Did my boyfriend snub my son by not saying goodbye to him?
Q. Something is bugging me. I drove my boyfriend to work today. His car is in the shop and he doesn't live with me. My 13 year-old son was in the car too. After I dropped off my boyfriend, I was going to drop my son off at school. Well, my boyfr...
A. 17 May 2018: UNLESS you know something "negative" about your bf and your son's relationship, then i would say, try not to worry too much, about your bf not saying a specific goodbye to your son.
I know it may seem rude to you, because you're his Mother, ... (read in full...)
I wish he would look at me and see I'm drowning, instead of calling me lazy, or belittling my parenting, cooking, whatever.
Q. I have a laundry list of concerns that I have really no one to turn to with. So I moved across the country to be with my bf and so our family could be together. 2 and a half yrs and 2 babies later, I'm unhappy. It hurts to admit. I have a roof ove...
A. 16 May 2018: Also, in reference to your relationship issues, have you guys ever thought about seeing a Relationship Counsellor together?
I'd always advise everybody, to give their relationship their very best shot, before ever throwing in the towel.
UNLESS ... (read in full...)
I wish he would look at me and see I'm drowning, instead of calling me lazy, or belittling my parenting, cooking, whatever.
Q. I have a laundry list of concerns that I have really no one to turn to with. So I moved across the country to be with my bf and so our family could be together. 2 and a half yrs and 2 babies later, I'm unhappy. It hurts to admit. I have a roof ove...
A. 16 May 2018: Ok, i hear you and it all sounds quite complicated, however, in the grand scheme of things, it's not.
You have numerous options here, however, the PRIMARY option is this.
You should talk to your partner, REGARDLESS, of how he feels/reacts, ab... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex with a drinking problem a second chance?
Q. Do I give my ex with a drinking problem a second chance? I had been with my boyfriend for about 11 months now and I recently decided to end our relationship because of his drinking habit. I wasn't happy about his drinking early on but I t...
A. 16 May 2018: I can so relate to you & your situation, because i've been there, so here goes.............
Do NOT take this guy back, because UNLESS he's in the midst of seeking serious treatment for his drinking problem, then guess what?
He will NEVER chang... (read in full...)
I am upset at how he dealt with Mother’s Day! What would you do in my shoes?
Q. Hello. My bf and I are 35, cohabitating. We have kids but not with each other although I am quite close with his. I was really upset on mother’s day because I woke up to an empty, messy house but a gift and cards left out. Apparently he thought the ...
A. 16 May 2018: Your bf didn't tidy up before he left, but just maybe, he didn't want to make too much noise, so as not to wake you up, plus he was getting ready to take the kids out.
I am sure he didn't mean to leave everything to you, to do on Mother's Day.
... (read in full...)
I am upset at how he dealt with Mother’s Day! What would you do in my shoes?
Q. Hello. My bf and I are 35, cohabitating. We have kids but not with each other although I am quite close with his. I was really upset on mother’s day because I woke up to an empty, messy house but a gift and cards left out. Apparently he thought the ...
A. 16 May 2018: I seriously think you created an "absolute drama" out of nothing.
Your bf, so far as HE knew, was doing the very best he could do for you, "under the "circumstances" of that day.
His actions have nothing to do with how he feels for you and it d... (read in full...)
Possibly pregnant from a one night stand
Q. Im probably overthinking this at the moment , i had a date with a guy and we both got pretty drunk. We went back to his and slept together im now thinking if we had a little accident then i would be pregnant. its too late for the morning after pill. ...
A. 15 May 2018: You may be pregnant, however, you actually may not be.
As you're in your 40s, pregnancy doesn't always occur quickly, although it can.
I would strongly encourage you, to arrange an appointment with your GP asap.
There is no time for delays h... (read in full...)
Why his sudden change in behaviour?
Q. I met a guy through mutual friends age took my number . We had an amazing first long conversation on call followed by a couple of video calls sessions . There were no romantic talks but we were planning to meet up. I agree he is busy but he used to ...
