I've been in search of the right girl for years but haven't found her. What should I do?
Q. I am looking for a younger girl to start a family with. I am in my mid thirties but rarely feel any chemistry with girls this age. Nor do I feel that it would be wise for a girl of 34 to start having children. I am an artist and a musician. Ive ...
A. 25 August 2015: Hi, what you say makes sense, but much of what you've stated, especially regarding a womans age and even your age, may i tell you quite forthrightedly, is totally untrue!! Just so you are aware, i am a nurse and i specialise in fertility co... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend suddenly decide she won't have sex till we get married?
Q. We have been dating for over a year now, things have been going on well between the both of us. As usual she is ready to have sex anytime I ask for it Suddenly things changed! My gentle and caring girlfriend suddenly changed to someo...
A. 25 August 2015: Hi, i forgot to mention also, that as far as her acting out suddenly and cursing you etc;, this may simply be because she is unhappy, not content with things, she may be losing interest, she may be stressed about something and she's yet to inf... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend suddenly decide she won't have sex till we get married?
Q. We have been dating for over a year now, things have been going on well between the both of us. As usual she is ready to have sex anytime I ask for it Suddenly things changed! My gentle and caring girlfriend suddenly changed to someo...
A. 25 August 2015: Hi, firstly, if two people love one another and are attracted to each other, it makes perfect sense that the urge to make love to one another would be present, however, may i say, sex isn't always the answer and sex isn't the only thing, that will... (read in full...)
I have growing frustration over the ladies my best friend has chosen to be her bridesmaids
Q. I'll aim to condense this down (hopefully i'll manage) my best friend is getting married in December and i'm her maid of honour - couldn't be more excited! but... she has made some random choices for remaining 3 bridesmaids - I think. I know ...
A. 24 August 2015: Hi,
i can understand where you're coming from for sure, but as it's your best friends wedding, it is actually 'her full right' to choose, whom she wishes to be her bridesmaid/s @ her wedding.
If it were your wedding, then sure, you'd choose tho... (read in full...)
Should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do so?
Q. === should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do it???? Hello everyone My boyfriend asked me to delete all my male friends on facebook! p.s: They aren't lot just 6-7 friends because only accept good friends. And when I ...
A. 24 August 2015: Hi,
i feel that your bf is quite controlling, possessive, jealous & overly sensitive regarding you & other guys, especially platonic connections via fb.
So long as you are sincere about him, so long as you didn't breach his trust in you & s... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend need space or does he need me to reach out to him?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months, and we have had a wonderful connection, talk about marriage and kids (he brings it up), text all day--it has been the best relationship I have had and the communication an...
A. 24 August 2015: Hi,
i am sorry to hear about how you feel, however, i would strongly advise you right now, to give him all the space he requires.
Your bf is dealing with a number of serious issues right now, so much pressure for any parent, especially as hi... (read in full...)
Am I not a priority with her? Or does she want a Bf, but maybe not me?
Q. Been with my gf 6 months. I really like her, wonderful character and shes hot too boot too. But some small things maybe seem the urk me. Shes never taken any photos of me or us. She isn't as 'romantic' as me, never says so much nice things in t...
A. 23 August 2015: Hi,
firstly i want to say that i'm sorry to hear about how you feel.
Based on everything you've stipulated within your msg, i would say that these things are not simply 'in your head'.
It's all factual, however, your gf may not see it this w... (read in full...)
I'm dating a woman who's bigger and I'm totally into her. Why do some people question my choice, my preferences and my motives?
Q. There seems to be an issue that's come up a lot in my life and I'm wondering if others have perhaps have experienced the same thing. Ever since I was a teenager I have been more attracted to females that are more full-figured. Its not that I don...
A. 23 August 2015: Hi,
you do not need to justify your preferences to anybody, where this woman you like very much, nor any women, are concerned.
Simply because of a persons size, should not be cause for alarm.
I would be much more concerned about a pe... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to want to be around anything "lovey dovey" after being hurt?
