always ans back. she does have a 2nd job that causes her to work late, but she starts a new one next week at ...
A. 8 June 2008: Well, I can see why you could be a bit confused...she may be giving you some mixed messages...but to be honest, I am more inclined to think she is actually trying to give you a clear message that she is happy with the decision to end the ... (read in full...)
He says I should turn a blind eye to his cheating, is he right?
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 years, i knew he has been cheating. we have discussed why do men cheat? and he answered that man can have sex with other women but not having any feeling for them, so i should not get upset. as long as he is nice to me, ...
A. 8 June 2008: I know you feel guilty about snooping in his emails - but if he has the hide to get stuck into you for this then there would be some major hipocrosy going on...let's face it, his values and ethics are way below average!!! Three words come to mind.... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 8 June 2008: Rey, I wonder if it might be helpful for you to go see a psyh yourself - and look at why you are so focused on this destructive/warped relationship - even when it has ended. I supsect you need to look at your own strengths and weaknesses...and gain ... (read in full...)
Remembering our baby boy angel!!!
Q. I was wondering if anyone could help me. I had a miscarriage in january and my and my boyfriend are wanting to do something on what would have been my due date in a few weeks to remember our little boy. I am having a really hard time and the closer ...
A. 5 June 2008: I am sending a big hug your way!I recently experienced a miscarriage (although I was only 8 wks along) and I know what an incredible sense of loss it brings. I had a close friend in a similar situation to you, she was having alot of trouble ... (read in full...)
He says I should turn a blind eye to his cheating, is he right?
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 years, i knew he has been cheating. we have discussed why do men cheat? and he answered that man can have sex with other women but not having any feeling for them, so i should not get upset. as long as he is nice to me, ...
A. 5 June 2008: You are obviously not willing to be in a relationship with someone who is sleeping with 'several' people..., he is obviously unwilling to be monogomous - this equals incompatibility , simple as that!
I wouldn't touch this guy with a ten foot pole... (read in full...)
We're getting married this year, but I'm getting cold feet as he is not very affectionate, should I marry him?
Q. hi, i've been with my fella for 7 yrs and we are getting married this year. I've started having second thoughts though.. can you fall out of love with someone and become just friends???? Because that's how we are, we don't do anything couple ...
A. 5 June 2008: Based purely on your description of the situation - NO, NO and NO again. You have to be SURE before you walk down that aisle, it should be a beautiful, wonderful moment of no hesitation. You should feel completely connected to the person you are ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 5 June 2008: I agree with Diovanlestat...you are sounding pretty unbalanced yourself in this post. The answer to your problem is simple - move on, stop engaging in chit chat (you are playing mental and emotional games by the sound of it - your conversations ... (read in full...)
Can we overcome this? He has issues with my past and my self confidence is low...
Q. Ok, I'm having a lot of doubts here. Me and my bf have been having problems. We've been together for almost two years, and we're mostly happy. But for ayear or so, there have been issues. It's about my past. I always had this "feeling" that h...
A. 5 June 2008: What you did prior to dating to him is your business...I don;t really see why he is getting himself so worked up...I imagine he has a sexual history as well? It's not like you cheated on him!!
It is a shame you felt you had to lie about things - bu... (read in full...)
Just started dating a week ago, and found out she doesn't want any more children! Should I break up or try to change her mind?
Q. Me and this girl started dating a week ago, and i do like her alot and would love for this to continue for a long time, but she already has 2 kids which i am fine with and will treat them like my own, except i always wanted a child of my own, with ...
A. 5 June 2008: I agree that you guys need to have some time to get to know each other before tackling 'the big issues' - however, I also think that knowing someone has a completely opposing view on something ...well, that is likely to impact on your relationship ... (read in full...)
Is taking a shot on an old love worth the risk?
Q. I am 25. My ex and I broke up about 2.5 years ago (January of 2006) we were together for 2.5 years. He did drugs (mostly weed and towards the end some pills here and there) and lied to me about them often. At least that is what I assume now but I ...
A. 5 June 2008: I am afraid I am gonna agree with the other aunts and say - stay away. There is a reason you have continued to be strong and not go to lunch with him etc...something subconscious in you is telling you to beware.
You obviously feel a strong conn... (read in full...)
Have I made a mistake getting married?
Q. I have been married for less than two years, its been a rocky road to be honest, i had my doubts prior to marriage, but just put it down to nerves. My husband is the quite sort and does not like to socialise that often, i love to meet people and ...
A. 5 June 2008: What you desribe is quite serious - I can't say that you made a mistake marrying this man, but I can say that you will be making a mistake if you don;t take steps to address the issues you have outlined above.