A. 14 May 2018: You cannot do anything and you do not need to do anything.
You both met, you both got on well, you both liked each other, however, this guy, he may not be ready for anything more.
He may not want to pursue anything with you or anybody at this ... (read in full...)
My ex said hurtful things about my body. I'm self conscious and my get up and go has gone
Q. I I hope you guys don't mind me asking for advice. I have been feeling low since splitting with my ex around 5 month ago, I have lost my get up and go and I work and then come home and that's it or I go to bed and fall asleep crying. My ex said I ...
A. 14 May 2018: It really is amazing how cruel the human race can be!
The human tongue, specifically, is the sharpest thing ever.
People should always THINK before they SPEAK/ACT, yet most people don't unfortunately.
What we must remember though, is that... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend's confession has re-opened old wounds
Q. My girlfriend of close to 3 years split up with me a couple of months ago. It felt like a total blindside because I never saw it coming. I haven't taken it well. I've dealt with significant anxiety and depression since. I had asked extensivel...
A. 13 May 2018: Your ex gf is messing with your head and this isn't really about the two of you, but about HER.
She has been selfish and she lied to you, by way of not disclosing her affair with you.
If she truly loved you and cared about you, she would NEVER ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he wants to get back together eventually
Q. Background story: My boyfriend and I broke up in what initially was in good terms last month. We were together for 7 years, we were fighting too much and became so busy with our own lives that maybe we drifted away. We figured maybe we needed time ...
A. 13 May 2018: I agree fully with all Agony Aunts.
You are wasting your life and precious time with this man.
7 years together and he still doesn't know exactly what he wants?!
Sure you're both young, however, after 7 years he would have committed "fu... (read in full...)
Getting over my married boss
Q. I have a huge crush on my male boss who retires next week-what should I do? He is married, 55, with grown up children. I am 31, living with my bf but he's pretty boring and things haven't been great in terms of my emotional connect with him for ...
A. 13 May 2018: Sorry, i meant to add, you're in a relationship, so you should focus on your own relationship, rather than focus on something "unattainable and wrong".
If you're having serious relational issues, then you and your partner go to professi... (read in full...)
Getting over my married boss
Q. I have a huge crush on my male boss who retires next week-what should I do? He is married, 55, with grown up children. I am 31, living with my bf but he's pretty boring and things haven't been great in terms of my emotional connect with him for ...
A. 13 May 2018: Also, i forgot to mention.
You should keep a wide berth from your boss, to the best of your ability, as you know this cannot be healthy.
Don't allow yourself to be placed in a position whereby you and he are alone, knowing full well, that this ... (read in full...)
Getting over my married boss
Q. I have a huge crush on my male boss who retires next week-what should I do? He is married, 55, with grown up children. I am 31, living with my bf but he's pretty boring and things haven't been great in terms of my emotional connect with him for ...
A. 13 May 2018: This is very simply solved and you've pretty much summed it all up for yourself, by all you've expressed.
You know what's going on here and you know what you'd like to happen, but guess what?!
You CANNOT and WILL NOT have this man, period!!
... (read in full...)
How to tell my best friend I am transgender
Q. dear cupid i have to tell my best friend that i am transgender but he is not good with change and i don't know how i should tell him as not to like freak him out about this big change ...
A. 13 May 2018: This is your best friend and best friends are supposed to be our greatest supporters and they don't "judge" us as others may.
If your best friend is truly sincere toward you, then you telling him about you being transgender, shouldn't really b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have very different views
Q. I have very different views of life to my partner. We get along great, I am very comfortable with him, he goes out of his way for me, we like each other's company, he makes me feel attractive and is into me. However, sometimes he says things t...
A. 13 May 2018: Sorry, however, i meant to say, your partner should show "full respect" when in your company.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have very different views
Q. I have very different views of life to my partner. We get along great, I am very comfortable with him, he goes out of his way for me, we like each other's company, he makes me feel attractive and is into me. However, sometimes he says things t...