Q. Is it normal to dislike any love scenes, or want to hear about people's sex lives once you've been hurt in love? I had a bad split with my ex a few months back. He didn't love me and went off with a woman I know. Although I do not want him back...
A. 22 August 2015: Hi,
what you're experiencing/feeling is very normal indeed!
So long as your thoughts are not crossing over, by way of which i mean, you don't take your personal feelings out unto others, venting if you will, it's all ok.
Most people, af... (read in full...)
7 months later and sex is still painful!
Q. Hi everyone. Im 27 years old and newly married to a wonderful guy. My problem is that im terrified of having sex as its very painful. We both were virgins when we got married but we used to engage in a lot of foreplay when we were dating. We saw a ...
A. 22 August 2015: Hi,
painful sex can be treated in a number of different ways.
You've already seen a Gynaecologist & nothing much has changed, as a result.
One of the most common reasons for painful sex is because of vaginal dryness, most usually caused by t... (read in full...)
Do I bother him too much then..? Or am I worrying again about this situation?
Q. I have a crush. We've been friends for three years.I told him about 6 weeks ago at camp were we work that I like him kinda. I'm very conflicted as he's my first crush.I was raised in a male only household so i have a knee jerk reaction to not ...
A. 19 August 2015: hI,
i think that you & he are still young, still finding yourselves, still deciding many things regarding your respective lives futures & this crush that you have on him, however valid, may not be exactly how he feels toward/about you @ present.... (read in full...)
I think I'm more into women than men but how do I tell my b/f of 10 years this?
Q. I am a 29 year old woman I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years we have two kids. Well I have always had this attraction to other women an as hard as I try to make myself feel happy with my boyfriend I am not. I don't want to leave because he ...
A. 19 August 2015: Hi, you must simply ask yourself, If i remain with my husband for the long term, will i be truly happy and will my feelings possibly change/revert back to what i once felt? Do i see myself with this female friend of mine and for the long... (read in full...)
I really like her but she treats me like crap!
Q. I will say this will be quite long. I live in a small town and I am very friendly to everyone I know and see around. That is my nature, kind and caring. Sometimes doing too much for people meaning people can take advantage. I am usually well equ...
A. 19 August 2015: Hi, i would strongly advise you, to stay away from this other female. You may like her and that's ok, you cannot help how you feel, but beware. You know the saying, stay away from toxic energy. Well, i would strongly advise you to ... (read in full...)
Should I go ahead or should I remain a virgin?
Q. Hello agony aunts. I just came out of a 1 year relationship and honestly isn't looking for a rebound. I met an attractive and likeable guy after. I like him, he claims to like me, I don't care. The thing is I am a virgin and never had sex with my ex ...
A. 19 August 2015: Hi, i am really glad to be able to give you a bit of helpful advice here, because i lost my virginity to the wrong person, when i was in my early 20s and to this day, many, many years later, i still wish i hadn't done what i did. As the o... (read in full...)
I'm a little uncomfortable with her fetish!
Q. Hi there! i have just found somthing out about my girlfreind that i did not know. We have been together for going on six years now. sex has been good, just lately my missus(Sarah) has been having problems becoming aroused and sexually moist. And she ...
A. 19 August 2015: Hi, there are many people out there, who i dare say, have one secret fetish of another hidden away for a long time. I must add, however, that it's not overly common after 6 years. I guess your girlfriend Sarah, has had this fetish fo... (read in full...)
What does this symbol mean in text talk?
Q. I am in my 40's and not up to date with emoticons on text and email. Whilst I know this may mean a wink ;-) can someone tell me what ;-)))) means please....
A. 19 August 2015: Hi, it simply means that he's extra happy, hence the extra smiles, plus the wink. It's kind of cheeky, cheesy and sexy, on his part and he wants you to know that too. He obviously likes you a lot, is flirting with you and as i don't know al... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I'm leaving the country for a year to travel. Anyone else experience this?
Q. Hello guys, I have been in a relationship for 9-10 months. We get along very very well, have lots of fun, similar sense of humour, sex is amazing, similar character and from the same "stock", as they say. However, I have been planning ...
