My boyfriend said he would feel uncomfortable around my gay friend!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now and I want him to meet my friends. He hasn't met them already yet as there hasn't been an opportunity for him to. So I asked him the other day if he would like to come and watch one of my friends ...
A. 13 December 2013: how about telling your boyfriend to grow the hell up and get over his homophobia? how's that for a start? god forbid your boyfriend suddenly catches the gay disease being around your friend.
seriously no joke. that's ridiculous. tell him to grow ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's job and her smoking are jeopardizing our relationship
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for little under a year and we get along really well. There are two unfortunate issues that arise that cause all of our problems. These are two things that bug me and make me question how much she actually ...
A. 12 December 2013: about the bar - yeah, it would bother me a bit. but clearly they say not to bring boyfriends in for a reason. so it's kinda your fault that you went in and saw what you didn't want to see and heard what you didn't want to hear. it is a bit trashy. i ... (read in full...)
Why are gay women so picky?
Q. I am a gay female, quieter, average looking, feminine and looking for same,dating (which makes it harder) friends I don't care. Am not into the bar and club scene, am getting too old for it and am a non drinker and dont feel comfortable around h...
A. 11 December 2013: OP, why are you so mad at us? everyone on here is trying to help you. no one has put you down or made fun of you. no one has insinuated you are incapable of socializing or making friends. that's how you've interpreted these posts because you're ... (read in full...)
Why are gay women so picky?
Q. I am a gay female, quieter, average looking, feminine and looking for same,dating (which makes it harder) friends I don't care. Am not into the bar and club scene, am getting too old for it and am a non drinker and dont feel comfortable around h...
A. 11 December 2013: as a gay female myself, i wouldn't say that i've found gay women to be any worse than straight men and women when it comes to being picky. everybody sizes people up right off the bat when they are just meeting someone for the first time, regardless ... (read in full...)
She keeps backing out of our dates, but agrees to arrange more
Q. So i met this girl at school a few weeks ago and she always acted really shy around me and when i caught her staring she's turn her head away and not look at me. One day i decided to ask her out and she agreed and we later set the date for next...
A. 11 December 2013: i hate that sh*t. i can't stand a flake. it's incredibly rude and obnoxious to make plans only to constantly cancel them last minute. i'd be angry, as well, as she's toying with your emotions and wasting your time.
i would move on. she's not wort... (read in full...)
Do I date him? I find his personality crazy attractive, but I just don't find him very attractive.
Q. Hi, first of all thank you so much for any help! I'm in a bit of a bind. Backstory: I'm a freshman in college, and I entered college not looking for a relationship. In HS I had two year and a half long relationships, and I entered college wanting ...
A. 11 December 2013: i think it all just depends on how you feel. you can be extremely attracted to someone's personality and not their physical appearance and still be happy because their personality makes them absolutely adorable and beautiful to you.
do you feel... (read in full...)
Big misunderstanding with almost-boyfriend leads to me being ignored. I don't know what this all means.
Q. I met M several weeks ago through a friend. We hit it off and a few days after having met him, we were pretty inseparable. Despite the 10-year age difference (I'm 25, he's 35), we seemed to get along really well. He works as a restaurant manager, ...
A. 10 December 2013: I'm not gonna lie, you both messed this one up extremely bad and you both sound like teenagers that don't know how to deal with conflict.
For one, when you saw those things on Facebook, you had every right to ask him about it. What you didn't h... (read in full...)
Please help - I found dodgy photos on my boyfriend's computer.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a bit confused and any insight would be appreciated as I can't talk to anyone else about this. My boyfriend is a sweet guy, I always knew he had a Pervy side but all guys do and that didn't really bother me.... Until I found pic...
A. 10 December 2013: Everything everyone else has said. Spot on. get out now.
Guys like porn. if there was a collection of porn on his computer, some of it kinky, etc, I would just say whatever. But he's got pics if your friends sleeping?????!!!?! Wtf??? You KNOW tha... (read in full...)
I'm considering changing my personality to become a jerk in order to date!
Q. So, I've recently, after the same bullshit of "I see you more as a friend", decided to change myself into the complete opposite of what I am now, knowing that it will take a long time. Today I behave like a Gentlemen when dating, red roses as a ...
A. 10 December 2013: Sadly, you are right in feeling this way.
I know a lot of the other ladies on here may not like my answer, however, I'm gay and I have experienced the same issues as you in dating so I can very much relate.
As women, we say we want a gentleman... (read in full...)
Is it weird to invite a friend along on quasi-dates?
Q. Is it weird to arrange a date and invite friends along. Someone I met online invited his friend along once, I had no objection, and thought what a great idea. It totally took the edge off the meeting and made it much more relaxed and fun. But I get ...
A. 10 December 2013: I would not do this. If I were going on a first date with someone I was just meeting I would want it to just be us. But that's just me. Others may feel different.