It sounds like there are multiple laye... (read in full...)
He is leaving and doesn't want me to go!!
Q. Been in a 2.5 year relationship. Told him back in December that we needed to take some space as he had a job offer in another state and I wanted him to make a clear, honest decision without me being a factor. I told him that I wanted the best for ...
A. 4 June 2008: Hmmm - this is a difficult situation for you...but you must admit you kind of gave him the opportunity to come up with this plan - and that must have been for some reason. Have you guys been having some 'issues' prior to this job offer? In answer... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and a virgin my boyfriend want's sex!
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend. He always asks me to have sex with him. but i really don't want to. I'm only 13 and I want to keep my virginity for a while. I've told him no so many times and I keep telling him no. It's so annoying. What sho...
A. 4 June 2008: Hi - I agree with the other aunts - don;t give in to his pressuring. If I were you - I would talk with him about respecting your decision, but I would be a bit tougher...I would tell him you have been clear about your wishes and that he needs to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never listens to my feelings!
Q. It seems like my boyfriend never wants to hear how I feel, or what is it that he does that upsets me. Do you think I should break up with him?...
A. 4 June 2008: It's difficult to qive advice without knowing a bit more about your communication styles - however, based on the limited info you have given I would say that you should consider leaving - if you feel like your boyfriend doesn't care about your ... (read in full...)
I lost my baby two months ago and can't talk about this with my partner! I feel so alone.
Q. I lost my baby 2 months ago and i am finding it very difficult im find it hard to open up and talk about it with my partner im so angry i cant let it out because i wont stop he doesnt seem to understand this. can anyone help please? i really need ...
A. 4 June 2008: Hey lonely girl , I am also so very sorry for your loss. I recently experienced a miscarriage (at 8 wks) and I know the sense of loss I felt and still feel....so I cannot imagine the trauma you have been through being so far along and then having to ... (read in full...)
My BF of 4 years constantly cheats on me and does not even try to hide it...
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs ( within this time frame has been unfaithful over 6 or more times that I am aware of) but within the last year has been faithful until 6 months ago, but now is in another side bar relationship with a married women, I also know ...
A. 30 May 2008: The biggest predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour - if he has cheated that many times he is never gonna stop! He is basically telling you he couldn't care less what you think...listen to the other aunts here and DUMP THIS LOSER!! I suspec... (read in full...)
We're too different but he wants more than friends. drugs, smokes and drinks at 15.
Q. I am 15 and went on holiday a couple of weeks ago for 4 days, whilst away I met a boy who was also 15 and lives 10 minutes away from me. We both hit it off and spent the last night just cuddling etc. However I am a total good girl, never smok...
A. 29 May 2008: I agree with Susan Strict - dating this guy is not going to work. Don't get into something all "messy" at your age...it's so not worth it! Find someone more like you...this guy will move on and hopefully find happiness too! ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy in school and he likes me too but he has a girlfriend.
Q. dear cupid I like this guy at my school but he has a girlfriend and he flirts with me, we hang around with each other but when he's with his girlfriend he turns to me and smiles, how do I know if he likes me the same way as I like him. p.s his...
A. 29 May 2008: One thing I have noticed is that whenever someone is wanting to cheat with someone or steal someones boyfriend/girlfriend they always go out of their way to convince themselves and others that the current partner is "horrible" or doesn't treat him ... (read in full...)
We have already talked about everything there is to talk about!! Help please!
Q. I talk 2 my boyfriend on the phone since we started going out.We have been going out 4 four weeks and 2dayz.The 1st week we started going out we had SO much 2 talk about.But now we have those "awkward silences".We have talked about everything there ...
A. 29 May 2008: Sometimes being comfortable with a "silence" is a good thing...the more you stress over what to say the weirder the whole interaction will become. Breathe! Then go with Tremor's OQG...it's fun!!... (read in full...)
Been sleeping with my friends father. What do you think I should do?
Q. Hi cupid, I am in a really hard situation. ok my best friend and I are really close we do everything together. I am 16 and she is 17. I really don't have much of a family of my own my dad left us and my mum spends more time at the pub getting ...
A. 29 May 2008: I don;t want to get too "Freudian" here - but I suspect you are drawn to this older man who is in a power position because of some deep seeded need for your own Daddy...you're trying to fill some hole in your heart and think his way of "loving you" ... (read in full...)
What do I need to do about this married man?
Q. Well what it is i met a guy and talked to him for a while and then found out he was married well i let him alone, but he kept calling me over and over telling me him and his wife was splitting up, so my bad mistake was that i believed him, he left ...