A. 19 August 2015: The mere fact that you are in your 30s and have decided to travel overseas for 1 whole year, says on your part, that you're not fully/totally committed and/or completely in love with this woman. Yes, i do hear you and many others saying, this is ... (read in full...)
Is this guy a keeper or a loser?
Q. Hello. I met a guy over the internet who is said to be a guy i used to go to school with his cousin. It started by me seeing the guy on my ex classmate's profile picture then i asked him to hook me up. He gave me his number then it went on from the...
A. 18 August 2015: Hi,
ultimately it's up to you what you choose to do, but i would highly suggest that you do not see this guy.
The mere fact that he said, 'i know you fat', isn't very nice, regardless of the fact that he was being honest & upfront with you... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got angry and kicked me in the butt, will the violence escalate?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 20+ years. When we fight, which is not very often, she sometimes gets a bit physical, but I haven't until now. The other day I got mad over something stupid-- she had unplugged the alarm clock to plug in her phon...
A. 18 August 2015: Hi,
yes, it will escalate from this incident forward & i say this simply because, she has already done it, so the new habit is already in formation.
Now, each & every time she gets upset, for whatever reason, she is very much more likely to l... (read in full...)
He wants a divorce, my life is spiralling out of control
Q. 2 weeks ago, my husband of 7 years sat me down and told me he wants a divorce. After the past 2 weeks of many talks with each other and thinking things through, we have decided/agreed to get one. In a nut shell and without going into too much de...
A. 17 August 2015: Hi,
i am sorry for what you are going through.
Your husband is, may i say, a very, very shallow individual & before he judges you, his wife, i would seriously advise him, to take one long, hard look @ himself in the mirror.
Physical appear... (read in full...)
I miss the guy I made out with ....
Q. So, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year (it's a year next month) and we have been very close and he has treated me well and never made me doubt him. However, I got a volunteering job to work overseas. Before that, we were having a few ...
A. 17 August 2015: Hi,
i would say that as you're still very young, you are still somewhat confused about what what you truly want in your life, relationship wise, right now & that's perfectly ok.
Sure you have been with your bf for almost 1 year now, but this do... (read in full...)
Is my mother and law driving a wedge between my husband and I? Because since my miscarriage I feel like leaving my husband.
Q. My husband and I just lost our first child through miscarriage, and while my family have been supportive and giving us time, his mother has driven us apart and he can't see any of what she is doing as wrong. First, she told my brother in law a...
A. 17 August 2015: Hi, firstly, i am so sorry for your deep loss. Losing a baby, is an incredibly painful experience. It would be very taxing on you in many ways and this is the time, that you need as much support around you, as possible. I am quite sure that... (read in full...)
Should I forget about sleeping with her because I ccan't protect myself?
Q. I want to have sex with a girl but I think she practises safe sex and have had girls and guys before. I don't know what to do because I don't want to get anything because she's slept around and I know she doesn't use condoms. So should I try for...
A. 16 August 2015: Hi,
i would advise you to both practice safe sex & to both get tested.
It is neither here, nor there. It's not simply up to you, to state that you're worried about sleeping with this woman, because of what you think she's doing or not doing.
... (read in full...)
I care much less how I look since our breakup, what's wrong with me and what should I do?
Q. What is wrong with me? Before me and my ex broke up or he left after HE cheated 7 months ago I care less and less of how I look sure I go to the gym but I make zero effort to look good. Before I used to always dress up but it was usually for school ...
A. 14 August 2015: Hi,
after your daily shower, dress up nicely, take proper care of your overall physical appearance, this will automatically make you feel 10 times happier, 10 times more confident, 10 times better overall.
Do all the above for yourself first &... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable for feeling like this? Do you think I should ask him to at least meet me at the entrance?
Q. Hello Dear Cupids I have been seeing a man as just friends for about three months, we only see each other every couple of weeks or so as we live about 90 miles apart. We've been out for meals and outings and he's always been very attentive - flow...
A. 13 August 2015: Hi again,
i thought i would also add, that this new man in your life, should have bought you that ticket, rather than inform you that he'd try to get you a ticket.
