Where is the passion? Can the passion be revived? We have become platonic friends
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 10 years. He is 9 years older than me. at first we were always making love but its got less and less over the last few years, and we have not been intimate since last year, Recently I found flirty texts bet...
A. 21 March 2016: Hi,
it's quite normal for the passionate intimacy to fizzle out a bit over the years, in even the best of unions, especially if not addressed by both parties.
You both met when you were younger, you are both aging, growing together and thi... (read in full...)
How do I stop? I'm constantly craving male attention and end up obsessing over those who give me this attention
Q. I have a recurrent issue that seems to be getting out of hand and worse. It seems that every time a man flirts with me or shows interest, I start to revel in this attention and I start liking them. For instance, a guy has recently joi...
A. 15 March 2016: Hi,
i would strongly advise you to speak to somebody you trust in relation to this matter.
I don't think it can ever hold you in good stead, if you crave attention from every guy that you come into regular contact with.
There are so many rea... (read in full...)
Is it possible to start things over with my alcoholic husband whom I don't trust?
Q. I am 27 and married with three young children. I felt pressured into marrying my husband after our first child was born, and I really thought if I loved him enough we could make it work. He loves me. He loves the kids. He works hard, but he is ...
A. 14 March 2016: Hi,
i'm sorry to read of your dilemma.
I have to be straight with you though.
As i read through your msg, i keep getting the feeling that your self-confidence and your self-esteem are very low.
Your marriage wasn't really something that... (read in full...)
He's not hit me. But could the other things he does be called abuse? what should I do?
Q. To be blunt and simple, when my year long boyfriend and i argue, he pushes me around. He'll grab me and squeeze my face, throw me down, he'll push me in front of almost anyone.. All throughout the year, he's never hit me though. He will punch...
A. 14 March 2016: This is absolute abuse!!
Your bf doesn't have to "hit you" in order for him to be called an abuser, because what he is already doing is full on abuse!
He pushes you, pulls your hair, has bitten you, punches walls, etc; etc;, then this makes ... (read in full...)
After cheating on me 3 weeks ago, why is my Bf not doing everything to regain my trust?
Q. My boyfriend has cheated on me recently(three weeks ago). I ask him to delete the woman on social media, block her number etc. He did. However, she still pops up in different messengers and such. when i ask to for the passwords to his accounts he ...
A. 14 March 2016: Hi,
your bf has no intention to stop talking to and seeing other women.
If his intent was to never repeat what he did, to never hurt you again and if he truly felt any remorse or guilt for what he did within your relationship, then he'd be doi... (read in full...)
Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?
Q. I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...
A. 12 March 2016: Hi,
i meant to say, you both argued over every little thing, so it was only going to cause a serious rift in your relationship, in due time.
A relationship is a two way street and it's not about YOU or HIM, but it was about the TWO OF YOU.
I... (read in full...)
Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?
Q. I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...
A. 12 March 2016: Hi,
your ex bf and his gf are actually NOT being cruel to you at all and what they are doing and what they feel, has absolutely NOTHING to to do with YOU or what you and he once shared.
You mentioned the key factor to your relationship wit... (read in full...)
He's made some changes. Disagreements happen. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I am a 28 year old female and have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months. We get along great. We enjoy each other's company, we both have great careers, family get along, similar hobbies, ect. I have never had a person to have so much in common and ...
A. 11 March 2016: Hi,
you make it very clear that you are ready for a serious relationship, however, i have to be totally honest here, your bf doesn't seem to be half as serious as you.
This is where you have to decide whether he is worth you staying, or shou... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend's rommate!!
Q. Hi, I do need help. I have a boyfriend who lives with 2 singles guys. Sometimes I go and spend a night there or most the time he comes here to my place (i live alone). last week he invited me to come over, when i was in the closet searching for a ja...
A. 11 March 2016: Hi,
i hear you, i understand the situation isn't good and isn't proper in numerous ways, however, you said it!
You don't live there and you really have no rights to try and make changes where you don't see fit.
I mean, if your bf can tol... (read in full...)
How important is appreciation in the first couple dates?
Q. Just wondering... I'm sure it's important, but I wonder to what extent. I'm not the kind of person who says thank you for every little thing... I'm not sure why. I had an ex after dating for a few years tell me I didn't really say thank you when h...
A. 11 March 2016: Hi,
i also forgot to mention that, actually, it's those first few dates that'll be the make or break and do you know why?
Because "first impressions count" and this is your chance to show the wonderful you and sell your personality and ... (read in full...)
How important is appreciation in the first couple dates?
Q. Just wondering... I'm sure it's important, but I wonder to what extent. I'm not the kind of person who says thank you for every little thing... I'm not sure why. I had an ex after dating for a few years tell me I didn't really say thank you when h...
