His excuses are all legit, but I kinda want to put my foot down
Q. Is he nervous or uninterested? I'm in tears right now :( I just don't know what to do anymore. Theres a guy who i like so much, you know when you just click with someone. I've known him for about 3 years and weve always thought each other w...
A. 20 February 2014: I would leave it. as a generalization, typically men like to be the ones to chase and when they are really interested, you will know.
In my opinion, it sounds like he's not interested. Otherwise, he'd be calling and chasing after you. he'd fin... (read in full...)
I don't know what more to give from myself
Q. I've have been living together with this girl and her 5yr old son for a little over a year now. She's 23 and I'm 29. I'm pay all the bills, am the only one with a job, i help her raise her kid, spend time with them as much as I can, and have had to ...
A. 14 February 2014: Wow, no, you're not in the wrong. she sounds like a nightmare.
You're working two jobs to support her and her child. HER child, that's not even yours. These days, it's hard to get biological father's to even pay for their own children. Where th... (read in full...)
After four years everything he does irritates me
Q. I have been with my partner for 4 years. we Live Together and until towards the end of last year everything seemed fine with us. recently though everything he does/or doesnt do rather irritates the life out of me. he no longer comes to bed at ...
A. 14 February 2014: So I guess you have already decided you want to break up and not work to fix things? At least that's what I gather from your last sentence. And here I was, prepared to write on how to try to get your spark back.
If you're dead set on breaking... (read in full...)
College peer said something which hit a nerve. How should I react to this considering the issues I have?
Q. Slight problem, but this ones getting to me. I am at college at the moment, and i'm doing some GCSE retakes because I decided it would be better than going straight on to A-levels. My GCSE cl...
A. 13 February 2014: Well, as a lesbian myself, who happens to find herself to be quite a catch and relatively attractive, I'd say it was quite a compliment.
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Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: Women make jabs at penis size sometimes. So it's not just men criticizing women.
Everyone just needs to treat everyone else respectfully. That's my take. ... (read in full...)
I thought I was doing the right thing by being honest but he turned it against me
Q. I recently met someone and felt it right to be upfront about the fact I had ( several years ago now) been involved in an abusive relationship. I left that relationship with nothing, emotionally,financially and tbh was completely broken and had to ...
A. 12 February 2014: I should have rephrased that. Let me refrain. It doesn't mean they are bad or selfish people. just not the right one for you.
... (read in full...)
I thought I was doing the right thing by being honest but he turned it against me
Q. I recently met someone and felt it right to be upfront about the fact I had ( several years ago now) been involved in an abusive relationship. I left that relationship with nothing, emotionally,financially and tbh was completely broken and had to ...
A. 12 February 2014: also, i will venture to dare to disagree with the concensus and say that labeling yourself as a survivor is not something i believe you need to drop. i've personally never experienced this, but i have some very close, personal relationships with ... (read in full...)
I thought I was doing the right thing by being honest but he turned it against me
Q. I recently met someone and felt it right to be upfront about the fact I had ( several years ago now) been involved in an abusive relationship. I left that relationship with nothing, emotionally,financially and tbh was completely broken and had to ...
A. 12 February 2014: everyone is different. for me, i would have absolutely no issue with someone telling me this. i would find it very intriguing and want to know more. and i would find that person to have very admirable strength.
however, others may view you as d... (read in full...)
Does this mean he's losing interest?
Q. hello im a 36 year old female in a long distance relationship. i really love him and he says he loves me too but, lately i have had some strange feelings. we use to talk every day now we really dont. he use to call me two and three times a day now, ...
A. 12 February 2014: no, of course you're not crazy. when you start to feel a loved one grow distant, it hurts. that's completely normal.
have you expressed this issue to him before? i always maintain that communication is huge and a crucial part of any relation... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there that will look past my body and like me for who I am?
Q. This is a really hard question to ask because I'm fairly certain of the answer, but I was wondering if I will ever find some one because of my size. I'm very small for my age (18), I look much younger I'm very thin. Are there guys out there that ...
A. 12 February 2014: of course you will find someone. as you said, you're only 18. you have all the time in the world to find someone.
also, keep in mind that since you're only 18, you are still growing and maturing. you won't always look so young. maturity will set... (read in full...)
Cheating and lying partners...
Q. Ive had a girlfriend for 4 and a half years. I met her on an online chatroom , which i was initially dubious about. We started dating and i feel deeply in love with her. After around 3 months i started to have a gut feeling that she was not being ...
