A beauty you fancy turned out to have had major plastic surgery done. Would it bother you?
Q. Right so this is a toughie. I'm hoping you guys can help me...cause I really need it!! I met a girl several weeks ago at a club. A real stunner. Beautiful green eyes, blonde hair, lovely figure, very high cheekbones, full lips. She was chatting...
A. 15 November 2013: i mean, compare your average looking man to johnny depp or david beckham or whoever you consider ridiculously attractive. if you saw him in a bar standing next to a plain looking man; your average, run-of-the-mill dude, would you not find yourself ... (read in full...)
A beauty you fancy turned out to have had major plastic surgery done. Would it bother you?
Q. Right so this is a toughie. I'm hoping you guys can help me...cause I really need it!! I met a girl several weeks ago at a club. A real stunner. Beautiful green eyes, blonde hair, lovely figure, very high cheekbones, full lips. She was chatting...
A. 15 November 2013: perhaps she did get tired of being considered "plain" and average looking. however, are there not millions of men who get over-looked by women for the very same thing? you can't really get mad at him or blame him for finding someone more attractive ... (read in full...)
Does it make any sense to forgive him and try to move on together?
Q. I have posted here before..I really need my awesome aunt and uncles help again. My boyfriend and I just got back together. We were split up for two months. We split up because one day he just wouldnt return my calls or texts. 4 days go by, I delete ...
A. 15 November 2013: Do what your heart tells you. Maybe he learned from this. But I wholeheartedly believe he's full of it. ... (read in full...)
Does it make any sense to forgive him and try to move on together?
Q. I have posted here before..I really need my awesome aunt and uncles help again. My boyfriend and I just got back together. We were split up for two months. We split up because one day he just wouldnt return my calls or texts. 4 days go by, I delete ...
A. 14 November 2013: okay, here's exactly what happened. he met this girl, most likely had a thing behind your back for a while (not necessarily, but more likely than not), and then decided to leave you for her. once he got the green light with this girl to be together, ... (read in full...)
My deployed boyfriend cheated! I need advice!
Q. Me and my boyfriend been going out for 2 years we were plaining on getting married and everything we'll before he deployed I found out he cheated when he went home on leave 4weeks before deployment I flipped on him and wanted to break up but he ...
A. 14 November 2013: you're coming up with justifications and rationalizations in your head because it's what you want to believe. which is normal, believe me. but the truth is glaring you in the face. even if the girl is a bit crazy, he was still with her behind your ... (read in full...)
Nutjob? A-hole? Relationship-phobe? He's just not that into me? A relationship he hasn't told me about?
Q. I recently met up with someone I had been involved with abroad. We hadn't done the long distance thing and just said we'd see what happened when I got back to town (after him). We spent a day together on the weekend, having lunch (he shouted), ...
A. 14 November 2013: Yeah, you friend zoned him. Inviting a friend with you is usually universal girl code for friend zoning. he probably thought you weren't interested.
Or maybe he's just a really chill guy? Maybe he just wanted time to himself to relax and play the... (read in full...)
Drug dealer boyfriend. Advice needed!
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. We're the same age, don't live together, and spend weekends together. We've had a serious relationship where we've talked about getting married in the future and having kids. When I met him he tri...
A. 14 November 2013: It's not so much the sleeping with slutty "pillheads" that would bother me. I don't think that's an issue. It's the basic fact that your boyfriend is a dealer that would really bother me. As someone who considers herself to be a law abiding citizen, ... (read in full...)
Could someone give me a little pep talk or something about how I am not a bad person for cutting her out of my life?
Q. Am I a bad person for cutting off an ex who wants to remain friends? My ex of 7 years (we mutually broke up 3 years ago) won't stop contacting me out of the eventhough I am now married and she is engaged. What is really confusing is that she was emot...
A. 14 November 2013: Definitely don't feel guilty. She needs to go. It's that time. You're making the right call. ... (read in full...)
