I'm 30 years old and my mother tries to rule my life!
Q. I’m thirty years old and I don’t know how to deal with my mother anymore. She has been a fantastic mom to me, offering emotional support, taking care of me, making sure I’m okay, but lately I can’t stop fighting with her. And it’s always over...
A. 5 November 2017: The issue doesn't really lay with your Mother, but it lays with YOU.
YOU need to let your Mother know that whilst you do love and respect her, you are 30 years old and you're able to make your own decisions regarding women.
The bigger is is tha... (read in full...)
My husband is flat out lying to me!
Q. Is it ok to snoop if i am being lied to? My husband keeps telling me that his 'penis is broken'. We havent had sex in two months or so. Hes massively stressed out. The thing is that in the last two weeks i have given him two blowjobs and we have act...
A. 5 November 2017: You said it, your husband's massively stressed out, so you need to find out why he's so stressed out.
Don't discuss porn with him at all, but ask him how he's feeling, then let him know that you love him and find him sexy and that you'd love to ... (read in full...)
I can't understand women!
Q. Guys, I totally need your advice............ You see, I am still 19, And Ive encountered lot of women, went on lot of dates, and im experienced in this shit..... but lately things have been wrong, U see, what will you assume if a girl comes next to ...
A. 5 November 2017: You're still young and with much time, you'll learn a lot more about women and relationships.
Did you know, the male brain will continue to mature/develop until the age of 25 years old, whereas a woman's brain will be fully mature by 21 years of... (read in full...)
He gets angry and accuses me of being controlling if I ask for a bit of attention!
Q. Husband has very much a situational based depression due to work issues where there is no way out for two years as he is in a work situation where a personal guaranteee is in place that would cost us about €60,000 to get out of. So theres two more ...
A. 5 November 2017: Hi,
writing a letter as Denizen has suggested is a very good idea and you could even think of expressing everything within your letter to your husband.
Place the letter, (in a envelope with his name clearly written on the envelope), where... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are unsure of our future!
Q. My boyfriend and I are still in college but we graduate soon, like in the next year. He has a more laid back approach with things/life and is more up in the air/live in the now, whereas I'm more of a planner and I like to see more into the future. ...
A. 3 November 2017: Try not to overthink things and stop worrying about the future with your bf, because nobody knows exactly what the future holds.
Nobody can possibly know and that includes you and your bf, so why worry?
You're both still young and at your resp... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me, but can't trust me!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for over two months. Things were going good, until I lied to him. I told him how I was married to my ex but he was helping me with a certain issue. (I cannot disclose, my boyfriend knows). And he was okay with it. I ...
A. 3 November 2017: You're in a new relationship and things definitely haven't gotten off on a good foot.
You lied to your new bf TWICE and for most men, TWICE is way too many times!
You should have known that, but obviously not.
How would you feel, if your ... (read in full...)
Our 7 year relationship is in shambles. Is it over? Should I accept defeat?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 7 years, and throughout the relationship we obviously had ups and downs like any other couple. However, one huge problem with us was that I had suffered some sexual trauma in my past which left it difficult for me ...
A. 3 November 2017: Your own adverse sexual experiences definitely played a huge role in the outcome of this recent relationship.
You should grant your partner her space and respect the fact that you had so much time to be with her, to make it work, yet you had trou... (read in full...)
I need ideas for a 60th birthday toast!
Q. Hi, I'm going to be giving a a short splech on the occasion of my relatives 60th birthday I just want to make it very short and sweet!Could y'all give me ideas?or a beautiful phrase with which I can start the speech?...
A. 3 November 2017: I don't know your relative's name, so i'll make one up.
Johnny.
You could start your sentence for your speech by appearing happy/upbeat and stating that today's a wonderful day because we're all gathered here today to celebrate Johnny's 60th bi... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with wanting more attention from him through texts!
