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writes:This sounds stupid but i really want as many opinions on this as i can get.So here's the story, i'm attractive and i mean that in a non snobbish way! But yet ever since i started clubbing i've worn coloured contacts every time (very natural looking ones not the scary creepy colours some wear). I wear them because i feel insecure as though I wasn't as good looking as the other girls that went out. And with them i felt gorgeous, it was a big confidence boost for me, but the only downside was i never wanted to meet up with the people i met out because i was worried that they only liked me because of how i looked that night with contacts and didn't give them a chance. So i guess you could say i was setting myself up for disaster. Anyways, recently i've realized if i want to know if it was the colour of my eyes with contacts or me as a person that people were attracted to, that i would need to stop wearing them..... And now i haven't worn them in ages, and i still get at lot of guy attention which makes me happy because i wasn't wearing my coloured contacts. In fact i'm quite surprised that i've gotten to know some very attractive funny and nice guys...... So what i'm trying to say is, do you think it's bad that i wear contacts because i'm insecure, and should i wear them now and then? Or should i just ditch them altogether and be myself? I'm confused, because i love how i look with them, i just feel so different yet i know that's just a false image.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 To me wearing them for yourself just because you like them is the best reason to wear them. Same goes for how you dress and wear your hair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): My preference is women who go natural because it says a lot about their self confidence. That they're proud of themselves and don't have to put up a front. It also makes me think they're pretty true to their words and trustworthy since they're not into faking something they're not. Fake eyes turn me off but to each his own.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (18 March 2011):
I wear contacts instead of glasses sometimes to feel more confident, and trust me, I do not think I am creating a false image of myself
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): "So are you saying that guys are more attracted to confidence of a woman, than their appearance?" Yes, confidence is beauty.
A mixture of the two is our ideal but every guys version of what is aesthetically beautiful is different, so the key factor is always confidence. Confidence, self assurance and contentment are the three things we're attracted to most in women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): The contacts thing is fine.
As long as it's a fun thing for you then no guy will mind, if it's a necessity, then it might become an issue. If you're freaking out and feel like crap when you don't have them in then that's a problem.
As for false image don't worry about it. I have rarely met a woman who portrayed the real image of herself unless she's just out of the shower. You see makeup, bras, clothes they're all a false image. They're all designed to enhance an image thus creating a false image. Bras shape the breast and give them an even look, when most women's boobs are asymmetrical. Women wear clothes to accentuate or hide certain features. I don't know how many women I know that wear that belt thing around their waist to take the attention away from their bellies. High heels are to give the leg a different more aesthetically pleasing look even though they're as painful as hell, women still want to portray that image. Women will wear a small bit of mascara to make their eyelashes fuller and darker, foundation to mask uneven skin tone and concealer, well the name says it all.
My point is we guys know women do this, it's their thing and we don't really pay any attention to it, although we do notice the difference between when they dress up to go out to their normal every day look. We like women no matter what they put on or what they wear.
I will say one thing though, if you keep the contacts as a dressing up thing then the impact will be greater. Just like wearing full makeup and putting a dress for the night to go out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLlithid - So are you saying that guys are more attracted to confidence of a woman, than their appearance?
And thank you all for your answers! But it's mixed reviews because i do understand that every now and then has no harm. But like 'Mamabear' said, guys and anyone else may wonder what else i'm faking or trying to cover up....
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reader, Illithid +, writes (18 March 2011):
 Try to treat the contacts the same way you'd treat a sexy dress or painted nails or makeup. It's just to accent your existing beauty, not what makes you beautiful in the first place. The contacts can be a confidence boost, but that confidence is what they're drawn to, not your eye color.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (18 March 2011):
If you can afford to buy the colored contacts, then go ahead and have fun! My granddaughter had fun with her contacts in high school and college. However, just ensure you do not damage your eyes in any way with these unnecessary add ons - like a scratch on the eyeball or infection. The colored contacts, for me, is similar to a woman becoming a bleached blonde. We all know that the hair is a fake color. I am sure you can find other places for your money than in various colored contact lens. A guy may wonder if you have other fakeness to your life!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 March 2011):
 So why not wear the contacts on your date? Trust me hun, it's not your eyes they want to date, but you.
Having a little fun with contacts is just fine. But if it gets to a point where you feel you can't face other without them, you might stop and think why that is, and possibly get help.
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