A. 11 March 2016: Hi,
i think all important manners and being "appreciative" should never go out the window and be thought, out of fashion, or be thought of as, not really necessary, or even "over the top".
I don't think you can ever really be "too appreciativ... (read in full...)
How to ask out a guy when I'm scared he'll say no and I'll look stupid
Q. I've started an adults course at college one day a week and I have fallen for my teacher. We are both in our late 20's and we get on well but I don't want to do anything while he is still my teacher. The course finishes in a month and the whole ...
A. 10 March 2016: Hi,
i have been in your exact situation and what i did learn was that, although a lecturer may very much like one of his students, doesn't necessarily mean that he will take his feelings to the next level.
I was studying Psychology and i... (read in full...)
My parents are splitting us up!
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 weeks. I've had a hikkie or love bite on my neck for around 4 days. She only just noticed it before when we were in the shops looking down the isle. She said "why have you got a love bite on your ...
A. 10 March 2016: Hi,
you are still so young and at this age and stage of your life, it'd be very hard for you to fully comprehend how your actions may be affecting those around you, especially your parents.
Why don't you sit down with your parents and have... (read in full...)
I wonder what I have missed.
Q. I met my boyfriend when I was quite young. We started dating and have now been together nine years. He was the first person I slept with and therefore the only person (fyi I was not his first but this is not my issue). I find it really unsettling ...
A. 10 March 2016: Hi,
my strong advice would be to remain with your bf and look nowhere else.
What you are feeling and experiencing is quite normal and you wouldn't be human if you didn't have these thoughts, however, look at it this way, you are one of the v... (read in full...)
We need to plan for our future but talking about it makes partner anxious.
Q. Dear cupid, I have a multifaceted question about relationships and midlife crisis and men and women maturing at different rates. I have been married for 8 years together for 18. We are reaching a point in our relationship where I want to take our...
A. 10 March 2016: Hi,
it seems a bit "weird" and "odd" that at such a mature age and i am presuming here, that your husband is in his 40s too, based on all you've mentioned.
He may be going through some sort of mid life crisis, or maybe he can't be bothered anym... (read in full...)
We need to plan for our future but talking about it makes partner anxious.
Q. Dear cupid, I have a multifaceted question about relationships and midlife crisis and men and women maturing at different rates. I have been married for 8 years together for 18. We are reaching a point in our relationship where I want to take our...
A. 10 March 2016: Hi,
it seems a bit "weird" and "odd" that at such a mature age and i am presuming here, that your husband is in his 40s too, based on all you've mentioned.
He may be going through some sort of mid life crisis, or maybe he can't be bothered anym... (read in full...)
He said he wants to try again but now has gone silent!
Q. Hi, my ex stoped speaking to me last Sept last yr , then all of a sudden he contacted me on 14 Feb, saying how he missed me, and how it was all him with being a father figer to my little girl and got scared, and wasnt used to someone being so nice ...
A. 10 March 2016: Hi Amy,
this ex of yours is troubled, period!
I agree with all 3 previous readers, he is messing with your head, your feelings, he's simply feeding you constant and utter bulls%#t!
He is telling you exactly what he knows YOU want to hear a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always looking at asian women?
Q. I feel like sometimes when my bf and I go out, he looks at girls. But not just at any girl, but asian girls. I am the first hispanic women he has ever gone out with you. He has always dated white and asian women. And his last girlfriend was asian. ...
A. 8 March 2016: Hi,
what you must first understand is that most men, will look at women in general and even if they do, this doesn't mean that they're not sincere, nor committed.
This is the normal biology of most males, especially when they are young and by... (read in full...)
I’m with the wrong sister! I need advice!
Q. Hello!My name is Cameron and I'm 20.I desperately need some help because I have no idea how to deal with the situation that I'm in right now. My ex gf Natasha(25) and I dated for nearly a year.Prior to getting together we were really good frie...
A. 8 March 2016: Hi,
i would strongly encourage you to break up with Maria, primarily because you have admitted that you don't like, nor love Maria.
You must ask yourself, How would i feel, if i were in Maria's shoes?
The age difference is a bit of a... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation?
Q. Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation? Now my boyfriend has said that he hates when I drink alcohol, I don't drink often and when I do its at family birthdays and bbq's in the house. Hes always with me when I drink because I invite ...
A. 8 March 2016: Hi,
you are an adult, so you are able and allowed to make your OWN CHOICES, regarding if/when you want to drink.
What i will say though, is although you have the full right to drink, it's not a good idea to lie to your bf.
When he asked y... (read in full...)
Do people still fall in love these days or is that an outdated concept?
Q. What is everyone's opinion on this? Since I'm back in the dating world, I have to say that it's a real cesspool out there. Everyone seems a bit jaded, and women put up these walls and hurdles that you have to jump through in order crack thei...
