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writes:Hi,I was wondering if a guy can be too nice to a woman and this causes her to lose attraction, which was there in the first place. I mean, doing things for her, helping her and showing her your affection, not too soon, can that cause her losing interest?Any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks so far!
maybe it was just cause I set my own boundaries too low. Did a lot for her without getting anything back....and she released her bad mood sometimes on me.
I noticed that, dating a very independent and dominant woman, I kinda losing myself and attend to get closer instead of keeping a lil distance´...(in that case it´s the first time, I am not that secure and confident about myself...don´t know why..)
I think I have to work on me to be more a challenge, right?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2014): Hey guy, am the same way, I treat them like I always, thought women wanted to be treated, but you know, they treat us bad just like their exs treated them. So if you ever figure it out , write back let me know, its funny we fall head over heals for them , then they dump us, for a guy who treats them like sh.t, then they wonder why they can't find a good guy, an they never even think about us, an the pain is real, it happens to women too.Don't change I thought about it, I can smile for I know I treated them like angles. I just wonder if they ever do think about how they screw up with us.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (14 January 2014):
 What llifton said. I've never been attracted to anyone who wasn't nice and empathetic. But I've also never been attracted to someone who wasn't confident and independent. They are not exclusive. Be nice, just don't be clingy, don't put her on a pedestal, and don't be a doormat.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (13 January 2014):
Yes, yes, yes, and yes.
Surest way to lose a girl, or to not have them being attracted to you in the first place is to be Mr NiceGuy.
Be Mr Confident. Never be Mr NiceGuy.
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reader, llifton +, writes (13 January 2014):
 I don't think it's being too nice that's specifically the problem. It's more along the lines of that niceness being construed as too clingy and needy. And potentially too available and not independent enough.
That's my take on it.
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