I want a relationship with her! What should I do?
Q. Help! I've been asked by a lady friend to join her to a play this Saturday. I like her and my gut tells me the feeling is mutual. I want a relationship with this woman. What must I do to make my intentions clear? Do I take her to dinner after th...
A. 26 October 2017: Try not to worry too much and don't be too hard on yourself.
This lady friend obviously likes you and wishes to spend some of her time with you.
This says a lot about her interest in you, because most women wouldn't wish to spend their time w... (read in full...)
There's a big age gap so how do I go about this relationship?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/would-counselling-and-therapy-help-after-all-this.html That is the link to the first question I asked. Now over a year later, I am now finally getting in a real relationship. Except the problem is that she is only...
A. 23 October 2017: If she's half your age, in the long term this may be a problem.
I've been in this exact position before and unfortunately, it all ended for us.
I was young and he was almost 19 years my senior.
He adored me and wanted to marry me, have a chi... (read in full...)
Why would a man get distant when time together is limited?
Q. so i have been seeing someone for about 2 years now, we are both military and it is now the time for me to rotate to a new duty and he will not be able to come with me. We both love each other very much but the closer i get to leaving, the more ...
A. 23 October 2017: It sounds as though he really cares for you and isn't going to find your leaving easy at all, hence his behaviour.
The worst part is, what's the future picture looking like for the two of you?
He may have a lot more in mind for you both and if ... (read in full...)
Why was he was so mad because I answered his phone?
Q. Hi. Last night my bf got so mad at me and left my place at 2 am. He fell asleep on the couch while I was watching a movie, around 130 am I noticed on his phone maybe like 10 phone calls then like 10 messages, his phone is always in silence so he ...
A. 23 October 2017: It's quite simple.
UNLESS your bf has granted you full permission/access to his mobile phone, then you should not be answering his phone.
If your relationship is healthy and you trust your bf and you ought, then why check his phone and even t... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister-in-law
Q. I got married 3 years ago, since then i have had a crush on my sister-in-law. She is a beautiful girl. Whenever i see her i have this uncontrollable urge to have sex with her. I love my wife but i also have feelings for my sister-in-law. Neither my ...
A. 23 October 2017: I totally and utterly agree with all that WiseOwlE and Youcannotbeserious have stated.
You are a married man, who married to love and to honour YOUR WIFE, all of your life.
If you wanted to continue playing the field, or if you knew you had a c... (read in full...)
Is 15 years too big a gap for us?
Q. Hi I have been talking to a guy on line who states he is 39 although looks a little older in his picture. I am a 54 year old woman but I do not look my age and have stated that I am 43. I work as Cabin Crew and surrounded by loads of young p...
A. 23 October 2017: I would encourage you to be honest with him, right from the start.
Your sincerity and honesty will score you big brownie points with him, whilst on the contrary, any secrets kept from him, will always make him wonder why and what else could yo... (read in full...)
How can I boost his sexual interest?
Q. My husband has a low sex drive but mine is extremely high and I'm looking for tips or advice on how to spice up our sex life and things I can do or say to get him excited and turned on. ...
A. 23 October 2017: You can try many different things.
You can try talking a bit dirty to him prior to sex and perhaps even introduce a bit of "fantasy" talk.
My tip, think of something that truly turns you on & gets you sexually excited, then you could quietly/ge... (read in full...)
Family squabble upsetting my new relationship
Q. My boy friend and I r relatively a new couple. He lives with his twin brother and a friend. I was staying in their place for the first time and just to clarify. Before that night me and his brother were getting along real well that I would call him ...
A. 21 October 2017: I agree with all previous responses.
You should definitely keep away, until your bf gives you the full green light to step back into their place.
You always take the higher ground and show these guys that you are not ill mannered, you're... (read in full...)
This woman is getting close on the train!
Q. I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...
A. 21 October 2017: I don't even know if i trust all you say, because from my perspective, as a woman, this all sounds very weird and bizarre.
You mentioned that she's a cute and younger lady, so it appears that you've taken notice of her physical appearance and had ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I argued again, this time over laundry
Q. I suppose this might be my fault but my boyfriend and I haven't spoken in the last 24 hours because of...laundry. Enter scene: I'm a 25 year old working two jobs currently (soon to quit one to go back to school). He is a 29 year old working on h...
A. 21 October 2017: You don't need to resort to the thought of breaking up because honestly, everybody and i mean everybody, has their issues within their respective relationships, no matter how close they are.
It's a very normal part of any relationship and if you c... (read in full...)
Is masturbation gay?
Q. If you are not thinking of anything and just masturbating for pleasure is this homosexual?...
A. 21 October 2017: No, masturbation is definitely not gay and in fact, it's very normal.
Both men and women do it and for many, it can be a great release.
