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writes:I have a strong desire to cum in my girlfriend's long hair, but I know it will be really messy and difficult to get out. How can I bring this fantasy up to my girlfriend? Do you think she will think I'm weird? If you are a woman would you allow a guy to do this if he asked you? I know that some women like men cumming on their faces, but what about the hair? I'm sorry if this seems disrespectful to women, it's just I love the look of cum in long hair, and wouldn't do such a thing without prior permission. Reply to this Question
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (18 January 2014):
If her hair's very long, she can take it in both her hands, gently wrap it 'round your bits and give you a handjob. In the mid-1980s an old girlfriend introduced me to this variation (her idea, we were experimenting one rainy afternoon) and we both enjoyed it. No harm, no degradation, and a very pleasant shower together afterwards. Offer her a long session of oral in return.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (15 January 2014):
The thing that makes fantasy fun is that it is in your head, sometimes acting it out is not half as good as you would imagine. How do you plan to fullfil this desire? Get her to sit patiently whilst you masturbate on her head? That sounds romantic. Or interrupt passionate lovemaking when you are about to come?
Maybe if she's agreeable and you do 69 and she dribbles cum onto her hair, now that could work! I've heard comment that semen is a good conditioner but I'm not too sure.
Have fun.
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (14 January 2014):
 You're very welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2014): I am the original poster, and I just wanted to thank you all for your advice. I'm actually leaning towards keeping this fantasy in my head. I will just continue to show my appreciation to my girlfriend's hair by complimenting it, stroking it, and strongly focussing on it when we make love in the way that I have done. Her hair is a lot more than a sexual tool to me, after all, and is a part of her beauty that I truly appreciate. I wouldn't want her to think that I thought of her hair in any other way.
Thank you all for your advice.
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (13 January 2014):
OP, I'm going to amend my answer somewhat.
After re-reading this, then reading Honeypie's answer and recalling all the posts we get from women who've been approached by boyfriends and husbands with similar fantasies and think they're obliged to satisfy them regardless of how distasteful they may be, and thinking back on conversations with other women...
I wouldn't ask something like this any more than I would ask someone if I could defecate in their bed.
There may be women out there who are willing to put up with this for the sake of pleasing a partner, but I don't know any women who actually enjoy it. It really is just a porn inspired fantasy and as previously stated porn is made by men and for men.
This is just so vulgar, so disgusting and so disrespectful that I wouldn't even ask. And on some level you're thinking the same thing which is why you're here floating it past us before talking to your girlfriend.
My advice is don't ask her. Just keep it as your own private fantasy.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (13 January 2014):
 Better the hair than the face!
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reader, Ciar + ♥, writes (13 January 2014):
All you can do is ask her but be prepared to drop it forever if she refuses.
You could sweeten the pot by offering to wash it out for her, perhaps treating her to a hot scented bath in which she gets to just relax while you clean up your own mess. Then pamper her for the rest of the evening without expecting more sex or something else in return.
Personally, I'd refuse this request on the grounds that it would cause me the aggravation of washing it out and I do think it is disrespectful, but to each their own.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 January 2014):
 Newsflash...
Auntie Daisy is right, I DO NOT think the MAJORITY of women enjoy men ejaculating in their face - THAT is PURE porn and guess what bro? MOST of that porn is MADE by MEN for MEN! It's like a DOG pissing on his territory.
However, cum can't be that hard to get out of hair, just shower after you drop the load (with her permission of course) and then WASH her hair for her with shampoo and conditioner.
Why not ask her? If sh says no, then respect it and don't bring it up again.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (12 January 2014):
No, it's not too hard to clean out (water soluble, you know). No, I wouldn't mind a bit, and have allowed it many times. If she loves you, this is a VERY tame fantasy and she shouldn't have any issues with it.
Cumming on the face: Boy, you've been watching too much porn! I don't mind it in the mouth or on other parts of my body, but NO woman I know enjoys it in the face. Kills your makeup, gets in your eyes and up your nose, slimy, gets cold very quickly- no, there is nothing pleasant about it. Just because you saw a porn star do it doesn't mean that it is AT ALL common for women to like it. And if any do, I'd love to hear from them, here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2014): I agree with daisy, owl, india, and euphoric. You should be able to ask these questions and swap fantasies, and while she may not be completely into it, she would do it for your pleasure, at the very least you shouldnt be intimidated to ask. If my fiance asked me sure Id be game... I dont think what your asking is grotesk or out of line in any way. We all have our little kinks that we enjoy :)
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (12 January 2014):
 OP, I don't think women actually enjoy men ejaculating in their face, as you suggest. It's something that some women will tolerate for the sake of their partners enjoyment, but it's not a sensory delight for women (that's a porn fuelled myth, I think). Same applies to ejaculating in her hair - she won't get anything out of it other than your pleasure.
There's no harm in asking her. The worst case scenario is that she says 'no thanks' (I'm assuming she's not prudish - but you'd know that better than any of us here). And it needn't be that messy - just make sure she's somewhere where she can shampoo her hair afterwards. As a couple, you should feel free to bring up these things. You're not requesting anything hideous or harmful after all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2014): Ask her what is her wildest sexual fantasy first. Make sure it is during a time you are both relaxed and have complete privacy. Listen intently. The reason is to see how comfortable she is with role-playing and fantasy.
The question is, are you up to hearing what she may like?
So many guys pass negative judgement; when they can no longer place their girlfriends or wives up on a pedestal. Everything is cool as long as they hold the dominant position sexually; but quickly turn sour on a mate who can outdo them once they learn a few secrets.
If you aren't sure what you can handle, then careful where you tread.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (12 January 2014):
Dear OP,
I fully agree with what tasteofindia already said. If you're in a serious relationship with the woman, of course you can share this fantasy. We can't predict how she'll react, neither can you, but it's going to be easier if you tell her in a relaxed moment and if you also show interest in her fantasies.
As a woman, I don't really understand what would be sexy about cumming into someone's hair, but if my boyfriend would really get off from it, I wouldn't mind. We all have our little weird habits and fantasies, right?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (12 January 2014):
 Listen, this is your girlfriend. I don't know how long you've been together, but I'm assuming that it's long enough. She loves you. She enjoys spending time with you. I'm assuming that she enjoys sex with you. If you are having sex then you certainly should be able to communicate and swap fantasies.
I'm a woman - if just some dude asked to cum in my hair, I would be pretty skeeved out. But if a serious boyfriend asked me, who I loved and felt comfortable with - sure I'd be game. It's not anything that I'm going to get off from, but if he's into it, I'm perfectly okay to let him go for it. Maybe she'll think you're a little weird in the back of her mind, but she might think you're a little weird because you like ketchup on your eggs. I don't think it's anything to worry about.
Why not just ask her what some of her fantasies are and then share yours? You can even give yourself a disclaimer: "I know this is weird but..."
No worries. She likes you, right? Give her a chance to know the real you!
Good luck!
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