A. 11 February 2014: You don't have to be a man to experience this crap.
I dated a woman just like your ex. Serial liar/cheater. She cheated over and over again. I kept forgiving her against my better judgement because like you, I loved her so much, so I wanted t... (read in full...)
Am I bored with him or intimacy or both?
Q. So, I've been with my boyfriend for two years and for the past few months i've noticed i'm never "in the mood", we used to be sooo intimate at the start of our relationship and it was great and now the thought actually makes me feel negative. We've ...
A. 11 February 2014: it definitely does sound as though your relationship is getting quite boring for you and fizzling out. saying that you see no point in sex because you're not getting anything out of it is quite an indicator of that. lots of people enjoy the simple ... (read in full...)
Can dating a guy you don't find attractive turn out well?
Q. I need to know this answer, please don't judge me as I am already aware that I am shallow and I'm sure i'm not the only person who does this. But I don't want to make a big mistake so please advice!! I met this guy, he's almost too perfect in p...
A. 10 February 2014: that's a tough one. and it doesn't make you shallow.
there's a trend i've observed about the differences between men and women. women will tend to date men they don't necessarily find physically attractive because emotionally, they have such a g... (read in full...)
I sent an embarassing drunk text to my ex. Should I apologize or leave it?
Q. My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. We sometimes see each other in mutual events. We are friendly with each other at the events. Sometimes we talk to each other, sometimes we don't I drunk texted him two times before. The first time was on my b...
A. 10 February 2014: i've experienced this, personally.
i had an ex who would get drunk and say all sorts of stuff to me while intixicated. it gives off two impressions:
1. that the person isn't over you. why else would they bother texting you drunk when they ... (read in full...)
Why am I a Runaway Girlfriend?
Q. I'm in a situation and i'm unsure what to do, my fear has set in and I can feel myself ruining it and I'm doing things I shouldn't be. I'm scared that I don't know if I should end it.. I've been dating this guy for about a month, it's gotten seri...
A. 10 February 2014: i see 3 possibilities here.
1. maybe you just aren't ready or don't want to date. i think you're so set on the fact that you need to change this behavior or that you're somehow in the wrong, that you're turning a blind eye to what your heart is... (read in full...)
Whenever a boyfriend even mentions anal sex I become furious
Q. i don't know what is wrong with me, but whenever any of my past partners so much as suggests anything to do with anal sex i get infuriated and not even in an outwards manner but rather in a passive aggressive way. i cannot quiet put my finger on it, ...
A. 9 February 2014: It seems to me you got your answer, did you not? You were curious as to why you would illogically get so mad at boyfriends for asking this question, and through this post, you claimed to have recognized that it was due to the fact that you felt it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 8 February 2014: Actions speak way louder than words. It doesn't matter what he told you. It matters what he's showing you. you're so stuck on the fact that he initiated all the feelings. what difference does that make? People lie. Once you can get unstuck, then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 8 February 2014: New to the discussion!
People lie over the internet. You ever hear the story of the Notre Dame football player, manti te'o? He dated the "love of his life" for years, over the internet, only to find out she wasn't even a real person. She took the... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my girlfriend's ex, and their relationship. Help!
Q. Ok I'll try and keep this short as I don't want to bore anyone! Basically I have been in a lesbian relationship for around a year now with a woman who I love very dearly. She is my first true love and I can't believe how lucky I am to have found ...
A. 7 February 2014: Hey there.
I can see where you're coming from. My gf had never been with a woman before me, therefore has had some serious relationships with men in the past. The most serious relationship she ever had before ours was with the guy she was with bef... (read in full...)
Whenever a boyfriend even mentions anal sex I become furious
Q. i don't know what is wrong with me, but whenever any of my past partners so much as suggests anything to do with anal sex i get infuriated and not even in an outwards manner but rather in a passive aggressive way. i cannot quiet put my finger on it, ...
A. 7 February 2014: but when you break it down logically, it's not like asking to sleep with with him using another penis. it's not the same thing because another penis means another man. he's not asking for another woman. he's still wanting YOU. he's just asking to ... (read in full...)
What would you do with this long distance relationship?
Q. This one is a doozie...Please help!!!! I am a female senior in college, 2 hours away from home. My mom set me up with one of her coworkers in December. She said we would be perfect together, and gave the guy my phone number. I came home for W...
A. 7 February 2014: i would move on. he's not interested. if he was, he'd be with you. period. saying "if you were closer, we could date" is just his way of politely letting you down. if you lived local, he'd find another excuse. when guys like you, they pursue you. ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend hate my crush so much that she's making me choose either her or him?