A. 13 May 2018: Your relationship, to you, may sound great for the most part, but to an outsider like me, it doesn't sound too good, to be brutally honest.
I don't think that your relationship is in dire straits, however, if you and your partner are to survive ... (read in full...)
Why does being a mistress feel worse than being alone?
Q. I 've been seeing a man who lives with his common law wife and their toddler twin boys. I believed he will leave his live in Significant other as he promised and it would turn into something more . Well it seems like he was in strictly for sex.He n...
A. 12 May 2018: You feel worse off, because this man isn't in love with you, he isn't committed to you, YET he can still sleep with you, at his every command.
You know he isn't going to leave his wife for you and you know he is using you sexually and this mak... (read in full...)
Why did he invite me, then say nothing about me going with him?
Q. I’ve been seeing a guy for almost 4 mths. I’ve met his friends but not yet his family. From what he has said they know about me and he’s tried to introduce us before, however that was about 2 mths ago, which I felt to soon. He has met some of my f...
A. 12 May 2018: Just go with the flow and there is never any need to rush.
Honestly, if things are meant to be for the two of you, they will be.
When two people are very keen on each other, they'll always work toward making things happen and making things wo... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of wasps and it's consuming me!
Q. This isn't a relationship question, but I have a huge dilemma and I need some advice. I have a phobia of wasps, such a severe phobia that it's not rational. If I truly had a medical condition, then it would be rational, but I'm healthy and don'...
A. 12 May 2018: Firstly, please don't beat yourself up about being so scared of wasps.
You can't help how you feel.
Every human being is afraid of something and you just happen to be very afraid of wasps.
You are not weak, you are not a coward, nor a lose... (read in full...)
I initiated a threesome with a guy friend and now my wife is having an affair with him
Q. I just found out that my wife has been having an affair for the past two years with a single male friend of ours who we had a drunken threesome with two years ago..that threesome which was totally initiated by me alone wasnt so fullfilling for me, ...
A. 12 May 2018: Sorry, i didn't mean to post my response 3 times over!
My computer was playing up.
I did re-edit one of them, as i'd made a few typo errors, so one of my responses will be the full/complete one.... (read in full...)
I initiated a threesome with a guy friend and now my wife is having an affair with him
Q. I just found out that my wife has been having an affair for the past two years with a single male friend of ours who we had a drunken threesome with two years ago..that threesome which was totally initiated by me alone wasnt so fullfilling for me, ...
A. 12 May 2018: Hmmm, this is a tricky one, bec YES, you did initiate the whole thing, but then again, did she have to take a drunken threesome to this level?
What does y
our gut instinct tell you?
Most times, your gut instinct will be right.
It's very ... (read in full...)
I initiated a threesome with a guy friend and now my wife is having an affair with him
Q. I just found out that my wife has been having an affair for the past two years with a single male friend of ours who we had a drunken threesome with two years ago..that threesome which was totally initiated by me alone wasnt so fullfilling for me, ...
A. 12 May 2018: Hmmm, this is a tricky one, bec YES, you did initiate the whole thing, but then again, did she have to take a drunken threesome to this level?
What does your gut instinct tell you?
Most times, your gut instinct will be right.
It's very likel... (read in full...)
I initiated a threesome with a guy friend and now my wife is having an affair with him
Q. I just found out that my wife has been having an affair for the past two years with a single male friend of ours who we had a drunken threesome with two years ago..that threesome which was totally initiated by me alone wasnt so fullfilling for me, ...
A. 12 May 2018: Hmmm, this is a tricky one, bec YES, you did initiate the whole thing, but then again, did she have to take a drunken threesome to this level?
What does your gut instinct tell you?
Most times, your gut instinct will be right.
It's very likel... (read in full...)
He had panic attacks, couldn’t eat and lost weight when I tried to end our relationship! What do I do?