He suggested I share the cost of having his vasectomy reversed
Q. Is it wrong of me to feel like he shouldn't expect me to chip in for the cost of his vasectomy reversal? Things have been getting serious with my boyfriend, we've talked about marriage/kids/etc. He had a vasectomy about 8 years ago. I've read t...
A. 14 November 2013: You mentioned wanting kids with him. He shared in those feelings. Now, it's a team effort. I think since it's something you both want, you both should go in and share the cost.
Think about it this way - if you're ready to have children together... (read in full...)
A beauty you fancy turned out to have had major plastic surgery done. Would it bother you?
Q. Right so this is a toughie. I'm hoping you guys can help me...cause I really need it!! I met a girl several weeks ago at a club. A real stunner. Beautiful green eyes, blonde hair, lovely figure, very high cheekbones, full lips. She was chatting...
A. 14 November 2013: in all fairness, i think it's being a little harsh calling him superficial and judgmental. in actuality, technically, would not the girl who got all the surgery done be the superficial one? while he was simply saying he wants an all-natural woman. i ... (read in full...)
Suspicious of how her behaviour has changed since she made a new male friend
Q. Long story short. my LD girlfriend has always been a very confident girl about herself, her looks etc. She is very smart and very sexy too. around 8 months ago, due to cultural differences we were close to break up. Im warm and charming. she was ...
A. 14 November 2013: I've found that in my experiences, people who change their behavior like that may be doing it out of guilt. For example, if she were hypothetically cheating, she may then feel bad and make up for it by turning around and being super over the top ... (read in full...)
How can I stop the awkwardness in my relationship?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for almost a month now, and when I call her we end up being in the call for almost an hour, but most of the time it's really quiet. One time, we went 56 minutes without talking at all, besides saying "hey". Then we ...
A. 14 November 2013: If you have nothing to say, then just text. If there's nothing to text, then don't. But what's the point of sitting in silence like that?
Tell her that you have to run and you'll text/call her before bed to say goodnight. You don't have to talk ... (read in full...)
My deployed boyfriend cheated! I need advice!
Q. Me and my boyfriend been going out for 2 years we were plaining on getting married and everything we'll before he deployed I found out he cheated when he went home on leave 4weeks before deployment I flipped on him and wanted to break up but he ...
A. 14 November 2013: Why are you so concerned with his feelings? What about your own? He didn't have any regard for your feelings when he went and slept with this girl and continued to be with her for years behind your back. I'm sorry, but screw him. Send him an email ... (read in full...)
Should I risk humiliating myself by calling him after one night of sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I met this gorgeous guy online 6 months ago. We ended up meeting up and we had sex. We talked and laughed the night away after sex and it was great. He called me back the next day and then when I tried to call him back he did not ...
A. 14 November 2013: why not call him? it's not like you'll look like a stalker lol. after all, it's been six months since you've spoken. and you won't look desperate or anything; you didn't obsessively contact him after you hooked up. he called you and then you called ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a friend to mention your skin color?
Q. I invited two friends over...I am of a mixed background, roots-wise, one of them who doesn't know the people of my country, told me though cautiously gentle polite inonation and all whether that my people had darker skin than I do..I am not dark but ...
A. 14 November 2013: i would not be offended whatsoever by skin color questions or comments. unless it was used in a racist/derogatory way, what's the big deal? it seems like it was legitimate curiousity and interest in your background.
we try to avoid talking ... (read in full...)
I'm a package deal beauty and brains. Guys should like me right?
Q. I am 14 and I'm single my parents say i have the package beauty and the brains I'm a straight A student is there something wrong with me? Guys should like me right?...
A. 14 November 2013: you sound like a great catch! are your parents okay with you dating? are you ready for dating?
if so, i'm sure some guy will be very lucky to have you! :) just make sure you're ready. that's the most important.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of paying for her daughter's clothes!
Q. Ok, my girlfriend and I have been with each other for 10 months but are not living together. She has a 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage living with her. When she takes her daughter with us shopping I'm expected to pay. When I complain ...