Q. so i really like this guy. i think he's interested in me too. he's always really nice, buys me things, and on the last valentines day, he sent me a card with 35 kisses. i counted them, i'm weird i know. but anyway, he's always nice to me, and he's ...
A. 7 February 2014: The problem in and of itself is that you're 13. And 13 year olds aren't always the most mature about things like this.
They are obviously jealous of the attention he's getting and they see him as a threat. That he's taking you away from them.
... (read in full...)
She's pregnant and my parents aren't supportive
Q. I'm a senior in high school and I found out a few days ago that my gf is pregnant ! I didn't except my parents to take the news well but I didn't except it to go as bad as it did either. My parents are strict and put a lot of focus on school a...
A. 6 February 2014: Well, you were man enough to have sex and create this baby, so you have to be man enough to step up to the plate. The best way for you to go about that is exactly what your gf's parents suggested - you move in with them and go to college. Once you ... (read in full...)
Getting over cheating - should I have believed him? How do I move on?
Q. Im married but almost a year into the marriage i found some naked photos on my husband's email. he had sent the photos to his email from his phone. They were of an ex girlfriend of his who he had only been on 3 dates with. When i found them i asked ...
A. 6 February 2014: It seems to me that if he really wanted hard evidence that he was the innocent party and she was the one pursuing him, than he would have just immediately shown you the conversation and let you see for yourself. That's what I would have done.
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My savings are now 1/2 of what they were because b/f borrowed money for 14 months! He's always drunk and wont talk to me about paying me back!
Q. I really don't know what to do about my situation. My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years borrowed money every month for 14 months. My savings are now 1/2 what they were. About once or twice a week if I phone him in the evenings he is drunk, slurred speech, ...
A. 6 February 2014: Sounds like your boyfriend may have an alcohol dependency. It seems getting through to him isn't working, as he's just getting offended.
Have you tried breaching the subject when he's sober? Say, for example, the next time you see him, sit down... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my boyfriend is a manipulator or not?
Q. Hi I'm not sure if my boyfriend would be considered an emotional psychopath/manipulater. I am quite insecure and hyper vigilant so I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid or not. He is a personal trainer and has told me that he has to use some form of...
A. 6 February 2014: You didn't really give any details to go off of. Sounds like he just wants you to work towards over coming your past. Perhaps motivator is a better term than manipulator. basically, he gets paid to inspire change in individuals. That's what it ... (read in full...)
Whenever a boyfriend even mentions anal sex I become furious
Q. i don't know what is wrong with me, but whenever any of my past partners so much as suggests anything to do with anal sex i get infuriated and not even in an outwards manner but rather in a passive aggressive way. i cannot quiet put my finger on it, ...
A. 6 February 2014: it seems to me that it could perhaps be related to a couple of reasons. first, that you know for a FACT they would never be game with you shoving something up their ass. so why the hell should they expect to shove something up yours??
and s... (read in full...)
Why do women at night clubs dress provocatively?
Q. Why do the girls at the clubs dress like sluts?? We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. One had a dress on so short that her ass was showing and she bent over a few times. Do they really need that much attention?...
A. 6 February 2014: The answer to your question is yes. they do need that attention. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps promising me big gifts but gets me nothing
Q. My boyfriend told me throughout our entire first year that he had a huge birthday surprise for me... along comes my birthday Jan 29 and he just called me in the morning and then never came over (even though he promised). His reasoning was that he ...
A. 6 February 2014: Your boyfriend sucks. He's pathetic. Dump him. ... (read in full...)
I caught him twice being naughty on the internet, talking to girls about their bodies. He promised to stop the first time but did it again!
Q. I found my boyfriend was talking to girls on the internet. Telling them they were sexy and complimenting them about their body's, I think he was trying to meet one of them. But he said he never would have. I found out the first time and told him to ...
A. 6 February 2014: i have a no cheating policy so i wouldn't have forgiven it. he cheated on you. twice. to me, talking to another person in the way that you talk to your significant other is cheating. period. it doesn't matter if you acted on it or not. merely ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like he's pulling his weight. Am I being petty?
Q. I’m a 42 year old successful single mother of two teenage daughters. I have been divorced for 9 years and focused all of my energy on raising my daughters alone. I own my own home, two cars and have been blessed enough to provide my children with ...
A. 5 February 2014: To be quite honest, and with all due respect to everyone else's answers, some of the comments have a very large double standard attached to them. Often times, men are the primary wage earners and their wives use their credit cards and money to buy ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like he's pulling his weight. Am I being petty?
Q. I’m a 42 year old successful single mother of two teenage daughters. I have been divorced for 9 years and focused all of my energy on raising my daughters alone. I own my own home, two cars and have been blessed enough to provide my children with ...