Q. I have been seeing this man for 2 years, met him online and it is a long distance relationship as we don’t see each other regularly, only twice a month which was ok with me....Anyway he started talking about having a future together... to move away ...
A. 11 May 2018: I hear you, i really do.
I'm going to come from a somewhat "different" approach here.
I agree with all the other Agony Aunts and i do think you need to make a clean break and stick to your guns, HOWEVER, just be YOU, be kind and be as gentle... (read in full...)
What would a woman feel if a man cried during marriage proposal?
Q. Dear Aunts, after almost 10 years in a relationship with my girlfriend, I proposed to her this past weekend. I did not planed to cry or anything, but as soon as I was asking her to be my wife, y started crying and I couldn't stop. I really felt bad ...
A. 11 May 2018: You sound like the perfect gentleman!!
You're the type of guy, so many millions of girls globally, would simply love to have in their lives.
Most women would agree, a man who wears his heart on his sleeve is pretty special.
We need more me... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his cousin sister's behaviour made me sick to my stomach. Am I overreacting?
Q. Please tell me if I'm being overly conservative. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years, and this is the first time his aunt and two cousins, one 12yrs old, the other 14yrs old came to visit. Since this is my first time meeting the...
A. 10 May 2018: No, you are not being too conservative, you are not over thinking & you're not overreacting whatsoever.
Your bf, your bfs male cousin & his 14 year old cousin are all behaving in a very improper, inappropriate & promiscuous way toward each oth... (read in full...)
We've broken up but why does my heart still hurt.
Q. MOD NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS COMBINED My head is in a spin . My ex broke up with me a few months ago. At first he sent nasty texts and then texts saying he loves me and then I heard nothing for over a week, the texts dwindled to odd 1 or 2 and then not...
A. 29 April 2018: Hi again,
It's great that you've been thinking about what's best for you, not what's best for him.
Also, may i say, from very personal experience, you will never be able to reason with somebody who (hypothetically), chooses to drink heavily, d... (read in full...)
We've broken up but why does my heart still hurt.
Q. MOD NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS COMBINED My head is in a spin . My ex broke up with me a few months ago. At first he sent nasty texts and then texts saying he loves me and then I heard nothing for over a week, the texts dwindled to odd 1 or 2 and then not...
A. 28 April 2018: I would strongly encourage you to stop wasting your time with this guy.
It matters not, as to how long you were together, because ultimately, it's in the absolute quality of the relationship.
You should block this guy and get on with your lif... (read in full...)
A guy I was seeing went quiet on me, he says he is following legal advise.
Q. Im just wondering what are peoples thoughts. I was seeing a guy who went quiet on me we had been seeing each other for 6 month. i heard from him a handful of times in 2 month and didnt get to see him . I didnt sit about waiting for him i got on with ...
A. 19 April 2018: When somebody cannot even be completely honest and open with you from the very start, then you have to seriously question their modus operandi.
This guy comes across as a storyteller and tells lies and this is so very obvious, but even more so,... (read in full...)
I have an ex that wont let go.
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend split up 4, maybe even closer to 5 years ago. In the end, she got quite nasty and I ended up blocking her on Facebook. Fast forward a few years and I get a message request from a previously deactivated account of hers,...
A. 19 April 2018: Sorry, i meant to type, don't allow "her" to do this to you.... (read in full...)
I have an ex that wont let go.
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend split up 4, maybe even closer to 5 years ago. In the end, she got quite nasty and I ended up blocking her on Facebook. Fast forward a few years and I get a message request from a previously deactivated account of hers,...
A. 19 April 2018: I'm sorry, but i must be brutally honest here.
This solution is actually dirt easy, yet "you" choose to make it an issue.
Why do you even waste your time with such a person or such a situation?
Honestly, you have to ask yourself this questi... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my life easier?
Q. been through a turbulent life and had bumps along the way, got into scraps with people, was raped when I was eighteen and have a gamble problem which is on going which I can’t keep control of and have quit work due to stress, Ive tried therapies, ...
