She's always got excuses not to spend time with me
Q. So I met a girl after ending a 10 year relationship. The new girl is much younger than me and she started the flirting and all that sweet stuff. So I really thought she was into me. We've been seeing each other for 8 weeks now. We live far apart but ...
A. 12 March 2014: I suggest removing her from these sites you can see what she's up to. I don't know what she's up to but it's nothing good. She's playing with you. Stay strong and don't give in. she will just hurt you all over again. ... (read in full...)
I have a problem dealing with my girlfriend having had a lesbian relationship in the past!
Q. Hello there. I'm 31 years old and I have a girlfriend for almost 2 years now. She's really special and she's the kind of person that I want to spend the rest of my time with. When we were talking about her past (like almost a year ago) she t...
A. 23 January 2014: Sorry, I sent that way before I intended to.
Anyway, point being that human beings aren't just gay or straight. And the fact that your girlfriend fell in love with a woman is nothing to be threatened by or in no way finished her feelings for you.... (read in full...)
I have a problem dealing with my girlfriend having had a lesbian relationship in the past!
Q. Hello there. I'm 31 years old and I have a girlfriend for almost 2 years now. She's really special and she's the kind of person that I want to spend the rest of my time with. When we were talking about her past (like almost a year ago) she t...
A. 23 January 2014: As a lesbian female myself, and having a partner who has never been with a woman before me, I can say that love is not bound to simply being gay or straight. You're looking at it too black and white. Human sexuality falls on a contingency scale. ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my violent husband?
Q. I have been with my husband for 8 years and we have 4 young children together. My husband has always had a bad temper and drinks excessively, but both have gotten worse over the years. He screams and swears at me at least once a day for something ...
A. 23 January 2014: Wow I'm so very sorry to hear what you're going through. I think it's wonderful that you know you want to leave. Many women are too afraid to make this first step. That's huge.
I have a very close friend who just left an abusive relation... (read in full...)
How long is it reasonable for him to keep his profile up on the dating site?
Q. I met this guy on an online dating site. We have hit it off very well. We talk on the phone everyday and make time to hangout with each other once or twice week because of our busy schedules. He's talked about inviting to his baseball games a...
A. 23 January 2014: Is he still active on the site? Obviously you are still on the site, as well, if you are able to check to see if he's on there. Lol.
I would give it a minute before I said anything. No talks of exclusive dating have been made. And while it sound... (read in full...)
How does FB determine the suggestions for "people you may know"?
Q. my boyfriend is 36 he loves me so much and i had never seen such a romantic love in my life,i dont go to details and to make a long story short i know he is not that type of person to pay attention to anyone else, we know each other for 10 years he ...
A. 23 January 2014: It's nothing that he's doing. It's random. And a lot of it is based around mutual friends. either that or probably similar interests.
Half million to be with you??... (read in full...)
He's not working but wants me to quit my job??
Q. Hi guys! Well i need some advice with this... i have a 6 years relationship with this man and we have a 2 year old baby, i got pregnant while we were in college... he hasn't finished yet but i did, and now i'm working... he's studying and taking ...
A. 23 January 2014: Hell no! Why should you quit your job? You didn't spend all this time furthering your education to NOT use it. he should try to realize this is the real world. He better get used to it.... (read in full...)
Do girls do this if they are interested?
Q. why do girls do this? I went on a date with a girl last night and she was on her phone for the momst of the time and talking about other guys that are interested in her, talking about previous love interests, and acting cold. she even invited ...
A. 23 January 2014: Deal-breaker right off the bat for me. I've dated someone who was incapable of putting their phone down. NEVER again. never.
She sounds like a class act. I wouldn't put up with it. I'd just move on. Very poor first impression. ... (read in full...)
Is he playing hard to get or has he lost interest?
Q. I've liked this guy for a while, and we've have been speaking almost non stop on facebook for weeks. Then suddenly we didnt speak for a week, which is fine, as we need space, and cant talk to eachother 24/7 but I started to miss him. So I sent h...
A. 23 January 2014: Just saw your update. Didn't realize he wasn't local. I wouldn't put all my eggs in this particular basket. I'd drop it and move on.
Ever thought to ask him for his number?... (read in full...)
He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...
A. 23 January 2014: I couldn't possibly explain any rationale behind it. Because he's an idiot? That's the best I can give you.
This isn't what you're asking for, but just stop worrying about it. Easier said than done, I know. But he made his bed. Let him lie in i... (read in full...)
Is he playing hard to get or has he lost interest?
Q. I've liked this guy for a while, and we've have been speaking almost non stop on facebook for weeks. Then suddenly we didnt speak for a week, which is fine, as we need space, and cant talk to eachother 24/7 but I started to miss him. So I sent h...
