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*ovemeright11
writes:I just saw a concert and it was amazing and almost felt life changing the only problem I have is that I really wanted my boyfriend to be there with me but he said he was not interested in going and that the person I was seeing was not his kinda music, so i just went with one of my friends instead and had this unbelievable experience, and now when I came back I told him again how much I wished he was with me cause in my mind i am thinking(it should not matter if he likes my music or not was matters is how happy I am and the real good time I was having and I feel like It should not matter so much on whether it is his favorite music or not what matters is if he was there by my side. So is it wrong for me to be thinking a little differently of him now that I came home for this amazing concert? I don't know if its just that I am still coming down from my high of this concert and having a hard time seeing reality again or not? He came over to see me today since I had not seen my boyfriend in 4days and I felt awkward like not sure how i feel about him at the moment I always say I love him and I know i do but it feels like maybe its not as strong as it should be idk please just give me your opinions. I can't understand why i feel this way is it maybe that I am in lala land cause the guy in the concert i saw is one of my biggest celebrity crushes can this mix a person up a bit emotionally?
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reader, Illithid +, writes (6 March 2011):
 A healthy couple is one where each partner can have their own interests without it driving them apart. If he's a huge sports fan, that doesn't mean you have to go to games with him if you just aren't interested. If he's into boxing, or music you can't stand, or just likes horror movies and you can't handle them, that's ok and he can enjoy them with friends without you being a bad girlfriend. Likewise, if he missed a concert that you loved but he would have been bored stiff during, that's ok. If anything, the fact that you went with a friend that enjoys it let YOU enjoy it. How amazing would it have been if you looked over at him, sad or annoyed or just bored, and it pulled you out of it? You're different people, and can have your own lives. That's healthy and normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): Someone has bieber fever :P... attaching an emotion to a concert can be common, especially with a significant other. I think cause you missed him so much, you may just feel overwhelmed with the emotions you felt at the concert and without him to share them with and now that you have that chance to share, he has no interest in it and you feel in a way shut out. Talk to him and come up with a compromise perhaps for the next music event. Believe me if it was bieber, I'd still go with my Girlfriend, just so I could spend time with her and haha show her off a bit :)
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reader, DevilChild  +, writes (6 March 2011):
Relax..... Dont rush into hasty decisions.... Gauge his reaction as well.... If he does not care about your hobbies, likes , dislikes, etc. then as much as you may like him or still want to hang on to him its not possible. And yes feelings can change very easily especially if he has been so lax regarding yours.
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