I'm not feeling too good after hearing about my girlfriend's sexual fantasies!
Q. Me and my girlfriend were talking about sexual desires and she told me she always wanted to make out with a black guy. Which is ok and I understand because I have sometimes fantasies about asian women. But then we talked about it a bit more and she ...
A. 13 January 2014: You guys were simply taking about fantasies. That's exactly what it is - a fantasy. Doesn't mean she wants to go out and sleep with someone else. Let alone one with a bigger penis.
Her comment about the black guy and penis size seemed like a j... (read in full...)
Too nice to be attractive for her?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if a guy can be too nice to a woman and this causes her to lose attraction, which was there in the first place. I mean, doing things for her, helping her and showing her your affection, not too soon, can that cause her losin...
A. 13 January 2014: I don't think it's being too nice that's specifically the problem. It's more along the lines of that niceness being construed as too clingy and needy. And potentially too available and not independent enough.
That's my take on it. ... (read in full...)
How do others get over their first love?
Q. I was dumped last May. We were together for 3 years. He was my first. First sex, first I love you and first serious relationship. I know this may sound strange, but I started dating when I was 26. Before him, all the guys I met were those who liked ...
A. 13 January 2014: It's not strange that you started dating at 26. In fact, it probably made you a lot more mature when you finally did start. Therefore, you got to skip all the steps of immaturity. that's a plus, in my book.
The comment your ex made about how no o... (read in full...)
I feel let down by my friend! Am I out of order?
Q. Hello, this may be quite a long question so please bare with me. My birthday is coming up, one of my plans for it was to go around town at the weekend of my birthday. Another was a surprise which my mum had planned for me which was a spa day the ...
A. 13 January 2014: This sounds like typical girl shit, to be honest. exactly why I try not to surround myself with many of them lol.
It sounds like R is being extremely passive aggressive and is most likely mad at you for something. You know how girls can get - ra... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't add me as a friend on facebook!
Q. Hello. I am trying to find advice regarding facebook. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, we live together and I am pregnant. It took him a year to change his relationship status from single to in a relationship, and thats only ...
A. 13 January 2014: I would prefer not to be friends on fb with the person I'm with. So much less drama and needless, petty arguments.
Do you know how many divorced are caused, or are indirectly related to fb issues and fights? It's insane. Google it.
Anyway,... (read in full...)
I have a fantasy, but is it too 'out there' to share with her?
Q. I have a strong desire to cum in my girlfriend's long hair, but I know it will be really messy and difficult to get out. How can I bring this fantasy up to my girlfriend? Do you think she will think I'm weird? If you are a woman would you allow a ...
A. 13 January 2014: Better the hair than the face!... (read in full...)
I find my boyfriend's dry humping annoying. How do I deal with this without offending him or putting him off?
Q. This is a really stupid problem, but my boyfriend is always dry humping me... When I'm cooking dinner, when we're in bed, etc. It is kind of annoying, but I worry that I am thwarting his masculine sexual urges or something by telling him to stop and ...
A. 13 January 2014: I agree with honeypie. You're not a damn leg. He humps you like a horny dog in heat while you're cooking dinner?? How odd!
I'm taking you literally by your word - as in he literally dry humps you. If you're referencing that he just gets really h... (read in full...)
I want a baby but my boyfriend isn't ready
Q. My partner and I are 25 and have been together for 6 years. We moved in together about 6 months ago. We have a good relationship and have always discussed marriage and kids which we both want. I told my boyfriend a few months ago that I wanted to ...
A. 13 January 2014: A baby is a massive responsibility. The most important responsibility, in my opinion. I'm 29 and I couldn't imagine being a parent right now. And if my partner was ready and I wasn't, I would do as your boyfriend did and confess to not being ready ... (read in full...)
Should I contribute more than my boyfriend's room mate?
Q. I am going to move in with my bf in a few months. We decided this long before he started having financial issues (furlough, medical bills, car accident), but now they have surfaced and I don't know what to do. He currently owns his home and ren...
A. 13 January 2014: I would break it down in two ways.
1. If he has a history of money issues and constantly is in need of borrowing money or is short on bills, then I would say no. Not a chance.
2. If he is generally good with money but has unfortunately ru... (read in full...)
Would you be ok with your girlfriend travelling abroad with friends?
Q. my gf and i have been in a ldr for almost two years and we are about to close the distance and move in together this year. first step before proposing ;) we asked different questions to each other to make sure we would exactly what we are getting ...
A. 13 January 2014: You didn't specify abroad in your ldr. However, I maintain that even just doing the long distance thing is ultimately the same thing. Being apart and doing your own things. ... (read in full...)
Would you be ok with your girlfriend travelling abroad with friends?