I like one on one time to see if the chemistry is there. and I also think bringing... (read in full...)
Why does he keep on liking and then disliking my Facebook posts?
Q. Long story short, I'm 18, I dated a guy for about two months this summer, our relationship ended by him blocking me on facebook (still have no idea why and still kind of like him). A month ago he added me back because we had to talk about a school ...
A. 10 December 2013: I think he's got another girl in the picture.
He probably blocked you when she came around so you wouldn't see. Now, he either still has the same girl or a different one in the picture. And he likes your stuff because he's flirting with you. But... (read in full...)
Broke up with bf... do men actually have feelings?
Q. Okay, I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, a few days ago. I changed all numbers and blocked/deleted him from everything and went NC to the best of my ability. We broke up like this 10 months ago and after 3 weeks he found a way back in and we ...
A. 10 December 2013: Men have feelings too. Thing is, they tend to keep them to themselves more than women do.
Men are societally influenced to not show emotions. Women are influenced that it's okay and appreciated. So this is how it manifests; women cry to their fr... (read in full...)
I was expecting another chance for us
Q. I have been hanging out with my ex boyfriend this past month, after being broken up for about 5 months. Yes we are sleeping together, hanging out, acting like a couple. But he tells me today that he is not ready to get back into a relationship. He ...
A. 10 December 2013: i think he's using you for sex. like a fwb. if i were you, i'd remove him from your life before you wind up even more hurt. he's not looking for the same things as you and his emotions are not invested like yours are.
the best thing you can do f... (read in full...)
I feel my husband is much too close to another woman. He says I'm making it up. Who's right?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I have a question about my husband´s choice. He has many female friends since I met him, and ex girl friends, and ex ``love of his life `` in high school time. So,I knew that he kinda have contact always with them. But since a ...
A. 9 December 2013: my apologies. i meant husband, not boyfriend. however, my advice remains the same. ... (read in full...)
I feel my husband is much too close to another woman. He says I'm making it up. Who's right?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I have a question about my husband´s choice. He has many female friends since I met him, and ex girl friends, and ex ``love of his life `` in high school time. So,I knew that he kinda have contact always with them. But since a ...
A. 9 December 2013: i am usually that person that is all about defending boyfriends/girlfriends having friends that are the opposite/desired sex. however, this is a completely different circumstance.
there is a right and a wrong when it comes to these types of thing... (read in full...)
I just don't feel the love anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. Three of those months were spent doing long distance. I'm a freshman in university and he's a senior in high school. At first, we were okay, we were making it work. But recently we've been ...
A. 9 December 2013: Why would anyone make the comment to their girlfriend that they only see themselves dating for two years? You're right - what's the point in staying when there's an apparent expiration date? That's a really bad thing to to say to your ... (read in full...)
Usually men like me but this one is not helping my self esteem.
Q. I have been seeing this man a long time now. He rejects me a lot, he insults my independence and he tells me that I will never have a boyfriend. I can t lie I have said some mean things to him before too. He told me I was not a normal girl and ...
A. 9 December 2013: You allow him to treat you this way and he loves the power. He eats it up.
I guarantee you if you tell him you're not interested in him any longer and you're moving on because you can easily get another guy without all the BS, he'll knock that cra... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty that I broke up with my boyfriend so close to Christmas!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, yesterday. He'd been emotionally abandoning me for quite some time and we'd been having problems the last few months that we couldn't get past. I told him time and time again that I wouldn't keep "waiting" ...
A. 7 December 2013: Ahhh just read your update, sorry. That does make sense. If you felt he would talk you back into it, then you did the right thing. You definitely needed to do what you did and don't think twice. you're doing what's right and healthy and fair for YOU ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty that I broke up with my boyfriend so close to Christmas!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, yesterday. He'd been emotionally abandoning me for quite some time and we'd been having problems the last few months that we couldn't get past. I told him time and time again that I wouldn't keep "waiting" ...
A. 7 December 2013: i don't think you should feel bad about breaking up with him so close to christmas. what you should kinda feel bad about is the fact that you didn't even break up with your boyfriend, period. you just left him and fell off the earth. honestly, ... (read in full...)
How many is too many?
Q. How many sexual partners is bad by the age of 18? I was 18 at the end of July and I've slept with 8 people and had additional sexual partners. I was just wondering is this bad already, or if not, at what point does it get bad?...
A. 6 December 2013: it's only too many if you think it's too many. who cares what anyone else thinks.... (read in full...)
What do guys think of their ex fwb?
Q. I was wondering after a friend with benefits situation has finished because the guy got a girlfriend, will the guy tend to still have sexual thoughts when he sees the ex fwb? My guy fwb broke things off cause he met someone but he still keeps on m...