A. 23 January 2014: You're both probably playing the same game with each other. Why not just ask each other out? Get to know one another in real life? Rather than Facebook?... (read in full...)
I want to make amends for my social awkwardness
Q. Lately I have made many mistakes, one after the other. While some might seem small, this one I can understand my mistake and why she is angry. Someone I once knew walked past me while playing pool in a large group. I would'nt call them a friend, b...
A. 22 January 2014: Has your gf actually verbalized to you that she's mad or upset over you not introducing her? Or are you just assuming she's upset?
If she hasn't actually said she's upset, it's quite possible that you are beating yourself up and stressing over not... (read in full...)
Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...
A. 22 January 2014: I'm not sure why this bothers you. Perhaps since you said you are a very gentle guy, it makes you uneasy to have a partner who is a bit more rough?
Having different interests is okay. she doesn't have to be wild about all of the different things t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps saying he'll propose any day now but never does
Q. My boyfriend said he wants to marry me about 3 months ago. I told him I felt the same way. Two months ago he said we should start looking at rings. So we did. We went engagement ring shopping several times, with the understanding that no purchases ...
A. 21 January 2014: You bought yourself a ring and said you'd just put it on and say you're engaged? You basically proposed to yourself and left one important factor out of the equation - him.
You said he agreed he wanted to marry you. It definitely sounds possible... (read in full...)
He said, she said, so what should I say?
Q. Ok so basically this is what happened my crush called my sister a tramp and he was like I shouldn't be mad but then he went on to say that he don't like people calling him ratchet . I did at some hurtful things to him but he said some rude things as ...
A. 21 January 2014: I had to look up "ratchet" on urban dictionary. That shit was funny.
Only a ratchet would get caught up in this kinda useless drama. don't be that person (did I use that right)?
Name calling is such a waste of time. Stay out of it and don't ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about this breakup and want to talk to him about it!
Q. Hi my boyfriend broke up with me as he felt we didn’t click and he said he should be falling for me but he isn’t. He also said he’s not been happy. I am so confused about this break up. Things were great at the beginning of the relationship. W...
A. 21 January 2014: You don't say how long you two have been dating. To me, the first six months are like a trial run. The first handful of months are spent figuring each other out and learning who the other is and what they're all about. and it's within that first 6 ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is financially irresponsible
Q. My gf has serious personal finance problems. Even though she makes more than enough to pay her expenses and save, she consistently spends her entire paycheck and sometimes overspends it. She's open to discussion and is often willing to cutback ...
A. 21 January 2014: I feel your pain. My girl is like yours. She gets a paycheck and goes and blows it all in one day and has nothing left for bills. We don't live together so it's not a problem right now. But we plan to in the future and have discussed it. When this ... (read in full...)
Tired of my boyfriend's crap!
Q. Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...
A. 21 January 2014: How does this even happen? How does one even get sh*t on the toilet seat like that? I can't even picture how that's possible, unless he plays with it or something. or unless he's standing to pee and he gets a surprise, and doesn't turn around in ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to reach out to this woman who doesn't appreciate anything I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I have my own apartment and I am disabled and where I live there are people who are seniors and that are mentally ill. We are aloud to have pets which is nice. But one day I noticed some stray cats outside and I didn't know that the...
A. 21 January 2014: Everyone is right. She is the crazy cat lady. Leave the cat lady to the cats. They don't have to communicate with her.
This may be why she cares so much for animals - because she has no ability to relate to humans on a normal level. And animals ... (read in full...)
No birthday gift from him! I'm feeling hurt!
Q. Hi, I recently had my birthday and I received nothing from my boyfriend and it really hurt my feelings. A while back he asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said that I really don't want him to spend his money on me. he said that he wou...
A. 21 January 2014: i'm a very low maintainance woman, myself. and yet i would still be hurt by this, like you are.
people are defending him because you told him not to get you anything but socks. but come on - i'm sorry, what kind of a person ACTUALLY gets their pa... (read in full...)
Why would a guy ask this question" do you think you are pretty enough for me?"
Q. Why would a guy ask this question" do you think you are pretty enough for me?" Please help me understand why the guy I am seeing might ask that? I'm really not sure it came out of no where he texted that to me and I answered as truthfully as I could ...
A. 20 January 2014: Ummm .. I don't know, but that question would immediately make me change my mind about him completely. What an arrogant, douchebag question to ask someone.
I'd say "too pretty." Then never text or call him again. ... (read in full...)
No contact from boyfriend for 8 days...
Q. I haven't heard from my boyfriend, of 3 years, since the 9th (8 days). No text, call, message, absolutely nothing. The last time I heard from him he told me he loved me and I'm pretty sure his phone ran out of time the next day which makes it a ...
