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writes:I befriended a prominent political figure on social media (Twitter first, then Facebook) and we seemed to get along very well. He started a political news organization and he invited me to work with him and I accepted. He's very, very conservative and traditional old school. He's also a bit chauvinistic, sexist and type-A. He was impressed with my political stance nonetheless and we were on the same page in many respects.Soon he had begun displaying shows of jealousy. Whenever I paid attention to other men, he would immediately get angry and start bad-mouthing them and picking fights with me. After the third incident of his "jealous rage" I couldn't take it anymore and I confronted him about it in a not so gentle way. It was the last straw, so to speak, and I gave him a piece of my mind. I was a bit harsh but I was merely mirroring his harshness towards me in these jealous confrontations he engaged in. After confronting him, he deleted and blocked me on all social networks and refuses to answer my emails asking why. Kind of lost here. What do you make of this and should I continue pressing the issue? He's a great guy and a good friend (at least I thought he was) and I don't want to sever our relationship. I want to try to salvage what he had but it appears he won't budge. Thanks for listening.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 September 2013):
 "Sounds" to me like you are rid of a guy who was quite a jerk....
Excuse me... would you please repeat the question????
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 September 2013):
 He wasn't a FRIEND. No great loss.
I'd just stop wasting my time on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2013): It really seems to me that he can't handle the fact he likes you so much and that you've bruised his ego so badly by rejecting him... Which obviously you have every right to... something he just has sour grapes about and maybe just reinforces his sexist attitude - anger against women... Like daisy said it's very immature and unstable behaviour, and he's proved hes clearly not the greatest friend or guy to be honest... Sorry but think the best thing to do is leave him to cool off and give him the space... If he contacts you again, be civil but he doesn't sound like the greatest of characters to me.
Whatever complex he's got, ATM don't think you can fix it... Sorry and good luck :) xx
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (15 September 2013):
 You set your boundaries for what you considered unacceptable behaviour from him. It may have been harsh, but maybe it was necessary to be harsh. I don't think he would have listened to a gentle hint. He chose to end the relationship. This means it's either his way or the highway. Leave him alone. You've done all you can to try to appease him. I'm sure he'll come sniffing around you after his bruised ego is healed. Hopefully by then he can have an adult conversation with you about what happened, and all will be sorted out.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (15 September 2013):
 Hi OP
Was it always platonic between you? I assume it was, but I'm trying to understand his intense, possessive jealousy in a platonic/ professional relationship.
I don't think you should reach out to him again. He sounds very flaky. This is not stable, adult behaviour.
Also, he's demonstrated very clearly that he doesn't want to communicate with you, and you have to respect that, even though the reason why is so puzzling.
All the best
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