Q. my gf and i have been in a ldr for almost two years and we are about to close the distance and move in together this year. first step before proposing ;) we asked different questions to each other to make sure we would exactly what we are getting ...
A. 13 January 2014: Why wouldn't you be okay with it? Would you be worried she would cheat? If so, then trust is not secure in your relationship.
You already live abroad. You two are basically doing this already. When she goes out, she's without you. And vice ver... (read in full...)
What did this comment mean?
Q. Ok so I was talking to this girl for a month (we liked each other) and then she said she just wanted to be friends. One month later she sent me a text saying "hey :)" and I replied "sup" and got off without giving her a chance to reply. (I haven't ...
A. 13 January 2014: No not at all. You made the comment that you were willing to do what it took to fix the problem and she said no. And you took it like a champ and dealt with it.
I'd say you've done a really good job of not letting her know you're having a hard t... (read in full...)
What did this comment mean?
Q. Ok so I was talking to this girl for a month (we liked each other) and then she said she just wanted to be friends. One month later she sent me a text saying "hey :)" and I replied "sup" and got off without giving her a chance to reply. (I haven't ...
A. 13 January 2014: She's being dramatic and passive aggressive, poking at you for deleting it. She's sarcastically insinuating that it was dumb for you to have done that.
Just ignore her. She's a passive aggressive attention whore. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a 'beached whale'.
Q. My fiance referred to me as a "beached whale" during sex (in the context of a conversation while not having sex). I'm usually on bottom for a few reasons. He can barely stay hard when I'm on top (not sure why), neither of us can really reach orgasm ...
A. 12 January 2014: Hw else can a person mean "beached whale" except for calling them fat?
I'm hoping this was a huge foot in mouth moment, and not how he really feels. However, his words were absolutely ridiculous, and he should have definitely known better t... (read in full...)
I get embarressed when he is in the mood and I am not.
Q. I have a problem and I do feel broken by it. When I have sex with my fiance, I never had an orgasism. I know I can get off by myself, but not with him. To make me feel a little worse, we are done once he gets off. I have faked some just to make him ...
A. 12 January 2014: Can you pinpoint why you feel inadequate? You are doing absolutely nothing wrong at all, and are in no way at fault for anything. In fact, your fiance is being a very selfish lover by simply stopping just because he got off.
I think you need to ... (read in full...)
Five months later and I still care about my ex!
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me 5 months ago. He said "we are comfortable but it doesnt mean it's gonna go anywhere." He said he has been thinking about it for a few weeks and I was getting obsessed with the relationship. I don't feel sad ...
A. 12 January 2014: I meant "deterring" not "referring." My apologies. ... (read in full...)
Five months later and I still care about my ex!
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me 5 months ago. He said "we are comfortable but it doesnt mean it's gonna go anywhere." He said he has been thinking about it for a few weeks and I was getting obsessed with the relationship. I don't feel sad ...
A. 12 January 2014: In this case, it seems you are hoping that your ex may still hold on to some feelings for you. While it may be possible, it seems pretty unlikely.
It seems he was legitimately only texting you for medical answers and because he was stressed... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle my boyfriend's abusive behavior anymore!
Q. Dear Cupid Im with my current bf for almost 4 years, its the longest relationship for both of us. My bf was previously with lots of girls nothing lasted even for 6 months. Coming to my problem, he often becomes abusive, im not even sure whats ...
A. 11 January 2014: Wow, he said he was going to kill you if you ever call and wake him up again??
I'm sorry, but what a piece of shit. Don't ever let anyone, under any circumstances, speak to you like that. I know you said you ignored him, but you ultimate... (read in full...)
How slow is too slow in dating? Her response led me to believe she wasn't interested
Q. I met a woman on one of the online dating sites. Our first meet up was on a Monday for dinner. We hit it off pretty good and she said so herself. I asked her if she would like to go out a second time to which she replied "yes". With that I asked her ...
A. 8 January 2014: Once every other week is not that terribly bad for first getting to know someone. However, it sounds like she's keeping her options open and dating other men. That's what many people do on dating sites, and is trying to wait til she finds the one ... (read in full...)
How can he determine that there is "no chemistry" after just two dates? Is that possible?
Q. I met this guy two weeks ago and he came up to me and introduced himself. We talked on facebook for a day and he asked me for my number, he ended up calling me and we talked on the phone for three hours. He texted me everyday first and every night ...
A. 8 January 2014: i'm one of those people like him. i can tell if there is chemistry immediately, right upon first meeting someone. so i definitely see where he's coming from.
so to answer your ultimate question, no, you don't have to go out with someone for a lo... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back into a relationship because of his drinking.
Q. Ok, so me and my boyfriend broke up four months ago. He broke up with me because I didn't approve of his drinking and getting drunk. He kept it a secret and I just happen to find out. We dated for a month and a half, but we texted for a month before ...