A. 20 January 2014: I understand loving him so not wanting to hear anything negative. Unfortunately, I don't see this turning out well.
I think he wanted out and disappearing off the face of the earth was the easiest way for him to do this rather than admittin... (read in full...)
Threats, fighting, verbal and mental abuse. Is he about to break up? What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid yesterday i had a huge fight with my bf of 4 years, lately he is ignoring me, verbally and mentally abusing me all the time. Its getting difficult even to have a decent conversation with him on anything. Yesterday we had a huge f...
A. 20 January 2014: Woke him up* my bad. ... (read in full...)
Threats, fighting, verbal and mental abuse. Is he about to break up? What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid yesterday i had a huge fight with my bf of 4 years, lately he is ignoring me, verbally and mentally abusing me all the time. Its getting difficult even to have a decent conversation with him on anything. Yesterday we had a huge f...
A. 20 January 2014: Are you the same poster who posted about your boyfriend threatening to kill you if you called and some him up again?
If so, please, please, please dump this asshole.
If not, still, please, please dump this asshole.... (read in full...)
My head is going nuts and he has left me confused!
Q. I wrote here about a week ago about a guy I'm dating, it isn't serious I don't particularly want it to be serious I just want to go with the flow kind of thing enjoy the moment take things slow. Last night we went out and had a great time decid...
A. 20 January 2014: You clearly picked out some damaged goods! Hey, at least you know he's honest!
He clearly is incredibly far from being over his ex and IS comparing their relationship together to you. He's not ready to date. He's still way too attached and in l... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how to control their emotions?
Q. Does anyone know how to control their emotions? I find that I get overly emotional a lot. And the majority of the time I don't know why. I cry a lot. Whether I'm angry, sad, hurt, or just plain frustrated. But for some reason I can't control ...
A. 20 January 2014: I think a lot of it simply has to do with hormones. Female hormones are linked to the excess of emotions. Which is why women get overly emotional during their periods - those damn hormones lol.
For me, I don't known what it is, but I don't te... (read in full...)
I expressed my feelings about the relationship and he called me psycho!!!
Q. Hello all. I've been in a relationship with a man for the last 7 months. We have had plenty of ups and downs but currently we are in a down trend. I sensed he was pulling away about two weeks ago because he had a lot going on in his life. I offered ...
A. 20 January 2014: 1.) "do you think I was right in trying to express to him how I felt in the relationship?" Yes. You wanted to know what was going on and as a mature adult, you sought this out by doing what nature adults do - you communicated with him.
2.) "... (read in full...)
What in the hell does my daughter want from this boy who won't get a job?
Q. Dear Cupid my daughter is 21 years old she graduated got a job and now is pregnant with her first child.The father of this child is a deadbeat he won't work he takes her money and FoodStamps trading them in for money to buy drugs .My daughter...
A. 20 January 2014: Whoa, I understand you are very distraught about this situation. And justifiably so. But you're lashing out at people who are merely trying to help you.
The beauty of this site is that it is completely anonymous and objective. So mishmash... (read in full...)
What should I do to avoid making the biggest mistake of my life ???
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I have the best husband in the world but I recently met someone ! We are very close friends but somehow I am attracted to him ! I feel like he is the perfect match for him ! He is married too but I know he is ...
A. 20 January 2014: If you know it's the biggest mistake of your life, then you know what you need to do!
Clearly you need to remove him from your life somehow. Eventually, over time, your feelings will subside and you'll be fine.
The true test of character is ... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend, so why does she keep telling me I'm sweet?
Q. Women are very confusing to me My friend has been telling me I'm very sweet lately when we talk or text. Last time I texted her , she told me I'm sweet like 4 times. I know she is going through a tough time but still. She talks to me when I'm ...
A. 20 January 2014: Women are perceptive. It's white possible she's noticed that you have feelings for her, despite trying to conceal them. so perhaps she is gently reminding you again. Not to be hurtful, but just to make sure.... (read in full...)
Tired of my boyfriend's crap!
Q. Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...
A. 19 January 2014: Whoever the anonymous poster is - brilliant!
Do exactly that. ... (read in full...)
I stood him up twice due to anxiety and now I don't know how to fix things
Q. I was supposed to go on a date with this absolutely amazing guy and I told him I couldn't make it... This was only because I suffer from anxiety issues and the thought of going on a dare with him prettified me. I know I'm always ok once I'm on the ...
A. 19 January 2014: He's definitely thinking you aren't interested at this moment. so now it will be up to you to initiate the next move.
Give him a call - sooner rather than later - and explain that you're really sorry to have cancelled twice. And that you'd re... (read in full...)