Many people who are single or aren't having sex too often with their partner may resort to masturbating, if... (read in full...)
Given his past, do you think that this man would be a good parent to my daughter?
Q. I recently left an abusive marriage, and have been seeing a man from work for almost a year. He moved in with my kids and I over the summer. He has always been very sweet and caring to all of us, but the relationship isn't perfect, though I love ...
A. 21 October 2017: You already see the signs, yet it appears that you'd like somebody else to tell you that this type of relationship is ok.
You know within your own heart that this is not ok.
It appears that your self esteem is very low and that you are not a ve... (read in full...)
Does my FWB have feelings for me?
Q. I've been friends with benefits with a guy for over 3 years. We hook up nearly every week. I telephoned him today to speak to him, he was busy building a draw and I didn't realise I was on loud speaker, during the call we were talking and he was ...
A. 21 October 2017: It's very simple.
If you actually like this guy more than as just a casual fling, why don't you approach him directly and ask him?
If you're happy and don't want anything more than what you guys currently have, you can still ask him directly... (read in full...)
My husband's coworker made some very odd comments and I'm wondering if there is something going on!
Q. Recently on a ride home my husbands coworker needed a ride home. While we were driving his coworker begin to flirt with my husband, He repeatedly said how much he liked my husband, saying my husband was one of a kind. How he had never met anyone ...
A. 19 October 2017: This is definitely not funny.
I am surprised by your husband getting angry and saying that he has no problem with the entire situation.
The fact that this co-worker can act so tacky and seemingly sleazy in your presence is very disrespectful an... (read in full...)
How do I lay my cards on the table? He wants to go into the Navy but I think he's missing a good thing in us!
Q. Hi. I'm sorry for the long email - but I feel like I need to get loads of details into this to give afull picture. Here's my story: I'm a 25-year-old woman who struggles to meet guys that I'm attracted to and have a really great connection with....
A. 19 October 2017: I've read your msg two times over and i have to admit, this guy is trying, in the most polite way to say goodbye to you.
He isn't looking at you as long term material, even though this is what you'd give anything for.
When a man is sincere i... (read in full...)
Was I out of line and is my boyfriend right in not trusting me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. A few months ago I met a guy at work who I messaged after I left the job. He was quite flirty with me in this conversation but I didn't think it meant anything. About a month later he messaged...
A. 19 October 2017: As a woman just like you, i'm going to get straight to the nitty gritty, because i know how we women work.
You felt special when this guy flirted with you and gave you attention.
You knew very well, what you'd be getting yourself into if... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again
Q. At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...
A. 19 October 2017: You are both young and will learn so much more as you age, as you grow and mature mentally.
Your ex boyfriend, you should never take him back. Why??
After what he did to you, he shouldn't even be expecting you to forgive him.
He is immature ... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me, it took me 2 years to get over him and now he wants to try again
Q. At what point can you be sure you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and take them back? 3 years ago my then boyfriend of nearly 2 years left me for someone else. It took me a long time to get over it, but I did. I never really forgot he...
A. 19 October 2017: You are both young and will learn so much more as you age, as you grow and mature mentally.
Your ex boyfriend, you should never take him back. Why??
After what he did to you, he shouldn't even be expecting you to forgive him.
He is immature ... (read in full...)
My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was
Q. Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...
A. 19 October 2017: Hi,
i'd strongly encourage you to reset your entire way of thinking about your brother and your sister-in-laws wedding.
What matters most and what ought matter most to you, is that you found YOUR Mr Right, he found YOU, the two of you fell in l... (read in full...)
My brother's wedding showed me how regretable mine was
Q. Jealous of Sister In Laws Family Hi community. I just attended my brothers wedding and it was amazing! Such a great day with lovely speeches and an amazing vibe. I got married two months ago and looking at both I'm so jealous of my sister in l...
A. 19 October 2017: Hi,
i'd strongly encourage you to reset your entire way of thinking about your brother and your sister-in-laws wedding.
What matters most and what ought matter most to you, is that you found YOUR Mr Right, he found YOU, the two of you fell in l... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife have a young lover since I can't perform as I once did?
Q. My wife (aged 55)and very attractive, and I have been married for 24 years and over the last 3 years I (aged 57) have had trouble maintaining an erection during sex, I have tried all the usual medications but I get side effects from them, so I have ...
A. 16 October 2017: Hi,
you must ask yourself, will i be able to handle letting my wife of so many years go, so she can be with a younger lover?
Also, do you really wish to throw your entire marriage away, simply because your wife has thoughts regarding this y... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife have a young lover since I can't perform as I once did?