A. 29 May 2008: If I were you I would tell this guy to have some time on his own - so he can be sure what he does and doesn't want - and if after that he decides he does want to commit to you - then if you're wanting that, go with it. He sounds too messed up right ... (read in full...)
Can you 'make love' to someone if you don't love them?
Q. can you make love to someone if you don't love them? if you don't love the person why would you say,"i want to make love to you" ...
A. 29 May 2008: Sex and love get mixed up and intertwined all the time...saying "I want to make love to you" can be about a physical attraction, lust etc (and sounds a bit better than I want to *@#* you. I don;t know about your situation - but to answer your ... (read in full...)
He hasn't spoken to me since I brought home a new kitten! Was I wrong?
Q. So my relationship with my boyfriend has been dodgy for some time. We have been together 10 years. He's away a lot on business so our time together is really limited. To cut it as short as possible, I am an animal lover and would give any creatur...
A. 29 May 2008: I suspect the kitten is not really the issue - for your BF to have such a strong reaction to this there must be something more going on for him, and this has just been the straw that broke the camels back. Rather than try and defend you decision... (read in full...)
Tell me, why would they get married?
Q. my sex partner has a babymom that comes to his house on the weekend. his son is 11 years old witch he loves and will do anything for.on the other hand he is involve with a younger lady which he loves to make LOVE to, he seems to care about the ...
A. 29 May 2008: I'm sorry honey, but whether or not they get married shouldn't be what you are worried about here! You are his bit on the side - yeah he likes "making love to you"..but is that all you get from him?? Sounds like he is giving you a very clear message ... (read in full...)
I'm faithful to my husband, but have been chatting online with an ex. Should I see him?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 14 years and I have been 100% faithful. He does treat me well, and does everything as far as housework and cooking. Here is my problem. I spoke to my ex boyfriend like 3 weeks ago, and have been almost everyday. ...
A. 29 May 2008: I suggest you read some of the literature written on affairs/infidelity...you are displaying classic signs of someone who is at risk of cheating (you know that from what you've written) - and whether it is with your ex now/soon or not I believe it ... (read in full...)
How do you respond to someone who likes to play the perpetual victim?
Q. I finally told my boyfriend that I no longer wanted to be exclusive with him. I gave a few reasons but really didn't want to bust his chops so just wrote some of the main things that were bothering me. I have always been the one who calls, t...
A. 28 May 2008: The fact that you're having this type of discussion over email seems a bit weird to me - and indicative of a r'ship that maybe isn't really going that well...say goodbye!... (read in full...)
Married and confused, I'm falling out of love with my husband and in love with my ex!
Q. Please Help... I am 29 years old and have been married for 6 years. I have recently had 2 children and my marriage is totally boring. My husband and I do not see eye to eye on almost every issue. We were raised and grew up completely opposite of one ...
A. 28 May 2008: This is murky...you and the ex are both looking for something (my guess is a bit of a thrill and some attention) and/or having marital issues - but instead of trying to make positive changes and improve your marriages you are making excuses. Your ... (read in full...)
Should I pay for this holiday if I don't end up going?
Q. I am considering splitting up with my boyfriend. I don’t want to go into why, but there is a slight problem if we can’t sort out our problems and do split up - we are due to go on holiday in 6 weeks and I don’t know what to do. He paid for the ...
A. 28 May 2008: I agree - you are responsible for paying your half of the planned trip - whether you go or not. Does this guy have a clue that you are thinking of leaving him and mulling over the finances already??? You really should be sitting down with your BF ... (read in full...)
I'm so nervous! How does one kiss?
Q. i am going 2 a swimming party w/ my bf this weekend.we plan 2 hold hands, hug,and kiss. but neither 1 of us have ever kissed anyone b4 and i am really nervous.i dont know wut im supposed 2 do and nuthing is giving me good answers.plz reply soon!!...
A. 28 May 2008: My advice is not to think about how to do it too much - or you risk it feeling awkward and rehearsed. I don't really know what to tell you to do other than to not go in hard with your tounge...focus on a little lip sucking and a teasing touch of ... (read in full...)
How can I play this one cool and have some fun?
Q. My BF had oral sex with another gal. He thinks I don't know about it and yet he's acting guilty. I think I'm gonna have some fun with this instead of falling apart like most women would do. This oral sex happened at work. I need lots of ...
A. 28 May 2008: This is probably a "boring answer" - but I reckon you've wasted enough energy on this guy already if he has done what you think he has....why don;t you just ditch him and invest your time and effort in either yourself or some new, nice guy who ... (read in full...)
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