Q. So I have posted about this previously, but I’m starting to get that feeling of neglect again. I feel terrible as I know my bf is working very hard and I hate asking him for more attention. The situation hit a breaking point a couple weeks ago, he ...
A. 3 November 2017: Your seemingly desperate need for constant reassurance is seriously treading on dangerous ground, because to your bf, you are secretly coming across as very insecure and your bf may even think that you're quite self absorbed, meaning it's all about ... (read in full...)
Why am I hopelessly infatuated with this man?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if someone could give me advice I'm with my husband for 16 years married 6 and have two wonderful children we had out up's and down's over the years I've been in and out of counselling due to child abuse and suffer with ...
A. 3 November 2017: Firstly, you must do something about your drinking and your drunken behaviour.
You're not in the right frame of mind when you drink to the point of getting drunk, your judgement becomes highly impaired and you cannot make logical, nor rational... (read in full...)
He was looking at provocative image!
Q. Hi I'm looking for some advice I've never had to do this before. My question is how am I supposed to feel about my partner of 15 years was working on his laptop and stepped outside for a smoke I was unpacking shopping and on his screen was a picture ...
A. 3 November 2017: I'm sorry to hear what you're going through, however, it's most unfortunately what many, if not most men do from time to time.
Interestingly, when i spoke to 3 of my closest male colleagues, regarding online ogling or downloading of scantily... (read in full...)
Why does this love feel different?
Q. 2 years ago I broke up w/the 1st guy that I ever loved. We weren't compatible as we had different political and religious views (both things are very important to me). I was completely and utterly in love, felt like a total dream. He took me for ...
A. 2 November 2017: It's great that you've found somebody new and that's a real positive in your life.
If you had found another guy who was very similar to your first love, you'd probably be very unhappy now and you'd be questioning why you attracted the same typ... (read in full...)
I hate the person who I used to love for his std and promiscuity
Q. I'm in love with my partner , we've been together for a year and a half, we've been through so much, specially at the beginning. The truth is, even though I thought I knew him ( we were friends for years before falling in love ) the fact is I did ...
A. 2 November 2017: You sound totally confused and this comes across loud and clear by what you write.
One minute you love this guy, the next you hate him or even worse despise him.
You must make a concrete and accurate decision based upon what your plans are a... (read in full...)
I have a great life but no hobbies or interests that I'm truly passionate about. How do I find my purpose?
Q. So this isnt a relationship questions this is just about me and my purpose... So a little about me i’m 29 been with my partner 5 years live together, can see a futute together which consists of marriage and children, all is good. I am really clos...
A. 2 November 2017: You can try by putting yourself out there and by helping/serving others, especially those who are sick, suffering and in need of assistance and some friendly act of kindness and support.
This with time, you'd find incredibly rewarding, because ... (read in full...)
Does this age gap between us matter?
Q. I am 27years old and the love of my life d one I wanted to marry is 37years old by age.we both love each other so dearly and he is a man every woman would wanted as a husband because he has d attribute he is loving,caring,calm,hard work and lastly ...
A. 2 November 2017: It's not a huge age gap, because you're in your 20s.
If you love each other then so be it. Marry him.
It's the two of you who must live together and if you know he's the right man for you, then who really cares what others think and say.
... (read in full...)
She has gone off sex and I'm worried I'll lose her!
Q. I have a girlfriend i am 66 years old and she is 46 years old we have been together 4 years but this last 6 months she has went off sex she says she do not care she has sex or not i am getting wor...
A. 2 November 2017: All advice given to you so far is true and i would like to add a bit more for you to think about.
You say you've been with your gf for 4 years and that she spends weekends with you at your house.
I don't mean to sound rude, however, at your... (read in full...)
Is my crush inappropriate?
Q. Hey all! I have a big, fat, unavoidable crush on a good friend of mine and I am not sure I should, nor am I sure whether I should talk with her about it. My friend is about 9 years older than I am, and I hesitate to bring anything up because she i...