A. 8 January 2014: i'm not sure i understand your opposition to alcohol. granted, he is a kid, under not only the legal age of drinking, but also under the age of being an adult all together. so in reality, he should have nothing to do with alcohol at all, as he is ... (read in full...)
Girls, what is your own preference with regard to your own pubic hair? Full bush, trimmed, landing strip or completely bald?
Q. Dear Moderator, I went through the questions. Most are what about what the other sex likes but I can't find one where the women answered for themselves. I shave myself smooth because I like it that way myself (not because my man requested it). Jus...
A. 8 January 2014: i hate the term with a passion, but i most certainly prefer "bald." yuck.... (read in full...)
Do most guys like performing oral sex on women?
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm hoping you can provide me with some insight here! I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he almost never goes down on me. In the 10 months we've been sexually active, he's gone down on me maybe 5 times. I can't figure ou...
A. 7 January 2014: His reason for not going down on you is most likely because he enjoys sticking his penis in you more. Lol.
I love performing oral sex on women. Legitimately. But he may not be doing it not because he's grossed out or doesn't like the taste - ... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to send ex a hate letter?
Q. I wrote a 3 page letter telling my ex how much I hate him. He had records of cheating and every time I forgave him and took him back. He's a liar and never changed. I'm so pissed and don't deserve after what I've done for him. So people said don't ...
A. 7 January 2014: the reason people say not to send it is simply because you're letting him know how much he got to you. it's like ultimately allowing him to win, so to speak. as well as the fact that what you're feeling now will not always be the way that you feel ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back! How do I get her to fall for me again?
Q. I want to get back with my ex. I'm now a senior and shes a junior. We got together first back in February of last year. Dated for 3 months, had amazing memories, but by the third month, we had already begin to get physical and had oral sex quite a ...
A. 7 January 2014: youwish is right. and where you go from here is to just relax and go with the flow. let her call the shots. don't pressure her in any way - at all. be her friend and eventually let it develop on its own. talk to her, hang out with her, be her ... (read in full...)
My partner betrayed my trust and I don't know what to believe now...and we have a 3 month baby so leaving him is not an option
Q. Hi I have been with my partner for 2 years. We live together and have a 3 month old baby. We are both 25 years old and we plan to get married in the near future. He is a good partner and father but I have a problem. When I had known him for on...
A. 6 January 2014: Apart from being a lying cheater, he's a good man?
I Know you have a young baby and you say leaving him is out of the question. However, that leaves really nothing else to say, as leaving him clearly seems like your best answer.
He's a liar. ... (read in full...)
How to know when he is the one to marry?
Q. Hi, My partner has told me that he would like to propose to me soon. I was wondering how you know when they are the one? We've been together for 7 years. I do love him and we've been through a lot of hard times, we are comfortable with each oth...
A. 6 January 2014: When you know, you just know. That's all I know how to say in response to that.
I used to ask my married friends this same question - how did they know their partner was the one. They all said the just knew it in their hearts. I always thought ... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay? Or is this an outlet for his bisexuality?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 7 years married for 3 and I have always known he is bisexual which has never been an issue for me until recently. I recently discovered that he has another Facebook profile that I am blocked on which...
A. 6 January 2014: As a gay woman, I have a rather different take on this. Just because he claims to be bisexual does NOT grant him a free pass to cheat. If he was straight, would you be okay with him going out and getting his jollies with other women? Just because ... (read in full...)
She and me, we are a pair of cheaters!
Q. i'll keep things simple my girlfriend went to a new years party and did shrooms n ectasy and had sex with another guy and she told me about it. i have cheated one her before but i told her and then she cheated one me after that now she did it ...
A. 5 January 2014: clearly you two aren't ready to be in a relationship together because you both have absolutely no idea what a commitment means.
if you want a casual thing, why be in a relationship at all? just be friends with benefits. end of story. but what you... (read in full...)
He has been sleeping with my best friend but wants another chance!
Q. My boyfriend who is18 slept with my best friend during our entire one year relationship . He says that he is sorry and doesn't know why he did it bit wants me to give him another chance...
A. 5 January 2014: you tell your ex and your "friend" to get the hell out of your life. end of story.... (read in full...)
I was put on hold for his friends!
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. He said that he would be with me on new years eve. He said we would have a meal together at his place. He also said that we would spend the whole day together. He contacted me at 11.00am that day, ...
A. 5 January 2014: what would bother me most about this is the fact that he blatantly lied to you. he never once bothered to let you know that he was out of town?? he, instead, just said that he was conveniently going to be only an hour late, knowing good and well he ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend needs space but I need comfort! Do I end things?