Q. My wife (aged 55)and very attractive, and I have been married for 24 years and over the last 3 years I (aged 57) have had trouble maintaining an erection during sex, I have tried all the usual medications but I get side effects from them, so I have ...
A. 16 October 2017: Hi,
you must ask yourself, will i be able to handle letting my wife of so many years go, so she can be with a younger lover?
Also, do you really wish to throw your entire marriage away, simply because your wife has thoughts regarding this y... (read in full...)
Do any girls here go to bars alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and the feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make ...
A. 16 October 2017: Hi,
I am female and when i was much younger, NO, i did not go to any bars alone.
Not only can it be dangerous, especially in this day and age, but it can also make a woman look desperate to guys within that bar.
I have a son who is a bit ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with the father of my children
Q. Almost 50 and extremely horny. All I want is to have sex with the father of my children. We haven't been together for over 12 years. We broke up because he hooked up with best friend and things havent been the same. Getting back together isn...
A. 16 October 2017: Hi,
you need to let go completely and move on with your life.
Staying with somebody, or wishing to be with them simply for the great sex isn't everything.
You guys clearly had and have issues, otherwise you'd never have gone separate ways ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with the father of my children
Q. Almost 50 and extremely horny. All I want is to have sex with the father of my children. We haven't been together for over 12 years. We broke up because he hooked up with best friend and things havent been the same. Getting back together isn...
A. 16 October 2017: Hi,
you need to let go completely and move on with your life.
Staying with somebody, or wishing to be with them simply for the great sex isn't everything.
You guys clearly had and have issues, otherwise you'd never have gone separate ways ... (read in full...)
Feeling obsessed and desperate. Who really is my baby's Daddy?
Q. Hello there, I am really hoping someone can help me here with some advise and no judgment. I am 31 years old and married for 5 years. My husband and I share a daughter that is 3 years old. Last year we are having a lot of trouble in our marriage ...
A. 29 May 2016: I would wisely suggest, that you approach this man and let him know what's happened.
Ask him, if he'd be happy to have a paternity test, so that you can establish, for once and for all, whom the father of your child is.
Yes, it will be very har... (read in full...)
How do I stop saying the wrong thing and convince H that I love her ?
Q. I've been dating H for five months and it's just gotten weird... With like all these things where she gets mad at me. First time, my friends said I could have been nicer about it but I think she was over sensitive. She got her braces adjusted ...
A. 25 May 2016: Hi,
you come across as a well rounded and sensible young guy and someday when you're old enough, you'll make a prospective gf, a wonderful and gentlemanly partner.
BUT.......................HERE I GO........
there is no possible way on earth... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to voice concern about messages from his ex?
Q. My boyfriend's ex lives in a different state and, until recently, didn't know he was in a relationship. Long story short, I finally told him that some of the replies she leaves on his FB (things such as winky faces, invites) are inappropriate. H...
A. 25 May 2016: Hi,
i believe you did the right thing and i'm assuming here, this is what most people would do under the same circumstances.
Hypothetically speaking, you must also remember that, you cannot stop, nor force, (by way of verbal expresssion), yo... (read in full...)
I asked her about meeting up but she's gone cold. How can I become friends with her?
Q. I became friends with this girl I liked at work and also on social media right away. We get on well with each other and she always finds the time to talk to me. The only problem I have is. That I worry I say the wrong things to her and can't re...
A. 24 May 2016: Hi,
it may be a number of things, but we can never be 100% certain, as only she knows what she is feeling.
She may be uninterested in you, although you are interested in her, hence her suddenly going cold.
She may like you, but she is una... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to move on? Am I doing the right thing to keep my distance from him?
Q. Me and a guy were dating for about six months we were never in an official relationship but spent a lot of time together and were exclusive. He recently ended things with me and I feel so heartbroken. He said he still wanted to remain friends ...
A. 8 May 2016: Hi,
you are doing the right things already, but try not to be in a position whereby you are over-thinking about things, about him too much, or by not doing anything at all, because you feel so down about your break up.
It's absolutely norma... (read in full...)
How does a teen get over a celebrity crush?
Q. I have a celebrity crush. I understand that at my age, this is completely normal, but I think that I have crossed the line. I won't explain how (I'll leave that to your imagination) but I know that I've gone too far. I've tried to find obtainable ...
A. 5 May 2016: Hi,
you are still very young and this is very normal, especially within your age range.
You have a crush, we've all grown up having minor to major crushes toward different celebrities/people.
The important thing to remember is, as you grow... (read in full...)
Has anyone here fallen in love with a married man?
Q. Has anyone in this group never fallen in love with a married man and decided to stay on the side in case he leaves his wife? If yes did he ever leave his wife? Is it a possibility that he may leave his wife?...