A. 2 November 2017: Don't do anything silly and ignorant that would destroy your friend's life as much as it would yours.
Spend your time and your energy focusing on seeking an appropriate relationship for you and one that's attainable and not unattainable as this ... (read in full...)
I love my long term partner but feel a spark for a coworker!
Q. Hi, i'm in a situation i never thought i'd be and i need advice, because i can't talk about it with anyone..I'm in a longterm relationship (7 years). I love my partner, although i can't deny that our relationship is much of a rutine now. We live ...
A. 2 November 2017: You have already cheated on your partner of 7 years and you know what transpired between you and your co-worker was wrong, yet you have denied your partner the truth.
It never ceases to amaze me with women.
Why is it that when we do the dirty,... (read in full...)
Why am I having thought about having passionate sex with my friend?
Q. I think somethings wrong. I am in college, and one of my classmates, I have known since high school turns me on. Every time we talk and see each other (which is all the time, because we have the same major and minor) I have thoughts and fantasies ...
A. 2 November 2017: Your hormones are definitely one of the factors behind your feelings, but also because you know and like this guy and he's pretty much the entire package.
The fact is, you're both more like buddies/mates, so you want to keep it that way.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was kissed by a gay guy and now he wonders if he is bi?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months just told me he was kissed by a gay guy at a party I wasn't able to attend, and also told me he thinks he might be bi now. I'm just wondering if other people consider this cheating. I'm pretty uncomfortable with the whole ...
A. 2 November 2017: He shouldn't have done it and it's plain wrong!
He knew what he was doing & i'm sure and he wanted to let you know what happened for a reason.
What you do with this knowledge now, is totally up to you, however, i'd assume that most people with... (read in full...)
Just a kiss but what should I do now?
Q. Hi, So I've recently been partying a lot more, fairly common for someone my age. Anyway, last night, I got very very drunk and ended up kissing a boy. Now this may seem like a really silly question but my issue is that I can't stop thinking...
A. 2 November 2017: Firstly, you shouldn't get drunk, because it really does affect/impair you judgement.
The fact that you did what you did, was simply because you were intoxicated.
Does this make sense?
If you hadn't drunk and gotten drunk, then you'd never ... (read in full...)
What is my best course to date my cousin?
Q. I’m in love with my cousin. We haven’t seen each other in 3 years her mom is my aunt and she has been going through a custody battle but she finally won. Anyway, when we were younger we would swim together and I was ten she was 9 and she would flash ...
A. 2 November 2017: I believe in this instance, because you're still young, you're being driven by your huge surge of male testosterone.
Any girl would get you going at your age, but yes, you have this specific interest in this girl.
You still use language within ... (read in full...)
I'm not being asked out by suitable men!
Q. I'm 31 and single. I've wanted to be married for years, maybe since 20. Part of that is my south Asian culture that puts a lot of importance on marriage and family. But I never had any substantial relationships. Over the years I've discovered ...
A. 2 November 2017: My dear, please try hard to step out of your own comfort zone and give all good men a chance.
Oh my gosh, you have no idea what you're saying, nor what's out there!
There are so many good, respectful, sweet, honest, funny and compassionate me... (read in full...)
Am I seeing something that isn’t there and maybe she is just making excuses so I won’t hate her?
Q. After about 4 years my girlfriend and I broke up. It wasn’t one that I wanted at all as I was ready to purpose She has distanced herself but not totally as we still have some contact I have informed her that I am moving and we are supposed to ...
A. 2 November 2017: I do agree with the first readers reply, but i'm also looking at this from another angle too.
Why? Because i'm female and i know that often women do what they do and behave as they behave, because of personal feelings.
You should have plac... (read in full...)
Has my husband gone off me
Q. Hello I have a problem with my husband never wanting sex anymore we have been together 6 years and married just over a year ago and now have two children together.in the beginning we were sex maniacs and he couldn't get enough of me now he never ...