A. 13 November 2013: That's really rude of her to assume. She's the parent and it's her responsibility. This would be a red flag to me.
Perhaps this is her "test" of you to see if you'd ever treat her daughter like your own. However, it is too soon for this. You're n... (read in full...)
Hypocrites who justify cheating.....what's going through their minds?
Q. Help me out here. How can a woman accuse her husband of cheating and then justify her own affair as a form of retaliation, or as a means to quench her insatiable thirst for attention? She gets all bent out of shape when she suspects that her husband ...
A. 13 November 2013: Her advice was really good (youwish). So regardless of who it was ultimately doesn't matter.
She's right, both people are equally to blame. It's not one persons fault over the other. Or more one persons fault. They both have cheated, they both hav... (read in full...)
Hypocrites who justify cheating.....what's going through their minds?
Q. Help me out here. How can a woman accuse her husband of cheating and then justify her own affair as a form of retaliation, or as a means to quench her insatiable thirst for attention? She gets all bent out of shape when she suspects that her husband ...
A. 13 November 2013: My ex did this. Cheated constantly and carried on relationships behind my back. She couldnt say no to anyone who showed even the least bit of attention.
This came from a severe lack of self esteem. So yes, you bare perhaps correct. ... (read in full...)
Can she never trust me again?
Q. I was caught a few times on dating sites by my beautiful girl. I did deny it at first, but now I have owned up to all of them, what she knew about. I have not been on them for a while, but she wont believe that. She is constantly interrog...
A. 12 November 2013: this is a prime example of why breaking trust in a relationship almost always guarantees the ruining of a relationship. I can't particularly blame her for being paranoid and assuming the worst. I'm sure you blindsided her and crushed her when she ... (read in full...)
I ended it so it should be easy, right?
Q. Hi all I have been with my ex for a very long time (5 years 1 month 2 days) We split 2 days ago. Its been LDR the whole time, spending weekends and holidays together. We probably average 2-3 days/week together We have both been in our j...
A. 12 November 2013: i think you're putting too much blame on yourself. you say you let her down by not taking a job near her. keep in mind that you BOTH refused to leave your jobs, not just you. and eventually YOU were the one who was willing to give in and relocate. ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt he ignored me!
Q. Hi OK so i just don't know what to do in this situation and who's right and wrong really. :/ I was seeing my boyfriend for 5 months. We started off lovely, then after about a month he backed off and said he wanted to take it slow. I respec...
A. 12 November 2013: this unfortunately is the classic case of "he's just not that into you."
the things you were asking for in the relationship were not too much. they should be things that come naturally when you're really happy and invested. so you're definite... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is out of town... messages me...then does not read my reply or answer back!
Q. Hi all. I am a bit upset. Not sure if I should be or not. Hope you can give me your opinions. My boyfriend is in the U.S helping his dad get back on his feet following a surgery. He messaged me on Facebook the day after he arrived and he t...
A. 12 November 2013: maybe he was logged on to fb in his phone and didn't even know it. or maybe the site was still up on his computer somewhow. anyway, it could have just been a fluke.
is there any particular reason your mind would jump to him talking to other wo... (read in full...)
Caught him looking at porn after he said he would never do it again!
Q. Caught my husband months ago lurking into porn videos. Said would never do again. Swore promised. Said was stupidness curiosity and wrong but did it. Doesn't mean anything just says computer wass there one click lead into many videos. I believed ...
A. 12 November 2013: not in any way to undermine your feelings, as everyone is entitled to feel whatever way they feel. however, i've honestly never been one to understand why women care so much about porn. i wish i could understand, but i just don't.
is this so ... (read in full...)
I'm a student nurse with not a lot of money and he has a good job so why is it up to me to pay for the hotel room?
Q. I am a student nurse so not on alot of money and my boyfriend works in IT up in the city, has a good job,we have been together a few months but we decided to spend some privacy time together in a hotel room,so he wants me to book it up,arrange the ...
