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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. I'm a very attactive and girly girl feminine woman. I appreciate the beauty of a woman but am not sexually attracted to women. I am sexually attracted to men but I will not allow a man to have intercourse with me in a traditional male-female since. In the bedroom, I wear the pants, literally I strap up and bang him long, hard and deep and I spank that a*s. I want him to start dressing like a woman PERMANENTLY for me. How do I convince him providing he has a public service job as a public school crossing guard? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 March 2013):
 I agree sex between married partners is a compromise... it sounds like he's already compromised plenty.. now it's your turn.
you don't really think that your needs come before his do you?
what does HE get out of your sex life?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 March 2013):
 So your sex life (your husband your your sex life) is all about what YOU want?
I'm sorry, but if your libido and sexual preference is MORE important then maybe HE is not really the man for you.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (23 March 2013):
Dear OP,
If you love him, don't CONVINCE him of anything. Tell him your wishes and accept if he can or can't fulfill them.
If he's a public school crossing guard, he could lose his job for showing up as a sissy. Maybe he could wear some feminine underwear for you, if he's into that, but that's about it.
I know this is a bit critical here and I should rather give advice than judge.. but isn't it quite obsessive, making someone your permanent feminization project??.. yeah, dominance in the bedroom, I get that. I love being on top, being the one doing the f***ing etc.
But having a man wear women's clothes all the time is.. well.. it's like publicly embarrassing him and taking his identity, limiting his job opportunities etc. Do you really love your partner, or are you on a power trip that goes far beyond what he would consent to?
If you don't love the man you submit, if you don't act in his best interest, you don't deserve his devotion. Your sexuality is no excuse to be a selfish person.
Your post was quite short, so please excuse any premature conclusions about your relationship. More details would help.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (23 March 2013):
 Is this man a boyfriend or a husband?Either way, it's clear that being a fem dom is part of your identity, so it's only fair that you tell your dude about this interest. When you discuss it, do so as you did here: talk about it as YOUR interest rather than trying to convince him to make it HIS interest.If he doesn't dig it, then you best find a way to compromise by perhaps trying other, lighter kinky activities or, if it's really that important to you, find a man who's into what you're into.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2013): ****Clarification from me the poster****The man to whom I am referring is my husband. I've been the dom since the first time we were intimate 8 years ago. I guess I confused everyone. What I am now wanting is for him to go all the way feminine with the close and all permanently but no sex change. I mentioned it to him a few times but he doesn't seem too keen on it, although he isn't firm with his resistance to the idea. So what I'm asking is how can I give him that nudge to go forward with the idea. I've been wanting this for a few years now and not having it has placed the guiltful burden on my shoulders of venturing out for an affair or leaving him altogether but I do love him which is keeping me faithful. I'm in a constant state of uneasiness and guilt. I do not want to hurt the man I love behind not being able to control my emotional and sexual need to be fulfilled as I have explained. What I'm putting out here does sound selfish but it's hard to not meet my natural. I would be living a lie and unhappy which in effect would be cheating my husband if I couldnt control myself and acted otherwise
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 March 2013):
 I think you put the subject "on the table" for discussion... and, if your man is OK with it, you (and he) go for it.....
IF he isn't interested... then you (and he) will know - then and there - and can decide if you have a basis for continuing your relationship....
Good luck.... (and keep away from me, with that riding crop!!!).
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 March 2013):
I think with certain SPECIFIC fetishes SUCH as sub/dom there HAS to be an agreement BEFOREhand.
Unless he is ALREADY into that I think you are going to have a VERY hard time making him understand what you need.
Now if the roles were reversed would you DROP your sexual preferences for your spouse, with NOT regards to HOW you may feel? I doubt it.
And going from a strictly "normal" sexual relationship to SUB/DOM is not is for some people a HUGE leap, for others it's impossible.
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reader, LivingWithBadDecisions  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 no self respecting man would change that much for a woman because if she truly loved him the way he was then she wouldnt want him to change that about himself.
therefore you are going to find a man who is transgendered and is happy to engage in those things with you.
Cooper
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 March 2013):
I do not think your idea is viable.
have you asked him how he feels about this? (part of being a good domme is knowing when to let the sub make the rules)
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