A. 2 November 2017: You should sit down and talk to your husband about everything you're feeling, but always speak in a calm, non-emotional and rational manner.
The harsh truth is, men do not know how to handle an overly emotional woman very well.
You are who y... (read in full...)
How do we settle on the temperature issue? My partner and I find it difficult to adjust to each other's preferences
Q. It's a bit of a funny thing that is becoming not funny really fast. Me and my partner have vastly different temperatures at which we are comfortable. It's especially pronounced at nighttime, as the temperature that makes him feel OK-ish feels ...
A. 31 October 2017: Firstly, are you both healthy and of healthy weight?
Do you suffer from blood pressure issues, or does your partner have a circulatory issue that prevents him from warming up more easily?
My comments may sound very strange, however, these a... (read in full...)
I'm not being asked out by suitable men!
Q. I'm 31 and single. I've wanted to be married for years, maybe since 20. Part of that is my south Asian culture that puts a lot of importance on marriage and family. But I never had any substantial relationships. Over the years I've discovered ...
A. 31 October 2017: I should have added, there are many good, black Muslim men out there.... (read in full...)
I'm not being asked out by suitable men!
Q. I'm 31 and single. I've wanted to be married for years, maybe since 20. Part of that is my south Asian culture that puts a lot of importance on marriage and family. But I never had any substantial relationships. Over the years I've discovered ...
A. 31 October 2017: Do what's right for YOU, not what's standard within your racial group or religious teachings.
If you fall in love with a specific person, does it truly matter what their faith is, or even their ethnicity?
Your comment regarding black men is rat... (read in full...)
Guys, do you miss the other woman if the affair ends suddenly?
Q. Guys, do you miss your mistress when your affair ended suddenly. I just ended my affair with a married man. Without stating the reason why. I know it’s wrong to be in love with him. So please spare me all the nasty comments. I feel kinda ...
A. 31 October 2017: My response was based upon the fact that, at some point you found out that this man is married, yet you still wish to continue with him.
Again, please do not waste any more of your life and time with a married man.... (read in full...)
Guys, do you miss the other woman if the affair ends suddenly?
Q. Guys, do you miss your mistress when your affair ended suddenly. I just ended my affair with a married man. Without stating the reason why. I know it’s wrong to be in love with him. So please spare me all the nasty comments. I feel kinda ...
A. 31 October 2017: I'd like to spare you any nasty comments, however, when you ask such a question via a social site, you must expect and accept that you will receive many different responses, both good and bad.
I don't know the exact nature of how you guys met and ... (read in full...)
Ex contacted me and we are in touch again
Q. My ex contacted me and we’re in touch again. It has been many years. The last couple of times I ignored him. This time he was grieving and I reached out. He says he’s alone and will never be in a romantic r again. It has been overwhelming hearing a ...
A. 31 October 2017: This doesn't sound right at all.
I'm sorry to hear that you've not been well.
As your story speaks, it appears you're both not cut out for each other, hence the reason that you broke up in the first place.
When a relationship works well,... (read in full...)
My ex apologized but she never really said she was at fault
Q. Hi cupid, my ex apologised to me which is a rare occasion. After 2 years since we broke up, one line she said really triggered me... I read her apology and as soon as i saw the line "i dont want any drama" i snapped. This was a girl i really cared ...
A. 31 October 2017: You should have cut permanently loose from this ex gf as soon as it was over with.
Two years later and she's still carrying on like this.
You are giving her exactly what she wants and craves-ATTENTION!
STOP DOING IT and MOVE ON with your li... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who has a twin brother and when the brothers and the sister-in-law get together, they make me feel very left out
Q. I have been dating an identical twin for the last 4 years. We have been doing well except when it comes to spending time with his brother and his sister in law. When we are all together, I am always to one that is left out. I always get left out of ...
A. 31 October 2017: This guy is a long term bf for crying out loud, so he should listen to what you have to say and be more respectful, inclusive and accommodating.
