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writes:I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women to have enough faith in me to protect them. Women besides personality, because we all know looks do play a role in a relationship. What's your stance on skinny guys? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 I have had oodles of girls who have overlooked my physique.... and noticed that I can LICK MY EYEBROWS... and are so taken with me that they will buy me dinner as long as I will consent to go home with them, afterwards!!!!!!Good luck...Sign me,Skinny....
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (24 March 2013):
Dear OP,
There is a market for everything. And the body itself is not always that important, it's also your attitude and how you present yourself. If for instance you always wear old xxl-t shirts with comic figures on them plus some jeans that don't fit and look really baggy on you, then together with your skinny body that can look very geeky and childish. If however you find clothes that look good on you and take care of your hairstyle etc. the skinny thing can become even a plus. Like fauxangel said.
You skinny guys can pull off that britpop look for instance. Skinny Jeans, leather jackets.. Anyway, I'd advise you to care about how you look and dress according to your personality, as I would advise any man.
And not to worry too much. 90% of all worries are unjustified.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Looks are a huge role in attraction. Muscle is sexy to 99 percent of women. Hit the gym n build ur confidence my man. Ive attracted women who dont prefer my body type but once I make their minds comfortable the body relaxes too. Hit the gym hard n intense n gain women will notice u n u will build confidence. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): For my taste you are very skinny, but I don't like big guys also. My boyfriend is 5.9 and he is 160 lb. he is older than you by at least 10 years, but he said he was the same in college. I think he is perfect but if he was even thinner than this in my eyes it would be too much.
But again it's just my taste. The same as for some men I would be too fat, at 5.4, 135 lb, but my boyfriend thinks I m perfect, and absolutely don't like skinny girls.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 March 2013):
 My husband and I met and started dating when he was very skinny... and I admit I was very happy when he picked up about 15 pounds....
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reader, R1 +, writes (24 March 2013):
 I love skinny guys, all my ex's have been skinny guys!!
I'm sure all women are different but that's what does it for me ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): I married a man who is 6 feet tall, and he only weighed around 140 pounds. That was 3 years ago, he's gained 45 pounds since then. I was attracted to him when he was super skinny, and I'm still attracted to him now that he's more average sized. So for me, it's unimportant. Some women WILL find it a "turnoff", but not all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): I am myself 6 feet four inches tall and weigh 200 pounds and my own doctor said I was about 15 pounds under weight. I said okay and he looked at me and said that if that was all that was wrong with me I am lucky man. Put it this way man you can where all the latest designer clothes and just slide right into them. If you cant afford the latest you can go to factory warehouse stores for styles still good but maybe just a few months out dated . I believe that you don't have to be afraid of being too thin. Be yourself and be confident. When the ladies see a confident man who looks after himself and is a sharp dresser you have already made a statement. Make eye contact when you receive the same with a lady and show a sincere smile or grin and my friend your on your way. Final answer to your question is no..no..no.. Good luck. You have something that large percentage of the male population wish they had. Just food for thought.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Btw my boyfriend is 178 cm or so, and just hit 70 kg a few months ago. He was thrilled to finally have gained some weight.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (24 March 2013):
I don't need a man to protect me, but I do need him to be able to lift more weight than I do.
Work out. I don't mind thin men, but skinny is a sign that you're not taking care of your health. Same as if a man is fat, it's also a sign he's not looking after his health. If you look sickly then that's a problem. But thin and healthy is no problem at all. My boyfriend almost has a smaller waist than I have, he's thin. And if he didn't work out he'd be skinny, something he was while a teenager. But he does work out, and although he will never have those broad shoulders or enormous arms, he looks healthy, fit, and great. Thin is not a problem.
But I have dates skinny guys, and what I found uncomfortable was when I was laying with my head on their chest and could feel their ribs. It's just not attractive to me.
But then again, when you are in love with someone you take them as they are, skinny or fat or short or tall. People fall in love with the person underneath. So don't worry about a "market" for you, instead focus on finding a girl who enjoys your company and who you enjoy the company of.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (24 March 2013):
 I hate it when people give answers like this, but: everyone is attractive to someone.
There are plenty of girls who find skinny guys attractive, plenty who find chubby guys attractive, plenty who find red heads attractive, plenty who find hairless chests attractive, plenty who find elf-like ears attractive, etc.
If you're super concerned about your physique, it's never too late to make a resolution about hitting the gym regularly.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Put off ? I think you are perfect !
Well, in part perhaps it's a generational thing, MY sex symbols were skinny guys like David Bowie and Mick Jagger , the current taste maybe is oriented toward bulkier guys. Then again, I know some male models, ( runway, not fitness ), and , respecting the proportions because they 'd be a couple inches taller than you and just a few pounds heavier, they have your frame- and I can see it's a frame that definitely works well for them in terms of getting female appreciation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): Of course they do. OP women like every type of man there is. The same as men like every type of women.
Will there be women who prefer not to date skinny guys? Sure, the same as you too have your preferences.
I wouldn't worry about it. If you think bulking up would improve your confidence then go ahead. But frankly the only thing necessary is that you be happy and healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): Personally I don't like skinny boys I'd feel like I was going to break them - and like they're really young. But their are lots of people who don't mind, I wouldn't think it would be that much of an issue?
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