Venting to my friends leaves trouble behind
Q. I've recently noticed that I tend to cause unnecessary drama in my relationships and I don't know how to fix it. When I'm in a relationship and we argue or bicker about simple mundane things I tend to go around and tell my friends what happens. By ...
A. 19 January 2014: That's what having friends is for. To talk when you need to talk. There's nothing wrong with talking to your friends about your relationship issues. You're not the problem. your friends need to keep in mind that couples will bicker and argues, and ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me!
Q. my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year now,we hav been living in the same compound up until last month. She relocated in another town,my problem is that sometimes when we hav a phone conversation and i start talking about her kising...
A. 19 January 2014: Doesn't sound good. She may be cheating. Or maybe she is hiding you from someone who she hasn't told she has a boyfriend. Either way, something is up. ... (read in full...)
I feel furious and totally used!
Q. Hi, I'm just wondering what people make of this, because I feel so angry when I think about it and I need to off load. 2 years ago now, met a girl while out. It was like love at first sight if you know what I mean. We went on a date and it was ...
A. 19 January 2014: Sorry about all the typos. I'm using my phone. ... (read in full...)
I feel furious and totally used!
Q. Hi, I'm just wondering what people make of this, because I feel so angry when I think about it and I need to off load. 2 years ago now, met a girl while out. It was like love at first sight if you know what I mean. We went on a date and it was ...
A. 19 January 2014: I'm sorry that happened to you. I know that has to be really frustrating. I got frustrated just reading your post.
It sounds as though you have it pretty spot on. That she used you until someone "better" came along. it sucks that she couldn't... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable with my home?
Q. I am a female sharing my house with two other females. One of them is like a mouse, she is very quiet and rarely comes out of her room. She has her boyfriend practically living with us but I don't mind because they mostly stay in her room. The other ...
A. 15 January 2014: Well ideally you should be able to discuss this with her in a calm and easy-going conversation. Ideally, you could ask her if she could try to be a bit more quiet when she has friends over and to make sure they clean up after themselves when they ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to adopt a child, am I selfish to object?
Q. My girlfriend of about three years and I have a great relationship. We both have younger children from past marriages so we have agreed we will not live together at least until the children are grown. Neither of us is interested in remarrying, at ...
A. 15 January 2014: What tisha-1 said. Exactly. It? Come on now!... (read in full...)
Caught my Girlfriend answering ad on craigslist.
Q. I know it was deceitful but I created a fake ad on craigslist to see if my girlfriend would answer and she did. I did this once before and she answered and this was the second time. I replied back and pretended to this other guy and she flirted and ...
A. 15 January 2014: You're coming up with every excuse and justification available to overlook her actions. Bottom line - she DID cheat. Who cares if it was physical or not? Messaging other men on craigslist IS cheating. So she's proven that yes, she does have time for ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him or continue to go with the flow until we have dated a little longer?
Q. So it's been awhile since I've been on here but I am actually in a new relationship with a great guy for the most part. I just don't know if he is in it for the long term or just passing through. We met on match.com, and we both want the same things ...
A. 15 January 2014: To be completely and brutally honest with you, I think you're coming across as very needy and clingy.
Does he used a justification as to why he took an hour to respond to a text? He could have been asleep! He could have been watching TV or in th... (read in full...)
Caught my Girlfriend answering ad on craigslist.
Q. I know it was deceitful but I created a fake ad on craigslist to see if my girlfriend would answer and she did. I did this once before and she answered and this was the second time. I replied back and pretended to this other guy and she flirted and ...
A. 15 January 2014: You have irrefutable and undeniable proof your gf is a liar and a cheater. If you confront her, she will most likely pretend she knew it was you all along and then turn it around on you for being insecure. Gotta love cheaters.
Son what do you d... (read in full...)
She's always got excuses not to spend time with me
Q. So I met a girl after ending a 10 year relationship. The new girl is much younger than me and she started the flirting and all that sweet stuff. So I really thought she was into me. We've been seeing each other for 8 weeks now. We live far apart but ...
A. 15 January 2014: Yep. Definitely sounds like classic shadiness 101 to me. She was definitely seeing other people. I mean, when you asked her about this call, she ends things? That seems quite clear to me.
Count your blessings it ended sooner rather than later. S... (read in full...)
I'm not feeling too good after hearing about my girlfriend's sexual fantasies!
Q. Me and my girlfriend were talking about sexual desires and she told me she always wanted to make out with a black guy. Which is ok and I understand because I have sometimes fantasies about asian women. But then we talked about it a bit more and she ...
A. 13 January 2014: You guys were simply taking about fantasies. That's exactly what it is - a fantasy. Doesn't mean she wants to go out and sleep with someone else. Let alone one with a bigger penis.
Her comment about the black guy and penis size seemed like a j... (read in full...)
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