A. 8 March 2016: Hi,
i meant to say the massive "porn" industry within my previous msg.... (read in full...)
Do people still fall in love these days or is that an outdated concept?
Q. What is everyone's opinion on this? Since I'm back in the dating world, I have to say that it's a real cesspool out there. Everyone seems a bit jaded, and women put up these walls and hurdles that you have to jump through in order crack thei...
A. 8 March 2016: Hi,
i agree with many of the previous readers comments and even many of yours, however, i have to say, that regardless of everything mentioned, when you take it all back to the very basics, it has much to do with nature vs nurture, social media an... (read in full...)
Would you ever be friends with an ex bf/gf who 'broke your heart' ?
Q. Would you ever be friends with an ex bf/gf who 'broke your heart' ? I was in a relationship for 3 years with a guy who I was really in love with and saw myself marrying one day. We talked about marriage and kids in the future, it was a pretty ser...
A. 6 March 2016: Hi,
i would strongly encourage you to "not" reply to his msg.
Yes, you once loved him dearly, you still have feelings for him but he broke your heart.
You had to accept his change of heart and you moved on and survived.
The important thing... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out, how do I build up to it?
Q. Hello everyone! I have been out of the dating game for about 3 years now since I had to concentrate on career and stuff.I have been in one relationship before that. Now I feel it's time for me to find love again but the issue is I have been out...
A. 6 March 2016: Hi,
i would strongly encourage you to just "man up", don't be shy and ask her out.
You have nothing to lose, because she is either going to say, yes or no.
A maybe, would only come across as uncertain, apprehensive or indecisive and silly... (read in full...)
Partner is 16 weeks and won't stop smoking!
Q. Hi, my partner is almost 16 wks pregnant with our first child and she just will not stop smoking, or even attempt to cut down even a little. She is averaging around 16-20 cigarettes every single day. She wakes up in the night for a cigarette, she ...
A. 6 March 2016: This is a very addictive habit obviously and it's easier said than done i know, however, for the sake of your innocent, unborn babys health and wellbeing, your partner would seriously benefit from cutting down or better still, giving up.
Almos... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boss. Does he like me?
Q. So I have a crush on my boss and I have this feeling he has it too.Signs-His eyes shine when he talks to me.Whenever he is around me,he tries to look at me.His friends at work are sweet to me.I have come to this new company unfortunately with ...
A. 22 October 2015: You and your boss are simply flirting and this is never a healthy, nor good thing to do in the workplace.
You do not wish to ruin and destroy your reputation, so salvage your reputation right now, whilst you still can and keep your boss at arms ... (read in full...)
Am I being played? I've me a wonderful girl, but she's unhappily married.
Q. I met a wonderful girl at the end of june, and i have fallen so in love with her. and she said she feels the same way too. But she is married and unhappy. so now nearly 4 months in to this crazyness im feeling like im being played. we meet u...
A. 22 October 2015: Hi,
you are a mature aged man and with all due respect, i personally think/sense that you're in serious denial of the absolute truth here.
If this woman, whom you are in love with, was legitimate about her serious intent and her love for you... (read in full...)
Can I get this girl to like me more?
Q. I met a girl on an online dating site a few months back. We had a great emotional and intellectual connection and got along great. However, we made the mistake of not meeting quickly enough. So while our connection deepened significantly, we still ...
A. 22 October 2015: Hi,
as a woman myself, i want to spare you any further worry, stress, anxiety, or anything else that you may be feeling.
You should go straight to the source and ask her in a polite manner, where does she see the connection that the two of ... (read in full...)
How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?
Q. Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...
A. 22 October 2015: Hi again,
i was thinking about monogomy vs polygomy.
There are many out there who prefer one to the other, but there are those out there, who lean toward both, hence those who are into threesomes, swinging, etc;.
There are many specie... (read in full...)
How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?
Q. Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...
A. 22 October 2015: I wanted to add,
there are many people, who do forgive their spouses for making such mistakes, however, more often than not, these are people who don't have a good sense of themselves, or their own self-worth, hence tolerating and acceptin... (read in full...)
How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?
Q. Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...
A. 22 October 2015: I will have to be brutally honest with you here.
I cried whilst reading your msg, i absolutely cried!!
I am a woman who has gone through this nightmare and let me tell you, a woman never gets over it, she just gets on with it, similarly to the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been in his cave for too long! Help!
Q. I've been in a 'relationship' with my long distance boyfriend for only 4 weeks. He is great; smart, funny, sexy, interesting and we both feel a definite connection. The first 2 weeks, although long distance, over the phone chatting were amazing. I ...
A. 20 October 2015: Hi,
this man is giving you little hints already.
The mere fact that he's not been in contact with you for this length of time, should be a red flag for you.