A. 6 December 2013: i suppose it's possible he made it up to get some space, however, it's pretty unlikely. he was getting easy sex, so i find it hard to believe he choose to walk away from that.
i'm not a guy, but i think like guys in a lot of ways. and if i had a ... (read in full...)
What the hell just happened in my relationship?
Q. My (now ex) broke up with me a couple days ago. She had said something hurtful to me and then all hell broke loose. FYI, I am a lesbian. I had applied to two programs of completely different nature for the spring. My first choice I didn't get int...
A. 2 December 2013: I agree with what janniepeg is saying. However, I also think that you tried to be reasonable and talk things out. Which is what you're supposed to do in relationships. I do realize that some people take longer than others to get over things. You ... (read in full...)
He flirts and it irritates me
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years often flirts with his immediate boss or co-workers, someone or other. Its not that he flirts with everyone, he picks a person for a time, flirts with them until he loses interest or they lose interest and then move on...
A. 29 November 2013: so hang on, i'm confused .. he's actually TELLING you he's flirting with these women? how does that go down exactly?
either way, i would not tolerate my partner flirting with another person. it's disrespectful and unacceptable. i wouldn't... (read in full...)
We're not married but he put me on his life insurance. Is this a big deal?
Q. Just a simple question... my fiancee of 6 years has put me on his life insurance but we are not married. He keeps saying that no other man will do that to me and that im lucky to have him, he keep saying i wont find another man like him. But he...
A. 29 November 2013: Sounds to me like another manipulation tactic, in my personal opinion. Another way to make you stay.
If he's all the things you describe, you must be very unhappy. Who cares if he puts you on his life insurance policy if it costs you a lifetime... (read in full...)
He's great but I just don't feel anything for him
Q. Hey everyone, My boyfriend and I been going out for a month now, we are both 18, we don't argue, he treats me nice but he's not really the romantic type, he's really nice and sweet, but I feel like there's something missing I just don't have ...
A. 28 November 2013: I think that if that spark isn't there, then it probably wont be. If you feel something is missing, there's probably a reason for it.
You can't force a connection. And I wouldn't think giving it time would change it.
I would move on before m... (read in full...)
Are my dating rules really too strict?
Q. Here it goes again:(. My mother just had a conversation with me that I have too many rules when it comes to guys, and that's why I don't have anyone in my life. Some of my friends agree,I am looking for some opinions here. Though I do ha...
A. 28 November 2013: You asked for opinions about if your rules were unreasonable. Everyone stated their honest opinions.
It seems what you're really seeking is validation. If you feel you're validated, the who cares what anyone else says? Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Are my dating rules really too strict?
Q. Here it goes again:(. My mother just had a conversation with me that I have too many rules when it comes to guys, and that's why I don't have anyone in my life. Some of my friends agree,I am looking for some opinions here. Though I do ha...
A. 28 November 2013: expecting someone to be head over heels with you right off the bat is unreasonable and unrealistic. it's also a bit self-centered and narcissistic, to be completely honest.
i understand wanting the guy you're with to make you feel like you're t... (read in full...)
Are my dating rules really too strict?
Q. Here it goes again:(. My mother just had a conversation with me that I have too many rules when it comes to guys, and that's why I don't have anyone in my life. Some of my friends agree,I am looking for some opinions here. Though I do ha...
A. 27 November 2013: I think they are a bit rigid, myself. It's one thing to know what you like and how you expect to be treated. It's another to not have any flexibility or tolerance to anything outside of those rules.
To start, you say you don't respond to anyone w... (read in full...)
Problems with neighbour - how would you handle this?
Q. Hello. I would like to know how you would handle this situation. I live above a young male who is intolerant of his neighbours making any sounds. Whenever we do make sounds, he bangs the walls. I get the most of it though, since I live right above...
A. 27 November 2013: If I were you, I'd completely tune the banging out and carry on with my every day life. I'd walk around normal, flush, run the water, etc. and just get used to the banging sound. Who cares? Let his crazy ass bang all he wants.
Perhaps this man... (read in full...)
1st date with this guy giving me mixed signals
Q. Hiya! Recently went on a date with a guy last Saturday via online dating. We had a good flow of conversation on the site, not obssessive, then we exchanged numbers. The date was great, I could tell he was a bit nervous but once he saw me I could t...
A. 26 November 2013: It's only been three days. He's probably learned that coming on too strong pushes women away. So he's doing the opposite; he's giving it a bit of time. Move on if you'd like. But I'd be willing to bet he's just taking it slow.... (read in full...)
1st date with this guy giving me mixed signals
Q. Hiya! Recently went on a date with a guy last Saturday via online dating. We had a good flow of conversation on the site, not obssessive, then we exchanged numbers. The date was great, I could tell he was a bit nervous but once he saw me I could t...
A. 26 November 2013: Last Saturday as in over a week ago? Or last Saturday two days ago? Bit of a difference lol. But either way, not a tell tale sign.