A. 12 November 2013: of course, also, the privacy thing is a bit odd. and what's even more odd is that he doesn't want to put it on his card. so yeah, i'd be weary like the others are saying. he may not want it on his card so it can't be traced back to him if he has a ... (read in full...)
I'm a student nurse with not a lot of money and he has a good job so why is it up to me to pay for the hotel room?
Q. I am a student nurse so not on alot of money and my boyfriend works in IT up in the city, has a good job,we have been together a few months but we decided to spend some privacy time together in a hotel room,so he wants me to book it up,arrange the ...
A. 12 November 2013: just because you book it doesn't mean you're paying for it. they're just using your card to hold the room. they don't charge you until you arrive. you then can pay however you choose. cash or other credit card, etc. perhaps this is what he is ... (read in full...)
Hypocrites who justify cheating.....what's going through their minds?
Q. Help me out here. How can a woman accuse her husband of cheating and then justify her own affair as a form of retaliation, or as a means to quench her insatiable thirst for attention? She gets all bent out of shape when she suspects that her husband ...
A. 12 November 2013: i would call it narcisism... (read in full...)
He has this friend who really has a thing for him and who would like me out of the picture
Q. I've been seeing this guy I met online since July (about 5 months), very casually, on and off. I like him a lot, I enjoy being with him, and the sex is phenomenal. He's a bit of a commitment phobe and so am I, so neither of us is rushing toward a ...
A. 11 November 2013: i, personally, would want nothing to do with a person who actively chose to treat another person this way. he knows how much she loves him and yet still drags her along and willingly hurts her. he uses her knowing the consequences it has to her ... (read in full...)
Why can’t girls just say no when they don’t want to go out with you?
Q. I asked this girl out recently who I actually thought liked me back, given all the back and forth flirting, but as soon as I asked if she wanted to go out, she shrugged her shoulders and said, “I don’t know, I have to think about it, maybe later, ...
A. 11 November 2013: Girls are socialized not to hurt people's feelings. Rather than outright say "no", we try to spare your feelings by saying "not now" thinking it will lighten the blow. It's intended to be a kind gesture and way of letting you down easy. But in turn ... (read in full...)
Is this penis envy?
Q. I am not sure where to start. I guess I should be straightforward. I have been feeling real envious more so lately of the male anatomy, well, the penis. Yes penis envy probably. Anyway, whenever I masturbate I have to think of my partner getting ...
A. 11 November 2013: No it's not penis envy. You'd have to read Freud's whole long f*ed up theory to get the whole picture. But in general, penis envy is the theory that during development in children, about age 3-6, there is a focus on genitals and that's when girls ... (read in full...)
Girl in need of post break up advice!!
Q. I broke up with my ex about 6 months ago. We were together for 4 years and for the entire time we were long distance. He was in Boston and I'm in California. (There's more information about us on the previous questions I've posted) long story sh...
A. 9 November 2013: I agree. If you don't want to try to fix things, yet you still aren't completely over him, I would give it more time. You won't be able to have a healthy friendship until you're both completely over each other. ... (read in full...)
Why do abusive men see me as a target to be mistreated?
Q. Dear Cupid I was once in love with my Ex we went our own ways because he turned out to be very abusive mentally and physically I left him. As time went on I ran into another guy who treated me like a queen everyday of my life then he turned out to...
A. 9 November 2013: Many women who get involved in one abusive relationship have a tendency to get involved in many abusive relationships. Without realizing it, it is a type of man you're attracted to. They probably have similar traits and mannerisms that you're ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games or does he fancy me? Why did he delete my phone number? Yet still flirts with me?
Q. Very brief- The guy is mid 40s. We work together and used to get on really really well, flirting, he use to be my bodyguard, defensive protective and at times jealous. We had a big argument, i told him i didn't fancy him (rumours were going arou...