A. 5 May 2016: Whilst you've not written that YOU are the person asking the questions, i suspect it's you, hence my writing all i've written.... (read in full...)
Has anyone here fallen in love with a married man?
Q. Has anyone in this group never fallen in love with a married man and decided to stay on the side in case he leaves his wife? If yes did he ever leave his wife? Is it a possibility that he may leave his wife?...
A. 5 May 2016: I am absolutely surprised by your entire comment!
The fact that you would write to D/C asking such a question, is beyond my comprehension.
Put it this way, for somebody of your age group to be asking such a question, makes you appear very naiv... (read in full...)
What do women think of very hairy guys?
Q. What do women think of very hairy guys? Is it a turn off and a major deal breaker when a guy is very hairy on his body? Be honest....
A. 4 May 2016: Hi,
i think a man should leave what mother nature placed on his body alone.
Men who shave everything off, i personally don't find this sexy or attractive.
Body builders and professional swimmers usually shave their body hair off, for obvio... (read in full...)
He has a short temper. How can I handle him when he reacts this way?
Q. I had fallen for a guy who is staying beside my home. He is a kind of short tempered person. But the time whenever he is getting angry he doesn't even know that what he is doing. Whenever his expectations are not meeting he is showing anger th...
A. 4 May 2016: Hi,
i agree with all previous readers.
The bottom line is, you cannot change this guy!
He will not change, not unless he himself, recognises that he has a real anger management problem and seeks professional help.
If you choose to remain w... (read in full...)
Why would he be messaging his ex in the first place? And why ask her for pictures? If he misses her, is that a bad sign?
Q. I found out and saw that my boyfriend was texting back and forth was his ex girlfriend. He asked her to send him a picture of her (not sexual just normal) and then he told her how gorgeous she was and that he missed her. I asked him about it and...
A. 4 May 2016: Hi,
regarding the picture of his ex, he is still very interested in her obviously and in fact, so much so, that he still wishes to see her face, she what she now looks like.
He saw her image, then told her she is "gorgeous". That's all good ... (read in full...)
Why would he be messaging his ex in the first place? And why ask her for pictures? If he misses her, is that a bad sign?
Q. I found out and saw that my boyfriend was texting back and forth was his ex girlfriend. He asked her to send him a picture of her (not sexual just normal) and then he told her how gorgeous she was and that he missed her. I asked him about it and...
A. 4 May 2016: Hi,
i'm sorry that you've had this experience with your bf, but the raw truth is, it's a very common occurrence when you're still young, especially with males.
When guys are still in their teens and 20s, they often aren't tied down, nor commit... (read in full...)
Still in love though we have never acted on it. How long does it take before you fall out of love?
Q. I am in love with a guy and I know that he's in love with me too (don't want to bore you with details). We are both married (he has kids) and work together. So it is totally inappropriate. We never acted on it and I never plan to act on it. ...
A. 2 May 2016: Hi,
the fact is exactly as you've mentioned very clearly.
Yes, this man is married, has been for a long while now and he also has a family.
You may love him and you may assume he loves you too, but i can almost guarantee that it's only... (read in full...)
Why would my therapists become cold and distant towards me?
Q. I've been in therapy for a 1 1/2. I've had a psychologist and a family therapist who I've grown close to which has given me strength to get to where I am now. However, I've had to be passed onto a psychotherapist because I was having problems...
A. 1 May 2016: Also, if a client feels that their life is spiraling out of control and they're starting to have suicidal thoughts or tendancies, then the professional is bound by law, to report this to senior staff or even the Police, so it's a very serious ... (read in full...)
Why would my therapists become cold and distant towards me?
Q. I've been in therapy for a 1 1/2. I've had a psychologist and a family therapist who I've grown close to which has given me strength to get to where I am now. However, I've had to be passed onto a psychotherapist because I was having problems...
A. 1 May 2016: Hi,
IIifton is right. What she has mentioned is what i was going to mention to you.
May i also add,
the issue with any professional Psychologist, Counsellor, Psychotherapist or Psychiatrist is that all of them are bound by ethical law, no... (read in full...)
Why would my therapists become cold and distant towards me?
Q. I've been in therapy for a 1 1/2. I've had a psychologist and a family therapist who I've grown close to which has given me strength to get to where I am now. However, I've had to be passed onto a psychotherapist because I was having problems...
A. 1 May 2016: Hi,
IIifton is right. What she has mentioned is what i was going to mention to you.
May i also add,
the issue with any professional Psychologist, Counsellor, Psychotherapist or Psychiatrist is that all of them are bound by ethical law, no... (read in full...)
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