To be honest with you, i don't think your bf really cares that you're being left out and are feeling ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a separated man but don't like some of his actions. Advice?
Q. Hello, I recently joined a dating site, and I found someone I know, I actually was at his wedding. But his currently separated from his wife of 2 years and has 2 kids with her. At first I contacted him and told him that I know him and that I was at ...
A. 30 October 2017: This guy wreaks of sexual desperation and you are his part time booty call.
This guy has no serious intent about you and the fact that you may even think otherwise astonishes me, because it's profoundly obvious that he's still got lots going on... (read in full...)
Concerned about my mental state
Q. I have a big problem. My personality has changed a lot since I was a boy. I used to be a humble kid. But now when I get home after any kind of social interaction, and think about how I behaved and what people's reactions to were to things I said n ...
A. 30 October 2017: This is very much like jumping in the deep end of the pool when you can't even swim properly, however, you should really put yourself out there and apply to work part-time, as a volunteer in a soup kitchen or for an organisation whereby you will be ... (read in full...)
Still not comfortable with my sexuality
Q. Hey all! Forgive me from the beginning if I am over graphical! I've known, and accepted that I am attractive to my own gender in a sexual way for years now. I identify as bisexual, but in private. Anyway I really come with 2 separate questions. I...
A. 30 October 2017: You are who you are, you feel as you feel and i believe that with time, all your current confusion regarding your sexuality and your preferences will finally reveal themselves.
For now, try not to overthink everything and simply take a day at a... (read in full...)
Do I tell my son she's cheating?
Q. My son's wife is cheating on him. Both she and my son are 29 and have been together for just over 9 years. I received an e-mail about 4 years ago from someone who has sent me evidence that she has been cheating on him for the past 5 or 6 years w...
A. 30 October 2017: I find it very hard to wrap my head around the mere fact, that you've kept this terrible secret from your son for 4 long years.
Your son's wife had the gaul and temerity to ask you, to cover up for her cheap and vile behaviour in her marriage... (read in full...)
We are falling out of love and I don't know what to do
Q. After being attached to his phone the TV and napping all day I asked my husband if he would spend some time with me. He suggested we have friends over I replied I would rather spend the night with just you since we haven't had a night alone in a ...
A. 30 October 2017: I'm looking at this from a different perspective and angle.
I actually think that you need to tell your husband that it's time for the two of you to have a serious talk.
Only you know him better than anybody, so you will be more aware of hi... (read in full...)
I suffer from social anxiety and it bothers me that he leaves me alone with his mother!
Q. I am in the best relationship I have been in, but there is one little issue... My boyfriend is 24 (I am 22). He is German and I often travel to Germany to be with him, usually staying 1-3 months at a time. The rest of the time I travel a lot for...
A. 30 October 2017: Just think of yourself when you're at your best and most positive.
Think of all the things you achieved in your life and all the things you do, to get by each day.
Now try to use this positivity to start making a connection with your bfs Mo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says his phone was hacked. I don't believe him.
Q. I recently found pictures of my significant other in his phone along with seeing him on website called backpage. I viewed his history and found him looking up girls in different areas. He denied taking those pictures in my bed from not even less ...
A. 28 October 2017: Your so called "bf" has no respect for himself, let alone for you.
It's a sad shame yes, but it's the truth.
He feels embarrassed that you caught him out and of course he knows he's lying to you, however, he's not in any position to tell... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with her! What should I do?
Q. Help! I've been asked by a lady friend to join her to a play this Saturday. I like her and my gut tells me the feeling is mutual. I want a relationship with this woman. What must I do to make my intentions clear? Do I take her to dinner after th...
A. 26 October 2017: Try not to worry too much and don't be too hard on yourself.
This lady friend obviously likes you and wishes to spend some of her time with you.
This says a lot about her interest in you, because most women wouldn't wish to spend their time w... (read in full...)
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