A. 5 February 2014: It really just depends on you. For me, I'm a go-getter myself, as I work and am putting myself through school. But I also won't mind buying the majority of things for me and my partner as long as I make enough money to do so.
Perhaps he is happy... (read in full...)
The only problem is that he never wants to remarry or have children with me, it's tearing me apart. Advice?
Q. I feel like there is no hope for my relationship even though my boyfriend has never cheated, lied or hurt me. I love him, and I have never thought of anyone else since I met him. I honestly see no one else as my future but him. The only problem ...
A. 5 February 2014: he's already had 3, so i completely see why he doesn't want more. i would most likely feel the same way if it were me.
on the other hand, it is completely justifiable for you to want to have your own, as this is a perfectly normal human instinct... (read in full...)
Are some people nasty or is it just me?
Q. Hey everyone, I had this conversation with some colleagues of mine today and I really need to vent somewhere as I feel a bit upset... I have these 2 female colleagues of the same age as me approximately (around 30) and we usually have very nic...
A. 4 February 2014: Welcome to the wonderful world of women. Not all women are like this - don't misunderstand that remark of mine. But as a whole, women are much more caddy and shit-talk each other behind backs than men. They will smile to your face and act like ... (read in full...)
How do I move on, when it's clear that there will be no closure?
Q. My ex dumped me, a little over 3 weeks ago. He told me he loved me in a text and then disappeared. He then turned up on facebook a week later and started posting things right after me in order to provoke a response or get my attention, none of ...
A. 4 February 2014: He got the response he was looking for. He was wanting to hear exactly what you said - that you missed him and loved him and wanted him back. Now he knows he still has you right where he wants you, and he has the upper hand. He is a douchebag who is ... (read in full...)
He does nice things that other guys don't do. But how do I cope with a Bf who seems emotionally numb?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. The first couple of months, I was blind to this, but I have realized that my boyfriend has no emotions/heavy lack of emotions. I have all these feelings for him, but he doesn't understand them. Al...
A. 4 February 2014: I think a lot of women have issues with this. As a generalization, men are a bit more emotionally removed than women. And this guy seems to be the extreme of the bunch. It's hard for women to emotionally connect with a man who seems so detached. and ... (read in full...)
He threatened that tomorrow either she's gone or he's gone. Any advice would help!
Q. Hello and thanks I have been married 22 yrs. I got married young. Its been abit of a roller coaster at times but somehow I stayed. My husband can be very mean when he drinks. He calls me names points his finger in my face I tell him to stop. Whe...
A. 4 February 2014: let her stay and help him see his way out.... (read in full...)
Would it be best to keep my sexuality to myself for now?
Q. I've finally come to terms with my own sexuality as being gay, and I feel as if my parents already have an idea however they're always making a joke of it and have made it quite known that it's not something they agree with! Is it wrong to not tel...
A. 4 February 2014: i'm a gay female, myself. however, i didn't fully realize my sexuality until after i was 18, and i didn't come out until i was 22. so you're way ahead of me in this regard.
one thing i've noticed is that coming out in high school is much more dif... (read in full...)
He did a search on "how to cheat on your girlfriend"!
Q. I think I know what a lot of the answers will be from this, however I'd love to get some different opinions. I have been cheated on in my one other past relationship and that had seriously caused me some trust issues. I have been with my man now ...
A. 4 February 2014: is it not possible that he didn't intend to search for it? for example, if he unknowingly clicked a link on facebook and it connected him to that site. or somtimes, on google, you can start to type out a search and the most popular searches ... (read in full...)
I feel that his actions disrespect our relationship
Q. My boyfriend has been talking to another girl recently and I'm wondering if I should be worried? This is what my boyfriend says happened: she is friends with my boyfriends friends and they met while they were all hanging out one night. Her and m...
A. 3 February 2014: You've posted on here before a handful of times. The answer still remains the same. it's wrong. Either you will say something to him about it and put and end to it, or move on from him. But sitting there and doing nothing about it will not help. ... (read in full...)
Avoiding the term "boyfriend" led to an ongoing misunderstanding
Q. I brought my boyfriend to an after hours work party four months into our relationship. I didn't refer to him as my boyfriend but he kissed me a few times and held my hand. He and I were already committed but i don't like the term bf. He's 38 and it ...
A. 3 February 2014: You can't hold it against your boyfriend for the fact that this girl spread rumors. Hold it against her, not him.
It was a mistake. Or less than that; it was a misunderstanding. ... (read in full...)
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