Q. Ok so I'm struggling to find the right thing to do. My gf recently lost a loved one and has since gone into a shell where she wants space yet is out all of the time. I recently received bad news about a family member and she barely said a word to ...
A. 4 January 2014: i can understand your pain. everyone handles things differently, and i am like you. when i am down and in need, i want to fall back on the person i love. and i also want to be the person my partner runs to, as well.
in a case like this, i would ha... (read in full...)
Is it a normal thing to stay friends with an ex or do those situations usually turn out badly?
Q. A year and a half ago, my 3 year relationship with my ex ended pretty badly. I found out she was actually cheating behind my back with a mutual friend of ours. I still loved her a lot and tried to work things out but in the end it didn't end up ...
A. 3 January 2014: i honestly think it just depends. you two have been broken up for quite a while now. so if you are fully over her and she's over you, and there are no feelings of more than just friendship, i see no reason why you two can't be friends.
on the othe... (read in full...)
I asked her out and she said "we'll see".what do I do now?
Q. I like this girl that works at my local convenience store. The Monday before last (23rd) I asked her if she wanted to go and see the local pantomime, expecting her to say no, but instead she said yes, but she's have to see about her shifts. S...
A. 3 January 2014: this is one tough lesson with women you're learning. women are socialized to be polite and friendly. they don't like to hurt people's feelings. ever notice how women will be sweet as candy to each others faces, but the moment one of them walks away, ... (read in full...)
I never thought I would be the girl that couldn't let go.
Q. I need some advice.. I can't let go of my ex bf. He ended it after a few years and we have this constant on and off thing going on. And I let him back in my life every time. He has slept with other people during our "breaks" and it makes me sick, ye...
A. 3 January 2014: I feel your pain. I've been through exactly what you're going through. my current gf and I had broken up a handful of times before we finally became stable together.
Her issue was that she was on the wrong medication because she was misdiagn... (read in full...)
Why do girls lose interest?
Q. This isn't a question about a specific scenario but rather a general question in regards to romantic relationships. Because I have seen this happening to me and to some male friends often (and it is a recurrent topic here in DearCupid.com). ...
A. 3 January 2014: it doesn't happen less frequently the other way around. it's equal. dating is just a hit or miss. it's a trial run to find your most suited partner. and they may start off hot at first because it's brand new and the person seems like a great match. ... (read in full...)
It seems the longer I stay, the harder I am finding it to break free.
Q. Hi everyone I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. We don't live together but I was planning to move in after his brother moved out (its a small apartment and wasn't enough room for me and my belongings etc). However, his brother...
A. 3 January 2014: i was going to ask you if there was a particular reason your boyfriend is a grown adult, yet doesn't have a job. i was curious if there was extenuating circumstaces, such as illness or taking care of a sick relative. however, you answered that at ... (read in full...)
Is she doing this because she is proud of me or is she just too talkative?
Q. My girlfriend and I only been together two months. I've met her whole immediate family. We go out often. And she knows I'm a quiet reserved person. It just put me outside my comfort zone when she does that thing. The thing is she quickly tell ...
A. 2 January 2014: Sounds like you are just much more of a reserved person and keep to yourself a lot more than she does.
It does sound like she's proud. Why else would she be doing that? However, you don't say what you do for a living. So I can't really know wha... (read in full...)
I asked her out and she said "we'll see".what do I do now?
Q. I like this girl that works at my local convenience store. The Monday before last (23rd) I asked her if she wanted to go and see the local pantomime, expecting her to say no, but instead she said yes, but she's have to see about her shifts. S...
A. 2 January 2014: I would take the hint that she is not interested.
When a girl wants to be with you, she will make the time. She's just being polite and trying to let you down gently.
"We'll see" is woman code for "not a chance, but I don't want to seem rud... (read in full...)
Is she done or just needing time?
Q. After a magical 4 yr relationship my ex dumped me just before Christmas. We had a rough year of fighting bc her ex took the kids away and there was a lot of stress and court appts. I was stressed bc I started a new job. She talked about marrying me ...
A. 2 January 2014: There's really no telling if it's too late or not. It just depends on if she's emotionally over you or not.
If there were problems in the relationship, why did you refuse counseling in the first place? Why only make changes now, after you lost... (read in full...)
Is she done or just needing time?
Q. After a magical 4 yr relationship my ex dumped me just before Christmas. We had a rough year of fighting bc her ex took the kids away and there was a lot of stress and court appts. I was stressed bc I started a new job. She talked about marrying me ...
A. 2 January 2014: I'm afraid to say it sounds like she's done. it sounds like her feelings for you have changed. She said no to the proposal because she isn't feeling the same and didn't want to commit to you unless her feelings returned. She realized her feelings ... (read in full...)
| *lifton's friends
These are mutual friends, so *lifton has
added them and they have added *lifton!
|
