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writes:I think i might be on the verge of a breakup. my girlfriend recently told me that she is very unhappy about some things and the she is reconsidering the relationship. weve been together for two years and i love her more than anything in the world. the things she is not happy with are not new issues; i have known about them for a while but i guess she finally had enough. am i too far gone or can i still fix this?
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Maybe you can fix it but if the issues are old ones and they are due to your behaviour or you, well maybe you should have fixed them when they first came to light.
Sounds like you need to do as much thinking as she is, and then you both need to sit down and talk and talk and accept that it may not go your way and breakup is what is going to happen, or maybe you can resolve the issues and both of you work at it.
Spend some time thinking about what your relationship means to you and how you can if possible fix it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Well hun, I will try to give you some blind advice. Of course it all depends on the "kind" of issues that she is unhappy with. You should ask yourself....are these issues something that you can change? Is she asking for the impossible? Usually (and i'm saying this from experience) after 2 years of dating it all boils down to love and commitment. Is she trying to make the relationship move forward and into the next steps? If so, then consider this...what's the worst that can happen? Things don't work out and you go your separate ways? At least you tried and you will never have that doubt in your mind of "what if she was the ONE". Again, I'm not even sure if this is your problem but with women it is usually about taking the next steps and building a life together. I hope I helped you in some small way...good luck to you and your relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Hi there,I'm really sorry to hear about this...My question would be, if you have known about these issues for some time and they still haven't been resolved, are you able to work around them or are they things which will not be able to be changed? Relationships are about work, honesty and compromise, and if you love her as much as you profess to, then no measure should be too difficult to try to make your relationship work. If her requests are unreasonable and she is unwilling to "meet you in the middle" on them, then perhaps her feelings don't quite match yours.. Remember; Actions speak louder than words. Sometimes, although it may be painful - relationships ending can be the most healthy move ultimately for both parties so that you are able to move on to something more suited to both of you.Just tell her honestly how you feel and communicate how you want things to work and you're willing to work on things to keep the relationship going. Two years is quite a long time to spend together to just throw it away, so if you can make it work it would be great, but sometimes if you have hit a dead end then sometimes it is best to end things amicably. Peace and Strength
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reader, duce00  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Dude, your anonymous. No need to conceal whats really going on in your relationship. Trust me we have heard it ALL!
This is like me asking you for directions to the nearest store to my house and then not telling you where I live.
We are not psychic, just spill your guts, thats how this thing works.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (31 August 2007):
It depends on what the issues actually are and ultimately whether or not SHE wants to fix things. She has to be willing to give it another go, for things to be fixed.
If you could give us some more details about what these issues are, I may be able to give a bit more advice...
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