A. 9 November 2013: He's not making a move because you already shot him down that one time you said you weren't interested. And that's also probably why he deleted your number from his phone - because he was upset you didn't feel the same way back and didn't want it in ... (read in full...)
Due to my past experience with acne, I am worried that my boyfriend is trying to tell me something. What do you all think?
Q. I am someone who went through a severe bout of acne when I was younger. I have been left with scars (no acne now) and have been seeing a dermatologist regularly to get filler and laser to deal with it. Its better, but I do still have scars. Anyh...
A. 9 November 2013: If he's with you, he obviously doesn't classify you to be someone with acne currently - as he clearly stated he wouldn't date anyone with either of those two traits.
I wonder if he even knows you ever struggled with it, as that would be a rather... (read in full...)
I said a terrible thing, and now it's over. What can I do to get him back?
Q. I said a terrible thing but I think the reaction of my long time boyfriend is way too much. We live together for 7 years and have 1 child together, our daughter is 6.5. We are young professionals, love each other or so I thought, and we are overa...
A. 9 November 2013: i agree with honeypie. you did speak the truth. if a pet is sick, you absolutely shouldn't wait until morning. just as if a human is sick and in bad condition. you wouldn't wait until morning in that case, would you?
your boyfriend sure loved tr... (read in full...)
How do you feel about the woman proposing to the man?
Q. This question is for everyone: How do you feel about the woman proposing to the man?...
A. 9 November 2013: i don't think there's anything wrong with it whatsoever. however, most men i know would much rather be the one to propose and most women i know would prefer to be proposed to. but whatever works for each couple! anything goes.... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 9 November 2013: Thanks wiseowl for your awesome advice. you were an I credible help. And to everyone who cared enough to respond, you have no idea how much I appreciate it. You're all truly wonderful. I'll be back on my feet in no time. :)... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 8 November 2013: It was actually an issue for us both that I was wanting to discuss. And it was something very important.
She had a pregnancy scare from a couple months ago when she had slept with a guy while we had been broken up. She told me about the guy when... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 7 November 2013: I know she's got "special needs" lol. I know that she has these anxiety issues and I signed on for it. In my mind I know that I don't deserve how she reacts in any typical other relationship. But I knew what I was getting myself into and I always ... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 7 November 2013: Thank you wiseowl for sharing all of that with me. it was very very helpful. you're so right. ... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 7 November 2013: Hey guys, thanks for your input in the end. Its's all so very helpful. I'm gonna check out that book.
I guess where I'm at right now is basically confusion. I never really understand what I do to deserve the blow ups. I always try to take les... (read in full...)
Any kind words or bits of advice on surviving this breakup?
Q. Hey guys. I'm an regular aunt on this page. I'm in need of some help and kind words myself at this moment. My gf broke up with me a couple of days ago and I'm hurting really badly. She has serious anxiety and has difficulty separating one is...
A. 7 November 2013: Thanks everyone so much for helping. I appreciate it more than you know.
I just am not used to feeling so weak. There's nothing in this world I wouldn't have done for her and I bent over backwards trying. She was my whole world. I've never ex... (read in full...)
I'd like to get back together with him -- could he be still thinking about it?
Q. My ex and I broke up mutually (but I initiated it) 2 months ago. We were having incompatibility issues but my time apart from him has made me miss him terribly. I got back in touch with him recently and he's been quite brief with his replies. I ...
A. 5 November 2013: I honestly believe his lack of a response indicates that he has moved on and is not interested. he could be thinking about it, however, I wouldn't get my hopes up. If if were me and I didn't respond, it would mean I had no interest. ... (read in full...)
He takes ages to reply to my messages!
Q. I'm currently dating this guy and have been for a few months...we see each other only about twice a week as we both work full time. During the time we don't see each other we message. But my problem is that 80% of the time he won't respond to...
A. 4 November 2013: In this day and age, it's annoying. I know what you mean. That stuff brothers me, too.
When you are with him, do you notice if he gets on his phone much or texts people back? If he does message other people but takes days to respond to you, tha... (read in full...)
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