If I were a betting girl, I’d bet he’ll call/text you soon. It definitely sounds like all the right signs were the... (read in full...)
1st date with this guy giving me mixed signals
Q. Hiya! Recently went on a date with a guy last Saturday via online dating. We had a good flow of conversation on the site, not obssessive, then we exchanged numbers. The date was great, I could tell he was a bit nervous but once he saw me I could t...
A. 26 November 2013: Last Saturday as in over a week ago? Or last Saturday two days ago? Bit of a difference lol. But either way, not a tell tale sign.
If I were a betting girl, I’d bet he’ll call/text you soon. It definitely sounds like all the right signs were the... (read in full...)
We know the relationship will end, so why would he take some of what time we have left for travel?
Q. My boyfriend is here as an exchange student. From the beginning, he made sure, that what he can certainly give is this one semester. After that, he has no idea what will happen. There was a chance he might stay here for internship, he might go to ...
A. 25 November 2013: Sweetie, it sounds to me, like if he’s saying that he can’t do a long distance relationship and is willing to break up once his time there runs out, he can’t be that crazy about you.
I’m not saying this to hurt you. It’s just the unfortun... (read in full...)
Traits of the zodiac signs?
Q. anyone good with zodiac signs! Can you tell me about Sagittarius men and women! What there traits are, what there sexual traits are, what sagittarius men like in a women, what are sag men and women lile in bed? Just please tell me anything you know ...
A. 25 November 2013: For the record - I started to pay attention to zodiac signs when my neighbor, a few years back, met me for the first time and called me out for being an Aquarius in the first thirty minutes of meeting me. She was an Aquarius, too, and said she could ... (read in full...)
Traits of the zodiac signs?
Q. anyone good with zodiac signs! Can you tell me about Sagittarius men and women! What there traits are, what there sexual traits are, what sagittarius men like in a women, what are sag men and women lile in bed? Just please tell me anything you know ...
A. 25 November 2013: I've dated nothing but Sagittarius in my life and had nothing but bad experiences lol. I'm an Aquarius myself.
They are very playful, friendly and outgoing people. Always the life of the party. Like to go out and do things and stay up late. Th... (read in full...)
I want to break up but how? Or am I overreacting?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. Typical love story, we met while travelling to our home town at a friend's place, we met we hit it off instantly, we promised to keep in touch, we emailed, we sent text messages, spent ...
A. 25 November 2013: Oh my god, no, you're not over reacting at all. You literally aren't in a relationship. you don't ever talk on the phone and you're long distance? When you're long distance, you only have the phone to stay in touch. And if you do call, he won't even ... (read in full...)
My closest girl friend started ignoring me out of nowhere..
Q. For a while I've been friends with this girl, probably for 5 months. We started hanging out a lot more, right after she broke up with her boyfriend. I started getting feelings for this girl and she started getting really close to me, but the ...
A. 24 November 2013: Basically, what happened, was that she was on the rebound and you were her rebound guy. She may have legitimately liked you a bit and enjoyed your company, but I say count your blessings for not getting emotionally involved. I think even if you HAD ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she wants to sow her wild oats
Q. I have been with the most wonderful girl for 3 years now. She is a good complement to me and I to her. We moved in together 2 years ago and we have talked of marriage and having a family. However, there is a problem and that is that our sex lif...
A. 24 November 2013: Ultimately, what she's trying to say, is that she isn't sure if there's someone better than you out there. So before she commits to spending her life with you, she wants to go out and experiment to see if she can find someone better. But she wants ... (read in full...)
Don't want to miss out on the opportunity but afraid I'll develop feelings for him
Q. Hi, just asking for your opinion. There is this 50's plus amazing guy at work. He is one of those rare types who attract young girls, more than guys their own age! At work, every and I mean literally every girl would do anything to go out with him(I ...
A. 24 November 2013: If you like this guy and would develop feelings of attachment, don't do it. You'll get hurt. If you can keep your feelings out of it and have a fwb/casual relationship, I don't see why not. Just don't go into it with the mentality you can change him ... (read in full...)
Booty call or blow off ?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now and I have met one of his friends, but the other night he went to dinner with a large group of friends after a football game { which is fine } but he didn't invite me. It kinda hurt my feelings but I ...
A. 24 November 2013: For me, I don't see anything wrong with him going out and hanging out with a large group of friends and then wanting to see you after. The way I see it, what's the big deal if he doesn't invite you? you've only been seeing each other for a month. ... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...
A. 22 November 2013: what youwish said exactly. Spot on.... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...
A. 22 November 2013: Hi there.
First of all, I see that you live in the United States. Sexual activity before marriage is not a big deal here. You’re in fact the minority if you wait til marriage. Most men and women have had at least double the amount of sexual p... (read in full...)
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