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anonymous
writes:I met a gril at my best friends house on game night, I like her as a friend, we get along well and she knows of my current relationship. Is it a bad idea to try to contact her to hang out only as friends or should I just forget about it? Can a guy and a girl just be friends? I think so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): I've been there. A relationship like you are suggesting is a real treasure as it provides a unique insight into the way women see the world and is worth the 'risk'. However eventually it will be difficult to maintain when another male enters the equation who also wants a relationship that is not plutonic. At this stage your value is want you can bring to the relationship with her and that is to give her an insight into the male perspective. However eventually she will have to move away from you as her new male friend will see you as a competitor and force her to choose. Males don't like perceived competition.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Absolutely! But I don't know if your girlfriend would agree!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Sure they can just be friends....its no problem at all unless you begin to feel an attraction, then if you are in another relationship it is tricky.
I have many purely platonic relationships with beautiful women. I certainly don't lust after women like a frat boy, and I am generally a gentleman in real life(here it is debatable, but in real life I am).
But yes, as along as you and the female in question and your partner know exactly what the boundaries are, and as long as you can be completely honest about it between the three of you(i.e. no hanging out with this person without your partner knowing about it), then yes you can have a platonic relationship.
Hell if Hitler and Eva Braun could have a platonic relationship for years, which in reality they did, then anybody can
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reader, niki20 +, writes (6 June 2009):
 maybe. if ur g/f is the jelious type then it will be harder, why not try and introduce and hang out w/both of them first so she absolutely knows it is platonic, if she asks you not to pursue the relationship dont. women know when there man is being hunted, if you will, and shell be able to know if this girls has a trick up her sleeve. if shes cool w/it roll with it. hope it helped
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