Actually, i cannot see why he couldn't have bought the ticket for you, conside... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable for feeling like this? Do you think I should ask him to at least meet me at the entrance?
Q. Hello Dear Cupids I have been seeing a man as just friends for about three months, we only see each other every couple of weeks or so as we live about 90 miles apart. We've been out for meals and outings and he's always been very attentive - flow...
A. 13 August 2015: Hi,
i can definitely relate to you. Firstly, no, you are not being unreasonable @ all!
You are in the midst of the dating process, but you've both been dating for a fair while now, (even though you don't get together too often), & as he'... (read in full...)
Bi-sexual or Bi-curious? Why do I feel this way when I can only emotionally see myself with a guy?
Q. I am so confused. Let me just start by saying that I'm a 17 year old girl and always assumed I was straight. I have always liked guys and do get turned on by them sexually. But my first experience sexually wise, was watching lesbian porn whe...
A. 11 August 2015: Hi,
as a woman myself, i would assume here, that you're simply going through a growing phase. You're still very young & when i was your age, i had 3 very close, intimate encounters with other females.
I really enjoyed being with other girls... (read in full...)
Why do I get so much rejection if I'm what people say I am?
Q. Okay so I'm a bi man who's not out as bi. I am confident and friendly and funny (so I'm told) here's my problem. I've been told more times than I can count how good looking I am by both men and women, people telling friends your friends good loo...
A. 11 August 2015: Hi,
actually, there's nothing wrong with you @ all & as others have stated, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I can relate very closely to all you've expressed within your msg & the fact is, that very good looking individuals can/... (read in full...)
How can I resolve this problem? My trust in him has gone as I have a suspicion that my husband may have taken nude pictures of me
Q. In the past my husband has snapped pictures of me in the shower and changing. I told him to delete the pictures each time. I have told him he can't take nude pictures of me without my consent. This all started after we got married. Recently...
A. 10 August 2015: Hi,
seriously you need to step up to your husbands antics.
Just because you are married & he is your 'husband', does not give him permission, without prior consent from you, to take naked photos of you & to do with them, whatever the hec... (read in full...)
How do I get over him cheating? And to add to my woes he got into a better university than me.
Q. So its been 6 months since my ex cheated on me at a party and I found out by looking at his phone he didnt regret when I said I wanted to talk about it he left and I never saw him other than at school. I went to the same school he did because ...
A. 30 July 2015: Firstly, let me say that i am sorry to hear about what you've been through. The fact is that you're both very young and unfortunately at this period/stage in ones life, things that make us feel overwhelmed or uncomfortable will creep into the rela... (read in full...)
Sick of ex's older wife
Q. I have a son who is 6 years old and my ex currently has more custody than I do, I get him every other weekend. My problem is I'm so sick of my ex's wife and really don't want her around my son. For starters she's 46 years old, 10 years older than ...
A. 23 July 2015: Sorry, but i must say this. You are way out of line here!
To say that your exs partner is 10 yrs older, so what??!!
What,so it's ok for most older men to befriend, date ot marry women who are half their age, but it's not ok for a man to love a wo... (read in full...)
Two dates and already I have never felt so comfortable with a guy. Is this normal?
Q. I've known this man for two weeks and been on two dates with him. We haven't had sex or anything. But wow, already we hold hands, we kiss each other on the cheek and forehead or very briefly on the neck. On our second date, we got back from da...
A. 21 July 2015: I would take my time with this new relationship.
Two dates & you are both so close, does not mean that you are meant to be togther for life, or that you're both perfect for one another & i know you've not implied this whatsoever, but i'm just sta... (read in full...)
Are guys generally talkative? Or are talkative guys trying to impress girls?
Q. Hi, I've met a guy a few months ago at a party and he seems to always trying to open a conversation almost everyday lately. He talks a lot non stop and keeps asking me personal questions, and when I ask him a simple question he gives me all the ...
A. 21 July 2015: Hi,
well, you obviously gave him your mob/ph number, as he sends you regular msgs.
To me, this represents interest in him, on your part too.
