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Is masturbation ruining my sex life?

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Question - (17 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 August 2009)
A male Singapore age 36-40, *evil Crazy writes:

Hi all,

Lately I have been in a relationship with a 41-year old woman. I have known her for a few months already and we get along wonderfully, there's a lot of chemistry and fun being together. We have great compatibility too and want more or less of the same things in life. However, there's one thing that's bugging me, and that's coming from the bedroom.

I have made love with her a couple of times. Each time, we did it inside a hotel for two hours each. I was able to keep going for the entire duration and she experienced many orgasms, partly also because she has a very sensitive body and could cum from me licking her nipples alone. I could stay hard for the most part and we did it mainly with the modified versions of missionary position. However, I couldn't cum at all - not even close to cumming in both times.

Here's some more facts regarding this relationship:

1). I was a virgin before I met her

2). She got out of an unhappy marriage two years ago and have not been having sex for five years

3). Admittedly, her skills are a bit 'rusty' and she does not have good stamina due to her lack of interest in sports. Hence, I am the one making the moves most of the time

4). As I have mentioned earlier, she is sexually responsive - she does love having sex with me and could cum easily

5). Her pussy is still very tight but gets wet easily

6). I did not wear any condoms in both intercourse, as she's on the pill

7). I have been masturbating for ten years prior to this, and the last five had been with sex toys such as the Fleshlight. Could that have 'over-trained' my stamina somewhat?

Can I please know what could be done to allow me to achieve orgasm as well?

Devil Crazy

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A male reader, Devil Crazy Singapore +, writes (17 August 2009):

Devil Crazy is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Devil Crazy agony auntWell, having high staying power is good, but not good if I last too long as I want to cum too! :(

Does anyone here have had similar experiences? If so, how did you overcome it?

Ladies are welcomed to reply too - if you have had sex partners that lasted too long, what did you do to make him cum?

Thanks!

Devil Crazy

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A male reader, GrimmReality United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

GrimmReality agony auntYOU ARE YOUNG!

Stop worrying! Tug that boat like you are going down the Mississippi!

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A male reader, meganutts United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

meganutts agony auntGo do porn my friend lol, their looking for guys like us with "longevity" in the package. And consider it a good thing, your able to please her multiple times, do you know how many guys wish they could say that? Have her give you head and handjobs after she's spent.

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