When a man is very keen on a woman, there is no way that he would cease regular cont... (read in full...)
Why does the girl who ran off with my ex manage to get under my skin?
Q. How do I cope with the girl who ran off with my man? She posts sleazy photos of her and him up on Instagram and Facebook to get back at me and her ex. I try not to look anymore and most times I don't - but from time to time I see images w...
A. 20 October 2015: Hi,
by continually peeking at her pics, by continuing to look at her and at your ex, you will never get over the past and the upset that you are currently feeling.
I can assure you, your ex and this new woman of his, are getting on with ... (read in full...)
His ex had big boobs. I have tiny boobs. What chance is there that I can overcome my insecurities over this?
Q. I just don't know how to feel? My BF and I have an on an off again relationship when we first started I wasn't ready to settle down, yet even though at that time he deserved it. He was so sweet and 100% everything I wanted in a man but I was mu...
A. 20 October 2015: Hi again,
i would like to add that regardless of breast size, you should be proud of who you are and how you look.
Having larger breasts, as one previous reader wrote, doesn't always mean that as you age, they will droop or sag and besides, it ... (read in full...)
His ex had big boobs. I have tiny boobs. What chance is there that I can overcome my insecurities over this?
Q. I just don't know how to feel? My BF and I have an on an off again relationship when we first started I wasn't ready to settle down, yet even though at that time he deserved it. He was so sweet and 100% everything I wanted in a man but I was mu...
A. 17 October 2015: Also, i would like to add, that you try doing this-
when you next hear these negative voices within your head, step back from them, tell yourself out loud,
"oh, there is that silly, negative and ridiculous voice again"
and here's the biggie... (read in full...)
His ex had big boobs. I have tiny boobs. What chance is there that I can overcome my insecurities over this?
Q. I just don't know how to feel? My BF and I have an on an off again relationship when we first started I wasn't ready to settle down, yet even though at that time he deserved it. He was so sweet and 100% everything I wanted in a man but I was mu...
A. 17 October 2015: Hi,
truthfully, you shouldn't allow this to take over your psyche.
You sound beautiful and yes, you are beautiful, because you are all 'woman'! It's that simple!
You sound adorable, you are obviosuly quite petite and you know what they say a... (read in full...)
Is this sexual harassment? The actions of my new boss make me feel uncomfortable.
Q. I have just started working in a new role and have found my boss's behaviour odd. He has asked me whether I am serious with boyfriend, if the relationship is flexible and can be moved around for work, how old my boyfriend is, if my boyfrien...
A. 14 October 2015: Hi,
i personally think, that this is a form of sexual harrassment and you must make it very clear to your boss, that you won't be questioned and approached in such a way.
I have had this happen to me a number of times, when i was in my 20s an... (read in full...)
He hasn't said a word to me in a week, I miss talking to him, what do I do?
Q. Our friends told me that the guy I like drunkenly told them he liked me but since then he hasn't said a word to me and seems to be actively going out his way to avoid me has he decided he doesn't like me what do I do it's been a week now and I miss ...
A. 7 October 2015: Hi,
sorry to say this, but you cannot be 100% certain that he truly does like you, as he only said that he did, when he was under the influence of alcohol & from a sense of 'proper cognitive thought', he may not have meant what he said and he m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lost it when I told him I wanted to look in on my brother as I'd promised my parents!
Q. Am I in the wrong? My parents are away on holiday and my brother has been left home alone (he's just turned 18, can't cook but he can heat up soup and do beans on toast) and my parents have asked if I can go out each day to cook supper and make ...
A. 6 October 2015: Hi,
you feel 'torn' between your love for your brother and your love for your bf.
Your parents, in a true sense, have placed pressure upon you, by asking you to take care of him over those few days, however, you have your own life and more im... (read in full...)
How can I be happy doing what I do at home?
Q. im a 34 stay at home mom for 11 years. im grateful to raise my 3 kids, but im depressed being at home cleaning and taking care of the house. this last year i started drinking in the day.. at first it made cleaning more fun, but i need to change. i ...
A. 6 October 2015: Hi,
i also forgot to mention, that you could employ in home based cleaning services, once per week, per fortnight, per month, whatever you can afford and prefer.
It obviously depends upon you and your husbands personal financial situat... (read in full...)
How can I be happy doing what I do at home?
Q. im a 34 stay at home mom for 11 years. im grateful to raise my 3 kids, but im depressed being at home cleaning and taking care of the house. this last year i started drinking in the day.. at first it made cleaning more fun, but i need to change. i ...
A. 6 October 2015: Hi,
you could get involved in an online hobby/business, working solely from home, if your 3 children are still at home and not yet at daycare, pre-school(kindergarten), or primary school.
You could get involved in your local community, throu... (read in full...)
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