The fact that he communicates a lot with you, may mean he is interested in you & in many cases, this ... (read in full...)
How can swingers so easily have sex with someone they don't love?
Q. I hope this doesn't sound silly. I'm just curious. I know there are people that enjoy sex without love and those that can enjoy sex ONLY with love...or at least feelings for their partner. I'm just curious about swingers. Do you think they can ...
A. 21 July 2015: I can relate to you, as i too, ask myself how some couples can so easily get into swinging orgies.
I do believe that marriage is a sacred institution & ought only be reserved, for two people who truly love, respect & honour each other.
I do not ... (read in full...)
My friends want him gone. Am I crazy for trying to still accomodate him?
Q. So here's my situation. I've been in a relationship with my bf for 2 1/2 years. We have been friends for almost 10. I thought we could make it work but we both have issues and we've come to a point where I broke up with him because we weren't ...
A. 18 July 2015: Also, i wanted to add.
You have been friends for 10 years, so there must be something special between you both, for your friendship to have survived for so long. Not many people have friendships that have lasted for 10 yrs, so you need to decide w... (read in full...)
My friends want him gone. Am I crazy for trying to still accomodate him?
Q. So here's my situation. I've been in a relationship with my bf for 2 1/2 years. We have been friends for almost 10. I thought we could make it work but we both have issues and we've come to a point where I broke up with him because we weren't ...
A. 18 July 2015: Hi,
from all you've stated within your msg, it sounds as though you would truly benefit from your own 'time out'.
You really need to find yourself, get in touch with your self again, as your bf appears to be somebody that places great str... (read in full...)
Time to take a break? Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Me and my guy have been married going on six months. In the last couple of months he stopped cuddling with me he stopped kissing me he watches porn all the time now. He says he loves me and I am his one and only. He also talks about his ex all the ...
A. 12 July 2015: Hi again,
i just thought i would also add, that if you & your husband chose to watch soft porn together, for the 'added benefit' of your love life within your marriage, then that would be fine, provided you're both consenting & ok with this.
T... (read in full...)
Do we all have a soul mate or soul mates? What signalled for you that a particular person was the ''one''?
Q. Questions for the men and women on this site. 1 ) how old were you when you found the " one "? 2) did u ever give up waiting? 3) were u ever jealous if someone find their special someone before you? 4) do you believe in waiting for that spec...
A. 10 July 2015: Hi,
i believe that anybody could/may be our soulmate & it may happen @ any stage of our lives, regardless of age.
Soulmate could apply tom friendship & not only a deeper relationship.
To find, 'the one', is somewhat different. When you ... (read in full...)
Time to take a break? Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Me and my guy have been married going on six months. In the last couple of months he stopped cuddling with me he stopped kissing me he watches porn all the time now. He says he loves me and I am his one and only. He also talks about his ex all the ...
A. 10 July 2015: Hi,
ok this sounds quite unnatural, considering you guys are married.
Firstly, although many men do watch porn & yes, even whilst they're married, this doesn't make it ok, nor acceptable behaviour.
If you're sexually satisfied within you... (read in full...)
Was he trying to make me jealous?
Q. This guy and started talking we went out a few times he always text me first . And I will text him every once in awhile but he was being shady so I just gave up completely on him I really liked him and I wanted to move on because he's an asshole. So ...
A. 8 July 2015: Hi,
i would have suggested blocking him immediately & you've done that, so that's great! Do not, however, feel tempted, if @ all, to unblock him.
Young men, are most often thinking about casual sex only & there is no possible way, that a man ... (read in full...)
When I finally did ask her out she said she had a Bf. So why does she keep asking about me?
Q. hi I saw this woman at the beauty supply store when I was trying to find my moma a wig for her head. The woman that was helping me and moma was beautiful and have the personality to go with it. I begin to like her right then.. but I then want to...
A. 8 July 2015: Hi,
i know you like this woman very much, but as the first reader stated, she is off limits & you must let her be.
Do not visit her, ask about her, think about her daily, because you will only end up even more broken hearted, as it seems you'... (read in full...)
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