A. 22 February 2018: I would definitely advise you to visit your local GP (as a good starting point) and discuss all of this with he/she.
The sooner, the better and from what you have shared with us, you've been through a lot and are still going through a lot, how... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to fall in love?
Q. I met a guy we're both in our 30s. He gave me his number once, i never called him and then a couple weeks later he approached me agian, we exchanged numbers and talked/texted all day. I think he's cool! The next day he asked me out. I said i wanted ...
A. 22 February 2018: I'm heading down a different path here.
I find this guys "overall" behaviour quite odd and i'd advise you to not head anywhere alone with him, certainly not at this stage.
Obviously, this only applies if you were to see him ongoingly.
Pe... (read in full...)
Is he weird or just desperate for telling his plans to me? We barely know each other
Q. Hello people, 2days ago I went on date with a man I met online his 44 years old with 4 kids from his partner who left him for another man.We chatted in a Cafe for 3 hours, but what was strange was that he was telling me all his faults like how he ...
A. 22 February 2018: He sounds quite irresponsible, flighty and desperate to find a replacement "mother" to his 4 children.
He even touched your hands, yet you hardly know him and he even admitted to you, that he "quickly" loses interest in women, so please see/take... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 22 February 2018: She's doing one of two things.
She's playing hard to get, to see how truly keen you are, OR she's just not that interested in you, as you are in her.
She can be busy, but no matter how busy, a woman who is very keen on a guy, will do everythi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lack of initiative worries me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2+ years. I am his first serious relationship. Overall we have a good, caring, fun relationship. We are generally compatible in personality and values. He is caring, responsible and of good characte...
A. 22 February 2018: If your bf truly loves you and wishes to commit to you for the long term, then he should be showing you that he's committed, taking initiative and working toward future goals with you.
Remember, before marriage, you've got to be a team, otherwis... (read in full...)
My husband said he would have broken up with me if we weren't married
Q. I had a huge fight with my husband - married 1.5 years but toegthwr 5 years. He just told me that he would be broken up with me if we werent married. I asked him if he really means it and he said yes. Im 6 weeks pregnant so he calls me up just...
A. 22 February 2018: Your msg isn't very thorough and you've not shared with any of us, what you and your husband were fighting about and how it all started.
Your response could/would change the perception/views of a number of respondents, but i'm replying, from a m... (read in full...)
My husband bought a perfume for a colleague.. Is he cheating?
Q. My husband came home from trip abroad. While i was unpacking i saw a burberry perfume i sent him a picture of it.. ang replied” for my colleague”... the perfume is obviously for women. He messaged again he said “ did i do anything wrong?” I felt ...
A. 22 February 2018: It isn't the norm, for a man to give a (potentially)female colleague, or a female friend, a bottle of perfume when he's married.
This is regarded, as a very personal gift and your husband would know this.
Sit down with him, be calm yet direct,... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend talks trash to me. Should I tell him that it hurts me?
Q. I am pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. It was an accident. He wanted me to get pregnant tho. He was a player for a long time. He calls me names like whore, skank and bitch. He tells me to just deal with it. It's usually in bed but sometimes ...
A. 20 February 2018: I also wanted to add, when a person starts with verbal abuse, what could be next?
Could he actually try to get physically violent with you?
Who knows and you certainly cannot predict this with 100% accuracy.
He's getting away with verbal... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend talks trash to me. Should I tell him that it hurts me?
Q. I am pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. It was an accident. He wanted me to get pregnant tho. He was a player for a long time. He calls me names like whore, skank and bitch. He tells me to just deal with it. It's usually in bed but sometimes ...
A. 20 February 2018: There are a number of issues here, but the main issue is that, you're now pregnant with this guys child.
You need to sit down and ask yourself what you really want in YOUR life and what YOU TRULY DESERVE.
I'm sorry to hear that this is how your... (read in full...)
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