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writes: well i am 18 and here recently i have been like really horny is this normal? everybody in my family says it's wrong to masturbate and do stuff before your married, so i don't really masturbate alot cause i feel bad when i do is that stupid? i know it is but i just need to know im a normal girl and not some kinda freak for wanting to do these things. i feel good when doing it but i also feel bad...
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reader, rocknroll  +, writes (6 June 2009):
Masterbating is very normal. It allows you to get close and intimate with your own flesh and learn more about your body. Self pleasure is needed when you do not have someone close to do it to you.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 You are horny, it is natures way of making you want to have sex despite all the risks (STD's, painful first time, unsatisfying sex, reputation, pregnancy).
There are three ways to deal with this. Have sex. Repress you bodies natural feelings, masturbate.
Having sex, well obviously you ain't ready for that and I suggest that one night stands just to satisfy an itch might make you feel worse then staying home and stroking the kitty.
Repressing your hormones would be a neat trick, but there is always the risk that you loose control and end up with a one-night stand or worse, the first idiot to cross your path. Just ask yourself what happened to all those girls who lost their virginity to some random guy and are now teenmothers. Wanna bet they didn't masturbate?
And finally, you can just satisfy your natural feelings, learn about your body, your needs. Feel pretty good, not develop a reputation, not get pregnant, don't risk an STD. Some religious people might claim it is bad, but compared to what?
Men often masturbate simply to take the edge, let of steam. Do you know what letting of steam is for? To stop the boiler blowing up.
So stop feeling bad about being a normal woman with sexual desires. Masturbation (within limits) is a normal way of safely dealing with these feelings. The alternatives are either sex or repression. Both carry a lot more risks in my opinion. Especially as I think repression sooner or later fails and leads to random sex that woman so often claim they regret afterwards.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (6 June 2009):
 There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with self pleasuring. Especially when you are discovering your own sexuality. Now please understand that it is a normal need, and if your family members are telling you that it is wrong...then they aren't doing it right because I am sure they do it too.
do you live in the bible belt? Does your family throw the bible in your face about it?
In all seriousness, masturbation is quite normal, and there is nothing dirty or wrong with it!
That is some very backwards thinking that they have. Perhaps they want you to wear an iron chastity belt over the course of the summer?
Don't let them shame you out of it!
Plus What the hell does masturbating before marriage have to do with anything?
So sweety you go right ahead with your bad self! Maybe you could give your family a few "pointers"!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): I have the same problem. I'm not a virgin but haven't had sex in a long time. I don't want to masturbate coz I always feel guilty and dirty after. But sometimes, especially when I'm ovulating, I'm so horny it's unmanageable and I have to masturbate.
I you feel bad, then maybe you shouldn't be doing it. But if you do it, don't be so hard on yourself.
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